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Would you choose a single man or a ‘hot husband’?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive been contacted a lot lately about having sex with someone elses fella and sending him home throughly shagged. My profile states I'm not into it and tbh its not a kink I'm keen on. I’d rather meet a completely single man who’ll engage with me without worrying about a partner.

My question is for single women which would you choose and why?

I’m also partly curious about why women want to send their chap out to shag others. Why not a threesome where the lady watches?

I’d certainly like to understand this kink more. More knowledgeable and less ignorant

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Single men for me, I do play with friends partners/husbands sometimes but I wouldn't want to play with a strangers partner or husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for us we both enjoy each other having fun and it can be difficult to find couples where all 4 click so recently we have tended to play more individually or in a threesome.

That's in reply to the why a couple would do it part.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I’ve been getting lots of messages like this as well.

The cynical part of me thinks it’s the male posing as the female, trying it on. I’m only interested in playing with a couple and not part of it, so I just ignore and delete.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Single men as i do not want my sexual encounters discussed in detail over breakfast or whilst he is fucking the wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont judge but having had a 'fling' with a married man for 10 years..

Id now rather him to be single and honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were approached by a married guy and I thought my wife would reject him. But her reaction was ‘his concern, not ours’. Since then we’ve met him numerous times until the virus stopped play. From my, the hubby’s, point of view it’s fine as I know he’s not going to try to run of with my wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been contacted a lot lately about having sex with someone elses fella and sending him home throughly shagged. My profile states I'm not into it and tbh its not a kink I'm keen on. I’d rather meet a completely single man who’ll engage with me without worrying about a partner.

My question is for single women which would you choose and why?

I’m also partly curious about why women want to send their chap out to shag others. Why not a threesome where the lady watches?

I’d certainly like to understand this kink more. More knowledgeable and less ignorant "

It's not a kink so much so I don't seek women to hook up with my partner, however if he happens to meet another woman then I love to hear all about it. The initial meet, the chat/flirt, how she responded, what she was wearing and then all the sexual details.

It's probably because I know how charismatic he can be with a sexy gutteral drawl and what it feels like to have sex with him, so when he retells his encounter I can imagine exactly how it was as if I was there watching, and I find it very arousing and extremely hot

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Single men. After dealing with the jealousy of the mrs who turned out to be utter psychotic, yet was all for packing partner off beforehand......never ever ever again!!!

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Unless I'm meeting them as a couple I don't get involved with married/taken guys. I have met the male half of a couple I know well very occasionally, but that's been arranged by myself and the wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men. After dealing with the jealousy of the mrs who turned out to be utter psychotic, yet was all for packing partner off beforehand......never ever ever again!!!"

Been there the other way around, positively pushed her on me. I took her to Chams and met up with my wife and the couple she was with.

Great night, went back to the hotel and her phone was beeping all bloody night... Hubby had lost his shit so ended up taking her home early.

He pushed it to start with so was a bit disappointed in his behaviour but I guess people only really know after the event.

Hasn't stopped us playing with attached people but would be cautious about 'first timers' in future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be happy with either tbh, as long as she's comfortable it doesn't matter. I'd be happy with many of both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great responses so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A single man every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those messages are from single guys on couples profiles trying to get a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not all the time sometimes its a genuine couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We been talking about g meeting a married guy for a fwb as both go back to partners and can talk about it single guys want to much so married guys could work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From our perspective OP we used to meet couples but found out that we couldn't ever find compatible couples that we both agreed on. So now we play separately. I have a FWB that I am happy with(before lockdown) but the hubby has issues meeting women due to alot of what's being said on this thread. Our personal situation is we are happy as a family unit but enjoy a bit of variety in our sex life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nudge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nudge"

Bump

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking from a bisexual view... I do love the idea of meeting someone's wife and sending her home to her husband after wards but I wouldn't say I have a preference of either attached or single women. Just different situations to enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oooh never though of it from a women meetin women point of view.

You see so many threads about hot wives and girlfriend sharing. Thanks for all the comments so far

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By *etanoiaWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I have this on my profile about meeting male half with female permission. The “hot husband” scenario I find appealing as there are no blurred lines. X

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"Single men. After dealing with the jealousy of the mrs who turned out to be utter psychotic, yet was all for packing partner off beforehand......never ever ever again!!!

Been there the other way around, positively pushed her on me. I took her to Chams and met up with my wife and the couple she was with.

Great night, went back to the hotel and her phone was beeping all bloody night... Hubby had lost his shit so ended up taking her home early.

He pushed it to start with so was a bit disappointed in his behaviour but I guess people only really know after the event.

