FabSwingers.com forum: Sex with someone you don't fancy?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never.

Well yes I get horny, but sleeping with someone i didn't find attractive wouldn't be enjoyable for me.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Yes - at clubs and parties - IF they're really nice people, and we get on really well.

Personality can override looks (for us anyway)

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By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Neva what’s the point doing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Not for me I’m afraid.

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

For fun lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, think it's a different mind set at clubs...

The moment and all that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ulahlollipopWoman
over a year ago

Reading/London

That’s exactly the reason I no longer drink tequila

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That’s exactly the reason I no longer drink tequila

Haha! Is there a good story behind this?

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By *BC AndyMan
over a year ago

Richmond Upon Thames

Never

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never.

Well yes I get horny, but sleeping with someone i didn't find attractive wouldn't be enjoyable for me."

Even with your eyes closed lol :p

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By *_nwMan
over a year ago

northwest

Nope never

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By *ulahlollipopWoman
over a year ago

Reading/London

"That’s exactly the reason I no longer drink tequila

Haha! Is there a good story behind this?"

There’s a story, it ain’t a good one and it doesn’t have a erm... happy ending lol

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Nope, rather satisfy myself than do it for the sake of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah, think it's a different mind set at clubs...

The moment and all that x"

Alcohol and clubs seem to change the parameters

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Yes and no!

Yes, as in I have done in the past, back when I used to meet 'blind' - there were a few occasions when I didn't find the women I'd gone to meet attractive, but played with them anyway...

....no, as in there were a couple of instances back then when it simply wasn't going to happen, and I made excuses and left...

....and no, as in for years now I won't meet without having seen photos first - despite not exactly being overwhelmed with offers, I have turned down a few 'dead certs' because I didn't find them attractive...

....likewise, I'm sure over the years there have been women I've played with who didn't find me attractive - I'm no oil painting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preferably there is some attraction for anything to happen or definitely needs loads of stimulation mentally to get into the mood...cant switch on and just perform for just anyone thats for sure even at clubs or parties..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had sex with female friends before after crazy nights out where we don’t ‘fancy’ each other but were horny after a session on the beer lol fun night and absolutely no awkwardness since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never.

Well yes I get horny, but sleeping with someone i didn't find attractive wouldn't be enjoyable for me."

Likewise. Added to that I need to be mentally attracted too.

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I would never have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted too, would rather just use my toys. Scratch an itch

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By *mooth shaftMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yeah if she had nice tits

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

I have and just go along with it for the fun, as long as they are clean well dressed and have made the effort

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By *eyDJMan
over a year ago

Willenhall

50/50

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

Nope. My standards don't allow that. There has to be an attraction. Either mental or physical, preferably both

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Occasionally, like my first experience at a club. I'm not one to look a gift horse in the mouth. However, it's not very likely any more because I have a partner in crime now.

Luke

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Yes - at clubs and parties - IF they're really nice people, and we get on really well.

Personality can override looks (for us anyway)"

Have to agree. Initially not attracted but got on like a house on fire, became attracted to them as a whole. Some of the best sex ever experienced, did ALOT of things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, think it's a different mind set at clubs...

The moment and all that x

Alcohol and clubs seem to change the parameters"

I don't drink when my mindset is to play!

Don't know about others!

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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago

South Shields

Yep.

I really dont care what a person looks like, its all about how we get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. It might not be the conventional physical attraction but for me there must be attraction on some level. I'm not that desperate for the ride to fuck someone who does nothing for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes - at clubs and parties - IF they're really nice people, and we get on really well.

Personality can override looks (for us anyway)

Have to agree. Initially not attracted but got on like a house on fire, became attracted to them as a whole. Some of the best sex ever experienced, did ALOT of things

Yeah I think personality can trump looks a lot of the time.

Are those emojis examples of the faces you made when you met?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Once... Never ever again... The phrase "lay back and think of England" came into mind... Yuck

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

When I was younger but I can’t do it anymore. My dick just won’t respond. Saying that the best sex I’ve ever had was someone I didn’t really fancy.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

However, I slept with guys I got on amazingly well but they weren't my usual type and we had fun sex. But the best sex is ones you really physically attracted to and get on well with

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Once... Never ever again... The phrase "lay back and think of England" came into mind... Yuck

That is actually a really awful thing to say! Definitely a phrase from a bygone era

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For meets no, there must be strong attraction.

