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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " Some can delay their cum and make you work on the orgasm. I do feel like I've not done my job | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " Um... possibly subconsciously. I'm a firm believer in the idea that sex is about more than the climax. But I know I would feel like I had failed my lover if they didn't have an orgasm. I'm not even gonna pretend it's because I'm a selfless lover. I'm pretty sure it's all about my own ego. | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " Male half here. I am a long long LONG laster. Put it this way, on my wife and I's first ever love making session, it took 9 hours for me to blow my top....and I was completely, utterly in love and besotted with her before that even happened....and this was before swinging was even a thought. I was 21...I'm now 45. She's now got me down to 15 mins but it took her a long time lol. It takes a fair bit to make me blow my top. Mostly because I get into my own head about it and stress about pleasuring my partner, not myself. If i was shit, I know I wouldn't get a 2nd invite and I've had enough over the years to not doubt myself in that area. But to flip the coin, there are times I don't cum. A lot of them actually. Not because I don't want to. Not because I cant either. Just because it takes more time than some. If I see a partner getting tired, sore or time is running out I just give it up. I've still enjoyed it. Loved it even. I love the participation as much as the climax. My point is, some people don't cum without massive amounts of effort for whatever reason. But if you still enjoy the ride and want to ride again....do not stress about it. | |||
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"Does a woman get an orgasm with a new lover because its new and exciting! As opposed to the same old foreplay and sex with her long-time lover? " Nope that’s not the case at all for me, we have been married 25 years and Will knows what makes me orgasm and there are as intense as ever, there is nothing same old about it lol, it’s whatever sensation works and somebody new may not get that straight away, I often don’t orgasm with a female sexual partner | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " Yes every time | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? Male half here. I am a long long LONG laster. Put it this way, on my wife and I's first ever love making session, it took 9 hours for me to blow my top....and I was completely, utterly in love and besotted with her before that even happened....and this was before swinging was even a thought. I was 21...I'm now 45. She's now got me down to 15 mins but it took her a long time lol. It takes a fair bit to make me blow my top. Mostly because I get into my own head about it and stress about pleasuring my partner, not myself. If i was shit, I know I wouldn't get a 2nd invite and I've had enough over the years to not doubt myself in that area. But to flip the coin, there are times I don't cum. A lot of them actually. Not because I don't want to. Not because I cant either. Just because it takes more time than some. If I see a partner getting tired, sore or time is running out I just give it up. I've still enjoyed it. Loved it even. I love the participation as much as the climax. My point is, some people don't cum without massive amounts of effort for whatever reason. But if you still enjoy the ride and want to ride again....do not stress about it. " Sure I had a sexual experience where I never came once but the session made my head fuzzy for at least 48 hours later... but was gutted he couldn't make me cum as I'm one of them women who love to cum over and over again. But as I said it was amazing horny experience neitherless | |||
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"I always make sure a woman cums for me then I no she is satisfied it doesn't matter how long it takes, you can't rush making her cum for you." Try reading just one or two comments above yours. What makes you think anyone cums for you? Why are you forcing that? | |||
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"I'm in charge of my own orgasms thanks. All that 'making' a woman cum and 'ladies first' bollocks is just pressure to perform." This exactly. Men don’t *make* a woman cum, any more than women *make* men cum. (Accept your specific circumstances where you give yourself over). I know how good a lover I am, and I don’t rate it by how many orgasms (or not) a woman has. | |||
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"Does a woman get an orgasm with a new lover because its new and exciting! As opposed to the same old foreplay and sex with her long-time lover? " my personal opinion, yes just depends on the guy, our connection. One guy on our first sexual experience, made me cum 7 times really easily. I was actually shocked as it was in the first 10 minutes of us doing foreplay | |||
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"Does a woman get an orgasm with a new lover because its new and exciting! As opposed to the same old foreplay and sex with her long-time lover? Nope that’s not the case at all for me, we have been married 25 years and Will knows what makes me orgasm and there are as intense as ever, there is nothing same old about it lol, it’s whatever sensation works and somebody new may not get that straight away, I often don’t orgasm with a female sexual partner " My partner hits the spot every, single, time. Can you imagine having a long term partner who has not learned how to make you climax? Must be bloody awful! New partners rarely make me cum too, sadly a woman has also never been able to do it either. It’s fun trying though right? | |||