Hasn't stopped us playing with attached people but would be cautious about 'first timers' in future. "

The couple I ended up "dealing with" in the most awful way wasn't new, was well veried as a couple and single meets on both sides and she seemed more then happy! But not only did she turn up at my work but also my daughters school who was an infant at the time (not hard to work out giving there is only 1 where I live) and causing proper scenes at both, then took to making profiles on here weekly to ask if her partner had been in contact and state I wasnt to let on she had asked....in the end I blocked couples, females, newbies, non veried etc etc etc from messages as shes a flipping mental case! The original account has gone but a new couples 1 has sprung up recently and I know full well its them....Or at least her.....who knows to be honest! But not a situation I would wish on my enemies never mind anyone else!!!!

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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands and West London

I don't mind either way. In my swinging experience, long term partners tend to be better in the bedroom than single men. But that's just my opinion; I haven't done enough research

Some men find it hot that I'm attached, which I find kinda weird because we don't do the whole "send the woman home with her knickers full of spunk" thing and we personally don't know anyone who does?!

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

Speaking as the female half of a couple we originally only met as a couple but quite often found it hard to find couples that we were both totally attracted to and compatible with.

We have been meeting others as singles and I have no problem getting meets on here but the hubby does not have much success. In fact he has been unable to get a meet on here but does when he has a night out. He finds that a lot of women on here are not interested in married men or ont believe he has my approval.

Although I have never tried to arrange a meet for him as believing folk would think it was him pretending to be me, as some have pointed out, I can see why some women would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Speaking as the female half of a couple we originally only met as a couple but quite often found it hard to find couples that we were both totally attracted to and compatible with.

We have been meeting others as singles and I have no problem getting meets on here but the hubby does not have much success. In fact he has been unable to get a meet on here but does when he has a night out. He finds that a lot of women on here are not interested in married men or ont believe he has my approval.

Although I have never tried to arrange a meet for him as believing folk would think it was him pretending to be me, as some have pointed out, I can see why some women would. "

We are in the same boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men. After dealing with the jealousy of the mrs who turned out to be utter psychotic, yet was all for packing partner off beforehand......never ever ever again!!!

Been there the other way around, positively pushed her on me. I took her to Chams and met up with my wife and the couple she was with.

Great night, went back to the hotel and her phone was beeping all bloody night... Hubby had lost his shit so ended up taking her home early.

He pushed it to start with so was a bit disappointed in his behaviour but I guess people only really know after the event.

Hasn't stopped us playing with attached people but would be cautious about 'first timers' in future.

The couple I ended up "dealing with" in the most awful way wasn't new, was well veried as a couple and single meets on both sides and she seemed more then happy! But not only did she turn up at my work but also my daughters school who was an infant at the time (not hard to work out giving there is only 1 where I live) and causing proper scenes at both, then took to making profiles on here weekly to ask if her partner had been in contact and state I wasnt to let on she had asked....in the end I blocked couples, females, newbies, non veried etc etc etc from messages as shes a flipping mental case! The original account has gone but a new couples 1 has sprung up recently and I know full well its them....Or at least her.....who knows to be honest! But not a situation I would wish on my enemies never mind anyone else!!!!"

That's just a nightmare, obviously some real issues there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Speaking as the female half of a couple we originally only met as a couple but quite often found it hard to find couples that we were both totally attracted to and compatible with.

We have been meeting others as singles and I have no problem getting meets on here but the hubby does not have much success. In fact he has been unable to get a meet on here but does when he has a night out. He finds that a lot of women on here are not interested in married men or ont believe he has my approval.

Although I have never tried to arrange a meet for him as believing folk would think it was him pretending to be me, as some have pointed out, I can see why some women would. "

Similar with us, we have tended to meet most people either through socials or clubs. We don't tend to actively look or message many on here as it just seems easier to 'click' in person.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

Not a kink of ours when meeting men on here we always kind of assume they are married or in a relationship the can't accommodate can only meet midweek daytime type guys we would prefer they were single but can only take there word for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Controversial - but definitely married men for us.

For Mutual discretion reasons really.

We can’t meet at the drop of a hat and can go weeks without replying / messaging or thinking of arranging something.

Have chatted to Lots of single guys but they get bored and less patient with us as busy parents etc.

Which is completely understandable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id rather a single man anyday. No drama then x

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I prefer stable married men, made some really good friends with a few couples of who I play with their husbands, with many single guys drama ensues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot husband for just casual sex , single if I want more even if just a regular partner to have sex with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a cuckquean. A female cuckold. I want hubby to fuck other women and then come home to me

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

We started off as a cuckquean couple, but really struggled to find ladies on here to meet with us. We'd have couples or single males (sometimes women) aggressively accusing us of being fakes, that nobody would want what we were looking for. Often we were accused of being a single male just looking for a shag and getting around single men message blocks (as has been mentioned in this thread).

So Cuckold is allowed, but not the other way around? What's different between a husband sending his wife out to a wife sending her husband out? We've found fab nothing short of frustrating and came off it for these reasons.

After hubby came out as Bi and admitting he'd like a guy with me, we've come back looking for couples. But!! I still love to see the pleasure on a woman's face caused by Hubby, knowing exactly what she's experiencing.