At a club or party, that's what doggy is for lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"However, I slept with guys I got on amazingly well but they weren't my usual type and we had fun sex. But the best sex is ones you really physically attracted to and get on well with

This is the only reason I get laid because they find me funny :p

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Dont nock it till you tried it , might be a match made in heaven, or between the sheets,

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive? "

Good god no.

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By *andlemeMan
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

"Yeah if she had nice tits

Hahaha agreed, nice tits can be attractive anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Once... Never ever again... The phrase "lay back and think of England" came into mind... Yuck

That is actually a really awful thing to say! Definitely a phrase from a bygone era "

Our Jas needs to invest in hoods, that's all

Haha x

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By *itch74Woman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

No thank you, I'd rather play wi me toys

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Like being really hungry, so hungry that if all that's available is a pot noodle you'll even way that?

Never happened but I can see how it would. I hope I've never been someone's pot noodle though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

*even eat that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I’m too picky and have really high standards.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

Well some of the ladies I initially fancy have put me off so if I end up in a club and they are all nice to me and we end up together, technically I didn’t fancy them anymore .. choose well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have, it is just a shag.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I have had sex with someone I didn’t initially feel attracted to - talking to people can certainly make them more attractive especially if they are funny

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Once... Never ever again... The phrase "lay back and think of England" came into mind... Yuck

That is actually a really awful thing to say! Definitely a phrase from a bygone era "

Lesson learnt. Never be desperate and choose carefully

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

I've done it before, I'll probably do it again.

But as I get older those experiences become rarer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Once... Never ever again... The phrase "lay back and think of England" came into mind... Yuck

That is actually a really awful thing to say! Definitely a phrase from a bygone era

Lesson learnt. Never be desperate and choose carefully "

That should be the tag line for this website

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

No. Neither of us are willing to sleep with people we're not attracted to.

Whoever said about personality can over rule looks, you're then attracted to the personality.. so there's still attraction.

Personality is important to us. We like to play with people we get on with, as well as are attracted to.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

No.....Looks..personality and manners go a long way ....fussy sods are we

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Never have and never will, would rather have a wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Have to have a physical attraction as well as a mental attraction.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Surely a man has to fancy who he has sex with at least a bit or he wouldn't get aroused?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope. Have to have a physical attraction as well as a mental attraction.

I agree! Much luck in Salisbury for this? :P

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Surely a man has to fancy who he has sex with at least a bit or he wouldn't get aroused?"

I think the imagination plays a big part and the situation.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Yes - at clubs and parties - IF they're really nice people, and we get on really well.

Personality can override looks (for us anyway)

Have to agree. Initially not attracted but got on like a house on fire, became attracted to them as a whole. Some of the best sex ever experienced, did ALOT of things

Yeah I think personality can trump looks a lot of the time.

Are those emojis examples of the faces you made when you met?"

Just thinking of the stuff that occurred, a bit too rude for fab, a bit extreme.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don’t fancy him then I can’t really do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been that desperate. DIY is preferable.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive? "

It’s a tricky one as we’ve met people that we initially didn’t find attractive. But after a couple of hours in their company the first impression changes and the more you get to know people the more attractive they can become. Another reason I like a social first or if never have sex with anyone!

Mrs J

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

I’ve had my fair share

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

No there needs to be a connection neither of us individually or together take one for the team.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive? "

Yes I have, and yes I did enjoy it (and yes I may of been d*unk)

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By *ilver Fox 60Man
over a year ago

Southport

Have occasionally in the past. You don't have to be good looking to be sexy. But it helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never.

Well yes I get horny, but sleeping with someone i didn't find attractive wouldn't be enjoyable for me.

Even with your eyes closed lol :p"

Even then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and it turns out better than someone you like

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

If i can maintain an erection, there must be something that i find attractive about them subconsiously

Ive been to a group meet where one bloke, to be blunt, was a bit of a horror. I studiously avoided him despite him eyeing me up when he arrived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the heat of the moment and aroused ,then every hole a goal as they.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I'd be quite offended if I found out someone slept with me for the fun of it and didn't actually fancy me

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Yes - at clubs and parties - IF they're really nice people, and we get on really well.

Personality can override looks (for us anyway)"

I can’t get my head around that ...

