FabSwingers.com forum: We cant because of our job?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is it with you people that wont send pictures because of your job?

Ok i understand privacy and respect it too but please keep in mind that you should only ask for what your willing to give!

Thats the last time i give my details to anyone without the agreement of getting them in return.

Some people on here must think they run the country their job is that high profile... get over yourselves and take your heads out of your backsides!!

Rant over, Have a wanderful evening x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

makes you wounder if they would turn up on a social or play meet with a bag over there heads

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"makes you wounder if they would turn up on a social or play meet with a bag over there heads"

Don't tempt fate - some have asked this of me in the past! lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"makes you wounder if they would turn up on a social or play meet with a bag over there heads

Don't tempt fate - some have asked this of me in the past! lol."

Hahaha, i thought it was just me

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

maybe they do run the country

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol thats a good point.

I wouldnt mind so much but i gave address, Face pics the lot... But point blank refusal when i asked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they turn up will they arrive with a bag on their head?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

yet some are happy to forward by email

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha i really should read thro threads before i reply lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yet some are happy to forward by email

see now i have always put that down to a sneeky way of getting your email or phone number

Wont send on here but will happily text you a pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"yet some are happy to forward by email

Yes and i have an email just for that as i understand some people not wanting to put pics on here, Even in private.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh and a bit of advice for those who do use an email, Use one just for that as i once gave out the one i use for facebook .... Found!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"yet some are happy to forward by email

i dont mind sending them by email, but i dont give my no out to receive pics

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"yet some are happy to forward by email

see now i have always put that down to a sneeky way of getting your email or phone number

Wont send on here but will happily text you a pic

exactly, as is if you'll give out those details so easily

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"yet some are happy to forward by email

i dont mind sending them by email, but i dont give my no out to receive pics"

but that is 'safer' than through the site??

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"yet some are happy to forward by email

see now i have always put that down to a sneeky way of getting your email or phone number

Wont send on here but will happily text you a pic

had that the other day, and the profile is now no longer in use.

glad i never gave a number out now.

as to OP, i had contact of a couple that said it, and on further digging, he was a plumber.

now, judging by what some threads about handymen have described,i would have thought he would be happy to get his face out there so he could get all the lonely housewives knowing him lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol i think your right.

To be honest i dont really care that they consider their jobs or themselves to be above it all.. Thats up to them

Its when im asked for so much detail and willingly (Stupidly?) giving it and them not returning that favour.

It takes a lot of trust and guts on this site to send personal details and you get some idiots who take advantage of those of us that are too bloody open lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had one who told us exactly the area he worked and also said his job was realy high profile so now way could ha post face pics on here turns out with the details he did give that hes a very high profile second hand car dealer ffs

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"yet some are happy to forward by email

i dont mind sending them by email, but i dont give my no out to receive pics

but that is 'safer' than through the site??"

maybe they dont want the risk of someone copying the pics with the fabswingers watermark all over them?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I understand not having a public face pic, but there is no reason not to have a private one to send with messages. Surely if you are wanting to meet people they will have to see what they look like eventually.

I don't meet guys who won't message me a pic, and I don't give out my phone number or email til the meet is arranged. So if they are so important that they can't let me see what they look like, well, sucks to be them I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one couple i met the guy turned out to be the local dj on the morning radio show ,,,, i always chuckle when hes on ,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand not having a public face pic, but there is no reason not to have a private one to send with messages. Surely if you are wanting to meet people they will have to see what they look like eventually.

I'm the same, if they aren't willing to send a pic then there's no point getting into conversation because I'm never going to meet them x

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I don't see how its any unsafer having a pic on here than sending by email apart from a pic on here will have the profile name on it so I suppose that could worry some people

I did have someone send a face pic by email recently,well it was meant to be a face pic,it was actually half a blurred face in the corner of the pic and the main pic being a pair of open legs and a pussy

Not really what I was expecting and not acceptable to me as a face pic when I send clear recent ones if im interested in someone

Im not going to meet up after seeing only half a blurred face and I don't expect anyone to meet us without seeing what we look like either

If you're too worried about your job to allow people to see you via a pic or on cam then don't swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yayyy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am one of those with a sensitive job, There are less than 400 people that do what I do in the whole country. Casual friends only know that I work for the government and my job title is kin to my direct line.

