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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Just tell him, not fair not to really - or stop swinging - how would you feel if the roles were reversed? Z

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

She is asking how she should broach the subject not that she is going to carry on without him knowing

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Go to a night club, find some nice couple and say to him, I'll let you fuck her if you let me fuck him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go to a night club, find some nice couple and say to him, I'll let you fuck her if you let me fuck him "

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Go to a night club, find some nice couple and say to him, I'll let you fuck her if you let me fuck him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go to a night club, find some nice couple and say to him, I'll let you fuck her if you let me fuck him "

you terror

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i wouldnt meet any one while i was with him we were together years ago and when i used to mention little things i wold enjoy doing he used to tell me i was disguting lol x dont think its going to be an easy one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i take it he not a swinger and doesnt no you are one... if you really like him just be honest with him and fingers crossed he understands x

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"i wouldnt meet any one while i was with him we were together years ago and when i used to mention little things i wold enjoy doing he used to tell me i was disguting lol x dont think its going to be an easy one "

Could be tough but he may have changed a little on this subject, broach it and see how he reacts. Z

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

it is probably making it worse me siting here and fucking stewing about it lol

i dont want to leave here i have had loads f fun and met ome amazing people

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok...how about each making a list of fantasies with a yes no or maybe next to them and then swop lists....if you match any, see if he wants to try them out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldnt meet any one while i was with him we were together years ago and when i used to mention little things i wold enjoy doing he used to tell me i was disguting lol x dont think its going to be an easy one "

Then decide which one you world rather live without because it sounds more like choosing between the 2 than breaking the news to him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

the swap list sounds liek a good idea to be fare x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it is probably making it worse me siting here and fucking stewing about it lol

i dont want to leave here i have had loads f fun and met ome amazing people"

You probably only need to tell him that you joined a swinging site while you two weren't together and you'd like to carry on.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"it is probably making it worse me siting here and fucking stewing about it lol

i dont want to leave here i have had loads f fun and met ome amazing people"

it's a tough one - why not stay quiet about you swinging till you see how the relationship develops - if you see a great future with him broach the subject, but if it doesn't go anywhere he's non the wiser and you can carry on swinging! Z

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Ok...how about each making a list of fantasies with a yes no or maybe next to them and then swop lists....if you match any, see if he wants to try them out "

I like this idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ? "

how about suggesting a cpls profile on ere and read his reaction ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go to a night club, find some nice couple and say to him, I'll let you fuck her if you let me fuck him "

your humor slays me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

any ways he is on his way round now to drop me things off ging to tell him dont know how yet lol cant decide

*fingers crossed* wish me luck !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good luck

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I think you may want to hide your verifications first tho before telling him ?

Then you can atleast tone it down to saying youd just were starting or thinking of playing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ? "

Male here i played before i met my now wife, and i was worried how to approach this subject aswell however, i put some daft late night programme on like sexetra or simalar, and swinging came on it so we got talking about fantasies and would you be curious to what went on etc etc and thats when i found out she was open minded enough to try and had little fantasies about simalar, so yeah i was lucky, so maybe try both the fantasies swop or see if any late daft programmes are on and joke about the subject first and see response, if its a no then your in a differcult position, but after all this scene doesnt replace love? so do you have feelings enough to stop?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you were a single female when you met him so nowt wrong with being on a site like this, he may have been at some point.

just be honest and if he reacts badly, you may not be as suited as you feel.

note use of MAY.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh good luck, I need to know how it went!!!???

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Look absentmindedly, and if he says "what are you thinking?" - just say "I was just thinking what a foursome with *that* couple would be like"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes yes yes....enquiring minds will be needing to know how it went.....best of luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did it go?! It's like a soap cliffhanger lol!! Hope it went well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we on tender hooks here .... passes the popcorn around till she replys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ? "

Don't,I won't tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ? "

this is why i always say its best to tell people on a first date

Lots say to leave it a while but i think the sooner the better that way if he dont like the idea and does a runner its less hurtfull on you than if he does that now after you have grown found of him

To be honest now i think you have two choices, either stop and dont tell him or just tell him out right, or a 3rd option but depends how honest you want to be, you could put swinging to him as a suggest that you both try together making out its new to you as well just means you cant meet anyone you met before you started with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ?

this is why i always say its best to tell people on a first date

Lots say to leave it a while but i think the sooner the better that way if he dont like the idea and does a runner its less hurtfull on you than if he does that now after you have grown found of him

To be honest now i think you have two choices, either stop and dont tell him or just tell him out right, or a 3rd option but depends how honest you want to be, you could put swinging to him as a suggest that you both try together making out its new to you as well just means you cant meet anyone you met before you started with him "

I would never tell someone on a first date, I'd have to get to know them a bit first. I would have to be sure I could trust them not to blab it all over the place. My private life is private, definitely don't want everyone knowing my business.

