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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips? "
I am sure that if you are genuine, your time will come (cum ?) Just be patient.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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i think if a guy has a good profile and knows how to behave like a decent human being then they can do well on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips? I am sure that if you are genuine, your time will come (cum ?) Just be patient."
I like the pun there obviously not the best time to tell on here at the moment with lockdown.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i think if a guy has a good profile and knows how to behave like a decent human being then they can do well on here"
and what counts as a good profile? Any tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips? "

I don’t think there’s any sure fire way unfortunately, it’s honestly fluke sometimes what catches my eye over what doesn’t!

If you’re nice, polite and show a genuine interest then your chances are higher! I always like when someone picks something from my profile bio to comment on as opposed to ‘nice pics’, and being a bit cheeky can work too! good luck!

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By *ames SwordsmanMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Have to say I find it hard too. Reading profiles and replying thoughtfully takes time and everyone uses the site differently (winks ok/wink = block/wink for first contact etc). Seems hard to stand out when you think you’re sane, interesting and attractive but don’t want to ring alarm bells as a narcissist!

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By *zreal_rdgMan
over a year ago

Reading


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips? "

The truth is it won’t be easy. Most will neither read your messages or respond. We far outnumber women on here.

Never take it personally. Just keep being you.

Every now and again you will make a connection.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

I don’t think there’s any sure fire way unfortunately, it’s honestly fluke sometimes what catches my eye over what doesn’t!

If you’re nice, polite and show a genuine interest then your chances are higher! I always like when someone picks something from my profile bio to comment on as opposed to ‘nice pics’, and being a bit cheeky can work too! good luck!"
I will bare that in mind. I do read profiles and try to pick something to comment on that takes my fancy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

The truth is it won’t be easy. Most will neither read your messages or respond. We far outnumber women on here.

Never take it personally. Just keep being you.

Every now and again you will make a connection.

Good luck "
I try to keep beeing me, but sometimes you get the urge to change to try and up your chances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think if a guy has a good profile and knows how to behave like a decent human being then they can do well on hereand what counts as a good profile? Any tips?"
Don't think there is such a thing as a perfect profile. One persons perfect is another persons turn off.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Never found it difficult. Just be yourself, be a good communicator and respectful flirt, and invest in your profile. Simple

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By *udosMan
over a year ago

hull

Just be polite at all times show respect and dont behave like a child if rejected.

Persevere and you'll get there

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Might help if you start calling women, women and not females.

You need a face pic, because I'd never remember a bunch of dick/ torso pics.

Not sure what you're really after and what's on offer.

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By *istressdandsubtCouple
over a year ago

caterham

The only thing I would say to single guys messaging a couple , is read their profile , then read it again see what they are looking for and how you can bring it . Remember for a couple to invite a single guy to join them in their most intimate way is really a lucky thing so great t as such , also adress both if a couple, and dont start by nice tits or arse or I'm in the area,

As stated above there are more men than couples so it has to be respectful but also catch their eye .

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By *ysonfuryMan
over a year ago

Stockport

In my experience you have to make and effort to meet couples and single ladies. They are not going to come flocking they have lots and lots of choice. Read their profile and send a polite message. If they do not reply or say thanks but no thanks accept that. Some may not have the time to reply there and then so need to be patient too. Make sure your own profile says a little bit about what your likes are too. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies. Ill take everything said on board and hopefully getting involved on the forum and that will help.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips? "

Unless you look like a God, have a cock like a rod of iron and the intelligence of Steven Hawkins and the sexual power of Casanova you are pretty much screwed like your fellow male fabbers, chin up try a club when they reopen and lower your expectations with female Validation over riding our male entitlement on here.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"i think if a guy has a good profile and knows how to behave like a decent human being then they can do well on hereand what counts as a good profile? Any tips?"

My biggest tip is put in a bit of effort if you want people to take the profile seriously. would you really have sex with a 99 year old?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i think if a guy has a good profile and knows how to behave like a decent human being then they can do well on hereand what counts as a good profile? Any tips?

My biggest tip is put in a bit of effort if you want people to take the profile seriously. would you really have sex with a 99 year old? "
true, I made the profile quickly as at first was just looking what it was about. I have added more to profile and pics.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

Unless you look like a God, have a cock like a rod of iron and the intelligence of Steven Hawkins and the sexual power of Casanova you are pretty much screwed like your fellow male fabbers, chin up try a club when they reopen and lower your expectations with female Validation over riding our male entitlement on here."

quite a few men who are over 60 with average bodies do very well on here, so that rubbishes that theory.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

Unless you look like a God, have a cock like a rod of iron and the intelligence of Steven Hawkins and the sexual power of Casanova you are pretty much screwed like your fellow male fabbers, chin up try a club when they reopen and lower your expectations with female Validation over riding our male entitlement on here.

quite a few men who are over 60 with average bodies do very well on here, so that rubbishes that theory."