Then the reclaim sex between is later is amazing. Its not about discussing it later, it's the pleasure at the time or during the reclaim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started off as a cuckquean couple, but really struggled to find ladies on here to meet with us. We'd have couples or single males (sometimes women) aggressively accusing us of being fakes, that nobody would want what we were looking for. Often we were accused of being a single male just looking for a shag and getting around single men message blocks (as has been mentioned in this thread).

So Cuckold is allowed, but not the other way around? What's different between a husband sending his wife out to a wife sending her husband out? We've found fab nothing short of frustrating and came off it for these reasons.

After hubby came out as Bi and admitting he'd like a guy with me, we've come back looking for couples. But!! I still love to see the pleasure on a woman's face caused by Hubby, knowing exactly what she's experiencing.

Then the reclaim sex between is later is amazing. Its not about discussing it later, it's the pleasure at the time or during the reclaim.

"

Agree with all your points. What I find ironic is that I will get accused of being controlled by my guy because I have no issue (and get off on it) with him sleeping with other women therefor I must be insecure and scared of losing him so have agreed to him cheating (which I find amusing as it was me that introduced him to the world of an open relationship with a loving partner, he thought it was a trap hahaha) and yet cuckold is deemed hot hot hot and the guys don't get the same stick.

Equally we get accused of not proper swinging and shouldn't be using the site because we only full swap with FF couples or because we seek single females for solo or 3sum play (even though it's acceptable for single males/females to be on here looking for couples or single women/men).

What always surprises me is that in the swinging world where most claim they are sexually free or have an avant guard attitude towards sex and refuse to confirm to societal couple norms, it is still unacceptable or unconceviable for some, that a women is driving and taking control of her own sexual desires within a couple - that it can't possibly be true and she must be being controlled by her man if that women isn't seeking pleasure from another man either for herself or for her man...whats up with that? (shrug) ...L x

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants


"We started off as a cuckquean couple, but really struggled to find ladies on here to meet with us. We'd have couples or single males (sometimes women) aggressively accusing us of being fakes, that nobody would want what we were looking for. Often we were accused of being a single male just looking for a shag and getting around single men message blocks (as has been mentioned in this thread).

So Cuckold is allowed, but not the other way around? What's different between a husband sending his wife out to a wife sending her husband out? We've found fab nothing short of frustrating and came off it for these reasons.

After hubby came out as Bi and admitting he'd like a guy with me, we've come back looking for couples. But!! I still love to see the pleasure on a woman's face caused by Hubby, knowing exactly what she's experiencing.

Then the reclaim sex between is later is amazing. Its not about discussing it later, it's the pleasure at the time or during the reclaim.

Agree with all your points. What I find ironic is that I will get accused of being controlled by my guy because I have no issue (and get off on it) with him sleeping with other women therefor I must be insecure and scared of losing him so have agreed to him cheating (which I find amusing as it was me that introduced him to the world of an open relationship with a loving partner, he thought it was a trap hahaha) and yet cuckold is deemed hot hot hot and the guys don't get the same stick.

Equally we get accused of not proper swinging and shouldn't be using the site because we only full swap with FF couples or because we seek single females for solo or 3sum play (even though it's acceptable for single males/females to be on here looking for couples or single women/men).

What always surprises me is that in the swinging world where most claim they are sexually free or have an avant guard attitude towards sex and refuse to confirm to societal couple norms, it is still unacceptable or unconceviable for some, that a women is driving and taking control of her own sexual desires within a couple - that it can't possibly be true and she must be being controlled by her man if that women isn't seeking pleasure from another man either for herself or for her man...whats up with that? (shrug) ...L x"

Glad it's not just us with this view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m with you OP I would choose a single man but never say never if for some reason I was extremely attracted to said hot husband I might consider it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both, as long as all parties are honest, in agreement and consenting.

hot husband's are hottttt.. just as single men are too!

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men as i do not want my sexual encounters discussed in detail over breakfast or whilst he is fucking the wife "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men as i do not want my sexual encounters discussed in detail over breakfast or whilst he is fucking the wife

"

Or married cheating men where their partner doesn't know, for the same reason as above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

If it’s a married guy who’s wife is fully onboard with the situation, brilliant - far less chance of ‘the feels’ creeping in.

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

Both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started off as a cuckquean couple, but really struggled to find ladies on here to meet with us. We'd have couples or single males (sometimes women) aggressively accusing us of being fakes, that nobody would want what we were looking for. Often we were accused of being a single male just looking for a shag and getting around single men message blocks (as has been mentioned in this thread).

So Cuckold is allowed, but not the other way around? What's different between a husband sending his wife out to a wife sending her husband out? We've found fab nothing short of frustrating and came off it for these reasons.

