FabSwingers.com forum: ha some ppl on here

By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

we have just been branded racists due to the fact we are not attracted to anyone with skin colour

but been as we are swingers suppose we should sleep with anyone?

makes us laugh really how ppl can be thinking that just because we don’t want to meet or have sexual relations with anyone apart from Caucasian people that we are obviously racist

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Why let it upset you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its just another choose not to isnt it,like ppl choose not to have sex with smokers,or large ppl.the list goes on.

at the end of the day,sod em.if you dont want to then you dont have to.its their prob,not yours.xx

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By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

we are not we just find it funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got something similiar last week, its so not true or fair but I just blocked them,

you know what you like and play with whom you want, swingers and easy have seperate definitions in my eyes :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im with you im only sexually attracted to white people. If non white people dont like it then thats their problem.

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By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

but ya know what they say

swinging aint easy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find swinging very easy to be fair, everyone is after different things sure, but if people respect preferences then its a liberating pleasurable pursuit. And if people don't then ignore, delete and block works wonders.

I'm probably guilty in th eyes of some as being a sexist pig as I won't fuck other men, but hey ho...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope it should be though.

I just sent a thanks but no thanks and got 'you racist' message back.

Skin colour hadn't even come into either of the messages and I dont have a preference either way

shake it off and perv at some new pics, makes me feel better

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I was hoping that your profile had "not looking for single men" on it so that you could be branded sexist as well as racist...but it doesn't.

Damn and blast, another attempt at humour bites the dust lol.

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By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

We hear you and perving is easy lol

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I'm absolutely sure that there are kids who use this site for their own fun and games. Just like kids who plague dogging car parks to make lives hell for people into dogging. There's nothing to stop anyone from opening a profile and use it for any pratting around purpose that they like.

I've heard it said that some kids play games to see whose "profile" gets the most messages in a night (you know, the new young female, "up for anything" kind of profile) I'm also sure that some will start a "black" profile just to cause upset to people who say no to them by sending the sort of non-sensical messages that you mention here. Block 'em, report 'em and don't lose any sleep about it, is my advice.

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By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

Totally agree we have been on here to long to let it get to us so we laugh it off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont wanna have sex with every couple single fem I meet.

unfortunately I personally think u've phrased this the wrong way.Most people will respect choices of play...no problems. However when ur saying in a fashion u only want to meet Caucasians even if isnt outwith the sexual needs...

Now as a pair that appear to like parties..I hope this means u can mix with all types(socially in the environment) lol

And as profiles go, NOTHING EVER NEEDS TO BE STRUNG OUT IN HUGE CAPITALS IT ONLY SERVES TO THE EYE A SENSE OF LOUD ANGER, much easier just to type it as normal.

like u's say u arent racist, why make ur profile sound as if it is to a degree?

just my opinion, I've no chip on my shoulder about fuckall...but u have asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nope it should be though.

I just sent a thanks but no thanks and got 'you racist' message back.

Skin colour hadn't even come into either of the messages and I dont have a preference either way

shake it off and perv at some new pics, makes me feel better

I still think its easy IMO. If anyone replied in a message to me with such a bumper load of horseshit then I'd immediately dismiss their comments as the witterings of a buffoon and delete, block, forget.

I agree with you on the perving score wholeheartedly though...with the delightful pics and prose some put into their profiles its incredibly easy to have a nice arousing read and _iew....

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By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

Did you miss the bit about not wanting black or Asians sexually? We did not say anything about been round black or asians we have friends of both races we are just not attracted to them sexually

And as for the capitals its like that for a reason so ppl don't message us who we are not looking for as we find it works for us and in the end its our profile

We can do what we like with it and as for the way its said apart from the capitals there is no way of what we say on there going against what we have said on here

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By *heekygeordieguyMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

So if you dont want to go with a couple or someone who does not match your preference for size, are you classed as a "shapeist". ???

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By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

"So if you dont want to go with a couple or someone who does not match your preference for size, are you classed as a "shapeist". ???"

Suppose so plus if someone has multi coloured hair and you don't want to meet them you would be hairist

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I do think that some statements on profiles are like red rags to a bull,Im not saying thats right but that seems to be the case after reading the threads on here

Do you think if you stated what you do prefer rather than what you don't you may not have been called racist?

Do you think it really neccessary to say in capitals that you don't want to play with black and asian people? its you that has brought the race issue into your profile

If you just said you were looking for white guys you would be saying exactly the same thing but it may come across better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if you dont want to go with a couple or someone who does not match your preference for size, are you classed as a "shapeist". ???