I have to fancy someone to get turned on otherwise it’s just sex for the sake of sex ?

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By *zoreanMan
over a year ago

Witney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes - at clubs and parties - IF they're really nice people, and we get on really well.

Personality can override looks (for us anyway)

I can’t get my head around that ...

I have to fancy someone to get turned on otherwise it’s just sex for the sake of sex ? "

Yeah same here... if I don't fancy someone, I'll not be able to get hard, and it won't happen

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By *zoreanMan
over a year ago

Witney

If you manage to turn me on, it's good to go.

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By *irenGuy70Man
over a year ago

Cirencester

Nope, got to be an attraction there of some sort. I'm not a member of the 'any hole's a goal' club.

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

I don't fancy men but like getting fucked by them as I love a nice cock

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By *thena123Woman
over a year ago

Swansea

"Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive? "

I could never sleep with someone I did t fancy, even if they had a beautiful body,etx etc. If the spark ain't there then that's it for me.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, no attraction, no horn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive?

Mrs J

Nicely put..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes - at clubs and parties - IF they're really nice people, and we get on really well.

Personality can override looks (for us anyway)

Have to agree. Initially not attracted but got on like a house on fire, became attracted to them as a whole. Some of the best sex ever experienced, did ALOT of things

Yeah I think personality can trump looks a lot of the time.

Are those emojis examples of the faces you made when you met?

Just thinking of the stuff that occurred, a bit too rude for fab, a bit extreme."

Too rude for fab! Wow

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never been that desperate. DIY is preferable. "

Rather put up your own shelves rather than get a workman in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,everyone that has ever slept with me has had to overcome that hurdle...for that I thank them!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never.

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

"Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive? "
Never.

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

No surprises but mainly single men would and women/couples wouldn't unless d*unk (consent?)

- if you don't find ANYTHING attractive - physical or personality - what do you get out of it?

For the record - we wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No surprises but mainly single men would and women/couples wouldn't unless d*unk (consent?)

- if you don't find ANYTHING attractive - physical or personality - what do you get out of it?

For the record - we wouldn't.

I think maybe they mean beer goggles make people more attractive and lower your inhibitions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why in God's name would anyone sleep with someone they don't fancy!!!!

I'd prefer my right hand

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I have had some of the worst sex ever with people I found very physically attractive. I have had some of the best sex ever with those I wasn’t initially attracted to.

However, I have to find them likeable in some way.

If they’re a great shag they become more attractive

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

"I have had some of the worst sex ever with people I found very physically attractive. I have had some of the best sex ever with those I wasn’t initially attracted to.

However, I have to find them likeable in some way.

If they’re a great shag they become more attractive

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exactly this! Glad we're not the only ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope no idea how that works..its a no no

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By *otts72Man
over a year ago

London

"Never.

Well yes I get horny, but sleeping with someone i didn't find attractive wouldn't be enjoyable for me."

Best nipples on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't it also called taking one for the team

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I have done in the past but it’s backfired on me. I wouldn’t now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have done in the past but it’s backfired on me. I wouldn’t now. "

A backfire during sex has been know to take a penis clean off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive? "

Nope. Attraction is a must personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never , I cannot get my head around how sex workers can just have sex with anyone ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have and just go along with it for the fun, as long as they are clean well dressed and have made the effort "
I’ve done this in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, would be no fun in that at all (bearing in mind attractiveness is not just about the looks).

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

No of course not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it was when I was with a FB & he would invite anyone over for a meet & I always felt i had to go with them I didn’t enjoy it I am now single & got rid of the FB & now I can choose who I want to meet will never let myself get in that situation again

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By *urocougarCouple
over a year ago

watton

So what if you are in a Czech glory hole you wouldn’t know who is fucking you or who you are fucking really would you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes - at clubs and parties - IF they're really nice people, and we get on really well.

Personality can override looks (for us anyway)"

Which means you are attracted to them on a sapiosexual level, hubby is like that he is more attracted to a ladies personality than looks

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive? "

What a strange question!

Nope I do not.