After hubby came out as Bi and admitting he'd like a guy with me, we've come back looking for couples. But!! I still love to see the pleasure on a woman's face caused by Hubby, knowing exactly what she's experiencing.

Then the reclaim sex between is later is amazing. Its not about discussing it later, it's the pleasure at the time or during the reclaim.

Agree with all your points. What I find ironic is that I will get accused of being controlled by my guy because I have no issue (and get off on it) with him sleeping with other women therefor I must be insecure and scared of losing him so have agreed to him cheating (which I find amusing as it was me that introduced him to the world of an open relationship with a loving partner, he thought it was a trap hahaha) and yet cuckold is deemed hot hot hot and the guys don't get the same stick.

Equally we get accused of not proper swinging and shouldn't be using the site because we only full swap with FF couples or because we seek single females for solo or 3sum play (even though it's acceptable for single males/females to be on here looking for couples or single women/men).

What always surprises me is that in the swinging world where most claim they are sexually free or have an avant guard attitude towards sex and refuse to confirm to societal couple norms, it is still unacceptable or unconceviable for some, that a women is driving and taking control of her own sexual desires within a couple - that it can't possibly be true and she must be being controlled by her man if that women isn't seeking pleasure from another man either for herself or for her man...whats up with that? (shrug) ...L x

Glad it's not just us with this view. "

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

In an ideal situation probably a hot husband because no stress they already happy plus single is only fab single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose I meet a "hot husband." I like that he's settled in life as that's one of the things I find really mentally attractive about it. He and his fiancée don't have the thing about getting off discussing meets. All is good

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By *amescoupleCouple
over a year ago

north walsham

I love to watch Mark with other women and also love to join in (or him join us depending on how things start)

I also get massively turned on about him going and having his fun alone too.

I guess for me the turn on with him going it alone is knowing how much pleasure he likes to give to the women he sleeps with and knowing how good that feels. I want other women to feel the way he makes me feel in bed.

I also love the thought of him enjoying the touch and feel of another woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been contacted a lot lately about having sex with someone elses fella and sending him home throughly shagged. My profile states I'm not into it and tbh its not a kink I'm keen on. I’d rather meet a completely single man who’ll engage with me without worrying about a partner.

My question is for single women which would you choose and why?

I’m also partly curious about why women want to send their chap out to shag others. Why not a threesome where the lady watches?

I’d certainly like to understand this kink more. More knowledgeable and less ignorant "

So many variables

But it's all down to attraction for me. If I fancy them then yes, regardless of their issues

I'm single

Saira x

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By *91kMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

Single man here!

Would love to shack up with someone and turn into a husband

Available until

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love to watch Mark with other women and also love to join in (or him join us depending on how things start)

I also get massively turned on about him going and having his fun alone too.

I guess for me the turn on with him going it alone is knowing how much pleasure he likes to give to the women he sleeps with and knowing how good that feels. I want other women to feel the way he makes me feel in bed.

I also love the thought of him enjoying the touch and feel of another woman "

I feel like that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like husbands, especially when she knows and actively encourages him to have his fun. I like knowing that she's getting turned on at the thought of her man getting his end away with someone else, and I love the thought of them going at it when he gets home. So rare to find though, and even more so only meeting at clubs as it doesn't really come up in convo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love to watch Mark with other women and also love to join in (or him join us depending on how things start)

I also get massively turned on about him going and having his fun alone too.

I guess for me the turn on with him going it alone is knowing how much pleasure he likes to give to the women he sleeps with and knowing how good that feels. I want other women to feel the way he makes me feel in bed.

I also love the thought of him enjoying the touch and feel of another woman "

This is beautiful

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants


"I like husbands, especially when she knows and actively encourages him to have his fun. I like knowing that she's getting turned on at the thought of her man getting his end away with someone else, and I love the thought of them going at it when he gets home. So rare to find though, and even more so only meeting at clubs as it doesn't really come up in convo. "

You've just described the wife. X

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

Honesty is important to us. Cheaters make us uncomfortable, but we do understand it is very easy for a married woman to find solo meets, but much more difficult for a married man!

Hubby here has a hot husband account, and I enjoy hearing about his adventures. There are no secrets between us, and I would like to think the same if I ever met a married man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post has been interesting reading! Definitely given us some things to think about as this has come up for us recently. We originally started talking about me (Tabitha) having my own meet with a couple but we got really excited about Moose having his own meet too and us coming home with a hot story for each other. He has his own stories from swinging before we met but I want to be involved in finding people, messaging, build up....its all part of the experience for us both, something we are doing and enjoying together. It’s been really helpful to get an idea of how receptive people may be to a hothusband meet and what issues we may run into!

Tabitha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer married guys!

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I’ve been getting lots of messages like this as well.

The cynical part of me thinks it’s the male posing as the female, trying it on. I’m only interested in playing with a couple and not part of it, so I just ignore and delete. "
Exactly .

