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Winking Is For Winkers...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey good people of Fab!

Quick question for you; Can anyone explain to me the reasons why they choose to 'wink' at people on Fab instead of message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey good people of Fab!

Quick question for you; Can anyone explain to me the reasons why they choose to 'wink' at people on Fab instead of message?"

Sure, it's to do with laziness

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Because I personally think it’s easier than spending time composing a well thought out message only to be rejected. I have spent time and effort on my profile, shown that I am interested in theirs. If they like the look of my profile, they can wink back and then I can message.

Or maybe I am just lazy

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We always wink, shows we’re interested without sending the same generic message, we love receiving winks

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Wink shows interest but I always send a message initially and if I get a reply then I’ll wink too

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Cuz I’m bone idle and messaging gets me no results, so it’s easier and saves a lot of my valuable time to get the same result... nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It used to be as a way of expressing interest without having to write a message..

No response generally means the recipient isn't interested...

But now ppl wink then message anyway so i have to ignore them on purpose

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah okay, thanks for responding everyone.

I can totally see where you are coming from with regards to the expediancy of sending a wink over an initial message.

You might use the wink feature to gauge whether someone has a shared interest in you by seeing if you receive a wink back.

No wink returned = no message sent.

Must admit I have sent a message WITH a wink if I think I match whatever criteria a couple for instance might be looking for in that particular moment.

Confusing thing I have noticed recently is a few times when someone winks me, I wink back but then radio silence...

I wouldn't consider the onus to be on me to then message if I didn't send the firsr wink... or is it? HA!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Someone winked at me and it resulted in a great meet. It really can be worthwhile winking but if not then no harm done.x

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We send winks, for us it’s less to do with laziness and more to do with the 18-99 age range many have & our own age disparity.

Send messages only to get back “Too old, whatever” So a quick wink, we’ll either get one back or we won’t & just occasionally a message.

S

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Because it may spoke up some interest

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By *issVenusWoman
over a year ago

East Midlands

I just collect them... got over 4000 now

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

No idea how many winks I get as I just bulk delete them

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By *ackintheswingMan
over a year ago

Teesside

for me i wink when there well out of my league and trying my luck .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it as a sign of initial attraction/interest

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We like a wink.

If we receive a wink back we will message.

If we receive a wink and we like, we wink back.

Like so many it’s hard to send that first message, it’s sometimes easier to refer to the wink when sending a message

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

Was it just me ... or has anyone else just checked to see if you’ve been winked at ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a good wink

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Winks are lazy! If a man can’t be bothered to put together a well constructed message I reckon he would be lazy in bed! I delete all winks sent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the harm in them and use them myself, some people get their knickers in a twist over them though, no idea why.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Perthshire

I very rarely ever look at winks & I have never winked at anyone.

If I see a profile that captures my interest then I'll send a message.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

A lot of people don't like them or check them.

But I think of them like your eyes meeting in a bar, you like the look of each other, but you haven't talked yet. Then message to see if you actually get on, which is the going over and starting a chat in the bar.

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By *outhWalesCouple2019Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Because I personally think it’s easier than spending time composing a well thought out message only to be rejected. I have spent time and effort on my profile, shown that I am interested in theirs. If they like the look of my profile, they can wink back and then I can message.

Or maybe I am just lazy "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always wink, shows we’re interested without sending the same generic message, we love receiving winks "

This

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"Because I personally think it’s easier than spending time composing a well thought out message only to be rejected. I have spent time and effort on my profile, shown that I am interested in theirs. If they like the look of my profile, they can wink back and then I can message.

Or maybe I am just lazy "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I personally think it’s easier than spending time composing a well thought out message only to be rejected. I have spent time and effort on my profile, shown that I am interested in theirs. If they like the look of my profile, they can wink back and then I can message.

Or maybe I am just lazy

This "

2nd that

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By *blackMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I think I understand winks.

Someone may not be sure that a well thought-out msg would be welcome. So, they send an initial 'hey,' as a wink.

We don't normally respond, but I get it.

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By *blackMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I love the wink system personally. Would hate to take my time and compose a well thought of message only to look in your sent box and see deleted (ouch )

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