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By *isser36Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast

Ashamed to say I have... A couple of times, and completely unfulfilling to say the least, not something I would do again I think lesson learnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never fancy any female I play with other than Mrs Cherry. I get turned on by the situation and caught up in the moment of filth

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By *91kMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

As hard as it finding someone I am properly attracted to... Would never lower my standards just to get laid. Fuck no I'll wait

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This thread has really got popular!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

What's the point? Have a wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive? "

no???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you ask any of the women I have slept with, they will probably say yes

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Have done, sometimes at parties or clubs. The mood is right and both are just looking for some fun

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

We have met a couple when they first walked in pub we just thought no chance we not playing but after couple hours in their company we could barely keep our hands off them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the far past, i did it under pressure from who i was with at the time. was NOT enjoyable at all...

Now if i don't feel attracted nothing going to happen no matter how horny i am... prefer to just fuck me fella or just grab some toys out....

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By *cac9186Couple
over a year ago

london

Yeah we do most of the time as long we get along and you down too earth horny like is us we be down for some naughty fun we not here for looks and relationships we have each other for that we here for naughty fun please wink us or message us down for some fun in London

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"For me it was when I was with a FB & he would invite anyone over for a meet & I always felt i had to go with them I didn’t enjoy it I am now single & got rid of the FB & now I can choose who I want to meet will never let myself get in that situation again "

That’s not much of a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh man to that ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely,in the comfort of your own home too .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather wank... And I hate wanking!

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

Whether someone is attractive to me or not, doesn't influence my choice of bed partner. How they talk, laugh, how friendly they are, etc, means far more to me. Good looking doesn't always equate good in bed. Experience is far more important. After all, this is fab, not elite singles

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"Do you ever get horny and have sex with someone you don't find attractive?

Mrs J

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whether someone is attractive to me or not, doesn't influence my choice of bed partner. How they talk, laugh, how friendly they are, etc, means far more to me. Good looking doesn't always equate good in bed. Experience is far more important. After all, this is fab, not elite singles "

Attraction isn't just looks tho... And my idea of good looking is different to others so... The men I have been with don't all look the same... But I found them all very attractive for different reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly this. Attraction is subjective and multifaceted, and can grow over time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t it sometimes about what you’re doing rather than who?

Regular playmates, we think there needs to be an attraction.

In a club, sometimes isn’t it just about everyone being happy to fulfill each other’s desires and needs in the moment?

Couples or singles who are polite and respectful are attractive so to be speak.

There are people you may consider physically attractive in clubs who think because you are there you are fair game, that isn’t attractive.

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By *aturewomanloverMan
over a year ago

staffs/cheshire

Had a 3some with two women, didn't really fancy one but she was keen and I was really keen on her friend so seen as they came as a package.....

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"Isn’t it sometimes about what you’re doing rather than who?

Regular playmates, we think there needs to be an attraction."

One of the women who I visited 'blind' and didn't really fancy, but ended up playing with anyway actually turned into a 'regular' playmate...

....although she wasn't really my 'type', nor me hers (she liked well-built rugby player normally), we simply hit it off between the sheets...

....to the point that I visited her two or three times a month for almost a year, and usually stayed overnight...

....I'd arrive late at night after her kids were in bed, and leave after they'd gone to school - it was all about the sex, nothing more...

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"Had a 3some with two women, didn't really fancy one but she was keen and I was really keen on her friend so seen as they came as a package....."

I'd be perfectly happy with a package like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people go as much on personality as looks to be honest if someone is so good looking but no personality I doubt we would ever meet them in the first place

As for me the Male half here I would say it’s never my looks get me a play unlike my other half

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Some people go as much on personality as looks to be honest if someone is so good looking but no personality I doubt we would ever meet them in the first place

As for me the Male half here I would say it’s never my looks get me a play unlike my other half

This pretty much describes us, there is so much more to sexual attraction than looks and physique, although those things do count to some extent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also don't want to be fucked by someone that doesn't fancy me... I am a person, not holes or a toy

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Nope

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've played with women I've not fancied. Only because when I've arrived for the meet they haven't resembled their profile pic and magically aged and put weight on. Like a rabbit caught in headlights and being British. I didn't want to say something to upset them!!So I went through with the situation hoping for it to end quick!! Unfortunately it didnt and I've even faked an orgasm just to end it. Which for a bloke is a tough thing to do.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Not a chance! I don’t want them to even touch me. Has to be a mutual attraction

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Once and it took all my powers of concentration

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Absolutely not

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By *art in tightsTV/TS
over a year ago

birmingham

I dont fancy guys at all but like to suck their cocks , so yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always carry a paper bag for such occasions.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

One of my kinkiest fantasies is to be stripped naked by a sexy domme, led collared into a room and be made to fuck with a woman chosen by my domme or the womans master, irrespective of who she was, and whether I fancied her or she fancied me !

