FabSwingers.com forum: Does your children know you swing?if they discover you are into this lifestyle.what will you expect?

By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

As for me.That will be morally devastating. What about you?

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

If I had discovered that my parents were swingers I would find that devastating ,that's my honest opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we very recently came out to our family that we are poly, we wanted everyone to know incase they saw us out with someone, we said we have been swinging for years and it has lead to becoming poly, everyone was really grateful we had told them and thought how respectful it was of us, we have 7 kids between us, all were OK about it, once they realised we weren't splitting up, except lisa oldest, he is 20 and isn't speaking to us atm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have told our grown up kids that we have been to clubs,they just take the piss out of us

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

Our kids know we swing. Their initial reaction was 'Oh no..... Mum, Dad, yuchhhh....' but other than occasionally reminding us we're way too old to have sex we never hear about it now.

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By *edHeadedFunWoman
over a year ago

Didsbury

I told my family including my eldest about my lifestyle choice around 7 years ago they were great about it, non judgemental and supportive. My youngest now knows he is 19. I know I am really lucky to have the family and friends I do. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kids know.I would rather them hear it from me than be told by someone else.

They are, and have always been fine about it.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

The children don't know but probably wouldn't be surprised, they know use to go to a naturist club and still see friends from there quite often( pre lockdown).

Frisky has a couple male friends that our daughter asked if Frisky had held hands, kissed or had sex with.

She was about 12 at the time, one of those tea spitting moments...

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

My daughter does but my son doesnt x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As for me.That will be morally devastating. What about you?"

I'm genuinely interested by your use of the term "morally devastating", are the morals you teach your children that far away from the morals you live by?

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

We don't say anything to our kids between us the eldest are 21 20 the youngest 14 16 not sure the reaction.what they don't know can't hurt them but also we know if they find out it could be detrimental it's 50 50 so unsure how they'd take it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep all our kids know they are grown up and ok with it , they never ask qustions and its rarely spoken about other than an odd off the cuff joke they choose to make now and again. Lot of our friends and some of our family know to . Its not something were ashamed of and most people who know are very curious about our lifestyle. Never really come across anyone who as been judgemental about it and most of our male friends who know are envious even if their wives aren't lol.

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By *stoppMan
over a year ago

Durham

My daughter at 25 found out I photographed glamour models both topless and nude, she wasn’t happy at first but once I explained they are over 40 it was ok.. not really true nor does she know of the 10yrs swinging, well you don’t tell them every detail do you..

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Ours know we are open/poly I think one knows we swing , she overhead a call once. They thinks it’s strange, one is cool with it one has an issue.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No. Our kids know nothing about our sex life and we know nothing about theirs. It's nothing to do with morality and everything to do with respecting our privacy and theirs. We acknowledge and respect that other families are different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, although we think our eldest daughter might suspect something. All of our kids are grown up now, we don’t concern ourselves with their sex lives and don’t see why they would with ours.

They probably think we’re too old now anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My eldest knows. She knew something wasn't right and kept questioning me. She thought I was cheating on my husband. So I discussed it with my hubby he agreed we should tell her.

She is fine with it aslong as I wasn't cheating on him that was her main concern bless her.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

What goes on in the bedroom stays in the bedroom

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"As for me.That will be morally devastating. What about you?"
my older kids know. I also know my parents were swingers.. although I didnt know till my mum died x

My younger kids just know I don't do relationships. And think I'm a nun I think x

Of my 3 oldest. The only thing that's bothers my son is that I'm safe. One daughter doesnt care.. the other is on here herself anyway so why would she judge x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son knows I am on here. He's an adult and is happy as long as I am... He is even friends with my fwb... I don't hide this from my family or friends. I don't see the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never see my grandchildren again if they knew i was a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not, we don’t talk about our sex life with our Children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As for me.That will be morally devastating. What about you? my older kids know. I also know my parents were swingers.. although I didnt know till my mum died x

My younger kids just know I don't do relationships. And think I'm a nun I think x

Of my 3 oldest. The only thing that's bothers my son is that I'm safe. One daughter doesnt care.. the other is on here herself anyway so why would she judge x"
is that wierd knowing your daughter is on here?. I'm guessing you would just avoid her profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they don't,and if they ever found out we would deny deny deny

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"As for me.That will be morally devastating. What about you? my older kids know. I also know my parents were swingers.. although I didnt know till my mum died x

My younger kids just know I don't do relationships. And think I'm a nun I think x

Of my 3 oldest. The only thing that's bothers my son is that I'm safe. One daughter doesnt care.. the other is on here herself anyway so why would she judge x is that wierd knowing your daughter is on here?. I'm guessing you would just avoid her profile."
not really. Was more difficult when I had to schedule club meets to avoid her. She has taken a back step in recent years... she never tells people she Is my daughter either.

I didnt choose to tell my older kids though. The 3 that know.. found out because of someone outing me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As for me.That will be morally devastating. What about you? my older kids know. I also know my parents were swingers.. although I didnt know till my mum died x

My younger kids just know I don't do relationships. And think I'm a nun I think x

Of my 3 oldest. The only thing that's bothers my son is that I'm safe. One daughter doesnt care.. the other is on here herself anyway so why would she judge x is that wierd knowing your daughter is on here?. I'm guessing you would just avoid her profile. not really. Was more difficult when I had to schedule club meets to avoid her. She has taken a back step in recent years... she never tells people she Is my daughter either.