Women with daddy issue that a whole different theory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips? "

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now haha

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

Your profile and pics are good ones lockdown is over I'm sure you will get opportunities

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now haha"
I understand this. But I think global pandemic or not it doesnt alter the fact that getting responses from women is difficult for most men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile and pics are good ones lockdown is over I'm sure you will get opportunities "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now hahaI understand this. But I think global pandemic or not it doesnt alter the fact that getting responses from women is difficult for most men. "

Not most. All!

It’s just the way it is. You have to realise that woman get stupid amounts of messages on here. My mrs gets on average 1-2000 a day. An old friend once got 8000 in 24 hours!!!

Once you realise that, you’ll realise why it’s hard to get a reply.

Be yourself.

Join the fun

Attend a social (when they’re allowed again)

And as long as your face isn’t grotesque and you can hold a conversation, youll find what you’re looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now hahaI understand this. But I think global pandemic or not it doesnt alter the fact that getting responses from women is difficult for most men.

Not most. All!

It’s just the way it is. You have to realise that woman get stupid amounts of messages on here. My mrs gets on average 1-2000 a day. An old friend once got 8000 in 24 hours!!!

Once you realise that, you’ll realise why it’s hard to get a reply.

Be yourself.

Join the fun

Attend a social (when they’re allowed again)

And as long as your face isn’t grotesque and you can hold a conversation, youll find what you’re looking for. "
cheers buddy. Appreciate that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New band name: "Single Males & The Difficulty"

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I'd also suggest concentrating on the conversation with that one lady when she shows interest - it puts me off very quickly if I feel like someone is juggling conversations with several ladies whilst simultaneously openly flirting with anyone in possession of a vagina on the forums. Nobody wants to feel like just the next person on the conveyor belt of a lothario, and I'll make a hasty exit and leave them to the rest of their harem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd also suggest concentrating on the conversation with that one lady when she shows interest - it puts me off very quickly if I feel like someone is juggling conversations with several ladies whilst simultaneously openly flirting with anyone in possession of a vagina on the forums. Nobody wants to feel like just the next person on the conveyor belt of a lothario, and I'll make a hasty exit and leave them to the rest of their harem. "
I do try this.

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now haha"

Was just going to say the same myself.

You need to forget 2020 and look towards next year. Then of course you will get blocked by the people who don't meet if you haven't had a meet within 2 months of being on here.

It's numbers in actual fact. Makes outnumber couples 500 to 1 .

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now hahaI understand this. But I think global pandemic or not it doesnt alter the fact that getting responses from women is difficult for most men. "

I would recommend ignoring single women tbh. I was here before as a couple. My ex was bi . We never had any response whatsoever from single women. the high standards that a single woman on here commands far exceeds what 90% of males con attain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women like to feel special, so mentioning in your profile that you seek something particular could work. Personally I'm really put off by profiles that mention they don't have a type or are happy to meet any shape or size as to me it shows they would fuck anything (which, going by verifications, is the truth about loads of men on here).

I'd also suggest to put something about what you are like as a lover, how you like to please a woman (keep it clean) and include some turn ons.

With every message you send, make sure you have read the profile properly, match what they're seeking and ALWAYS include photos of yourself.

Treat every woman like you would a woman youbwere looking to date, address both people in a couple and just carry on being friendly, kind, funny and cheeky!

Hope you find what you're looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now hahaI understand this. But I think global pandemic or not it doesnt alter the fact that getting responses from women is difficult for most men.

I would recommend ignoring single women tbh. I was here before as a couple. My ex was bi . We never had any response whatsoever from single women. the high standards that a single woman on here commands far exceeds what 90% of males con attain."

I’d disagree with that.

I was here 10+ years ago when I was fat and baby faced and still met some absolutely wonderful ladies.

Not everyone wants or likes the same things. Some women won’t contemplate meeting a man without a six pack, others won’t contemplate meeting a man with one.

Different strokes for different folks.

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now hahaI understand this. But I think global pandemic or not it doesnt alter the fact that getting responses from women is difficult for most men.

I would recommend ignoring single women tbh. I was here before as a couple. My ex was bi . We never had any response whatsoever from single women. the high standards that a single woman on here commands far exceeds what 90% of males con attain.

I’d disagree with that.

I was here 10+ years ago when I was fat and baby faced and still met some absolutely wonderful ladies.

Not everyone wants or likes the same things. Some women won’t contemplate meeting a man without a six pack, others won’t contemplate meeting a man with one.

Different strokes for different folks. "

I realize there are different tastes etc .. but my experience , as both as a single and a couple , over several years has been that single women are the most difficult group to contact. Even my ex trying to meet other women had the same trouble. Neither of us where munters either . Not called unicorns for nothing you know.

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By *ecretpassion100Couple
over a year ago

Walsall

Dick pics put us off

Unless we ask so thats a tick

Address both members of the couple .not just female ..be polite and dont be pushy ..if we want a single guy we like face pics sent thats just us ..good luck ..m .c xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unfortunately OP, i think it's part and parcel of fab.

You'll get some women who endeavour to respond to every message, others that physically couldn't if they tried, and then those that have absolutely zero intention of it.

