FabSwingers.com forum: Divorce

By *rSpriteandMsClitBang OP Couple
over a year ago

hadleigh

I filed for divorce yesterday.

Sprite is my boyfriend, and I'm super happy with Him, but I still have weird feelings over getting divorced from my husband. Not wanting him back, but failure feelings.

Please tell me lovely stories of how your life, and your sex life, has improved when you've finally cut ties with bad ex's... preferably hot stories if poss, because I also have the horn.

C (her)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ending my long term relationship was one of the best things I’ve ever done, wish I’d done it years earlier. I’m happier and my mental health has improved - as has my sex life, dramatically! My ex wasn’t into the same stuff I am so since being single I’ve been able to explore things and I’ve discovered the joy of multiple, long-lasting orgasms! It’s definitely not a failure to end an unhappy relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been separated from my ex for nearly 4 years now and divorced one year! It was the best thing I ever did! I have been with J 2 ish years now and it feels so right!

I do understand the mixes emotions though as it was obviously such a big part of you life! Xx

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By *rSpriteandMsClitBang OP Couple
over a year ago

hadleigh

Thank you. I think the last line is what I need to remind myself of! If it was unhappy, it's not a bad thing to end it.

Glad to hear it made you happier in multiple ways! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been separated from my ex for nearly 4 years now and divorced one year! It was the best thing I ever did! I have been with J 2 ish years now and it feels so right!

I do understand the mixes emotions though as it was obviously such a big part of you life! Xx"

I also feel so much more confident in myself being with someone who loves and supports me so much! -K

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By *he Vital SparkMan
over a year ago

Preston

I am actually filing for divorce tomorrow. After 2 years separated, finally gonna get myself together and do it. Spent the last 8 years in a marriage without sex/intimacy and I never cheated on her! Since I have joined fab, I still haven't met anyone but my confidence is improving. Things can only get better as they say. Mentally and physically feel like a new person, I feel reborn, I wish I'd had the balls to do it sooner like 8 years sooner!

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By *rSpriteandMsClitBang OP Couple
over a year ago

hadleigh

"I've been separated from my ex for nearly 4 years now and divorced one year! It was the best thing I ever did! I have been with J 2 ish years now and it feels so right!

I do understand the mixes emotions though as it was obviously such a big part of you life! Xx

I also feel so much more confident in myself being with someone who loves and supports me so much! -K "

Thank you. I feel the same. Mr Sprite gives me so much more confidence and love and affection. I know it's better now, and I am glad. Just need to shake off the "bugger, I'm a cliche" thoughts.

And actually. Fuck it if I am a cliche. Because damn, I'm happier now.

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ending my marriage was the best thing I ever did. I discovered myself and I actually found that sex could be enjoyable and something I didn’t have to feel like I endured. I found out I could finally orgasm and multiple times. And my new partner certainly knows the places that turn me on. X

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By *rSpriteandMsClitBang OP Couple
over a year ago

hadleigh

"I am actually filing for divorce tomorrow. After 2 years separated, finally gonna get myself together and do it. Spent the last 8 years in a marriage without sex/intimacy and I never cheated on her! Since I have joined fab, I still haven't met anyone but my confidence is improving. Things can only get better as they say. Mentally and physically feel like a new person, I feel reborn, I wish I'd had the balls to do it sooner like 8 years sooner!"

Well done you. Make sure you have some friends to chat to, because it does feel a little odd. But I hope you find new happiness. It's tough to let go, but sometimes, it's the right thing to do.

Thank you for sharing. X

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By *rSpriteandMsClitBang OP Couple
over a year ago

hadleigh

"Ending my marriage was the best thing I ever did. I discovered myself and I actually found that sex could be enjoyable and something I didn’t have to feel like I endured. I found out I could finally orgasm and multiple times. And my new partner certainly knows the places that turn me on. X "

Wow, you definitely needed to have some sexy joy sent your way then! Thank you for sharing! Xx

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By *illingtoplayMan
over a year ago

Ross on Wye

Nasty girl, ruining someone’s life. You’ll get your payback one day and then you’ll know how it feels. Have fun ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got married at 16 and divorced at 26. I had 3 children and I faced a very diffrent life.. It was absolutely the best thing I could have ever done. I didn't love him, infact I don't know if I ever really liked him much. I discovered myself and a whole world of adventures I never thought possible. Now my youngest son is 12 and my eldest 19. I've been single 11 years. I don't look back only forward.