I didnt choose to tell my older kids though. The 3 that know.. found out because of someone outing me "
well someone outing you is just nasty.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Glad you're teaching the next generation the true meaning of a loving relationship

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By *assy211279Woman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere Cornwall

My son disapproves if my parents did once it is their life. Would have done them good might have found a way to show me love. Still I will always care for my mum now.

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By *evernmanMan
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Son and daughter-in-law know I'm a nudist, don't know anything else, I think, but they do think I'm a bit odd.

My father, in his nineties, now knows what I have been up to.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

A lot of our family know as does our eldest daughter she is fine about it

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Both daughters and their partners know, they don't mind, but we don't discuss it in front of them.

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

I salute your courage.Those who are able to convinced their children regarding this lifestyle. The word swinger in my household is a taboo.mostly my eldest daughter. We will get slaughtered.We can't risk it.The wrath will be unbearable for me and my partner.

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By *ikkevCouple
over a year ago

larkhall

our kids know we go to clubs and stuff

Doesnt seem to bother them they are 16 and 14

Saying that the wee on just says dont wanna know lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I salute your courage.Those who are able to convinced their children regarding this lifestyle. The word swinger in my household is a taboo.mostly my eldest daughter. We will get slaughtered.We can't risk it.The wrath will be unbearable for me and my partner."

Obvs I don't know your daughter but even I'm scared now

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Your sex life is nothing to do with your daughter. She does not need to know and there's no need to tell her. Your private life is none of her business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As for me.That will be morally devastating. What about you?"

Depends on the ages of the children...

Mine knew about my kinky, fetish way at 16.Told her about my swinging antics and the clubs, when she was 18.

Think you know your own kids, when to tell them about this lifestyle...

In my opinion it isn't great never to tell them at all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"As for me.That will be morally devastating. What about you?

Depends on the ages of the children...

Mine knew about my kinky, fetish way at 16.Told her about my swinging antics and the clubs, when she was 18.

Think you know your own kids, when to tell them about this lifestyle...

In my opinion it isn't great never to tell them at all. "

Why's that? I'm just interested not arguing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our daughter knows and she says " whatever makes up happy excited and in love with each other. One of daughters friends who "happened" to drop on our profile recognised my tattoos and instantly knew who it was and grassed us up lol. Our son doesnt know.

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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your sex life is nothing to do with your daughter. She does not need to know and there's no need to tell her. Your private life is none of her business "

It will be worse when she finds out from someone else, or just by accident though, no? My family know for safety reasons too... Imagine if something happens on a meet and they find out that way?! If everyone was truthful, it wouldn't be so hard to handle. I think my Son thinks it's funny. You don't have to discuss in detail, just be honest.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Your sex life is nothing to do with your daughter. She does not need to know and there's no need to tell her. Your private life is none of her business

Not telling our children about our private life isn't untruthful. There are a lot of things about our intimate relationship physical and emotional that they don't know. If they found out some other way we'd say it's our private life and leave it at that. The op has a different family dynamic and is worried that his children will think badly of him which is a shame.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Yes my youngest knows cos he lives with me and I ran out of excuses of where I was going so I told him .. he doesn’t know the ins and outs of it ... we are really close so not a problem ... the other 2 who are in their 30s don’t ... they would die ..... not so favorable with them

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"we have told our grown up kids that we have been to clubs,they just take the piss out of us

My youngest does this to me ... we have a saying .... Eyes wide shut meeting ????

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

Obvs I don't know your daughter but even I'm scared now

The constant repetition of (so dad you swing?) (Dad tell me that is not true). That will become the daily mantra.look I am OK with it.But my partner will bore the full brunt.That is due to our Christianity faith.No way

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

No. And it is more so the EX doesn't use it as reason to stop them coming over!

Cannot afford another 3year court battle just to see my childern.

Latexkink.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"I would never see my grandchildren again if they knew i was a swinger

That’s terrible .....So sad

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Obvs I don't know your daughter but even I'm scared now

She doesn't need to know.

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By *ilkyladyWoman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

I don't discuss my sex life with anyone really, I used to with my mate, but not any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sher talks about it to her kids they just shrug bit embarrassing when she shows her daughter my cock though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our daughter when she was 17, found the box containing Mrs 'out out' outfits (see our pics !!!).. that took some explanation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obvs I don't know your daughter but even I'm scared now

Jesting aside, I know that other peoples reactions to our lifestyle choices can trigger dualities within us (and them) that we're not even *aware* of. Add to that the threat of losing contact with your loved ones must be awful. It's a tough one. She doesn't have to know and if she does find out - it isn't your duty to convince her either way. Go with the flow, things have a way of working themselves out

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Obvs I don't know your daughter but even I'm scared now

That’s a tough one , one of my mentors is a Christian pastor & my running partner , I haven’t told him, but at some point I need to. That will be one interesting run to remember !!!!

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I remember being in a club smoking room chatting to an older lady who said that her daughter and son in law were members too and introduced her to the club and scene. Amazed me I must admit...

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By *tteve500Man
over a year ago

West Drayton

My mum and dad did. I was cool with it

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

That's why I didn't have my woman picture included on my profile due to visible ink-work her body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both parents admitted to me after seeing me on here. Awkward conversation but all adults about it.

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