As others have suggested, going to socials (post-apocolypse), chatting to people through the forums etc, is a good way to open conversation, and find those of similar interests.

also, bear in mind the world has gone to shite at the moment, and a lot of people see zero point in coming on here, when they're unable to arrange meets.

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now hahaI understand this. But I think global pandemic or not it doesnt alter the fact that getting responses from women is difficult for most men.

I would recommend ignoring single women tbh. I was here before as a couple. My ex was bi . We never had any response whatsoever from single women. the high standards that a single woman on here commands far exceeds what 90% of males con attain.

I’d disagree with that.

I was here 10+ years ago when I was fat and baby faced and still met some absolutely wonderful ladies.

Not everyone wants or likes the same things. Some women won’t contemplate meeting a man without a six pack, others won’t contemplate meeting a man with one.

Different strokes for different folks.

I realize there are different tastes etc .. but my experience , as both as a single and a couple , over several years has been that single women are the most difficult group to contact. Even my ex trying to meet other women had the same trouble. Neither of us where munters either . Not called unicorns for nothing you know."

Well of course they are. Not disagreeing there! Just with your comment about high standards that certain women demand. It’s just not the case. I’d argue personality and connection makes more of an impression than the perfect body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll find that most women on here think they can always get better than they can . But those women find when they go outside there border and meet those better looking guys . The guys don't meet them again . So just move on to the genuine women who chat back

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now hahaI understand this. But I think global pandemic or not it doesnt alter the fact that getting responses from women is difficult for most men.

I would recommend ignoring single women tbh. I was here before as a couple. My ex was bi . We never had any response whatsoever from single women. the high standards that a single woman on here commands far exceeds what 90% of males con attain.

I’d disagree with that.

I was here 10+ years ago when I was fat and baby faced and still met some absolutely wonderful ladies.

Not everyone wants or likes the same things. Some women won’t contemplate meeting a man without a six pack, others won’t contemplate meeting a man with one.

Different strokes for different folks.

I realize there are different tastes etc .. but my experience , as both as a single and a couple , over several years has been that single women are the most difficult group to contact. Even my ex trying to meet other women had the same trouble. Neither of us where munters either . Not called unicorns for nothing you know.

Well of course they are. Not disagreeing there! Just with your comment about high standards that certain women demand. It’s just not the case. I’d argue personality and connection makes more of an impression than the perfect body "

My comment about high standards from certain women can be confirmed pretty quickly if you look at enough profiles. And from couples too. Not all but enough. And why not tbh ... There are so many guys to choose from .. it's the numbers game.

Personally and connection are important in some cases but please , this is a shagging site ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single male to 'make' it on fab. I find once I get talking to females or couples it goes well as I think im a nice guy to chat to etc. But getting the initial attraction/interest is the hard part. Any tips?

You’ve been on here 2 months. During a global pandemic and lockdown. It’s really not going to be a case of women hurling themselves at anyone right now hahaI understand this. But I think global pandemic or not it doesnt alter the fact that getting responses from women is difficult for most men.

I would recommend ignoring single women tbh. I was here before as a couple. My ex was bi . We never had any response whatsoever from single women. the high standards that a single woman on here commands far exceeds what 90% of males con attain.

I’d disagree with that.

I was here 10+ years ago when I was fat and baby faced and still met some absolutely wonderful ladies.

Not everyone wants or likes the same things. Some women won’t contemplate meeting a man without a six pack, others won’t contemplate meeting a man with one.

Different strokes for different folks.

I realize there are different tastes etc .. but my experience , as both as a single and a couple , over several years has been that single women are the most difficult group to contact. Even my ex trying to meet other women had the same trouble. Neither of us where munters either . Not called unicorns for nothing you know.

Well of course they are. Not disagreeing there! Just with your comment about high standards that certain women demand. It’s just not the case. I’d argue personality and connection makes more of an impression than the perfect body

My comment about high standards from certain women can be confirmed pretty quickly if you look at enough profiles. And from couples too. Not all but enough. And why not tbh ... There are so many guys to choose from .. it's the numbers game.

Personally and connection are important in some cases but please , this is a shagging site .. "

Haha touché!! Just saying it’s not the be all and end all.

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By *inkydarkness90Man
over a year ago

North West

I've had my profile for years and I've always had to do a little bio rejig to make it sounds respectful yet insightful. It is very difficult to ever get a first message.

I guess women do get tons and tons of messages and it does get to the point they'll just bulk delete.

There's only so much you can do. I notice some will always want a minimum amount of verifications...which is obviously quite difficult to get some in the first place

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"unfortunately OP, i think it's part and parcel of fab.

You'll get some women who endeavour to respond to every message, others that physically couldn't if they tried, and then those that have absolutely zero intention of it.

As others have suggested, going to socials (post-apocolypse), chatting to people through the forums etc, is a good way to open conversation, and find those of similar interests.

also, bear in mind the world has gone to shite at the moment, and a lot of people see zero point in coming on here, when they're unable to arrange meets.

Px "
thats a great reply, the club scene hasnt really interested me as just not sure its my thing as a single guy going without knowing anyone. Ive just started using the forums and its really interesting and great to sort of 'meet' people I wouldnt normally come across on fab search. X

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