FabSwingers.com forum: Struggling

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Joined fab a while ago, updated pics & messaged a few people but nothing! Any ideas how to get active with people?

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

Change your username, change your about me info. Standing pic is very dark.

It is very difficult here for guys unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab straight can be a put off and photos are not the best.

Best of luck.

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

You've narrowed your audience down quite significantly by staying older than you and black. ...

These are you're preferences of course and ok.... but you need to expect a slower response rate

The face pic is sideways too and the profile name.... a little off putting/childish (sorry if I'm

Blunt)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Joined fab a while ago, updated pics & messaged a few people but nothing! Any ideas how to get active with people?"

A cock pic is good, gives people an idea of what they’re getting.

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By *ozydeeCouple
over a year ago

knutsford

lose the city shirt

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It's all very well explaining what you want, but you haven't given any reasons why somebody might want to meet you. What's in it for them? You're not a charity.

Also, what messages do you send out? Most of the messages we receive are absolutely terrible but presumably the sender thinks they are good. A good opening message can open doors. A crap one is likely to have doors slammed in your face. Post one of your messages here and we'll give you feedback.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

"Joined fab a while ago, updated pics & messaged a few people but nothing! Any ideas how to get active with people?

A cock pic is good, gives people an idea of what they’re getting. "

Is it

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Often when people "think" they are struggling on here OP it comes down to one of five things...so give some thought to each of these and whether they apply to you:

Profile - it needs to paint the best possible picture of you, and stand out from the crowd of generic profiles that usually have "I want" in their midst - you need to give people a flavour of you, what you might hope to find and what you bring to all this.

Pictures - again need to show you off and pique interest, tease and more - learning how to use your phone camera and its timer is a valuable asset - if you're stuck for ideas don't be afraid to look at other (well verified) guys pics for ideas and inspiration.

Approach - there are many approaches to the site and not just sending blind messages to people you don't know, and even if you do just stick to that the content of messages can be key. The forums and chat rooms are a great way of getting to know people and them you, group socials and clubs are another - the key is finding what works for you.

Attitude - needs to be positive, polite, considerate and respectful - treat others as you'd expect to be treated - put aside any negativity about not getting meets etc

Expectations - a lot of guys sign up expecting to be knee deep in meets from the get go, without having to make any effort - that couldn't be further from reality - so set your expectations low

All of the above won't guarantee a thing at all of course, but it will help and will certainly improve your experience and understanding of the site.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to be a bit blunt but reading your profile it brings these words to mind

“Inexperienced“

“Desperate”

“ not confident”

As a slim guy maybe you should show that a bit more and not wear baggy clothes and from the ladies I know they do seem to prefer well maintained beards and hair - whatever the style

Hope it wasn’t too brutal

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