FabSwingers.com forum: hotel meets

By *stmate OP Man
over a year ago

Notts

Is it wrong or cheeky to ask a lady to go halves on a hotel room? It feels like I'm paying for a good time (is that just me) when I foot the bill. Share your thoughts

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Perfectly reasonable other wise you are paying for sex!

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By *stmate OP Man
over a year ago

Notts

Thanks for the comment, I thought the same thing, pitty not a lot of ladies see it the same way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alternatively use your own place?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I think it fair to share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should stick to your guns and insist that the woman shares the hotel expense. Unfortunately you are unlikely to get any takers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very reasonable to request to split the cost of the hotel room.

I often offer to split without being asked.

However, I am unlikely to offer to book and pay for the hotel room upfront, in case of no show and being out of pocket myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats a generalisation lol - I always insist on paying halves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very reasonable to request to split the cost of the hotel room.

I often offer to split without being asked.

However, I am unlikely to offer to book and pay for the hotel room upfront, in case of no show and being out of pocket myself.

This is a problem i have encountered in the past, booked and paid for a hotel on the premis that its being a split bill, and then the meet hasnt had the decency to cancel or show up, leaving me out of pocket. Its a tough call, goes with the territory i guess

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By *atureFem4FunWoman
over a year ago

Petts Wood

"You should stick to your guns and insist that the woman shares the hotel expense. Unfortunately you are unlikely to get any takers."

What are you basing that on.....experience?

Because most women I know personally from the site do in fact share hotel costs...

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By *stmate OP Man
over a year ago

Notts

If I could accom I certainly would but I don't have the privilege. I think I will advertise (for a better word) that I'm looking for ladies who are happy to split the bill. So if your interested ladies, pm me lol xx

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

doesnt it depend

what about Men who use hotels for work.

they get expenses for the hotel and then use them for meeting women

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

"Very reasonable to request to split the cost of the hotel room.

I often offer to split without being asked.

However, I am unlikely to offer to book and pay for the hotel room upfront, in case of no show and being out of pocket myself.

Very true too. I've been let down like that, never again.

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By *atureFem4FunWoman
over a year ago

Petts Wood

"doesnt it depend

what about Men who use hotels for work.

they get expenses for the hotel and then use them for meeting women "

That's a very good point....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have paid for a room a few times, i dont drive so if i meet the guy has to travel to me, if he has traveled a long way i always provide the room as i feel thats fair, if hes local i will go halfs, if i travel by train etc i would expect the person im traveling to meet to accommodate me either at their home or they provide the room

This does cut down the amount of meets i have as i cant really afford to be paying for hotel room on a weekly basis and would be able to meet more if i did let guys pay for the room but it just dont feel right to me

i dont, however feel if one person pays for the room they are paying for sex i think thats a very odd way of looking at it

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By *ayTVTV/TS
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

I would pay for the hotel. If offered by the lady then it would be my decision if, or not, I accepted the split costs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"doesnt it depend

what about Men who use hotels for work.

they get expenses for the hotel and then use them for meeting women

That's a very good point...."

no i wouldnt pay towards a room a guy had booked anyway before he contacted me and was getting it paid thro work, but then i have never had a guy in that situation ask me for money towards the room

Come to think of it i dont recall a guy ever asking me for money towards a room i have always offered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very reasonable to request to split the cost of the hotel room.

I often offer to split without being asked.

However, I am unlikely to offer to book and pay for the hotel room upfront, in case of no show and being out of pocket myself.

It has happened to us all ........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it depends

if im meeting someone and im away with work then No i wouldnt expect them to chip in and vice versa.

ifs its a preplanned meet depends really on the person etc but i prefer to go halfs

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By *stmate OP Man
over a year ago

Notts

If I had my room paid for I wouldn't ask to split the cost (can't speak for everyone). Its wrong, I like to think I'm a gentleman and that's not gantleman like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very reasonable to request to split the cost of the hotel room.

I often offer to split without being asked.

However, I am unlikely to offer to book and pay for the hotel room upfront, in case of no show and being out of pocket myself.

ive had that 3 times now, first time i said id never do it again but i did because the other two was people i had met before and they still let me down, so its a difficult sometimes, when do you decide you trust someone enough sometimes meeting them isnt enoygh for you to know they will turn us as arraged

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I'm staying in a hotel in a couple of weeks. I'm paying for it out of my own pocket, I just want to get away from home for a couple of days. I'm advertising for a meet, so on this occasion I wouldn't expect anyone to go halves with me, I'm staying there anyway, regardless of whether I'm joined by anyone.

I always offer half the cost of the room if it has been booked specifically for us to play in. I've never been asked to split the bill, but it doesn't sit right with me not to offer.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If the guy is at a hotel on business and I go to meet him there then I wouldnt pay.

If we have agreed to go to a hotel to meet then I wouldnt meet unless I was paying half.

I have always paid my share for hotel meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very reasonable to request to split the cost of the hotel room.