I'd go with option 3 if it was me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ?

this is why i always say its best to tell people on a first date

Lots say to leave it a while but i think the sooner the better that way if he dont like the idea and does a runner its less hurtfull on you than if he does that now after you have grown found of him

To be honest now i think you have two choices, either stop and dont tell him or just tell him out right, or a 3rd option but depends how honest you want to be, you could put swinging to him as a suggest that you both try together making out its new to you as well just means you cant meet anyone you met before you started with him

I would never tell someone on a first date, I'd have to get to know them a bit first. I would have to be sure I could trust them not to blab it all over the place. My private life is private, definitely don't want everyone knowing my business.

I'd go with option 3 if it was me. "

i pretty much feel the same but i just think the longer you leave it the harder it gets so to get it out in the open straight away seems the easiest way to me, but as you point out they could blab it about....suppose its a catch 22

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.... How did it go?! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ? "
This guy doesnt know how lucky he is.if he has any problem with it he must be mad. just wish there were more ladys like you out there . all the best .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok...how about each making a list of fantasies with a yes no or maybe next to them and then swop lists....if you match any, see if he wants to try them out "

Think this is a great idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u shouldve told him before u got with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or you could talk dirty to him whilst getting intimate, tell him all the things you'd like to do to him, then incorporate a second or third person into the story and see what reaction you get, if it turns him on or not.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell him

Simple

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Come on Nelly tell us how it went, we are waiting on tenterhooks here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if she did tell him I hope they arew still shagging each other senseless at the thought of both swinging....or maybe they rushed off to a club and are now to knackered to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you want to be with him of he thinks swinging is disgusting?

Either way, a decision needs to be made and stuck to.

I don't think a relationship will last if you get with him and still want to swing.

What is it that you really like about him?

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

hmmm well The OP's fella was on his way round 17 hours ago, and she thought making a list might be a good idea.

Maybe he's still writing his list.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i say he doesnt go for it unless you met him through it

establish and cement ur relationship before you bring swinging into it

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Cant wait to find out lol

I would laugh tho if it turns out he's been playing for ages and was worried about how to tell you too

Seriously tho if it doesnt work out it wasnt meant to be

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey well its good news guys he can round and after we fucked I told how much I would like some one to join us he wouldn't mind tbinks it will be fun woooop woooop I'm going to leave meets for what while unroll we are both settled with each other then get a couples profile! He ain't the best guy in bed so need some experienced ladies to help me train him up ha ha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol! hiya hon, glad to hear it went well.

Hope he doesn't see what you put though! pmsl! get practicing!

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"Hey well its good news guys he can round and after we fucked I told how much I would like some one to join us he wouldn't mind tbinks it will be fun woooop woooop I'm going to leave meets for what while unroll we are both settled with each other then get a couples profile! He ain't the best guy in bed so need some experienced ladies to help me train him up ha ha x "

Is he aware of your sentiments???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey well its good news guys he can round and after we fucked I told how much I would like some one to join us he wouldn't mind tbinks it will be fun woooop woooop I'm going to leave meets for what while unroll we are both settled with each other then get a couples profile! He ain't the best guy in bed so need some experienced ladies to help me train him up ha ha x "

Yay you, such a relief I bet!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes lol it was awfully when I said it things went quiet for a few seconds felt like a few mins lol x but he seems game and no I won't reach him about the forums lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of people (me included!) who were waiting to find out how you got on!Glad it went well! If you need any volunteers...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ha ha think I will need some no I'm being nasty he ain't that bad I'm used to kinky filthy sex lol he just don't know the half of it yet lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh yay!! Cue the Eastenders drum roll end credits lol

Glad it's good news. You can have lots of fun 'training him up' now.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

think he has just been a little bit shy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you bringing him out of his shell?!

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