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Im guessing for some its not a blanket yes or no. I would imagine a lot depends on the 'hot husband' involved and sense you have regards the seacurity and love in the relationship they have with their partner. Maybe for some meeting the couple first helps? The idea of borrowing a husband I think (Mr here) is lovely and fun. But no one wants any drama or hurt. And we all (I hope) try to be ethical and not put our desires above what is good for others. Experiance in this game tells me not everyone is in a good place relationship wise for this sort of thing. Likewise a lot also depends on the woman in question because sometimes the drama can come from the lady in question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a cuckquean cpl and I am a "hot husband" we have played this way for a while now. however we have a very deep loving relationship/ marriage and in any and all meets I have with cpls there is never any question about our circumstances, intentions and desires. we are both very up front and honest with all potential meets so all partys involved are confident that it's OK and that they understand what we get from it and let's face it the reclamation sex is always incredible and long lasting. For us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started off as a cuckquean couple, but really struggled to find ladies on here to meet with us. We'd have couples or single males (sometimes women) aggressively accusing us of being fakes, that nobody would want what we were looking for. Often we were accused of being a single male just looking for a shag and getting around single men message blocks (as has been mentioned in this thread).

So Cuckold is allowed, but not the other way around? What's different between a husband sending his wife out to a wife sending her husband out? We've found fab nothing short of frustrating and came off it for these reasons.

After hubby came out as Bi and admitting he'd like a guy with me, we've come back looking for couples. But!! I still love to see the pleasure on a woman's face caused by Hubby, knowing exactly what she's experiencing.

Then the reclaim sex between is later is amazing. Its not about discussing it later, it's the pleasure at the time or during the reclaim.

Agree with all your points. What I find ironic is that I will get accused of being controlled by my guy because I have no issue (and get off on it) with him sleeping with other women therefor I must be insecure and scared of losing him so have agreed to him cheating (which I find amusing as it was me that introduced him to the world of an open relationship with a loving partner, he thought it was a trap hahaha) and yet cuckold is deemed hot hot hot and the guys don't get the same stick.

Equally we get accused of not proper swinging and shouldn't be using the site because we only full swap with FF couples or because we seek single females for solo or 3sum play (even though it's acceptable for single males/females to be on here looking for couples or single women/men).

What always surprises me is that in the swinging world where most claim they are sexually free or have an avant guard attitude towards sex and refuse to confirm to societal couple norms, it is still unacceptable or unconceviable for some, that a women is driving and taking control of her own sexual desires within a couple - that it can't possibly be true and she must be being controlled by her man if that women isn't seeking pleasure from another man either for herself or for her man...whats up with that? (shrug) ...L x"
Personally I can't see what the problem is each to their own needs but think there are awful lot of people with double standards on this site at the moment which I think is pissing alot of people off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started off as a cuckquean couple, but really struggled to find ladies on here to meet with us. We'd have couples or single males (sometimes women) aggressively accusing us of being fakes, that nobody would want what we were looking for. Often we were accused of being a single male just looking for a shag and getting around single men message blocks (as has been mentioned in this thread).

So Cuckold is allowed, but not the other way around? What's different between a husband sending his wife out to a wife sending her husband out? We've found fab nothing short of frustrating and came off it for these reasons.

After hubby came out as Bi and admitting he'd like a guy with me, we've come back looking for couples. But!! I still love to see the pleasure on a woman's face caused by Hubby, knowing exactly what she's experiencing.

Then the reclaim sex between is later is amazing. Its not about discussing it later, it's the pleasure at the time or during the reclaim.

Agree with all your points. What I find ironic is that I will get accused of being controlled by my guy because I have no issue (and get off on it) with him sleeping with other women therefor I must be insecure and scared of losing him so have agreed to him cheating (which I find amusing as it was me that introduced him to the world of an open relationship with a loving partner, he thought it was a trap hahaha) and yet cuckold is deemed hot hot hot and the guys don't get the same stick.

Equally we get accused of not proper swinging and shouldn't be using the site because we only full swap with FF couples or because we seek single females for solo or 3sum play (even though it's acceptable for single males/females to be on here looking for couples or single women/men).

What always surprises me is that in the swinging world where most claim they are sexually free or have an avant guard attitude towards sex and refuse to confirm to societal couple norms, it is still unacceptable or unconceviable for some, that a women is driving and taking control of her own sexual desires within a couple - that it can't possibly be true and she must be being controlled by her man if that women isn't seeking pleasure from another man either for herself or for her man...whats up with that? (shrug) ...L x Personally I can't see what the problem is each to their own needs but think there are awful lot of people with double standards on this site at the moment which I think is pissing alot of people off. "

Double standards like what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would certainly be more inclined for that sort of thing if M was watching, way more fun

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By *eedAbuse4HubbyCouple
over a year ago

North West

I like a married man myself....

easier to get control of

If he’s unfaithful that’s his problem not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started off as a cuckquean couple, but really struggled to find ladies on here to meet with us. We'd have couples or single males (sometimes women) aggressively accusing us of being fakes, that nobody would want what we were looking for. Often we were accused of being a single male just looking for a shag and getting around single men message blocks (as has been mentioned in this thread).

