FabSwingers.com forum: Who brings the condoms?

By *lexa OP Woman
over a year ago

southampton

Whose place is it to bring the condoms if you're using them? It's getting to me that some guys don't take responsibility for this unless I push the point with them. I don't mind sharing a hotel bill, but I think that if I were a guy, I've got the dick, I should bring the condoms! Am I being old-fashioned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we always took condoms with us, i say took cos no one wants us anymore and it's been a year since our last meet

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I always bring some with me unless the lady says she will provide (e.g. she wants to use non latex ones - which I don't have).

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Simple... Both

If anyone turns up for a meet with me without their own... Meet over.

I always have them, but expect playmates to as well.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

everyone should bring the condoms, always better to have more than none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I think it should be the guy that suplies the condoms, I always make sure that I have plenty, then theres no excuse

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By *istress_L-CaptainCouple
over a year ago

Southport

I carry them in my bag all the time

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Majority of my meets are at home and I have condoms. That said I would not be amused if I invite someone to my home and they don't bring condoms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your right the guy should bring them, and if they dont send them packing xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"your right the guy should bring them, and if they dont send them packing xx"

i dont get this theory, its your sexual health as well so why is it not your job to bring them to?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

we'er all swingers and as such we're each reponsible for our own sexual heath so id say both ..have had a few tun up without in my time .

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"we'er all swingers and as such we're each reponsible for our own sexual heath so id say both ..have had a few tun up without in my time .

Me too. Makes me what they'd do if I said that I didn't have any? Are they hoping for bareback? Or are they prepared to stop during the foreplay and nip to the shop?

I usually provide them since I react to some so I always make sure I have plenty of my preferred variety to hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does appear that the ladies always think to be prepared. I always carry some and so often find that the men 'didn't have time to get some. didn't think the quickie through etc etc' I just think it's the old fashioned thing that they just daren't go and buy them!

Self service checkouts are the way forward guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have condoms with me as I always expect partner to wear them so no excuses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me suspicious but we always bring our own that way you know they have not been tampered with in anyway ie: a pin being stuck in it to make a hole, we have had a lot of emails from guys asking for pregnancy risk sex some guys wont tell you that they are into it and also the obvious one of STD/STI being spread around if the condom has been tampered with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whose place is it to bring the condoms if you're using them? It's getting to me that some guys don't take responsibility for this unless I push the point with them. I don't mind sharing a hotel bill, but I think that if I were a guy, I've got the dick, I should bring the condoms! Am I being old-fashioned?

I feel I'm responsible as I have to wear it and I like to wear one that's comfortable and suits my needs. The exception is when the lady has any allergies etc and then it's only reasonable that she should supply them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we always have a box to hand but also ask the guy to bring his own

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By *RS79Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I always bring my own - just seems good manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup always have them but always expect meets to bring them too just common sense is my thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we always take our own even if the men we meet have their own... i know mine havnt been tampered with, not that i could get pregnant, because that impossible, its peace of mind for me

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I wonder - does everyone check the expiry date on the condoms before they wrap the beast?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"everyone should bring the condoms, always better to have more than none"

fully agree

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"we always take our own even if the men we meet have their own... i know mine havnt been tampered with, not that i could get pregnant, because that impossible, its peace of mind for me

Interesting point! I must remember to check any that I'm offered to use in the future...

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I think both male and females should have condoms , and i always check the expiry date coz i dont use them up quickly enough lol x

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Personal _iew is that everyone should have them with them but given certain sizes and shapes are more comfortable than others for the man it makes sense for them to carry there own.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if you want 'safer' sex.... bring a condom

applies to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually i tend to agree, i have to go and get a jab in my arse every 11 weeks to stop the baby side incase an accident does happen so least they can go is bring a condom

Saying that i always provide my own as i can only use latex free ones and even tho i mention that its amazing how many guys turn up with normal condoms cause they cheaper then tell me they will be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always bring some with me unless the lady says she will provide (e.g. she wants to use non latex ones - which I don't have)."

Boots does

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By *rs s!!!Woman
over a year ago

kidsgrove

"everyone should bring the condoms, always better to have more than none

fully agree"

agreed x

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I've had so any men claim they don't have them, so can we go without, when I've produced a handful, the excuses change, can't use normal ones too small, allergic to latex etc.

So I carry all different types from big ones, small ones, latex free, glow in the dark, and even ones suitable for vegetarians!!! No excuses!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had so any men claim they don't have them, so can we go without, when I've produced a handful, the excuses change, can't use normal ones too small, allergic to latex etc.

