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Dominant couples - is that a thing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was wondering, is there such a thing as a dominant couple?

I’ve seen a lot of couples wanting a man to dominate the wife, or even both of them. But I’ve never seen a couple looking for a man that they can dominate together.

Are there couples like that out there?

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Yes, for sure. Also good luck finding them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, for sure. Also good luck finding them "

Thanks - i might be being naive but is there a name for that kind of scenario?

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Not that I'm aware of specifically to he honest. Could be wrong though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a dominant Stag & Vixen.

We both tend to be the boss during play so sub males who take direction and do as they are told are ideal for us.

As soon as a single male says they are Dom, bull or similar it usually means they aren't for us.

KJ x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I was wondering, is there such a thing as a dominant couple?

I’ve seen a lot of couples wanting a man to dominate the wife, or even both of them. But I’ve never seen a couple looking for a man that they can dominate together.

Are there couples like that out there?"

Sounds like it would only work if the couple had a third person? as I know I wouldn't want a dominate partner as I am a domme

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always on the lookout for a dominant couple. Good luck with your search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, for sure. Also good luck finding them

Thanks - i might be being naive but is there a name for that kind of scenario?"

Cuckold couples tend to be sub and the male can enjoy / be into humiation and both like to be dominated by the bull.

On the other end of the spectrum you have Stag and Vixen couples who like to play with single males.

Stag and Vixens couples as a rule have a dominate in charge male (hence the Stag) and many like us have both a dominant female as well hence the name Vixen.

Hope that helps

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kitten and I have discussed this, with either a girl or a guy. She's my submissive but I'm considering training her to dominate other people.

So yes, it certainly exists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering, is there such a thing as a dominant couple?

I’ve seen a lot of couples wanting a man to dominate the wife, or even both of them. But I’ve never seen a couple looking for a man that they can dominate together.

Are there couples like that out there?

Sounds like it would only work if the couple had a third person? as I know I wouldn't want a dominate partner as I am a domme"

Exactly Jasmine as a Stag and Vixen with are both Dominant and in charge of the action so its the 3rd in our case a male who is sub to us the couple.

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, for sure. Also good luck finding them

Thanks - i might be being naive but is there a name for that kind of scenario?

Cuckold couples tend to be sub and the male can enjoy / be into humiation and both like to be dominated by the bull.

On the other end of the spectrum you have Stag and Vixen couples who like to play with single males.

Stag and Vixens couples as a rule have a dominate in charge male (hence the Stag) and many like us have both a dominant female as well hence the name Vixen.

Hope that helps

KJ x

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So it’s called “Stag & Vixen” ? You learn something new every day. Cheers that’s actually a massive help!

Now I know what I’m looking for... usually couples want me to dominate them. But I want to try experiencing the other side of the coin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly what my and my gf fantasise about. She’s submissive to me, but we’d like to bring in a third party, male or female for her to dominate. I’m happy with her doing absolutely anything as long as she’s in complete control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely is

We only dominate females or couples though, as Mr is very straight haha!

Definitely many of us out there but fet is a better site for that Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly what my and my gf fantasise about. She’s submissive to me, but we’d like to bring in a third party, male or female for her to dominate. I’m happy with her doing absolutely anything as long as she’s in complete control"

Wouldn't the third person have to be happy too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly what my and my gf fantasise about. She’s submissive to me, but we’d like to bring in a third party, male or female for her to dominate. I’m happy with her doing absolutely anything as long as she’s in complete control

Wouldn't the third person have to be happy too?"

I'm pretty sure he meant as long as the third doesn't try to Dominant his female, not that they wouldn't make the third happy too... I hope anyway haha!!

Third definitely has to be happy, and consenting to any domination taking place as submission is given not taken Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly what my and my gf fantasise about. She’s submissive to me, but we’d like to bring in a third party, male or female for her to dominate. I’m happy with her doing absolutely anything as long as she’s in complete control

Wouldn't the third person have to be happy too?"

That’s up to them, if they are truly submissive they’ll be happy being dominated. Personally it’s only my gf’s interests I hold in mind. We’re not into any crazy shit though so can’t exactly imagine why any safe words would be necessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly what my and my gf fantasise about. She’s submissive to me, but we’d like to bring in a third party, male or female for her to dominate. I’m happy with her doing absolutely anything as long as she’s in complete control

Wouldn't the third person have to be happy too?