I often offer to split without being asked.

However, I am unlikely to offer to book and pay for the hotel room upfront, in case of no show and being out of pocket myself.

for this reason i would never book a hotel myself now, but would always offer half in cash on the night...horrid when a person you trust and have met before lets you down like that x

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By *stmate OP Man
over a year ago

Notts

I need to make friends with u lot, I've been lucky so far as all the hotel meets I've been on I've split the costs but its asking that I find difficult. I really do feel cheeky lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to make friends with u lot, I've been lucky so far as all the hotel meets I've been on I've split the costs but its asking that I find difficult. I really do feel cheeky lol"

there are some women on here who would cancel a meet because of something like asking to go halfs on a room

I have a good friend on here and she never pays towards rooms, she says why should she for every guy who expects her to pay theres 50 on here who wouldnt so may as well meet the ones who are happy to pay

In a way i can see where shes coming from and being a single mum i sometimes think myself just meet someone who will pay and save me the money, but i think if its someone you really want to meet hes worth paying for, so to speak

and i dont mind every now and again but as i said earlier its not something i can do offen as i have kids to provide for and their needs come before mine

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By *stmate OP Man
over a year ago

Notts

"I need to make friends with u lot, I've been lucky so far as all the hotel meets I've been on I've split the costs but its asking that I find difficult. I really do feel cheeky lol

there are some women on here who would cancel a meet because of something like asking to go halfs on a room

and i dont mind every now and again but as i said earlier its not something i can do offen as i have kids to provide for and their needs come before mine "

Yeah that's fair enough if there are men out there who are happy to foot the bill but I do prefer to go halves and as you said if the person wants to meet you bad enough they will either pay for everything or go halves.

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Sorry but I think a guy should either accommodate or pay for the room, when I was single I would never ask a woman to go halves or pay, NEVER!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on money too tho

not all guys can afford to pay for the room out right on ever meet

I paid for a room once because they guy wasnt working and couldnt afford to put to, but he as really nice, good looking and i wanted to meet him so i paid, i think sometimes it depends on the situations so much as what sex should pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say, i do think its cheeky when they ask to go halves on a hotel when they state that they accomodate on their profile...why say you do if you dont...and as im also a single mum, it does make it a very expensive hobby if you do have to fork out all the time...so i tend to go for guys who accomodate with a few exceptions who have really thrilled me

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

I suppose you're right, if he's a cool cat and you really wanna meet him then it's ok to pay. On the other hand most women on here have kids and alot of single guys don't, so I think the guys should make more of an effort to meet up when they can afford it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always pay when I meet, I've had offers to go 1/2s or to chip in towards the bill but always declined as that's just how I am

I've had 1 woman moan a little when I suggested meeting at a nearby hotel which was a premier inn, she said she'd rather meet at the mal maison!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose at the end of the days theres no right and wrong, its whats agreed between the people meeting, ive seen some starting threads asking if singles should only pay a 3rd towards a room if meeting couples

some are just to hung up on the cash side, if men want you to go halfs and you dont want to find a guy that will pay the lot theres loads out there and visa versa with guys if the lady dont feel she should pay halfs find someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always pay when I meet, I've had offers to go 1/2s or to chip in towards the bill but always declined as that's just how I am

I've had 1 woman moan a little when I suggested meeting at a nearby hotel which was a premier inn, she said she'd rather meet at the mal maison!! "

lol ive actually suggested staying somewhere else if a guys affered to get a room at a hotel i dont like, but i would always pay my share i wouldnt ask him to get a better hotel and him foot the whole bill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always pay the cost upfront and never ask to go halves, only one couple offered but i declined. Most of my meets hv been in Leeds where i am the host, so i always take care of the costs

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I tend to arrange meets away when I'm intending going to wherever for shopping so that if they're a no-show then it's no big deal for me as I was forking out for the hotel anyhow....if it's a regular meet then we take turns paying for the room - as I have to travel a long way from Arse End to anywhere civilised I always am able to take advantage of shopping opportunities, but fortunately have never been let down on a hotel meet as yet

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Did have one occasion where I let him pay for the room and I paid for the meal and drinks so I think that was fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to arrange meets away when I'm intending going to wherever for shopping so that if they're a no-show then it's no big deal for me as I was forking out for the hotel anyhow....if it's a regular meet then we take turns paying for the room - as I have to travel a long way from Arse End to anywhere civilised I always am able to take advantage of shopping opportunities, but fortunately have never been let down on a hotel meet as yet

Totally agree, Only book hotel when need and if anything happens its a bonus.

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman
over a year ago

amersham

Would always pay half unless guy was on a business trip. Have been lumbered with full bill a few times and can't really afford it, so loath to be the one that books now...problem could arise if guy feels the same way! Checkmate!

Oh, how I wish I had a little flat! Anyone wanna buy/rent one with me!

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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

"Very reasonable to request to split the cost of the hotel room.

I often offer to split without being asked.