So I carry all different types from big ones, small ones, latex free, glow in the dark, and even ones suitable for vegetarians!!! No excuses!!! "

love it xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had so any men claim they don't have them, so can we go without, when I've produced a handful, the excuses change, can't use normal ones too small, allergic to latex etc.

So I carry all different types from big ones, small ones, latex free, glow in the dark, and even ones suitable for vegetarians!!! No excuses!!! "

to be honest with you i wouldnt go thro all that trouble, if a guy turn up with no condoms then sat there making excuses as to why he couldnt use the condoms i privide i just say...cya then, in my opinion theres only one reason why people turn up to a meet without them and thats cause they dont intend to use them, if they did they would make sure they had some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always feel safer when we provide them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both people should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take my own as I have probs with latex xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had so any men claim they don't have them, so can we go without, when I've produced a handful, the excuses change, can't use normal ones too small, allergic to latex etc.

So I carry all different types from big ones, small ones, latex free, glow in the dark, and even ones suitable for vegetarians!!! No excuses!!!

+1 (well, both of us actually) - at the end of the day, do you want to jeopardise YOUR on-going pleasure for one irresponsible and/or arrogant arsehole who doesn't get the message about the risks of unprotected sex? Blame education/gotv/ who ya like, but it comes down to taking personal responsibility for yourself AND others. If you can't show that you can do that, then you don't deserve the fun.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think both male and females should have condoms , and i always check the expiry date coz i dont use them up quickly enough lol x"

Just checked mine, they expired in 1998.... I really must get out more.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I've always thought it should be the guy who brings the condoms.

Then again, unless discussed beforehand, i've always thought the guy should ask about condom use as well.

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By * starr -Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

as swingers shouldnt we all use condoms for the safety of ourselves and others, that way nothing is spread/babies had etc.

i always have my own and i dont think many guys have turned up with them to meet me.hence i always make sure i have a box full.i wont risk my health.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

no offence but why on earth would you rely on someone else for your health....

I would expect everyone to bring condoms.... full stop

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Since we can all get them for free, including latex free ones, there's absolutely no excuse to not have them!

Having said that, I do also buy them when I see them at a good price (Home Bargains £1.49 for box of 12). But since \i go for regular check ups - like most responsible swingers do - then I avail myself of free ones. You can get them from the GP as well as Family Planning Clinics and GUM Clinics.

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

"as swingers shouldnt we all use condoms for the safety of ourselves and others, that way nothing is spread/babies had etc.

i always have my own and i dont think many guys have turned up with them to meet me.hence i always make sure i have a box full.i wont risk my health.

We've had it in a club with 3 guys in a room with us and not 1 of them had a condom...

what exactly did they expect to happen?

To us this says they are happy to play bare - in fact expect it, so that puts them firmly in the avoid category for us. As soon as we realised that was the end of their night with us - they did ask me if I had some - yes, about a dozen thanks..... And they seemed put out I wouldn't dish em out. I mean, they are free at the bar so there is no excuse for not having them on you.

In short - bloke provides unless, any special requirements, and then he should if he's had prior warning.

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By *amnationsedgeMan
over a year ago

Ashborne

I think in this kind of enviroment both parties should be carrying them, everyones capable of making a mistake or forgetting and then theres all kinds of problems that can arise from them anyway so its useful to have spare. I either have to use specificly sized ones or I break them in minutes and thats without mentioning the suffocating discomfort.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"I've had so any men claim they don't have them, so can we go without, when I've produced a handful, the excuses change, can't use normal ones too small, allergic to latex etc.

So I carry all different types from big ones, small ones, latex free, glow in the dark, and even ones suitable for vegetarians!!! No excuses!!! "

ooohhhhhh i like you!!! but i always bring my ownbut i love the selection..

what do the vegetarian ones taste of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your not and don't share the hotel bill either. Don't give it away for nothing at least demand some bubbles condoms and a comfy bed xxx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"No your not and don't share the hotel bill either. Don't give it away for nothing at least demand some bubbles condoms and a comfy bed xxx"

so who pays for the hotel then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy met me for fun and didn’t bring condoms, I would be appalled regardless of the fact that I carry some. It would most certainly mean that I wouldn’t play as I would mentally question both his expectations and previous activity. Using protection is not just about respecting my own body, but also his.

