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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We love the club scene and really miss the social side. Being with like minded people where you can laugh, joke, flirt outrageously, be a little or a lot naughty without anyone taking offence. Since lockdown we are also now considering parties as well as clubs (post lockdown of course) we know that a number of discussions have been held here but we do feel there is more expectation to play at parties than clubs..we know socialising happens at parties but how would people react if you didn't play at a party they invited you too ?

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We’ve been to plenty of clubs but no real private parties. However from our side we wouldn’t expect other people to play.

Granted we also feel there’s more of an expectation to play at a party, it’s kind of a more committed step than just going to a club we suppose. However we would not think anything of it if we were playing at a party and other people weren’t.

Maybe if everybody there was not playing and just gathered around watching us we might think that a bit strange. But as soon as we confirmed we aren’t at grannies wake or whatever would probably carry on.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

We’ve been wondering this as well, in for some stories. Clubs have suited us perfectly up to now.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We have been to both clubs and party's (and also hosted party's) , and found both good fun . just like clubs some people play and some don't when at party's we don't think there is much difference really

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"We love the club scene and really miss the social side. Being with like minded people where you can laugh, joke, flirt outrageously, be a little or a lot naughty without anyone taking offence. Since lockdown we are also now considering parties as well as clubs (post lockdown of course) we know that a number of discussions have been held here but we do feel there is more expectation to play at parties than clubs..we know socialising happens at parties but how would people react if you didn't play at a party they invited you too ? "

In my experience I think it depends on the mix of the people. I've attended and hosted a few parties and at some there's been the "why aren't you playing? " conversation but others respect the fact people like to do things at their own pace. I think as well, the party host can clarify what if any expectations there may in advance. Some club nights can be pretty hard too. That's the beauty of this thing, there is something for everybody.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

As both an invitee and a host of house parties, I can tell you authoritatively, there is NO pressure to play. I've had a fantastic time at house parties with people I haven't even touched!

If anybody has ever been made to feel--at a house party--that they SHOULD play, then the people who have made you feel that way are w r o n g. Conversely, if you as a party guest feel this inexplicable inner pressure that you should play, then you are w r o n g. The only difference between a good club night and a good house party should be the size of the venue and the amenities obviously. At the end of the day *some* people will always expect to have fun in a swingers' club as well, which as we all know is not recommended!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Still not attended a private party as of yet. But it's something we're intrested in parties. With the club situation at the moment it definitely looks like something more achievable in terms of when and how restrictions will lift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been to only 3 house parties. First one, with someone I only just met, and unfortunately let him chose my outfit... Lasted about 30min and made my excuses.

2nd- more experienced by then, met the host beforehand, definitely much better experience than the first one. Though would have been even better if it wasn't for someone there that I met in the past. That person was not trying to make it awkward for me or anything, it was more me thinking "how I could have been so stupid to hook up with them in the past" while listening to them talking about themselves a lot during the party. But there was no pressure to play with anyone, the host just wanted people to have good time.

Party no 3- went with someone I considered a friend, I was aware of the rules set up by the hosts, thought I'd be fine with those rules (playing in the open area, no disappearing into a private room) but in the end I just didn't feel comfortable there. Felt like I was the youngest person there, and that almost all the attendees knew each other before. We did not stay long at that party.

I think I'd rather stick to the clubs, when they open.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Been to quite few parties and really most don’t differ from club in respect of play some people play others don’t ,mind you one party we go to is all play like a big orgy fantastic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I J have hosted parties in the past but most guests where people we knew before hand and it was more a party/drinks or get together that could get naughty...so was never pressure to play at all...just not done one recently as now have family which means cant host..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to a few parties and really enjoyed them.

We have never felt underpressurre to play. Parties take a bit of time to get going and regardless of the swinging side they can be very friendly and sociable.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I prefer parties to clubs and have never felt uncomfortable or pressured into doing something i did not want to do.

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