I still give out face pics, there are no naked pics of me on here and I never send them because they could be a risk, but seriously what risk is there to me in being here. I don't log on from work, I don't talk about work - what could happen to me if my bosses found out - fuck all is the answer, I'm not bringing the job in to disrepute.

People that use the excuse are just talking bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they feel that they cannot show their pics 'because of their job' is that not up to them ? Kinda like their choice ???, in much the same way as if you don't like the fact, that you can move on to a profile who is happy to show their pics.

Stop moaning and picking fault - enjoy the site for what it has to offer, not what in your opinion it isn't offering !

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

A friend of mine once used his play msn address to send pics to my play msn....

No problem at all until I joined Facebook under my real name...

It obviously did something to link the 2 msn accounts and suddenly I had access to his REAL Facebook account with all his personal info.

I now know where he lives and works, where his family work, and Ive seen some lovely pics of his wife and family....

One reason why I only share pics in private on here rather than msn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a Mr. D. Cameron as a playmate yesterday. Are you telling me I should have got his mobile number?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

We don't have a face pic on here and that is because our jobs are important to us as they bring in the money we need.

There is nothing about work being high profile or more important than someone elses.

Put quite simply, there have been stories on here about people who have been outed and it's not a pleasant experience. It's one thing to say it's illegal to discriminate based on sexuality, but another to test that theory.

Whilst in his job, it would be embarrasing and could lead to unwanted attention (not from admirers). In her job put quite simply if the people she worked for found out, it would make her job untenable.

We would have no problem sending a face picture, if we intended to meet up with a couple. But we'd like to assure ourselves we where dealing with an actual couple first, so a quick phone chat or webcam so we can all show we are as genuine as we can be outside a face to face meeting.

It still carries a risk of being outed if the couple in question are a couple of Trolls who want to do that to people, but all things carry a risk and we all do what we think is best to minimise it, or have it at an acceptable level to us.

I've no doubt that in a different environment we would careless about being open about swinging, but that's not the environment we are in and we are never really likely to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not read all replies to this; but i add my _iews all the same; which might repeat some of whats been said already

Peoples privacy is sacred t them and for whatever reasons its thier privlage to reveal if they so wish ; if however you decided to reveal EVERYTHING about you on a "promise" then thats not right as they lied to you

so word of caution for future i guess; only reveal when you fixing meeting etc

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they feel that they cannot show their pics 'because of their job' is that not up to them ? Kinda like their choice ???, in much the same way as if you don't like the fact, that you can move on to a profile who is happy to show their pics.

Stop moaning and picking fault - enjoy the site for what it has to offer, not what in your opinion it isn't offering !"

I think maybe you've missed the point here, they expected everything but then refused to send even minor details about themselves but as I'm a single guy and very desperate then I must want to meet them anyway lol, they lied right through.. If they told me from the start it would be that way then fair enough, but they got my details including address by being very sly x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"but they got my details including address by being very sly x"

I would never give my address out, however good their pics were. I recommend in the future you find a nearby pub or cafe and use that as your base, then if all goes well (and they turn up!) you can all nip back to yours for the main event.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"but they got my details including address by being very sly x

That is good advice but to be honest I've not had the best experience with couples on fab.. Most have given themselves the impression they are well above single guys and therefore we do as they say lol, too up themselves for me... I have a few on my friends list that I trust and think I will stick to them if poss, you know.. Couples go on about single guys this and that etc and they really can be just as bad lol, if not worse! .... But then I know there are some really great people on here too :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with you people that wont send pictures because of your job?

Ok i understand privacy and respect it too but please keep in mind that you should only ask for what your willing to give!

Thats the last time i give my details to anyone without the agreement of getting them in return.

Some people on here must think they run the country their job is that high profile... get over yourselves and take your heads out of your backsides!!

Rant over, Have a wanderful evening x

Hubby had this...I was wary for him as I found it odd...they did have verifications so I thought ok...and surely you are going to see them anyway.... they were lawyers..and the meet didnt go well...pics or no pics...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahahahahahaha

OMG ...what a subject.....