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"I'm in charge of my own orgasms thanks. All that 'making' a woman cum and 'ladies first' bollocks is just pressure to perform. This exactly. Men don’t *make* a woman cum, any more than women *make* men cum. (Accept your specific circumstances where you give yourself over). I know how good a lover I am, and I don’t rate it by how many orgasms (or not) a woman has. " Do men 'make women cum' from the physical aspect of stimulating the clit in the right way? I'm taking it literal. If the guy stimulating it right, I can't help but cum. | |||
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"I always make sure a woman cums for me then I no she is satisfied it doesn't matter how long it takes, you can't rush making her cum for you." This just puts pressure on though. I don’t always cum, but it doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy it, I really do, orgasm is the icing on the cake | |||
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"Nah. Some women don't cum during sex, some could but aren't interested in persuing that, etc. I don't always cum, and it takes me ages to cum. And I don't always have sex to cum. The best indication of whether you're a "good lover" is that your partner wants to keep fucking you. Listen, have a good dialogue, enjoy yourself and don't worry about completing a fuck checklist." "and I don't always have sex to cum" That's got to be rare in a guy x | |||
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"Does a woman get an orgasm with a new lover because its new and exciting! As opposed to the same old foreplay and sex with her long-time lover? Nope that’s not the case at all for me, we have been married 25 years and Will knows what makes me orgasm and there are as intense as ever, there is nothing same old about it lol, it’s whatever sensation works and somebody new may not get that straight away, I often don’t orgasm with a female sexual partner My partner hits the spot every, single, time. Can you imagine having a long term partner who has not learned how to make you climax? Must be bloody awful! New partners rarely make me cum too, sadly a woman has also never been able to do it either. It’s fun trying though right? " Definitely fun if both parties are willing to please and listen to eachother. I often have to tell men to ease on being rough with my clit. | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " Women have orgasms? | |||
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"I'm in charge of my own orgasms thanks. All that 'making' a woman cum and 'ladies first' bollocks is just pressure to perform. This exactly. Men don’t *make* a woman cum, any more than women *make* men cum. (Accept your specific circumstances where you give yourself over). I know how good a lover I am, and I don’t rate it by how many orgasms (or not) a woman has. Do men 'make women cum' from the physical aspect of stimulating the clit in the right way? I'm taking it literal. If the guy stimulating it right, I can't help but cum. " I've yet to meet a man who does that to me the right way but that's because of me, not them. Now having a bloke with me doing lots of gorgeous things together whilst I'm in charge of cumming is another thing entirely | |||
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"I'm in charge of my own orgasms thanks. All that 'making' a woman cum and 'ladies first' bollocks is just pressure to perform. This exactly. Men don’t *make* a woman cum, any more than women *make* men cum. (Accept your specific circumstances where you give yourself over). I know how good a lover I am, and I don’t rate it by how many orgasms (or not) a woman has. " Yep yep yep | |||
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"If I dont orgasm it really does not bother me in the slightest, nothing worse than trying to hard to cum only for it not to happen. Its takes me ages to cum with someone I am comfortable with let alone a new lover, for me it's all about the foreplay the kissing and touching I would never think any man a failure if they couldn't make me cum its not the be all and end all and it isn't always about having an orgasm. " The technique is paramount... | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " Orgasm whats one of them | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " I don’t think I’m not a good lover if she hasn’t cum while we’ve played, women have ‘off days’ like men (specifically their cocks lol) do, but I would be disappointed if she hadn’t enjoyed our time together for sure | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? Orgasm whats one of them " Lol | |||
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"Sometimes I Mrs. cum sometimes I don't...it's not that anyone is doing anything wrong it's just how it is....as long as everyone is enjoying. Feeling forced to cum is never going to make it happen....there are no set rules as far as sex goes...I sometimes feel some guys see it as a necessity to make the woman cum or squirt...which is more for their macho ego that anything else..." Giving pleasure should be an enjoyable process not worrying about getting a climax | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " No, especially on these kinds of meets. For a woman to orgasm she has to be extremely comfortable with you. Sometimes that isn't achievable with meeting someone here for the 1st time and having sex. It doesn't mean she didn't enjoy the sex . In my opinion I need to get into her head for her to orgasm. | |||
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"Sometimes I Mrs. cum sometimes I don't...it's not that anyone is doing anything wrong it's just how it is....as long as everyone is enjoying. Feeling forced to cum is never going to make it happen....there are no set rules as far as sex goes...I sometimes feel some guys see it as a necessity to make the woman cum or squirt...which is more for their macho ego that anything else... Giving pleasure should be an enjoyable process not worrying about getting a climax " Exactly the point I was trying to make | |||