So Cuckold is allowed, but not the other way around? What's different between a husband sending his wife out to a wife sending her husband out? We've found fab nothing short of frustrating and came off it for these reasons.

After hubby came out as Bi and admitting he'd like a guy with me, we've come back looking for couples. But!! I still love to see the pleasure on a woman's face caused by Hubby, knowing exactly what she's experiencing.

Then the reclaim sex between is later is amazing. Its not about discussing it later, it's the pleasure at the time or during the reclaim.

Agree with all your points. What I find ironic is that I will get accused of being controlled by my guy because I have no issue (and get off on it) with him sleeping with other women therefor I must be insecure and scared of losing him so have agreed to him cheating (which I find amusing as it was me that introduced him to the world of an open relationship with a loving partner, he thought it was a trap hahaha) and yet cuckold is deemed hot hot hot and the guys don't get the same stick.

Equally we get accused of not proper swinging and shouldn't be using the site because we only full swap with FF couples or because we seek single females for solo or 3sum play (even though it's acceptable for single males/females to be on here looking for couples or single women/men).

What always surprises me is that in the swinging world where most claim they are sexually free or have an avant guard attitude towards sex and refuse to confirm to societal couple norms, it is still unacceptable or unconceviable for some, that a women is driving and taking control of her own sexual desires within a couple - that it can't possibly be true and she must be being controlled by her man if that women isn't seeking pleasure from another man either for herself or for her man...whats up with that? (shrug) ...L x Personally I can't see what the problem is each to their own needs but think there are awful lot of people with double standards on this site at the moment which I think is pissing alot of people off.

Double standards like what?"
Can only speak from personal experience twice I've messaged women who are married and hubby doesn't know only to be told they don't see married men who are cheating pot and kettle spring to mind, also married men get ostracised on here but you rarely here people saying the same about cheating married women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started off as a cuckquean couple, but really struggled to find ladies on here to meet with us. We'd have couples or single males (sometimes women) aggressively accusing us of being fakes, that nobody would want what we were looking for. Often we were accused of being a single male just looking for a shag and getting around single men message blocks (as has been mentioned in this thread).

So Cuckold is allowed, but not the other way around? What's different between a husband sending his wife out to a wife sending her husband out? We've found fab nothing short of frustrating and came off it for these reasons.

After hubby came out as Bi and admitting he'd like a guy with me, we've come back looking for couples. But!! I still love to see the pleasure on a woman's face caused by Hubby, knowing exactly what she's experiencing.

Then the reclaim sex between is later is amazing. Its not about discussing it later, it's the pleasure at the time or during the reclaim.

Agree with all your points. What I find ironic is that I will get accused of being controlled by my guy because I have no issue (and get off on it) with him sleeping with other women therefor I must be insecure and scared of losing him so have agreed to him cheating (which I find amusing as it was me that introduced him to the world of an open relationship with a loving partner, he thought it was a trap hahaha) and yet cuckold is deemed hot hot hot and the guys don't get the same stick.

Equally we get accused of not proper swinging and shouldn't be using the site because we only full swap with FF couples or because we seek single females for solo or 3sum play (even though it's acceptable for single males/females to be on here looking for couples or single women/men).

What always surprises me is that in the swinging world where most claim they are sexually free or have an avant guard attitude towards sex and refuse to confirm to societal couple norms, it is still unacceptable or unconceviable for some, that a women is driving and taking control of her own sexual desires within a couple - that it can't possibly be true and she must be being controlled by her man if that women isn't seeking pleasure from another man either for herself or for her man...whats up with that? (shrug) ...L x Personally I can't see what the problem is each to their own needs but think there are awful lot of people with double standards on this site at the moment which I think is pissing alot of people off.

Double standards like what?Can only speak from personal experience twice I've messaged women who are married and hubby doesn't know only to be told they don't see married men who are cheating pot and kettle spring to mind, also married men get ostracised on here but you rarely here people saying the same about cheating married women! "
All gone a bit quiet on this subject now wonder why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started off as a cuckquean couple, but really struggled to find ladies on here to meet with us. We'd have couples or single males (sometimes women) aggressively accusing us of being fakes, that nobody would want what we were looking for. Often we were accused of being a single male just looking for a shag and getting around single men message blocks (as has been mentioned in this thread).

So Cuckold is allowed, but not the other way around? What's different between a husband sending his wife out to a wife sending her husband out? We've found fab nothing short of frustrating and came off it for these reasons.

After hubby came out as Bi and admitting he'd like a guy with me, we've come back looking for couples. But!! I still love to see the pleasure on a woman's face caused by Hubby, knowing exactly what she's experiencing.

