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By *_Marius OP   Man
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

Between serious and joke.

Here’s a question for all of you fellow cuddly people who’ve been rejected because of your body looks by fellow swingers. If you lot managed to get a revenge body (I’m giggling as I’m typing this) within about 6 weeks of regular exercise, and you got approached by the people who had rejected you, because they got a glimpse of your leaner body or whatever....would you say ‘yes’ or would you have decisively moved on by then?

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By *_Marius OP   Man
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

Just to clarify, I consider myself cuddly as well x

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Depends, if revenge sex is on the table then I'd go for it. I'm currently trying to get back to a my former body to rebuild my self confidence. Will take me more then 6 weeks thou as I need to drop 4 stone. I'm doing it for me but if I get more interest as a by-product I wont complain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who reject me based on the way I look not reaching their standards, are not for me. I would reject them. I can become slimmer should I choose, they cannot become nicer.

Beauty is more than skin deep.

I don't find shallow people attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not a one to cut my nose off to spite my face so if I still want to fuck them, then I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who reject me based on the way I look not reaching their standards, are not for me. I would reject them. I can become slimmer should I choose, they cannot become nicer.

Beauty is more than skin deep.

I don't find shallow people attractive. "

too right

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I got rejected for being too slim so not willing to pile on the pounds to please someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got rejected for being too slim so not willing to pile on the pounds to please someone else."

Totally. I would never change the way I look for someone else. Take me as I am or don't take me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people reject me because of my body type or some other feature they don't like, that's preference.

I don't see why I would feel the need to physicaly changed myself to get 'revenge', this would imply you want to cause another person some emotional damage to massage your ego. If a person I rejected did this, then I was correct in rejecting them.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I am what I am, not going to stress about it.

Plenty of people have met me and enjoyed my company.

Suspect being chilled with a dry sense of humour can come across sexy to those that are not shallow.

Oh it helps I have a gorgeous bi wife.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"I am what I am, not going to stress about it.

Plenty of people have met me and enjoyed my company.

Suspect being chilled with a dry sense of humour can come across sexy to those that are not shallow.

Oh it helps I have a gorgeous bi wife."

You certainly do have a gorgeous wife, u lucky fella ... u sound a top bloke

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I am what I am, not going to stress about it.

Plenty of people have met me and enjoyed my company.

Suspect being chilled with a dry sense of humour can come across sexy to those that are not shallow.

Oh it helps I have a gorgeous bi wife.

You certainly do have a gorgeous wife, u lucky fella ... u sound a top bloke "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I would reject them, but only because sleeping with them would make me feel worse about myself. It would confirm that I'd only become "good enough" and acceptable by losing weight, when in actual fact I am good enough right goddamn now.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I think I would reject them, but only because sleeping with them would make me feel worse about myself. It would confirm that I'd only become "good enough" and acceptable by losing weight, when in actual fact I am good enough right goddamn now. "

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By *_Marius OP   Man
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

Ok, some interesting viewpoints here; keep them coming x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I would reject them, but only because sleeping with them would make me feel worse about myself. It would confirm that I'd only become "good enough" and acceptable by losing weight, when in actual fact I am good enough right goddamn now. "

You are beautiful x

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Between serious and joke.

Here’s a question for all of you fellow cuddly people who’ve been rejected because of your body looks by fellow swingers. If you lot managed to get a revenge body (I’m giggling as I’m typing this) within about 6 weeks of regular exercise, and you got approached by the people who had rejected you, because they got a glimpse of your leaner body or whatever....would you say ‘yes’ or would you have decisively moved on by then? "

Plus, I kind of grew up, revenge is a playground activity in my world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They had their chance.

Their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I would reject them, but only because sleeping with them would make me feel worse about myself. It would confirm that I'd only become "good enough" and acceptable by losing weight, when in actual fact I am good enough right goddamn now.

You are beautiful x "

As are you x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think physical attraction is important. It'spperfectly normal to be attracted to some physical traits and not others. I don't have any issues with somebody not being physically attracted to me. If I got a body I was happier with and that made me more attractive to somebody then I see that as a win.