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"Sometimes I Mrs. cum sometimes I don't...it's not that anyone is doing anything wrong it's just how it is....as long as everyone is enjoying. Feeling forced to cum is never going to make it happen....there are no set rules as far as sex goes...I sometimes feel some guys see it as a necessity to make the woman cum or squirt...which is more for their macho ego that anything else... Giving pleasure should be an enjoyable process not worrying about getting a climax Exactly the point I was trying to make " I always make sure the journey is comfortable and appealing. | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? No, especially on these kinds of meets. For a woman to orgasm she has to be extremely comfortable with you. Sometimes that isn't achievable with meeting someone here for the 1st time and having sex. It doesn't mean she didn't enjoy the sex . In my opinion I need to get into her head for her to orgasm." personally for me i only climax mainly because the man stimulating my clit properly and i fancy the pants of the man. i often cum on the first sexual experience with that someone | |||
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"Sometimes I Mrs. cum sometimes I don't...it's not that anyone is doing anything wrong it's just how it is....as long as everyone is enjoying. Feeling forced to cum is never going to make it happen....there are no set rules as far as sex goes...I sometimes feel some guys see it as a necessity to make the woman cum or squirt...which is more for their macho ego that anything else... Giving pleasure should be an enjoyable process not worrying about getting a climax Exactly the point I was trying to make I always make sure the journey is comfortable and appealing. " The journey sounds divine | |||
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"I rarely cum on a meet...I don't always cum with hubby and the more you try the harder it gets as it's just more pressure. I have learnt to enjoy sex without it and if it does happen, it's a bonus." Agree... can sometimes take me a while to relax and warm up into being able to orgasm with someone new... and sometimes when they are trying so hard it does create more pressure. Doesn’t mean the sex can’t be mind blowing. My husband know exactly how to push my buttons and I have had the most intense wet squirting orgasms with him | |||
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"It's about the journey rather than the destination. Porn has a lot to answer for. " | |||
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"Sometimes I Mrs. cum sometimes I don't...it's not that anyone is doing anything wrong it's just how it is....as long as everyone is enjoying. Feeling forced to cum is never going to make it happen....there are no set rules as far as sex goes...I sometimes feel some guys see it as a necessity to make the woman cum or squirt...which is more for their macho ego that anything else... Giving pleasure should be an enjoyable process not worrying about getting a climax Exactly the point I was trying to make I always make sure the journey is comfortable and appealing. The journey sounds divine " I could buy you a ticket if you wanted | |||
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"I wouldn't let myself leave a women without her having at least one orgasm! " You need to read some of the replies above you about that. Women are not performing seals. | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " Yes is the short answer. Or woman if men don't cum | |||
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""and I don't always have sex to cum" That's got to be rare in a guy x " Don't get me wrong. I enjoy an orgasm, and I enjoy the kind of sex that is primal and aimed at cumming. You can have a lot of fun with that. But I don't see sex generally as ending in an orgasm, requiring one or the persuit of "achieving" one. We can have so much sex in our lifetimes. Why not unpack it and have some fun with it? | |||
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"It depends on the circumstance, 95% of the time my wife will have multiple orgasms, but every now and again when I'm horny I will grab her, kiss her, bend her over and fuck her soley for my pleasure. Its rough, quick, normally at an inappropriate time or location and she loves it, she actually complained that I don't do it as often as I used too. I cum, she doesn't but she still fucking loves it. I feel no guilt in that scenario." yes I have to have that massive deep connection to allow my partner to just grab me in a spontaneous way. I can see why people find this very good fun and definitely need to do more of. I done it afew times and its really hot. | |||
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"It depends on the circumstance, 95% of the time my wife will have multiple orgasms, but every now and again when I'm horny I will grab her, kiss her, bend her over and fuck her soley for my pleasure. Its rough, quick, normally at an inappropriate time or location and she loves it, she actually complained that I don't do it as often as I used too. I cum, she doesn't but she still fucking loves it. I feel no guilt in that scenario. yes I have to have that massive deep connection to allow my partner to just grab me in a spontaneous way. I can see why people find this very good fun and definitely need to do more of. I done it afew times and its really hot. " It works in reverse too, sometimes she wakes horny as fuck and literally just jumps on my morning wood. She then uses me to cum before I have even had chance to wake up properly. Once she is done she will just hop off, give me a wink and go for her shower and leave me with a raging hard-on, but again I love it. | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " Yes... If my partner has not had an orgasm then that's my bad. Its a partnership. Pleasure for both of us. Even in a Sub/Dom relationship, I insure my partner is having fun and the experience is enjoy Al for her as well. Not just me. Its important that my partner has several orgasms | |||