Then the reclaim sex between is later is amazing. Its not about discussing it later, it's the pleasure at the time or during the reclaim.

Agree with all your points. What I find ironic is that I will get accused of being controlled by my guy because I have no issue (and get off on it) with him sleeping with other women therefor I must be insecure and scared of losing him so have agreed to him cheating (which I find amusing as it was me that introduced him to the world of an open relationship with a loving partner, he thought it was a trap hahaha) and yet cuckold is deemed hot hot hot and the guys don't get the same stick.

Equally we get accused of not proper swinging and shouldn't be using the site because we only full swap with FF couples or because we seek single females for solo or 3sum play (even though it's acceptable for single males/females to be on here looking for couples or single women/men).

What always surprises me is that in the swinging world where most claim they are sexually free or have an avant guard attitude towards sex and refuse to confirm to societal couple norms, it is still unacceptable or unconceviable for some, that a women is driving and taking control of her own sexual desires within a couple - that it can't possibly be true and she must be being controlled by her man if that women isn't seeking pleasure from another man either for herself or for her man...whats up with that? (shrug) ...L x Personally I can't see what the problem is each to their own needs but think there are awful lot of people with double standards on this site at the moment which I think is pissing alot of people off.

Double standards like what?Can only speak from personal experience twice I've messaged women who are married and hubby doesn't know only to be told they don't see married men who are cheating pot and kettle spring to mind, also married men get ostracised on here but you rarely here people saying the same about cheating married women! "

They can meet whoever they like. Maybe they don't want the added complication of both cheating.

Married men are terrible. Married women have pussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started off as a cuckquean couple, but really struggled to find ladies on here to meet with us. We'd have couples or single males (sometimes women) aggressively accusing us of being fakes, that nobody would want what we were looking for. Often we were accused of being a single male just looking for a shag and getting around single men message blocks (as has been mentioned in this thread).

So Cuckold is allowed, but not the other way around? What's different between a husband sending his wife out to a wife sending her husband out? We've found fab nothing short of frustrating and came off it for these reasons.

After hubby came out as Bi and admitting he'd like a guy with me, we've come back looking for couples. But!! I still love to see the pleasure on a woman's face caused by Hubby, knowing exactly what she's experiencing.

Then the reclaim sex between is later is amazing. Its not about discussing it later, it's the pleasure at the time or during the reclaim.

Agree with all your points. What I find ironic is that I will get accused of being controlled by my guy because I have no issue (and get off on it) with him sleeping with other women therefor I must be insecure and scared of losing him so have agreed to him cheating (which I find amusing as it was me that introduced him to the world of an open relationship with a loving partner, he thought it was a trap hahaha) and yet cuckold is deemed hot hot hot and the guys don't get the same stick.

Equally we get accused of not proper swinging and shouldn't be using the site because we only full swap with FF couples or because we seek single females for solo or 3sum play (even though it's acceptable for single males/females to be on here looking for couples or single women/men).

What always surprises me is that in the swinging world where most claim they are sexually free or have an avant guard attitude towards sex and refuse to confirm to societal couple norms, it is still unacceptable or unconceviable for some, that a women is driving and taking control of her own sexual desires within a couple - that it can't possibly be true and she must be being controlled by her man if that women isn't seeking pleasure from another man either for herself or for her man...whats up with that? (shrug) ...L x Personally I can't see what the problem is each to their own needs but think there are awful lot of people with double standards on this site at the moment which I think is pissing alot of people off.

Double standards like what?Can only speak from personal experience twice I've messaged women who are married and hubby doesn't know only to be told they don't see married men who are cheating pot and kettle spring to mind, also married men get ostracised on here but you rarely here people saying the same about cheating married women!

They can meet whoever they like. Maybe they don't want the added complication of both cheating.

Married men are terrible. Married women have pussy. "
your right they're free to see who ever they want but I found it very hypocritical same as couples who stat no married men but don't stat the same about married women. So what your saying is its OK for women to cheat but not men, sort if proves my point.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Speaking as the female half of a couple we originally only met as a couple but quite often found it hard to find couples that we were both totally attracted to and compatible with.

We have been meeting others as singles and I have no problem getting meets on here but the hubby does not have much success. In fact he has been unable to get a meet on here but does when he has a night out. He finds that a lot of women on here are not interested in married men or ont believe he has my approval.

Although I have never tried to arrange a meet for him as believing folk would think it was him pretending to be me, as some have pointed out, I can see why some women would. "

in same situation here

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I would meet a man playing with permission, my partner plays alone with my full permission and encouragement.

I wouldn't want to be at a meet when he meets a woman/couple, it's just not my thing. However I do enjoy hearing all about it when he's back.

I get why single women don't always choose men playing with their other half's consent, but as I'm happy for my partner to do so, then I'd be happy to meet a man who does the same.