If they had been nasty about that's a different matter. I don't want to have sex with anybody I don't like as a person. But if it's somebody I get on with I can't imagine thinking "No, should have been attracted me when I was a different shape!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id never change the way I look for one night of fucking.. I'm content in my own skin and love being fat If for whatever reason I lost weight and was approached by the person who rejected me, I'd still go for it, we all have our own likes and dislikes. I wouldn't call someone who doesn't find big women attractive, shallow, If it's not for them then that's their preference.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"People who reject me based on the way I look not reaching their standards, are not for me. I would reject them. I can become slimmer should I choose, they cannot become nicer.

Beauty is more than skin deep.

I don't find shallow people attractive. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id never change the way I look for one night of fucking.. I'm content in my own skin and love being fat If for whatever reason I lost weight and was approached by the person who rejected me, I'd still go for it, we all have our own likes and dislikes. I wouldn't call someone who doesn't find big women attractive, shallow, If it's not for them then that's their preference."

No nor would I. Its absolutely their preference. But if someone knew me and didn't find me attractive as I am but then did when I was slimmer, I would struggle with that. As I wouldnt have changed my personality, only my skin.

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By *FuckingDelightWoman
over a year ago

Sunny Bognor

I’ve been told I’m beautiful (now I don’t really believe it) but I know I am good enough as I am right now, how I look won’t appeal to everyone but that’s ok because not everyone appeals to me!

I wouldn’t however want to fuck anyone who wouldn’t want me as I am presently

If you don’t want my at my worst (in your perception) then you certainly don’t deserve me at my best!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

People having personal preferences isn't rejection or an insult. We ALL have preferences its not a reason for revenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People having personal preferences isn't rejection or an insult. We ALL have preferences its not a reason for revenge"
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I totally agree! But I do think that suddenly fitting someone's preferences when you didn't before, all because you've changed certain elements of yourself would just feel a bit... Odd. Knowing for an absolute fact that the person wouldn't fancy you if you were bigger/slimmer/shorter/taller etc would just be a bit unnerving in my opinion. I'd feel much more comfortable if they just found someone else.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"People having personal preferences isn't rejection or an insult. We ALL have preferences its not a reason for revenge.

I totally agree! But I do think that suddenly fitting someone's preferences when you didn't before, all because you've changed certain elements of yourself would just feel a bit... Odd. Knowing for an absolute fact that the person wouldn't fancy you if you were bigger/slimmer/shorter/taller etc would just be a bit unnerving in my opinion. I'd feel much more comfortable if they just found someone else. "

we're outside a lot of peoples age range. If I woke up in 6 weeks 20 years younger would I meet some of those very hot, very good looking young men? Damn right I would .

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’m not one to burn bridges.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People having personal preferences isn't rejection or an insult. We ALL have preferences its not a reason for revenge"

No revenge to be had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who reject me based on the way I look not reaching their standards, are not for me. I would reject them. I can become slimmer should I choose, they cannot become nicer.

Beauty is more than skin deep.

I don't find shallow people attractive. "

Totally agree!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"People having personal preferences isn't rejection or an insult. We ALL have preferences its not a reason for revenge.

I totally agree! But I do think that suddenly fitting someone's preferences when you didn't before, all because you've changed certain elements of yourself would just feel a bit... Odd. Knowing for an absolute fact that the person wouldn't fancy you if you were bigger/slimmer/shorter/taller etc would just be a bit unnerving in my opinion. I'd feel much more comfortable if they just found someone else.

we're outside a lot of peoples age range. If I woke up in 6 weeks 20 years younger would I meet some of those very hot, very good looking young men? Damn right I would . "

Why?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"People having personal preferences isn't rejection or an insult. We ALL have preferences its not a reason for revenge.

I totally agree! But I do think that suddenly fitting someone's preferences when you didn't before, all because you've changed certain elements of yourself would just feel a bit... Odd. Knowing for an absolute fact that the person wouldn't fancy you if you were bigger/slimmer/shorter/taller etc would just be a bit unnerving in my opinion. I'd feel much more comfortable if they just found someone else.

we're outside a lot of peoples age range. If I woke up in 6 weeks 20 years younger would I meet some of those very hot, very good looking young men? Damn right I would .

Why?"

the same reason I do everything connected with swing, because I would want to.

I freely admit to being attracted first and foremost to looks for casual sex partners, I'm not looking for a long term partner or romantic relationship so if a physiological or chronological change opened up more opportunities I'd embrace them.