Suppose so plus if someone has multi coloured hair and you don't want to meet them you would be hairist "

To be fair, the fact that you have it in capitals is a bit like shouting. There will be other types of people that you don't want to meet, say anyone over 80 or with nasty BO. But you don't specify that in capitals either. I'm not trying to be bitchy, just making a comment on how it looks to me.

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By *admanmoonxMan
over a year ago

Stanford Le Hope

Every body has their preference and that could be based on age, size colour sexuality etc. It doesn't mean that somebody is ageist, racist, sexist or anything else. How many adds have I seen where it says black men only.... If that is someones preference then good luck to them. There are plenty out there to satisfy their needs and I don't waste either of our time in getting in contact.

Some people for what ever reason have a chip on their shoulder and I am not just talking about race either. It could be size it could be gender it could be a lot of things. When they don't get there way or feel slighted they throw their toys out of the pram. Ignore them, block them, report them and then move on. After all it is they who have the problem. No point in spoiling your day by making it yours

. Might help to change from upper case but other then that nothing wrong as far as I can tell

One of the good things here is that you can get it off your chest, feel better and carry on in the knowledge you have done nothing wrong.

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By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

That's fine but we have tried it both way and in the end this works for us yes we made it clear on our profile but if it was not there then we would have to tell people who message us as we always reply to any messages and like to give a reason we don't want to meet if asked its the way we have been since day one we know other ppl do it differently buy hay we are all different in how we go about this site and swinging in general

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"I do think that some statements on profiles are like red rags to a bull,Im not saying thats right but that seems to be the case after reading the threads on here

Do you think if you stated what you do prefer rather than what you don't you may not have been called racist?

Do you think it really neccessary to say in capitals that you don't want to play with black and asian people? its you that has brought the race issue into your profile

If you just said you were looking for white guys you would be saying exactly the same thing but it may come across better "

Exactly how I see it.....all very well having preferences but is there such a need to highlight it?....it's bound to attract wind ups.

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

It goes both ways, I've been called a racist several times because I only play with black guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you miss the bit about not wanting black or Asians sexually? We did not say anything about been round black or asians we have friends of both races we are just not attracted to them sexually

And as for the capitals its like that for a reason so ppl don't message us who we are not looking for as we find it works for us and in the end its our profile

We can do what we like with it and as for the way its said apart from the capitals there is no way of what we say on there going against what we have said on here

is it just me who thinks a meet can be non sexual? and of course something sexual is....that...

Re-read ur very own wording(more carefully if ur nitpickin lol).

yes ur profile...but u came on for comments onto the forum...I'dve said the same thing if ud said, 'people are calling us weightists'

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By *admanmoonxMan
over a year ago

Stanford Le Hope

"It goes both ways, I've been called a racist several times because I only play with black guys. "

Highlights the point at how oversensitive people can be when all you are doing is stating your preference.

It annoys me how some people like to put themselves up on a cross because they feel excluded. Live and let live and leave people be

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Smile. Block. Move on.

Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet swingers but daren't put it on my profile as I get the feeling there's some on this site. I only meet virgins as they always think I'm an amazing shag.

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By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

"I don't meet swingers but daren't put it on my profile as I get the feeling there's some on this site. I only meet virgins as they always think I'm an amazing shag.

lol

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By *admanmoonxMan
over a year ago

Stanford Le Hope

"I don't meet swingers but daren't put it on my profile as I get the feeling there's some on this site. I only meet virgins as they always think I'm an amazing shag.

What you got against swingers......

STAMP OUT SWINGISM

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I don't meet swingers but daren't put it on my profile as I get the feeling there's some on this site. I only meet virgins as they always think I'm an amazing shag.

Cracked me up, haha!

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By *admanmoonxMan
over a year ago

Stanford Le Hope

Some people take things far to much to heart. I am fairly new to swinging but one thing I've learnt is to develop a thick skin. Single guys like me are constantly get ignored and rejected. WAIT A MINUTE.........

THATS SEXIST... AAAAARRRRGGGHHHH

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

The wording is a little aggressive "don't do it for us" is unnecessary. People need to understand that race issues are sensitive and need to be approached with caution. We don't particularly like Asians but you won't see that anywhere in our profile. Still each to their own so whatever really...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

actually this is quite ironic... especially with another thread today commenting on the use of the phrase "black men only" and commenting would people say to say if it was black women...

maybe you two should have a conversation.....

