FabSwingers.com forum: Question for the ladies

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And bi men i guess lol

I have a very good friend who's husband was involved in a bike crash a few years ago and as a result hes paralyzed from the waste down, now they do still have a active sex life but she said something last night that got me thinking

Because he has no feeling down there he has injections that he used before sex to get him hard but he still feels nothing, he says he still loves full sex as he says its more of a visual thing now and gets lots in mental stimulation from seeing his wife shagging him, that i totally get

But then she was going on about the blow job which is where i started thinking

He said hes not bothered if he gets one or not as he cant feel it and because of his condition he cant lift himself up far enough to watch so gets not pysical or visual pleasure from it at all, but she just loves sucking cock so does it anyway, fair enough

But then i thought what gives me pleasure from sucking a cock, and to be honest its knowing im giving someone else pleasure, i love to feel and see their reactions, trying new things, seeing what gets the best reaction and working out, more so on new meets, what they like the best, i love that and it really turns me on

Now if i was doing it to a guy who had no feeling and there for got no pleasure from what i was doing and gave no reaction im not sure id feel the same about doing it and i think id see it as a little pointless

i understand everyone likes different and if she wants to give him a blow job thats obviously her choice

But i suppose my question is how many other women/bi men would still get turned on sucking a cock with no feeling in it and who would, like me im sorry to say, see it as pointless and sooner focus on something he could see/feel and get pleasure from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would still like to do it, wouldnt be quite the same though would it.

Cant realy know for sure till i tried it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I agree, I love the reactions I get from a guy when sucking him. It wouldnt be the same if there was no "feedback"

So for me it would be like sucking a dildo and to be honest unless it was covered in chocolate that would do nothing for me at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

While its fabulous to get the reactions from giving a BJ and to know that you're taking them on a little trip to heaven,I think if all he can get is the visual pleasure then that would be more than enough for me to be happy to do it if he was my OH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh tricky

I think I would focus more on the stuff we both enjoyed instead of giving head, for my own sake,

or maybe set up a visual system for him so he could see in more detail, cams are so small and hd now that for next to no expense it could again give him the 'mental satisfaction'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't be for me either I get pleasure from giving pleasure so it would seem a little pointless to me too. Much rather focus on things that we would both enjoy

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By *ursevampsWoman
over a year ago

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i love sucking cock for same reasons op stated but i would rather focus on giving pleasure. had a ex who had a few erectile problems and we worked on it found ways t stimulate other areas and in time he got over his problem

but i only like to give pleasure if he cant feel anything there there are many other ways to give pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooh tricky

I think I would focus more on the stuff we both enjoyed instead of giving head, for my own sake,

or maybe set up a visual system for him so he could see in more detail, cams are so small and hd now that for next to no expense it could again give him the 'mental satisfaction'

This is what I was thinking too

I played with a guy once and he said he wasn't that interested in getting blow jobs, so I did it for a short while cos I usually really love it, but I didn't enjoy it at all... I know he wasn't hating it but I just couldn't get into it and felt like I'd given the worst one ever! lol!

So no, unless there was a way for them to get off on it, I guess I would find something else to do.

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

This makes me wonder why then do women suck cocks through glory holes??....no reaction to be had there.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This makes me wonder why then do women suck cocks through glory holes??....no reaction to be had there....."

Never done it but surely the anonymous cock would get hard... and cum? That's a reaction I'd be looking for.

I'm with the OP and everyone else. I like to do it to give pleasure. If the bloke's not enjoying it I give up.

I really love sucking a soft cock to make it hard. Probably more than sucking a cock that's already hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a self confessed cock sucking slut...lol.

You got me thinking why do any of us suck cock.

Yes, we ladies enjoy the power of our mouths making a soft cock go hard and giving pleasure to our partner in making him cum.

Perhaps in this case the guy gets pleasure from knowing his partner is enjoying herself.The mind can be the strongest erotic tool anyone can have.

Often I can get off with my imagination only!!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an unusual situation to find yourself in and one that I did myself aged just 18 in very similar circumstances that you describe. I think like in many situations you just go with the flow. There are so many other factors that I experienced with that bf that make that issue very insignificant, you probaby wouldnt imagine. To me, I was just happy to make him happy in any way I could.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I would as as you have explained in the OP its her husband. A meet it would be a no. My partner under the same circumstances yes.

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By *admanmoonxMan
over a year ago

Stanford Le Hope

For me its about giving pleasure and if its not happening then its a no for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand why your friend would still do it....I think in such a situation I might too... Just I guess because it is hard to let go of what you used to have and both enjoy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its about being able to make a guy moan with pleasure. Hearing him gasp and pray to God that I love. If he's just sat/stood/laid there doing and saying nothing its a waste of time. Like someone else said, may as well suck a dildo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all i can say is what a great couple

for sticking it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was my OH then yes, mainly because I love his taste. We all have our individual smells and his cock just tastes and smells fantastic to me. I prefer it when he's just come from work and not just out of a shower as his taste is stronger and its gorgeous.

Just to feel every part of him, the taste, the shape, running my tongue around all his ridges, yeah I must admit I do it for me.

I wouldn't meet another guy for sex if he was in a wheelchair with no feelings so itherefore no I wouldn't do it then

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