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Humiliation. . . Guidance please

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So this is a new one for me. Can anyone give me some advice or point me in the right direction

Thank you

Saira x

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By *orkspoonMan
over a year ago

nearby

Is that giving or receiving?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is that giving or receiving?"

Sorry! Giving

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By *orkspoonMan
over a year ago

nearby

I'm no expert, but generally belittling their sexual performance, size of cock, inability to satisfy you, talking about other better lovers that you have had. That kind of thing

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By *ugarboobs2009Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Depends on what form of humiliation you are looking at ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm no expert, but generally belittling their sexual performance, size of cock, inability to satisfy you, talking about other better lovers that you have had. That kind of thing "

Thank you, that sounds like the kind of thing he's into. Maybe I'll look online x

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By *he FiendMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I'm no expert, but generally belittling their sexual performance, size of cock, inability to satisfy you, talking about other better lovers that you have had. That kind of thing "

This. I'm assuming a man is being humiliated here, so think of all the things that are important to masculinity and attack! Feminisation is a good route, or infantilisation? Ultimately everyone is different,What is important to him? Take it away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm no expert, but generally belittling their sexual performance, size of cock, inability to satisfy you, talking about other better lovers that you have had. That kind of thing

This. I'm assuming a man is being humiliated here, so think of all the things that are important to masculinity and attack! Feminisation is a good route, or infantilisation? Ultimately everyone is different,What is important to him? Take it away. "

Yes that's the case

Ohhh I'm getting excited about it now.

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been humiliated usually word saying how small my cock is then being shaved put in chastity before feminisation even gone as far as my domme bringing friend round to join in as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to feel it and believe it to do it properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and you need to have an idea on the effect it will have on him. In matter of moments humiliation can turn to bullying and bring out wrong feelings and emotions that neither of you want to experience

As am sure you know there is a big differnece between humiliation and degradation

Also check as to whether or not he is happy to involve others and whether he is happy for it to happen in public

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have been humiliated usually word saying how small my cock is then being shaved put in chastity before feminisation even gone as far as my domme bringing friend round to join in as well "

This is similar to what he has been saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"and you need to have an idea on the effect it will have on him. In matter of moments humiliation can turn to bullying and bring out wrong feelings and emotions that neither of you want to experience

As am sure you know there is a big differnece between humiliation and degradation

Also check as to whether or not he is happy to involve others and whether he is happy for it to happen in public

good luck"

It won't be in front of others or in public but thanks for the info

We need to talk more about what he wants I think

Saira x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not keen on humiliation but I am very keen to learn.

Jo.Xx

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Find out the type of humiliation, is it physical, verbal, public or all three, it will set boundaries,

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It depends on the man. In my brief spell as Domme I used to look for subs whose peccadilloes complemented my own leanings. What works well for one won't work at all for someone else.

For what it's worth, here are some things I've enjoyed.

One of the most effective things I did was have a sub use a clone a willy kit. Once we had a replica of his cock I'd use it to pleasure myself and wouldn't allow him to join in. One of my subs liked to be locked into chastity, but that was a rarity. Either way, it was my pleasure and not his that was the focus.

The main point of the dildo was that the only thing I was interested in was his cock, the rest of him was entirely surplus to requirements - he was just a piece of fuckmeat to me, literally.

After I made him watch me bring myself off without allowing him to touch either himself or me, sometimes I'd wipe the wet dildo across his face. With one of my subs he wanted more pain than I was prepared to administer, but I could always slap him in the face with the dildo. Cockslap him with his own cock.

I was never particularly comfortable with insults along the line of his size or his looks, but his performance was fair game, especially as I had a dildo of his cock that would never go soft or go off early and leave me unsatisfied. Sometimes I would allow him to fuck me with the dildo while he told me how much he wanted to have sex with me. Begging is always humiliating, but what you have him beg for will depend on what he finds most embarrassing.

If you're up for it, water sports work well. Either peeing on him or making him pee while you stand watching.

Foot and heel worship works well too, making him clean your shoes with his tongue.

Public humiliations that aren't ostentatiously public include going out for dinner. I would always drive, I would order for him, I would make him discuss his most embarrassing fantasies while we ate, then I'd send him to the toilets to wank while I paid, before driving him home again. It wasn't scarily public but it was public enough to feel some embarrassment.

Being very fat myself I used to like ordering a salad or something light for him, then when it arrived tell the waiter it belonged to him because I was watching his weight, don't want him losing his figure. It was just another way to dehumanize slightly, to objectify him.

Waiting until the waiter arrived to clear the plates before loudly asking "do you need the toilet? I don't want any more accidents *insert derogatory term/effeminate nickname*, if he was open to going slightly more public.

You really need to know your man - it's very easy to say or do something that wounds rather than arouses. Humiliation is such a mental thing it's bespoke to each person. Worth discussing a huge raft of ideas up front so you know what he likes the idea of, but throw enough ideas out there that he won't know which of them you'll use, if that makes sense.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends on the man. In my brief spell as Domme I used to look for subs whose peccadilloes complemented my own leanings. What works well for one won't work at all for someone else.

For what it's worth, here are some things I've enjoyed.

One of the most effective things I did was have a sub use a clone a willy kit. Once we had a replica of his cock I'd use it to pleasure myself and wouldn't allow him to join in. One of my subs liked to be locked into chastity, but that was a rarity. Either way, it was my pleasure and not his that was the focus.

The main point of the dildo was that the only thing I was interested in was his cock, the rest of him was entirely surplus to requirements - he was just a piece of fuckmeat to me, literally.

After I made him watch me bring myself off without allowing him to touch either himself or me, sometimes I'd wipe the wet dildo across his face. With one of my subs he wanted more pain than I was prepared to administer, but I could always slap him in the face with the dildo. Cockslap him with his own cock.

I was never particularly comfortable with insults along the line of his size or his looks, but his performance was fair game, especially as I had a dildo of his cock that would never go soft or go off early and leave me unsatisfied. Sometimes I would allow him to fuck me with the dildo while he told me how much he wanted to have sex with me. Begging is always humiliating, but what you have him beg for will depend on what he finds most embarrassing.

If you're up for it, water sports work well. Either peeing on him or making him pee while you stand watching.

Foot and heel worship works well too, making him clean your shoes with his tongue.

Public humiliations that aren't ostentatiously public include going out for dinner. I would always drive, I would order for him, I would make him discuss his most embarrassing fantasies while we ate, then I'd send him to the toilets to wank while I paid, before driving him home again. It wasn't scarily public but it was public enough to feel some embarrassment.

Being very fat myself I used to like ordering a salad or something light for him, then when it arrived tell the waiter it belonged to him because I was watching his weight, don't want him losing his figure. It was just another way to dehumanize slightly, to objectify him.

Waiting until the waiter arrived to clear the plates before loudly asking "do you need the toilet? I don't want any more accidents *insert derogatory term/effeminate nickname*, if he was open to going slightly more public.

You really need to know your man - it's very easy to say or do something that wounds rather than arouses. Humiliation is such a mental thing it's bespoke to each person. Worth discussing a huge raft of ideas up front so you know what he likes the idea of, but throw enough ideas out there that he won't know which of them you'll use, if that makes sense.

Good luck!"

Thank you so much, this is brilliant and very helpful x

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