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"Nothing will kill an orgasm quicker for me than someone expecting me to cum. If I’m wet, I’m enjoying the sex and as long as I’m enjoying the sex, that’s all that counts. I have to feel very relaxed to cum and for me that’s not always achievable in a club or room full of people. " Totally agree, I orgasm very easily but as long as I’m enjoying the sex then the orgasm is not the be all and end all for me. Love fun and the orgasm is a bonus x | |||
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"It's about the journey rather than the destination. Porn has a lot to answer for. " Oh absolutely! Well said. Too much meaningless wanking as I think it’s desensitised a lot of people to the overall pleasure of intimacy. Always conscious of looking, shagging and reacting like a porn star, they are too uptight to relax and enjoy the experience. | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? Yes... If my partner has not had an orgasm then that's my bad. Its a partnership. Pleasure for both of us. Even in a Sub/Dom relationship, I insure my partner is having fun and the experience is enjoy Al for her as well. Not just me. Its important that my partner has several orgasms " And if shes not capable of any? Or only has one? Or doesn't want one? | |||
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"lots of women dont orgasm with penetrative sex alone. always best to go down and finish the job lol" Loads don't cum from oral either, or cum at all. | |||
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"Reading some of your comments. I should add I have spent hours and hours giving my partner oral to insure she cums. Not pushing her to cum for me. But taking my time and making her feel relaxed. " Loads of women would never let you be down there for hours, it's boring and pointless. Some of us are don't rely on other people either. | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " Yep | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? Yes... If my partner has not had an orgasm then that's my bad. Its a partnership. Pleasure for both of us. Even in a Sub/Dom relationship, I insure my partner is having fun and the experience is enjoy Al for her as well. Not just me. Its important that my partner has several orgasms And if shes not capable of any? Or only has one? Or doesn't want one?" Put the coffee on, it could take a while... | |||
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"It is rare they come back for another try if they don't have one. Whether or not a man is a good lover depends on what the woman wants since there is no single way of achieving orgasmic results. I would say to be a good lover a man needs to be observant, attentive, adaptable, affectionate and adventurous. I would say that, because that's how I think I am. However her majesty sometimes just wants an energetic guy to bend her over and ruck her hard and fast while pulling her hair and just go for what he wants. Whether she cums or not us not as important as knowing he desired her so much he did that. The same reason she likes sucking guys off so much. " I rarely meet lovers like what you described | |||
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"Reading some of your comments. I should add I have spent hours and hours giving my partner oral to insure she cums. Not pushing her to cum for me. But taking my time and making her feel relaxed. Loads of women would never let you be down there for hours, it's boring and pointless. Some of us are don't rely on other people either." hours?? i think I fall asleep if a guy did that to me. most I had was 1 hr of him down there and 25 orgasms later | |||
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"Yes indeed. If you haven’t cum then I haven’t done my job properly " Have a read of the comments in the tread. | |||
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"This is why I bring my wand on meets. Guarenteed orgasms and fun for who ever is watching " Me too I have a small but powerful one that goes in my shag bag and is often shared with great delight. | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " No cos there could be many reasons why they don't cum. Its not happened to me but I would discuss it maybe | |||
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"Does a woman get an orgasm with a new lover because its new and exciting! As opposed to the same old foreplay and sex with her long-time lover? " No. A new lover hardly ever makes me cum. Ever. And believe ne they try. It's knowing my mind what makes me cum not sucking on my clit for an hour | |||
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"Does a woman get an orgasm with a new lover because its new and exciting! As opposed to the same old foreplay and sex with her long-time lover? No. A new lover hardly ever makes me cum. Ever. And believe ne they try. It's knowing my mind what makes me cum not sucking on my clit for an hour " Indeed I totally agree reading the lady's body language and stimulating her mind over a period of time, learning together what makes each responsive to the other is a fabulous journey. | |||
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"lots of women dont orgasm with penetrative sex alone. always best to go down and finish the job lol Loads don't cum from oral either, or cum at all." I also under impression that many women in the real vanilla world don’t have or don’t always have orgasms and I always wondered if woman are disproportionately represented on FaB - ie on FaB we have 99 out of 100 who are sexual freaks (relatively) and always come or readily expect to orgasm? Similarly I know that women are very good at faking it - esp. if her lil’ soldier is getting nowhere fast ! - so similar I always wondered how many FaB would admit to faking it on FaB meets ever? | |||
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"Men, do you think if you haven't given a woman an orgasm, you're not a good lover? " Yes, it feels like failure x | |||
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