I'm pretty sure he meant as long as the third doesn't try to Dominant his female, not that they wouldn't make the third happy too... I hope anyway haha!!

Third definitely has to be happy, and consenting to any domination taking place as submission is given not taken Xx "

Yeah this is what I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly what my and my gf fantasise about. She’s submissive to me, but we’d like to bring in a third party, male or female for her to dominate. I’m happy with her doing absolutely anything as long as she’s in complete control

Wouldn't the third person have to be happy too?

I'm pretty sure he meant as long as the third doesn't try to Dominant his female, not that they wouldn't make the third happy too... I hope anyway haha!!

Third definitely has to be happy, and consenting to any domination taking place as submission is given not taken Xx "

Absolutely it should go without saying that any person in the sub role is happy and comfortable with any planned play. It's no different to a single sub meeting a single Dom.

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely is

We only dominate females or couples though, as Mr is very straight haha!

Definitely many of us out there but fet is a better site for that Xx "

Couples with a straight male can be dominant and in charge of a 2nd sub male in Straight MMF play x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely is

We only dominate females or couples though, as Mr is very straight haha!

Definitely many of us out there but fet is a better site for that Xx

Couples with a straight male can be dominant and in charge of a 2nd sub male in Straight MMF play x"

Oh they definitely can but it's not a turn on for myself (Miss) if me and Mr have agreed a male for mmf I'd love to have two dominating men, but that's my personal preference Xx

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

So there are D/s couples where the female has a fantasy to Dom a guy, girl or couple with assistance of her Dom, but isn’t confident or skilled yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So there are D/s couples where the female has a fantasy to Dom a guy, girl or couple with assistance of her Dom, but isn’t confident or skilled yet "

Yes? We've all got to learn somewhere and who better to trust than the person you trust to dominate you? Xx

For me I've been picking up a load of books, YouTube advice, watched the way my Mr talks and reacts etc I've found out I'm more sensual domme for sensory play etc, I don't enjoy inflicting pain on another, but it's also why we are on fet as I can meet fellow dommes to learn and understand Xx

We are very selective on who we have as 'subs' as all parties have to be comfortable and have open communication between the three or four of you Xx

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We play that part, it’s all fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

M doesn't do sub play for meets so likes to be in control and I have a dominant streak. Part of the problem we see with dom sub play is the level of trust and understanding of your partner that is necessary for that type of play, and plenty of wannabes that don't understand the dynamic involved so tent not to bother with it outside of our own relationship.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"So there are D/s couples where the female has a fantasy to Dom a guy, girl or couple with assistance of her Dom, but isn’t confident or skilled yet

Yes? We've all got to learn somewhere and who better to trust than the person you trust to dominate you? Xx

For me I've been picking up a load of books, YouTube advice, watched the way my Mr talks and reacts etc I've found out I'm more sensual domme for sensory play etc, I don't enjoy inflicting pain on another, but it's also why we are on fet as I can meet fellow dommes to learn and understand Xx

We are very selective on who we have as 'subs' as all parties have to be comfortable and have open communication between the three or four of you Xx "

That’s really interesting thanks for sharing.

When you watch the way your MR talks, remember that he’s likely only partly being himself (natural Dom) and partly doing it to please you, being in the character. The degree of each will be different in all guys and you too as you are learning , the non-natural part will grow with confidence and you may also find your natural Domme come out !!!

The sensory / sensual stuff is probably easier right now. You certainly don’t have to inflict any pain to dominate someone , they will happily submit mind and body if you are nice to them

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I know a couple of pro Dommes who have Dominant partners.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"M doesn't do sub play for meets so likes to be in control and I have a dominant streak. Part of the problem we see with dom sub play is the level of trust and understanding of your partner that is necessary for that type of play, and plenty of wannabes that don't understand the dynamic involved so tent not to bother with it outside of our own relationship."

We read a lot on here about wannabes and fake Doms etc but have never met any, only know a couple of Ds and they are awesome guys.