I wonder if they know that they are on a sex site and not on facebook

If someone see their pic here all they need to ask is what is that person doing here in first place

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I don't see how its any unsafer having a pic on here than sending by email apart from a pic on here will have the profile name on it so I suppose that could worry some people

Not really what I was expecting and not acceptable to me as a face pic when I send clear recent ones if im interested in someone

Im not going to meet up after seeing only half a blurred face and I don't expect anyone to meet us without seeing what we look like either

If you're too worried about your job to allow people to see you via a pic or on cam then don't swing"

Hahahaha, suggesting they shouldn't swing: isn't that too.... radical?? Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"I don't see how its any unsafer having a pic on here than sending by email apart from a pic on here will have the profile name on it so I suppose that could worry some people

Not really what I was expecting and not acceptable to me as a face pic when I send clear recent ones if im interested in someone

Im not going to meet up after seeing only half a blurred face and I don't expect anyone to meet us without seeing what we look like either

If you're too worried about your job to allow people to see you via a pic or on cam then don't swing

Hahahaha, suggesting they shouldn't swing: isn't that too.... radical?? Lol."

Unless of course people are happy to meet like that,or all meet up with a paper bag over their heads...............that could be interesting when I think about it

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

"If you're too worried about your job to allow people to see you via a pic or on cam then don't swing"

Equally one could say if you're too worried to show your verifications then don't swing.

Everyone has their own levels of privacy and it isn't really for anyone to question them.

However, if you ask for a photo then it's only right that you supply one too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *tensonSwingersCouple
over a year ago

Stenson Fields

"What is it with you people that wont send pictures because of your job?

Ok i understand privacy and respect it too but please keep in mind that you should only ask for what your willing to give!

Thats the last time i give my details to anyone without the agreement of getting them in return.

Some people on here must think they run the country their job is that high profile... get over yourselves and take your heads out of your backsides!!

Rant over, Have a wanderful evening x

Hmmm. I work for HMRC, yes I am above the law and yes, I can find out EVERYTHING about you!....some people really do have jobs that require utmost discretion!....

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"If you're too worried about your job to allow people to see you via a pic or on cam then don't swing

Equally one could say if you're too worried to show your verifications then don't swing.

Everyone has their own levels of privacy and it isn't really for anyone to question them.

However, if you ask for a photo then it's only right that you supply one too."

exactly right that everyone has different levels of privacy,I dont do blind dates,I also have a sensitive job but I will show anyone that I meet a picture of me and I expect the same in return which is what the thread was about,as I said I don't do blind dates and would'nt expect anyone to meet me either without a pic,those that are happy to do that can if they want

The same as I don't expect to have to show a list of what people think I fuck like,nor do I expect a list of what people think about them

Im perfectly capable of working it out for myself

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"makes you wounder if they would turn up on a social or play meet with a bag over there heads"

Or pixelated!

Or with eyes blacked out!

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am one of those with a sensitive job, There are less than 400 people that do what I do in the whole country. Casual friends only know that I work for the government and my job title is kin to my direct line.

People that use the excuse are just talking bullshit.

sorry but the last statement????...dont be so sure...irrespective of pics on a site...peeople in jobs that require codes of conduct always have to worry.Thats even from what they do in 'normal' life...such as drinking in public(or being super pished)-its one reason why some dont go on work nites or add work colleagues to their facebook.

whatever ur job is 2wheels am sure its great that ur one of the rare types to be employed, but national organizations(such as NHS!)...have a public image and sexual 'deviancy' is not what they would like o n the front pages...even if there isnt a pic to show the filthy fun.

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By *wad-tattooedMan
over a year ago

Kirkby

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By *wad-tattooedMan
over a year ago

Kirkby

i had this the other day. refused to send pic. but after chatting i really did want to meet. i send my postcode and phone number..... but NOT my house number. told them to text when they arrive and will give house number..

i then said i they wasnt my type i wouldnt play, got the reply "im not coming on the off chance you'll like me". well why the heck wont they send pics then!?!?!

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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

Easy one for us no photo no meet xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did the OP not see the bbc news item about the teacher that got suspended because of saucy underwear modelling photos?

I'd have to leave my job if my pupils saw my pics. A clause in my contract says i musn't do anything thst brings the school/profession into disrepute.