See... what I don't get is why would put in CAPITALS WHAT YOU DON'T WANT as oppose to actually selling yourself and saying to people what you do actually want....

sort of perverse in a way.... you wouldn't get a dept store for example saying "NO COATS IN STOCK!!!! oh by the way we have other stuff...."

do I think it is agressive... sure... but heck I am not the target audience....

do I think it is likely to scare off potential playing partners for you... absolutely....

do I think it makes a good first impression... not really.....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

My personal rule of thumb? Anyone that says, writes "I'm not racist but..."...is a racist!

Most people on here have at least a rudimentary vocabulary and can express themselves in a way as not to offend...if they so wish. They choose not to as is their right, but I'd wager it alienates many of their target market.

It's not just race. I've seen "no oompa loopas" when "we prefer people our own size" would convey the same thing. "No short arses" instead of "we prefer tall playmates"...the list could go on.

We all have preferences, it doesn't necessarily mean any "ism" is attached. I have preferences on mine. One of my closest friends is married, I've mentioned him on the forums before, we meet every six weeks or so to go for dinner and take in a west end show...but I'd never play with a married man. I don't meet black men, I'm black and the two most influential men in my life were my father and ex-husband. My ex-husband to this day the only man I trust.

But hey, our profiles reflect us and in the final analysis what we want are birds of a feather...so if it works for you...

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By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

Ok we have taken the points about the capitals and have changed it to lower case but we are not removing it at all together as it works for us well did lets see if anything changes

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Ok we have taken the points about the capitals and have changed it to lower case but we are not removing it at all together as it works for us well did lets see if anything changes

Obviously doesn't, else you wouldn't have made this post.

I agree with Fabio In fact having the phrase on your profile may actually make it worse! But as you say, your profile, so up to you how you pick your shags. I just think its easier to have a friendly profile and delete the guys you don't want to meet than make sure everyone knows your thoughts on non-whites.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if I am honest I think it reads worse.. is there any need to say ' No Blacks or Asian we don’t find either races attractive'.

why do you feel the need to justify your choice, just say you don't meet certain groups or mention the groups you do.

I would never in a million years ask someone to justify to me why they don't meet bi guys, nor would I ever justify my preferences.

just my opinion tho.

good luck for the future

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By *_midland_cpl_x OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

we find that having what your looking for and not on your profile helps

we tried a nice nice profile with non of that and it got past a joke plus we where been sent nasty messages when we declined ppl

so as we said many times in this

it works for us

happy swinging all

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By *admanmoonxMan
over a year ago

Stanford Le Hope

One thing I ave come to learn is that you cant please all the people all the time. We could spend the rest of our lives tweaking our profiles in order to ensure it PC and that it pleases everyone.

The amount of profile's I have seen that have said 'no white guys', 'no body with less then 8"', 'no body over the age of 45'. Is it offensive? Not to me. It tells me straight away I am not what they are looking for so I move on and don't waste either of ours time. Ok not everybody is going to word things perfectly. Not everybody are linguistic experts. I consider my self pretty open minded and am very easy going but if there is one thing I can be intolerant about and that is intolerance and general over reacting to things. The only issue I could see in the posters profile was that they highlighted it in caps which has now been taken on board and changed.

Now if any body is based in London and fancy's meeting up for inteligent conversation? (and more if the mood takes us)........

I know I know.... The world loves an optimist

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"we find that having what your looking for and not on your profile helps

we tried a nice nice profile with non of that and it got past a joke plus we where been sent nasty messages when we declined ppl

so as we said many times in this

it works for us

happy swinging all "

cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have just been branded racists due to the fact we are not attracted to anyone with skin colour

but been as we are swingers suppose we should sleep with anyone?

makes us laugh really how ppl can be thinking that just because we don’t want to meet or have sexual relations with anyone apart from Caucasian people that we are obviously racist"

Theres enough on here that will only shag black cock so they are not short of people to meet anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got something similiar last week, its so not true or fair but I just blocked them,

you know what you like and play with whom you want, swingers and easy have seperate definitions in my eyes :D"

And i can testify that you are not racist and will never be

Will i be called racist if i turn a blonde down??????

I am sure all i will get will be " your lost "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"actually this is quite ironic... especially with another thread today commenting on the use of the phrase "black men only" and commenting would people say to say if it was black women...

maybe you two should have a conversation.....

See... what I don't get is why would put in CAPITALS WHAT YOU DON'T WANT as oppose to actually selling yourself and saying to people what you do actually want....

sort of perverse in a way.... you wouldn't get a dept store for example saying "NO COATS IN STOCK!!!! oh by the way we have other stuff...."

do I think it is agressive... sure... but heck I am not the target audience....

do I think it is likely to scare off potential playing partners for you... absolutely....

do I think it makes a good first impression... not really....."

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