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By *atusMan
over a year ago

Stourbridge

I always bring condoms, if the others do as well all good but I think it's only polite to supply my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No your not and don't share the hotel bill either. Don't give it away for nothing at least demand some bubbles condoms and a comfy bed xxx"

I had hoped this was tongue in cheek, but suspect it is not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No your not and don't share the hotel bill either. Don't give it away for nothing at least demand some bubbles condoms and a comfy bed xxx

I had hoped this was tongue in cheek, but suspect it is not.

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call me suspicious but we always bring our own that way you know they have not been tampered with in anyway ie: a pin being stuck in it to make a hole, we have had a lot of emails from guys asking for pregnancy risk sex some guys wont tell you that they are into it and also the obvious one of STD/STI being spread around if the condom has been tampered with.

Oh Christ! That's a cheery thought to start my day!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always take condoms,as i wouldn't walk into a bar with no money or condoms lol

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By *odka n CokeCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

"we always took condoms with us, i say took cos no one wants us anymore and it's been a year since our last meet"

Shame we're not closer, we'd like to meet with you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No your not and don't share the hotel bill either. Don't give it away for nothing at least demand some bubbles condoms and a comfy bed xxx"

why not just ask then for £50 and be done with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take condoms all the time. I value my health - and i'm not saying anything about the people on here. But I dont want to take a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"everyone should bring the condoms, always better to have more than none"

Then when one person runs out there's another 12 pack ready and raring to be used!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I take condoms all the time. I value my health - and i'm not saying anything about the people on here. But I dont want to take a chance. "

its not rude towards people to want to protect yourself

I remember once i met a guy and he tried to have full sex with me without a condom and i told him to get one and he replied...go on met me fuck you i havnt got anything honest, and i just looked at him straight in the face and said....i know but i have

he just starred at me in a way that he wasnt sure if i was kidding or not as i just looked at him sturned faced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always have my own stash, and have had the many excuses about how uncomfortable they are etc...but put simply put up or fuck off for me! If you need a specific size, then bring em (although I do tend to carry bigger ones just in case too). Oddly enough, the bigger guys I have met are the ones that have complained the least about condoms feeling too tight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I take condoms all the time. I value my health - and i'm not saying anything about the people on here. But I dont want to take a chance.

its not rude towards people to want to protect yourself

he just starred at me in a way that he wasnt sure if i was kidding or not as i just looked at him sturned faced "

lol oh to be a fly on the wall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have them in my bag.

Ok please please dont all start jumping up and down I am asking because I really dont understand and had the conversation with someone the other day and he didnt either.

How does a condom protect from getting anything if you have swapped spit licked pussy given blow jobs sucked fingers after being in pussy you know every thing apart from penetration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always bring them whether I've been asked to or not.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I take condoms all the time. I value my health - and i'm not saying anything about the people on here. But I dont want to take a chance.

its not rude towards people to want to protect yourself

he just starred at me in a way that he wasnt sure if i was kidding or not as i just looked at him sturned faced

lol oh to be a fly on the wall"

Yep I had that conversation with on of my fbs recently, he said that he was very careful and had regular check ups. I reminded him that though I am also careful and have regular check ups I can be very prolific... Oh yeah he said. Heard no more about it since

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By *obinhood-maidmarionCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

shouldnt both parties bring them just incase?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to me the female half having a latex rubber allergy, we always supply our own, and don't mind this at all!

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By *lexa OP Woman
over a year ago

southampton

My point is that some guys don't even think to bring them!! I always do have some just in case, but for heaven's sake, why should it be the women's responsibility only!! It just annoys me and I think it's very irresponsible of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one line that bugs me is 'I can't have them as my OH would think it suspicious if he/she found them'

Well buy some and if ya don't use them, throw the fkers away ! They are hardly expensive in the great scheme of things.

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By *obinhood-maidmarionCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"My point is that some guys don't even think to bring them!! I always do have some just in case, but for heaven's sake, why should it be the women's responsibility only!! It just annoys me and I think it's very irresponsible of them. "

the best thing to do (well maybe not best but its what we do) is have some just incase, if you have mentioned it to the male previously and he STILL hasnt bothered his arse to get some then dont play with him. Its all about attitude, ineptitude and respect

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

We always have our own non latex ones,I never expect a guy to bring the type that we have but its always a lovely surprise when a guy takes the trouble to go out and buy non latex ones too

That does'nt happen very often

Ive only ever had one guy turn up with none and that was when we first started swinging,we had some but I made him go to a garage and get some as I thought you cheeky sod don't assume that its down to me alone to provide the protection for the both of us

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"everyone should bring the condoms, always better to have more than none

Then when one person runs out there's another 12 pack ready and raring to be used!

we havent even met yet but you ave a good sense of how its going o go down

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