Some job fears are genuine

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By *exyLancs2Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

People that use the excuse are just talking bullshit.

Yes but if no reference was made to work all? Article 8 Human Rights Act means everyone has a right to a private life and freedom of sexual expression. Unless you're a vicar, there should be no issue if you don't mention work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but if no reference was made to work all? Article 8 Human Rights Act means everyone has a right to a private life and freedom of sexual expression."
that's not the same as having a right to keep your job

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By *herokee18Couple
over a year ago

Carlisle

I can understand some folk not wanting or being careful to show pictures, as some professional codes of practice class this "hobby" as bringing the profession into disrepute and can be struck off for it. Should one risk their livelyhood?

know this will invite further criticism but just stating a fact based on info from folk we have met.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"but they got my details including address by being very sly x

If some single men weren't so desperate, some couples/single females wouldn't treat them with such disdain.

People need to have some self respect otherwise they'll forever be jumping through hoops for the honour of a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that use the excuse are just talking bullshit.

regardless of article whatever of the blahblah act lol...a face pic is not mandatory to get a meet(its my preferred thing!) but sometimes u have to understand, a face pic gets into the wrong hands...some people are spiteful for no self gaining reason, apart from taking some sort of sick joy in knowing theyve sent something to a family member or work colleague or boss.Plenty of people can meet and see what happens on the meet(ie social meet in a pub), its not great to be told u arent attractive to the other people...but most would deal with it.

anyway...for some peoples peace of mind...if ur job and life mean that much to u (most would agree its pretty fuckin important), a non-met for not showing a simple photograph pales in comparison to the perceived consequences.

Dont belittle people who want the upmost privacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i can't show my face as I'm a member of parliament, on the plus side though, i have several residences that i get scot free and yet still claim allowances for, so have no problems accomodating for play

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton

I just can't give out pics under any circumstances. It's not just because of my job. There are loads of reasons why. I'd rather meet a guy I'm intersted in face to face but strictly no pics. If a guy doesn't accept that - so fucking what !!!!!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

read the 'jealousy' threads

read the 'professional' threads

observe the bitterness shown by some to the 'rich and successful'

go figure what actions some would do if they had a picture to mischief make with...

note 'SOME'

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton

In a sense, I'd love to be in a position to be able to give out a face pic like some people can. They obviously have no reason to worry if the pic should get into the wrong hands. What a simple life they must lead! All it would take is one nutcase on here if a meet didn't go well and that could cause mayhem - you never know who you could be dealing with. It's a complete no no no no . Guys can piss off if they can't accept it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just can't give out pics under any circumstances. It's not just because of my job. There are loads of reasons why. I'd rather meet a guy I'm intersted in face to face but strictly no pics. If a guy doesn't accept that - so fucking what !!!!!!

am up for a blinddate! lickKKKK!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"read the 'jealousy' threads

read the 'professional' threads

observe the bitterness shown by some to the 'rich and successful'

go figure what actions some would do if they had a picture to mischief make with...

note 'SOME'"

Great to see you back darling....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"read the 'jealousy' threads

read the 'professional' threads

observe the bitterness shown by some to the 'rich and successful'

go figure what actions some would do if they had a picture to mischief make with...

note 'SOME'"

I dont mind people saying they are professional, but its the mustbprofessional requirement that gets me.Maybe I should just lie.Maybe i should just fake my pics of me driving a big fuckoff car.Maybe i'd just like to be treated like an intelligent sexual human being, with plenty to offer irrespective of my social status.

While one will argue its about personal choice, be that granted yes of course.Also be aware its a rather outdated Maslow's hierarchy of needs _iewpoint.Anyway I rarely talk about employment on a meet...I'm a professional fanny licker.

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By *rs Robinson1Woman
over a year ago

Chapel Row

"What is it with you people that wont send pictures because of your job?

Ok i understand privacy and respect it too but please keep in mind that you should only ask for what your willing to give!

Thats the last time i give my details to anyone without the agreement of getting them in return.

Some people on here must think they run the country their job is that high profile... get over yourselves and take your heads out of your backsides!!