I don't see it as failure at all. Some things work out and some don't. That's life. It's precious and short. Be happy x

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By *rSpriteandMsClitBang OP Couple
over a year ago

hadleigh

"Nasty girl, ruining someone’s life. You’ll get your payback one day and then you’ll know how it feels. Have fun ..."

Excuse me?

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By *rSpriteandMsClitBang OP Couple
over a year ago

hadleigh

"I got married at 16 and divorced at 26. I had 3 children and I faced a very diffrent life.. It was absolutely the best thing I could have ever done. I didn't love him, infact I don't know if I ever really liked him much. I discovered myself and a whole world of adventures I never thought possible. Now my youngest son is 12 and my eldest 19. I've been single 11 years. I don't look back only forward.

I don't see it as failure at all. Some things work out and some don't. That's life. It's precious and short. Be happy x"

Thank you. I got married at 24, and I'm such a different person now, I can't imagine how much I would have changed if I had married as a teenager. You're right, people change and sometimes things don't work. We all just have to try to be happy, and honest where possible.

Thanks for sharing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nasty girl, ruining someone’s life. You’ll get your payback one day and then you’ll know how it feels. Have fun ..."

What a bitter and unnecessary comment.

My ex would say I ruined his life too. I'd say he brought it on himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may not seem like it now but time is a great healer.

My divorce was finalised last year.

I can relate to your feelings of failure after all I felt the same.

I don't think anybody gets married only to find themselves separated.

Things happen in life. They say it's better to have loved and lost than never loved at all.

At the time I couldn't imagine life without her but fast forward a few years I don't look back. We did the right thing to have gone our separate ways and our lives are now better.

There is light at the end of the tunnel.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"Nasty girl, ruining someone’s life. You’ll get your payback one day and then you’ll know how it feels. Have fun ...

What a bitter and unnecessary comment.

My ex would say I ruined his life too. I'd say he brought it on himself. "

From experience, be happy, never look back and enjoy your life wherever it may take you... never regret mistakes xx

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By *he Vital SparkMan
over a year ago

Preston

I don't see it as failure at all. Some things work out and some don't. That's life. It's precious and short. Be happy x

Thanks for sharing xx"
. Sometimes you have to get up and leave. After all the mental abuse you need to move on. Why stay in an unhappy marriage just to please others. We are only he once, so enjoy what you can, even if it means losing almost everything and starting over again. This isn't a rehearsal!

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By *rSpriteandMsClitBang OP Couple
over a year ago

hadleigh

Thank you, you lovely bunch of people.

It's heartening to hear other people who have gone through divorce and are able to see the positives. I know I'm happier now, and I'm going to tell the little niggling failure voice to pipe down.

And for the snarky voice above: he definitely brought it on himself, and he and I were separated a long time before Mr Sprite came along.

Thanks lovelies xx

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

I don't see it as failure at all. Some things work out and some don't. That's life. It's precious and short. Be happy x

Thanks for sharing xx. Sometimes you have to get up and leave. After all the mental abuse you need to move on. Why stay in an unhappy marriage just to please others. We are only he once, so enjoy what you can, even if it means losing almost everything and starting over again. This isn't a rehearsal!"

totally agree

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

Life is only the best you can make of it. You only have one shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man who never made a mistake never made anything !

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"Life is only the best you can make of it. You only have one shot

and it is short, so unfortunately you have to do what is best for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nasty girl, ruining someone’s life. You’ll get your payback one day and then you’ll know how it feels. Have fun ..."

Bitterness is ripping out of you, I think you owe OP an apology.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"Life is only the best you can make of it. You only have one shot

and it is short, so unfortunately you have to do what is best for you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The feeling of failure is natural OP, but ask yourself 'Do you think others whose marriages broke down failed?'

I suspect you don't. So even though it's natural you have a sense of failure lingering now, you're not being fair to yourself. I found the sense of failure eventually left when I stopped holding myself ( and my ex ) up to impossible standards in hindsight.

Seeing my ex as a 'bad person' didn't serve me well in the aftermath either as we both tried our best. Make peace with what's passed, realise you're a stronger and more accomplished person now and live the life you deserve.

Oh, and the sex and quality of life is better cause divorce is not an end it's a new beginning.

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By *m241Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Nasty girl, ruining someone’s life. You’ll get your payback one day and then you’ll know how it feels. Have fun ..."

Rude and inappropriate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a 38 year relationship, 28 years of it married, I'm 22 months into my divorce.

The "soon to be ex" moved out at the weekend and the sense of liberation is amazing!

Put all the crap behind you look forwards, it's fantastic!

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