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By *ravellerukMan
over a year ago

highbridge/Burnham

As a man in that position we have chosen to meet singly because childcare arrangement limit our ability to meet as a couple.

When we can we do meet together, but when we can’t we meet solo and both of us have for a big kick from the other being out having fun.

That said I can fully understand why the “other party” would want the full undivided attention of their partner, but others enjoy that naughty thrill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot Husband then Single fella for dessert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not fussed xx

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Honesty is what matters.

If a man or woman are married and meeting behind their partners back then admit it. Not sure we would meet as would not ever want to be part of something that could cause unhappiness to someone, but never say never I guess?

If they (man or woman) claim they are meeting/swinging alone in full knowledge of their partner then that is fine but we would want to verify that with the other half to be sure first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot husband

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been contacted a lot lately about having sex with someone elses fella and sending him home throughly shagged. My profile states I'm not into it and tbh its not a kink I'm keen on. I’d rather meet a completely single man who’ll engage with me without worrying about a partner.

My question is for single women which would you choose and why?

I’m also partly curious about why women want to send their chap out to shag others. Why not a threesome where the lady watches?

I’d certainly like to understand this kink more. More knowledgeable and less ignorant "

For us biggest turn is watching each other having fun but have had the odd singles meet too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been contacted a lot lately about having sex with someone elses fella and sending him home throughly shagged. My profile states I'm not into it and tbh its not a kink I'm keen on. I’d rather meet a completely single man who’ll engage with me without worrying about a partner.

My question is for single women which would you choose and why?

I’m also partly curious about why women want to send their chap out to shag others. Why not a threesome where the lady watches?

I’d certainly like to understand this kink more. More knowledgeable and less ignorant

For us biggest turn is watching each other having fun but have had the odd singles meet too"

That’s why I’d choose a hot husband and then the wife can watch if she likes

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I've had offers but never took one up , more by lack of interest in the said husbands than anything else.

I am also rather suspicious and suspect that the profiles/offers are not genuine .

But should the right couple came along I would consider it . No wife standing at the end of the bed watching though

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I'd potentially prefer a hot husband - the dynamic is a lot easier for me on the whole (what with me having a partner also). The downside is that sometimes hot husbands can describe sex in quite a cold way. I like to genuinely like people that I have sex with and often they've wanted to just meet and have sex and keep social interactions at a distance. That's not so much for me.

So probably either/or.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

It is sad to hear the negative stories on here. Not all wives are jealous and not all husbands are cheats.

I feel it is best to be open and hope that there should be less drama as I am not looking for commitment. That doesn't mean that anyone I meet is disrespected or treated badly though.

Hot wives seem to be far more accepted on fab for some reason.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"It is sad to hear the negative stories on here. Not all wives are jealous and not all husbands are cheats.

I feel it is best to be open and hope that there should be less drama as I am not looking for commitment. That doesn't mean that anyone I meet is disrespected or treated badly though.

Hot wives seem to be far more accepted on fab for some reason. "

I agree, it does appear Hot Wifing is considered more “acceptable” (or at least more accepted) on Fab vs Hot Husbanding?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Single always.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Singles but will meet married men if wife’s knows about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is sad to hear the negative stories on here. Not all wives are jealous and not all husbands are cheats.

I feel it is best to be open and hope that there should be less drama as I am not looking for commitment. That doesn't mean that anyone I meet is disrespected or treated badly though.

Hot wives seem to be far more accepted on fab for some reason. "

I don't know that it's to do with acceptance. It's just not as common

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"It is sad to hear the negative stories on here. Not all wives are jealous and not all husbands are cheats.

I feel it is best to be open and hope that there should be less drama as I am not looking for commitment. That doesn't mean that anyone I meet is disrespected or treated badly though.

Hot wives seem to be far more accepted on fab for some reason.

I don't know that it's to do with acceptance. It's just not as common "

Yeah true. Wonder why? Wonder if that says anything about a (generalising) a difference between men and women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been contacted a lot lately about having sex with someone elses fella and sending him home throughly shagged. My profile states I'm not into it and tbh its not a kink I'm keen on. I’d rather meet a completely single man who’ll engage with me without worrying about a partner.

My question is for single women which would you choose and why?

I’m also partly curious about why women want to send their chap out to shag others. Why not a threesome where the lady watches?

I’d certainly like to understand this kink more. More knowledgeable and less ignorant "

We'd think a hothusband would be more reliable, more thoughtful and less drama than a single guy! A huge number of 'single' guys on here, aren't. A high % also don't have any useful experience playing with couples or groups, are using fab like tinder, but can't follow through with a decent performance as they're not used to the dynamic! Plus there's the chance to confirm with their OH that they can play without worrying about any potential drama.

We find that guys from couples tend to make more effort on a meet then single guys and understand requests and scenarios better!

Of course, there will be good single guys that do these things too, but as a choice, we'd assume a HH would be better.

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