But I think you actually explained it. Level of frost and understanding , this takes time and getting to know someone. You are not going to attempt to dominate or de dominated by someone you don’t know well and trust. If you go off to meet a random stranger for some domination then of course they are going to be a weirdo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"M doesn't do sub play for meets so likes to be in control and I have a dominant streak. Part of the problem we see with dom sub play is the level of trust and understanding of your partner that is necessary for that type of play, and plenty of wannabes that don't understand the dynamic involved so tent not to bother with it outside of our own relationship.

We read a lot on here about wannabes and fake Doms etc but have never met any, only know a couple of Ds and they are awesome guys.

But I think you actually explained it. Level of frost and understanding , this takes time and getting to know someone. You are not going to attempt to dominate or de dominated by someone you don’t know well and trust. If you go off to meet a random stranger for some domination then of course they are going to be a weirdo "

I wouldn’t say that someone is a “weirdo” for seeking domination from a ‘stranger’ (of course most people get to know each other a little before these things, so they’re not quite strangers).

I don’t believe it’s something that can only be enjoyed by couples. It’s possible to tell if you trust or connect with someone quite easily without getting into a relationship.

I get a lot of attention from people I don’t know who want me to take control. Plenty of them are normal, decent, Attractive people.

I’ve even taken up a few of them on the offer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"M doesn't do sub play for meets so likes to be in control and I have a dominant streak. Part of the problem we see with dom sub play is the level of trust and understanding of your partner that is necessary for that type of play, and plenty of wannabes that don't understand the dynamic involved so tent not to bother with it outside of our own relationship.

We read a lot on here about wannabes and fake Doms etc but have never met any, only know a couple of Ds and they are awesome guys.

But I think you actually explained it. Level of frost and understanding , this takes time and getting to know someone. You are not going to attempt to dominate or de dominated by someone you don’t know well and trust. If you go off to meet a random stranger for some domination then of course they are going to be a weirdo

I wouldn’t say that someone is a “weirdo” for seeking domination from a ‘stranger’ (of course most people get to know each other a little before these things, so they’re not quite strangers).

I don’t believe it’s something that can only be enjoyed by couples. It’s possible to tell if you trust or connect with someone quite easily without getting into a relationship.

I get a lot of attention from people I don’t know who want me to take control. Plenty of them are normal, decent, Attractive people.

I’ve even taken up a few of them on the offer."

However! I’m looking for the complete opposite in this thread and I have a little experience in a one on one scenario. I feel ready to explore more with an understanding couple. It’s hard to find a pair that don’t want me to be Dom.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"M doesn't do sub play for meets so likes to be in control and I have a dominant streak. Part of the problem we see with dom sub play is the level of trust and understanding of your partner that is necessary for that type of play, and plenty of wannabes that don't understand the dynamic involved so tent not to bother with it outside of our own relationship.

We read a lot on here about wannabes and fake Doms etc but have never met any, only know a couple of Ds and they are awesome guys.

But I think you actually explained it. Level of frost and understanding , this takes time and getting to know someone. You are not going to attempt to dominate or de dominated by someone you don’t know well and trust. If you go off to meet a random stranger for some domination then of course they are going to be a weirdo

I wouldn’t say that someone is a “weirdo” for seeking domination from a ‘stranger’ (of course most people get to know each other a little before these things, so they’re not quite strangers).

I don’t believe it’s something that can only be enjoyed by couples. It’s possible to tell if you trust or connect with someone quite easily without getting into a relationship.

I get a lot of attention from people I don’t know who want me to take control. Plenty of them are normal, decent, Attractive people.

I’ve even taken up a few of them on the offer.

However! I’m looking for the complete opposite in this thread and I have a little experience in a one on one scenario. I feel ready to explore more with an understanding couple. It’s hard to find a pair that don’t want me to be Dom.

"

You’re not a weirdo for wanting to be dominated by a stranger , but if you trust a stranger to understand, respect and know the subtleties of your boundaries then expect the odd bad experience. I wouldn’t trust a complete stranger to feed my cat or water my plants so I’m unlikely to trust them to tie me up , ch*ke me and flog me properly

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We are a couple and I like to dominate both my straight men in a threesome, but not to an extreme!

I just like to call the shots, be in charge of things

Jo x

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