Rant over, Have a wanderful evening x

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By *rs Robinson1Woman
over a year ago

Chapel Row

"maybe they do run the country

lol

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Its simple. If they can't provide face pics (I'd have said a swap but my face pics are on public profile) or they won't exchange phone numbers, then there's no point going any further.

The rules and etiquette work both ways - if that's unfair to them then IMHO they shouldn't be on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well i can't show my face as I'm a member of parliament, on the plus side though, i have several residences that i get scot free and yet still claim allowances for, so have no problems accomodating for play

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omg you're Ed Balls aren't you! No wonder you're on here, Yvette Cooper looks a right frigid cow

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Happened to us last night - He was happy to send a face pic of the guy but not the woman, afraid we wouldn't go any further and they (He) got quite shirty about it. We certainly wouldn't meet the paper bag under the clock at the station even if they were wearinga big red rose lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had no problems meeting people with no pics on here. It has never caused me any problems whatsoever. I refuse point blank to have pics on here or email any. Once they are on a website they are on the internet forever and who knows what could happen to them. I am not bothered about not seeing pics from anyone either, I can make up my mind when we meet face to face if things are going further. Besides have you seen how many fake pics there are on here? Face to face is the only way to know for sure what people look like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the midst of recession I can't see why anyone would want to risk their job due to pressure from certain circles.

If a company wants to shed employees or if an individuals face doesn't fit they would be happy to use the 'Bringing the company into disrepute' line to send them down the road.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you work for the police, it is highly frowned upon to be on swingers sites let alone photos showing.

though I have a friend who is a policewoman and is really into humiliation and domination, been to a fetish club with her and that didnt bother her

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"What is it with you people that wont send pictures because of your job?

Ok i understand privacy and respect it too but please keep in mind that you should only ask for what your willing to give!

Thats the last time i give my details to anyone without the agreement of getting them in return.

Some people on here must think they run the country their job is that high profile... get over yourselves and take your heads out of your backsides!!

Rant over, Have a wanderful evening x

I have read the entire thread; that's all posts.

None adds anything of import to the first offering of the O.P. which in simple translation reads.....

I gave. I got nothing. I feel like a dick. I am a dick! I must go and redress the dick feeling by lambasting others for no reason other than realising I dicked myself!

All moralising dictating interference.

Know your own code.

Stick to it.

Calling others names doesn't change what you did.

Learn.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'd put a pic up but the bloke at the benefits office is an ubearable letch......

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I'd put a pic up but the bloke at the benefits office is an ubearable letch...... "

he also loves your cock

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

"In the midst of recession I can't see why anyone would want to risk their job due to pressure from certain circles.

If a company wants to shed employees or if an individuals face doesn't fit they would be happy to use the 'Bringing the company into disrepute' line to send them down the road.

why would being a swinger bring the company into disrepute? Last thing on my mind when having fun at a club is telling everyone where I work! Also if a work colleague saw me on this site or at a club they are highly unlikely to say something because it would open a can of worms for them too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the midst of recession I can't see why anyone would want to risk their job due to pressure from certain circles.

If a company wants to shed employees or if an individuals face doesn't fit they would be happy to use the 'Bringing the company into disrepute' line to send them down the road.

havent u ever heard of an anonymous tip???

I really dont get why people dont understand this concept.

I'm not saying I'd meet someone with no face pic(an edited face pic can be ok(as u getta rough guideline), but demanding a full face pic isnt on...again I'm saying DEMANDING!

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

If someone you contact lives miles away from you, and you trust them to be discreet, as most are, then there shouldn't be an issue with sharing the odd shot or two, despite your work.

If you're really publicly known then I guess there's other ways of going about it then. I'd not be put off by it though... discretion is good in this game.

Wolf

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

seems to me that a lot of people are ashamed to be swingers .... but hey ho that is just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems to me that a lot of people are ashamed to be swingers .... but hey ho that is just my opinion"

I'd more likely call it prioritizing ur lifestyle, over fucking other people.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"seems to me that a lot of people are ashamed to be swingers .... but hey ho that is just my opinion"

I am not ashamed, I just prioritise my respect for the employers who pay me a great salary, allowing me to live a fab life.

but everyone is different and not right or wrong, just what works for them.

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

"seems to me that a lot of people are ashamed to be swingers .... but hey ho that is just my opinion

I'd more likely call it prioritizing ur lifestyle, over fucking other people.