I'm not going to reject anyone socially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve actually found being on Fab has given my confidence a real boost. I’m a larger more (ahem!) mature female and the meets we have had and club nights have been a huge morale booster. I’m sure a lot of people have looked at our profile and not been interested but for me it’s been a positive experience.

If I’d been rejected then hit on by the same person because I’d lost weight......would I be tempted? Hell no. I’d just try to make sure every veri after that was a glowing one!

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By *nique_78Woman
over a year ago

Home, somewhere in Norfolk


"Between serious and joke.

Here’s a question for all of you fellow cuddly people who’ve been rejected because of your body looks by fellow swingers. If you lot managed to get a revenge body (I’m giggling as I’m typing this) within about 6 weeks of regular exercise, and you got approached by the people who had rejected you, because they got a glimpse of your leaner body or whatever....would you say ‘yes’ or would you have decisively moved on by then? "

That's a good question, are you not superficial and turn people down because you don't find attracted to their looks or body?

Even the slim Jim's get 'rejected' at some point in life lol...choose to enjoy those whom show you interest and bugger the rest in my plump opinion

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"People having personal preferences isn't rejection or an insult. We ALL have preferences its not a reason for revenge.

I totally agree! But I do think that suddenly fitting someone's preferences when you didn't before, all because you've changed certain elements of yourself would just feel a bit... Odd. Knowing for an absolute fact that the person wouldn't fancy you if you were bigger/slimmer/shorter/taller etc would just be a bit unnerving in my opinion. I'd feel much more comfortable if they just found someone else.

we're outside a lot of peoples age range. If I woke up in 6 weeks 20 years younger would I meet some of those very hot, very good looking young men? Damn right I would .

Why?

the same reason I do everything connected with swing, because I would want to.

I freely admit to being attracted first and foremost to looks for casual sex partners, I'm not looking for a long term partner or romantic relationship so if a physiological or chronological change opened up more opportunities I'd embrace them.

I'm not going to reject anyone socially.

"

Lot of nominations, take that as avoiding

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"People having personal preferences isn't rejection or an insult. We ALL have preferences its not a reason for revenge.

I totally agree! But I do think that suddenly fitting someone's preferences when you didn't before, all because you've changed certain elements of yourself would just feel a bit... Odd. Knowing for an absolute fact that the person wouldn't fancy you if you were bigger/slimmer/shorter/taller etc would just be a bit unnerving in my opinion. I'd feel much more comfortable if they just found someone else.

we're outside a lot of peoples age range. If I woke up in 6 weeks 20 years younger would I meet some of those very hot, very good looking young men? Damn right I would .

Why?

the same reason I do everything connected with swing, because I would want to.

I freely admit to being attracted first and foremost to looks for casual sex partners, I'm not looking for a long term partner or romantic relationship so if a physiological or chronological change opened up more opportunities I'd embrace them.

I'm not going to reject anyone socially.

Lot of nominations, take that as avoiding "

I don't understand what you mean

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"People having personal preferences isn't rejection or an insult. We ALL have preferences its not a reason for revenge.

I totally agree! But I do think that suddenly fitting someone's preferences when you didn't before, all because you've changed certain elements of yourself would just feel a bit... Odd. Knowing for an absolute fact that the person wouldn't fancy you if you were bigger/slimmer/shorter/taller etc would just be a bit unnerving in my opinion. I'd feel much more comfortable if they just found someone else.

we're outside a lot of peoples age range. If I woke up in 6 weeks 20 years younger would I meet some of those very hot, very good looking young men? Damn right I would .

Why?

the same reason I do everything connected with swing, because I would want to.

I freely admit to being attracted first and foremost to looks for casual sex partners, I'm not looking for a long term partner or romantic relationship so if a physiological or chronological change opened up more opportunities I'd embrace them.

I'm not going to reject anyone socially.

Lot of nominations, take that as avoiding

I don't understand what you mean"

No probs

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Moving on is the best revenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd find someone comfortable with me bumps and lumps in week 1... Then let them enjoy the transformation for the rest of 5 weeks

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By *ummer_XOWoman
over a year ago

Tyrone


"People who reject me based on the way I look not reaching their standards, are not for me. I would reject them. I can become slimmer should I choose, they cannot become nicer.

Beauty is more than skin deep.