Different dynamic from what the OP means I think, but YES I would !

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By *urocougarCouple
over a year ago

watton

So all the NO answers on this thread would never use a glory hole male or female then and would not engage with any other in a orgy if they hadn’t chatted or had dinner and drinks with wow the swinger world is doomed if that is the future in my opinion

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

Yep it's all good for practice and who knows it may be you best sex ever.

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By *urocougarCouple
over a year ago

watton

"Yep it's all good for practice and who knows it may be you best sex ever.

We have rolled around on a bed with 12 to 15 people didn’t even ask there names just got on with it and had a damn good horny time have done it many times it’s what swinging should be all about in our book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tried it and cant really do it to be honest i need some attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep it's all good for practice and who knows it may be you best sex ever.

Me too...

Wouldn't recognise those faces again....

Haha love it!

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"So all the NO answers on this thread would never use a glory hole male or female then and would not engage with any other in a orgy if they hadn’t chatted or had dinner and drinks with wow the swinger world is doomed if that is the future in my opinion

Not really

People ‘swing’ in all different ways

If everyone was the same hoe boring would it be

Plus it’s not a new thing, the Romans liked to swing. I’m sure there were ones that selectively picked their hook ups just as ones that embroiled in a mass of bodies

No set rules how you do it ...

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Wouldn't be able to do it need that physical attraction and mental stimulation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The short answer... yes!

I dont think it has anything to do with being desperate or low standards etc I dont understand that mind set. Well I do but I'm not going into that!!

As several have mentioned, when you get to know someone, physical attraction fades away. I've had sex with guys who are incredibly attractive (to me anyway) and it's been the worst sex ever. I've had sex with guys who I've initially not found attractive and had amazing sex!

I guess it just means that some of us are less superficial and shallow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At a club in a gang bang situation then yes.Dont care who it is.Probably why I like it from behind when that's happening

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And which clubs will you be going to in the future... :P

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

There’s an old saying - I’ve never been to bed with an ugly woman but I’ve woken up with a few.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Been in two orgies, we both were choosy with who we played hard with, soft play wasn’t a big problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean the wife

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By *ames44XXXMan
over a year ago

newport

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for a guy, if he is horny then he can overcome the lack of attraction and ride the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've all taken one for the team I'm sure ?!

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

Oh god yeah all the time. Pretty much every time. Well, when I say that, it is them I am having sex with suffering that predicament.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, kills the mood

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

"For meets no, there must be strong attraction.

At a club or party, that's what doggy is for lol

I wouldn't meet with someone I found unattractive for a 1 to1 but in a club setting when I'm feeling greedy then why not as long as they are clean!

In fact I once had an encounter with a chap in a dark room with someone I couldn't really see but his touch was lovely, such soft skin!

We played for a while and he was very tactile, when we got down to it he wasn't a 'big' guy at all but by this point he had brought me off so we carried on.

He took his time and got me off a couple more times before he finally came. When we walked out he looked just like Mr burns from the Simpsons.

I wouldn't have played with him if he asked but in that dark room he was in his element!

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By *ungfunfellaMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

Well I’ve done a meet n didn’t fancy them really not like pics at all but still let them suck me

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

There are different types of attraction, I have had sex with people that aren't my type physically but I have a mental attraction to them. There must be some attraction, it doesn't necessarily have to be physical.

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

2 couples met before lockdown, no attraction, no play.. for us, attraction is very important..

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Not happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not at all. And for me it's needs to be more of a facial attraction than anything. Like not everyone needs to have a 6 pack, it's the face that matters most to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, else it is nothing more than a posh wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did once, it was every bit as bad as I expected, would I do it again - not a chance

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Nope, else it is nothing more than a posh wank"

or a 'Slutty wank'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had some of the worst sex ever with people I found very physically attractive. I have had some of the best sex ever with those I wasn’t initially attracted to.

However, I have to find them likeable in some way.

If they’re a great shag they become more attractive

Couldnt have said it better myself!

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