However, I am unlikely to offer to book and pay for the hotel room upfront, in case of no show and being out of pocket myself.

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we are much the same the guy books and pays then we split it with them when we meet . we have even met then the guy gone and booked hotel room not to much to ask . but we see it from the other side what if the woman or cpl dont show

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By *amnationsedgeMan
over a year ago

Ashborne

Since your both getting the same thing then why not pay it together? If a woman expects you to do all the paying then she's calling herself a whore, can't have it both ways. Either pay up your fair share or your selling yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always in hotels on business. As I charge them to expenses, I'd obviously never ask for money. I do like to treat my guest to dinner and drinks too if time allows.

If not, I have been known to share my complimentary biscuits after sex, unless it's shortbread!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i think its up to the man to pay. i only meet men at my house so dont have to worry about hotels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since your both getting the same thing then why not pay it together? If a woman expects you to do all the paying then she's calling herself a whore, can't have it both ways. Either pay up your fair share or your selling yourself."

I dont mind being called a whore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think thats taking it a bit far, under no definition of being a prostitute does it cover having a room paid for you as your making no money out of it and the guys paying for a room NOT your services, thats like saying all single women in swinging clubs are hookers because the guys paid £30 to get in and the womans free, so tho i do agree everyone should chip in if a guy pays for the room that does not mean the womans selling herself

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"I'm always in hotels on business. As I charge them to expenses, I'd obviously never ask for money. I do like to treat my guest to dinner and drinks too if time allows.

If not, I have been known to share my complimentary biscuits after sex, unless it's shortbread!!

Selfish bugger....shortbread's my fave....that's you on my block list

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I meet at home and only meet men that also meet at home. I have on my profile no hotels; EVER, but still, men that can't accommodate contact me. One said since I met at home what difference did it make that he didn't.

I said if I'm inviting people into my home I'd expect they'd invite me to theirs. If not I see it as their house is sacrosanct but mine is a knocking shop.

Reading some of the comments here I'm beginning to get an insight into some men's minds, and some desperate women are to blame. They come across women that find them irresistible and will do anything to meet them so assume, poor deluded fools, that I'll make an exception just for them.

One "gorgeous" man has been trying his best to convince me to meet him in a hotel as I won't invite him to mine as he doesn't accommodate. I agreed, with the proviso it was either the Savoy, Dorchester or Wardorf and he foots the entire bill...he's stopped sending messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I meet at home and only meet men that also meet at home. I have on my profile no hotels; EVER, but still, men that can't accommodate contact me. One said since I met at home what difference did it make that he didn't.

I said if I'm inviting people into my home I'd expect they'd invite me to theirs. If not I see it as their house is sacrosanct but mine is a knocking shop.

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

we never done the hotel thing.......yet !!! But i think it only fair to go halves on it.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

Guy I meet with we tend to alternate who pays for the room and whoever gets that the other pays for dinner. Drinks, clubs etc tend to be split.

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

I said if I'm inviting people into my home I'd expect they'd invite me to theirs. If not I see it as their house is sacrosanct but mine is a knocking shop.

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I do like a woman with self respect and you are what I be talking about. All you've said on here is classic and I totally agree. Keep up your standards and don't be a desperado like some on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very reasonable to request to split the cost of the hotel room.

I often offer to split without being asked.

However, I am unlikely to offer to book and pay for the hotel room upfront, in case of no show and being out of pocket myself.

agree with this as ive had a few no shows and some text saying they are not coming after ive taken the room.

some offer to split costs but its all a upfront risk if you want a meet.

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman
over a year ago

amersham

"... and some desperate women are to blame. They come across women that find them irresistible and will do anything to meet them "

Lots of people cannot accom...they may have children at home as I do, or flat share or live with parents. I don't think that makes us desperate...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"... and some desperate women are to blame. They come across women that find them irresistible and will do anything to meet them

Lots of people cannot accom...they may have children at home as I do, or flat share or live with parents. I don't think that makes us desperate..."

You've missed my point.

Some women on here have written they've paid for hotel rooms because they were horny and really liked the man and been left out of pocket. Those are the ones I'm referring to as personally I can't imagine any situation where I'd fork out money for a stranger.

I have adult children and their partners living with me and I don't invite meets here when they're home, so I fully understand women not inviting men home if they have young children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get realy horny all the time. I dont fancy any bloke how ever goodlooking he might be, enough to want to fork out money for a hotel room. Otherwise i might as well just pay for a male escort.

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton

It doesn't bother me either way really. I usually stay in hotels at company expense so it costs me nothing, but if I wanted to meet someone enough who was far enough away from home to necessitate my booking a hotel room I wouldn't ask them to contribute to it. If they offered I might accept if I thought they could afford it, but not if I though they couldn't. It's the gentleman in me! Hmm, that sounds wrong somehow...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind being called a whore.

me neither lol. ive never paid towards the hotel and never been asked to go halves either. if they want to meet me and cant accomodate, then would have to pay. plenty of other guys on here who can accomodate !!

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