I don't find shallow people attractive. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a bigger girl, I don’t fancy bigger men I’m sorry I just don’t.

I also don’t fancy short men.

It’s just a preference and is still treat them like everyone else with kindness and respect unless they deserved otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People reject me for so many reasons, it's impossible to isolate the ones who don't like my body.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't have a problem with someone rejecting me because I don't match their preferences.

Likewise, if I changed in some way that meant I now *did* meet their preferences, and they were now interested, I would totally make the most of that.

Hell, I've even considered growing a beard to give myself a shot with the rising number of pognophiles, and then shaving it off again to return to my regular market.

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh


"I got rejected for being too slim so not willing to pile on the pounds to please someone else."
too slim?, no your smoking hot girl xx

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By *rivingmanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

We are what we are, treat people with respect and you'll get so much more out of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex used to call me fat, ive lost a little but not because of her, she is an ex for a reason

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

What value is one life.

Virus hasnt gone away

Everyone acting normally before second spike in october

It appears, vulnerable people's, lives, are not valued

So what value do you put one life???

Someone mum dad grandad grandmum

Or is it I'm OK doesn't matter

So what value do you put on one life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What value is one life.

Virus hasnt gone away

Everyone acting normally before second spike in october

It appears, vulnerable people's, lives, are not valued

So what value do you put one life???

Someone mum dad grandad grandmum

Or is it I'm OK doesn't matter

So what value do you put on one life "

Have you answered the wrong thread?

Anyway, would it depend on whether the person had rejected you based on your profile pics, or meeting you in person? I'm sure people have turned down someone, only to meet them at a club and found their personality turned them on

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By *_Marius OP   Man
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

Lots of interesting opinions on this thread...I'll be vulnerably honest with all of you. I--as hundreds of you--have been rejected due to my looks quite a few times over the years. And you know what? I know it'll probably come across as daft but here it goes:

I have thought, over the last few years, of trying to get a bit fitter and make a bit more "effort"....but my main concern is--hand on my heart--not the people who have rejected me over the years.

My main concern is...IF (and it's a HUGE IF) I ever manage to get a bit fitter and more toned...will I actually start being so in love with my own image that I won't be able to find beauty in anybody who doesn't look remotely similar to me? Will I stop being attracted to all the people I currently like? Will I stop finding beauty in the the various shapes and sizes that I currently find? I really hope that will NEVER happen.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Lots of interesting opinions on this thread...I'll be vulnerably honest with all of you. I--as hundreds of you--have been rejected due to my looks quite a few times over the years. And you know what? I know it'll probably come across as daft but here it goes:

I have thought, over the last few years, of trying to get a bit fitter and make a bit more "effort"....but my main concern is--hand on my heart--not the people who have rejected me over the years.

My main concern is...IF (and it's a HUGE IF) I ever manage to get a bit fitter and more toned...will I actually start being so in love with my own image that I won't be able to find beauty in anybody who doesn't look remotely similar to me? Will I stop being attracted to all the people I currently like? Will I stop finding beauty in the the various shapes and sizes that I currently find? I really hope that will NEVER happen."

Why would your outer appearance change the inner you? Is your perception that slim, fit people are in love with their own reflection?

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By *_Marius OP   Man
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"Lots of interesting opinions on this thread...I'll be vulnerably honest with all of you. I--as hundreds of you--have been rejected due to my looks quite a few times over the years. And you know what? I know it'll probably come across as daft but here it goes:

I have thought, over the last few years, of trying to get a bit fitter and make a bit more "effort"....but my main concern is--hand on my heart--not the people who have rejected me over the years.

My main concern is...IF (and it's a HUGE IF) I ever manage to get a bit fitter and more toned...will I actually start being so in love with my own image that I won't be able to find beauty in anybody who doesn't look remotely similar to me? Will I stop being attracted to all the people I currently like? Will I stop finding beauty in the the various shapes and sizes that I currently find? I really hope that will NEVER happen.

Why would your outer appearance change the inner you? Is your perception that slim, fit people are in love with their own reflection? "

That is something that I can honestly not answer on behalf of anybody else. I would only sincerely hope that if anything external on me changed, I would stay the same Jay. x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Well all I can say is that as I've grown older with all the bodily changes that brings I can still appreciate that young people are attractive but that now I find older people attractive too.

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