Oh I can assure you that I am discrete about the lifestyle I lead but I am not ashamed of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems to me that a lot of people are ashamed to be swingers .... but hey ho that is just my opinion

I'd more likely call it prioritizing ur lifestyle, over fucking other people.

Oh I can assure you that I am discrete about the lifestyle I lead but I am not ashamed of it"

me either!...fancy a shag?

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

"seems to me that a lot of people are ashamed to be swingers .... but hey ho that is just my opinion

I'd more likely call it prioritizing ur lifestyle, over fucking other people.

Oh I can assure you that I am discrete about the lifestyle I lead but I am not ashamed of it

me either!...fancy a shag?"

lol

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

"seems to me that a lot of people are ashamed to be swingers .... but hey ho that is just my opinion"

Surely if you can hide your verifications others can hide their photos? Are you ashamed of who you've played with?

People have as much right to hide/not have photos as other people have the right to hide verifications without being questioned on it.

The problem arises when people ask for photos but don't return them which I think is what the original poster was pissed about. The solution to that is, don't contact people that don't have public pictures ... simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the midst of recession I can't see why anyone would want to risk their job due to pressure from certain circles.

If a company wants to shed employees or if an individuals face doesn't fit they would be happy to use the 'Bringing the company into disrepute' line to send them down the road.

I can honestly say that if my boss learned there were naked public photo's of a senior account manager available online he would take a very dim _iew of it.

And like others say- office gossipers can make peoples life hell.

I work hard, sometimes take shit that I shouldn't have to and this is one of the things I do to shed off the stresses of work.

As such, its important to me and I am extra careful that those two worlds don't collide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I read a profile and like it, my next move wil be to look at the pics to see if I 'fancy' them. If there is no pic, I won't message. Not for any grumpy reasons, I'd just feel really awkward if I contacted them with interest, then didn't fancy them

I DO completely understand that some jobs make it difficult to post actual face pics into a site like this though.

I'll just go look elswhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with you people that wont send pictures because of your job?

Ok i understand privacy and respect it too but please keep in mind that you should only ask for what your willing to give!

Thats the last time i give my details to anyone without the agreement of getting them in return.

Some people on here must think they run the country their job is that high profile... get over yourselves and take your heads out of your backsides!!

Rant over, Have a wanderful evening x

Some don't but you dont have to interact with them if it bothers you just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

http://www.metro.co.uk/news/84333-raunchy-youtube-teacher-suspended

And that was just for 'raunchiness'. Imagine if it was full sex pics as people post up on here

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

My _iew is that I've got pictures on of me dressed as a lass, taking it at both ends. I wouldn't care for my boss, family, or pet hamsters to see these, but without pics there is no point as it means the person contacting you doesn't fancy you, they just want sex with anyone willing.

People are perfectly free not to have face pics and the like, but by the same score, I'm free not to meet them.

I'm not into blind date. Unless they have Cilla and our Graham, I'm not playing.....

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales

"seems to me that a lot of people are ashamed to be swingers .... but hey ho that is just my opinion

I am not ashamed, I just prioritise my respect for the employers who pay me a great salary, allowing me to live a fab life.

but everyone is different and not right or wrong, just what works for them."

So basically, what you are saying your employers that pay your great salary also own your private life?? Glad I don't have your job..

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

" Glad I don't have your job.."

cool, works for me.

all the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems to me that a lot of people are ashamed to be swingers .... but hey ho that is just my opinion

I am not ashamed, I just prioritise my respect for the employers who pay me a great salary, allowing me to live a fab life.

but everyone is different and not right or wrong, just what works for them.

So basically, what you are saying your employers that pay your great salary also own your private life?? Glad I don't have your job.."

I agree, that I dont think its fair for people to be sexually oppressed by employment factors.However I think I've learned(after coming off and coming on the swinging scene), that it is not ur LIFE.Quite happy to delete my profile, when its suited, and keep in touch with some people I've become 'proper' friends with.

I think when u take swinging(and all its other terminologies)too seriously, its a serious affect to ones life.

I respect the scene and what its about...but there is more to getting that extra bit of fanny or cock.

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