FabSwingers.com forum: Unsolicited friends requests

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on my mood. Sometimes I delete. Other times I wait for them to go affine, add them, peak their friend only pics, them delete the friendship.

Personally I think its rude to send a request if you've not exchanged a few messages first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on my mood. Sometimes I delete. Other times I wait for them to go affine, add them, peak their friend only pics, them delete the friendship.

Personally I think its rude to send a request if you've not exchanged a few messages first"

Affine. Wtf. Offline.

Bloody auto carrot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete.. Cos I cba

My profile says so clearly under the rant.. Lol

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By *uriouscats30Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Depends on my mood. Sometimes I delete. Other times I wait for them to go affine, add them, peak their friend only pics, them delete the friendship.

Personally I think its rude to send a request if you've not exchanged a few messages first"

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Friends normally after meeting don't mind hot list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?"

My personal opinion is they are ok if the person has engaged in conversation before and asked for permission. I get disappointed when someone requests but has neither had conversation with me or has any content at all on their profile. So carry on just deleting as it’s not your loss but theirs for not being polite.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

at the auto correct

We dont even look its just an instant delete

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I ignore them

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I often have a look at the profile then often just leave the invite as stops another being sent from that profile for a while at least

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?

Refreshing to hear from a single ? Guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I often have a look at the profile then often just leave the invite as stops another being sent from that profile for a while at least "

We generally block them after deleting the invite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I delete.. Cos I cba

My profile says so clearly under the rant.. Lol"

I tried stating not to send a request on my profile, but guys don't read, or choose to ignore

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Friends normally after meeting don't mind hot list "

Or at least a decent bit chat

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Again... wait for them to go offline.. accept, nosey (as thats exactly what they were doing to me) then delete.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

Mine sit in the infinite abyss

Every so often I bulk delete. Sometimes I'll wait til they're offline, look at their friends only photos then delete them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I delete.. Cos I cba

My profile says so clearly under the rant.. Lol

I tried stating not to send a request on my profile, but guys don't read, or choose to ignore"

The majority does seem to come from single? Guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes single.

I feel winks are fine. They are a way of declaring interest. They are available for all. If unwanted my friends content to be available to all then they would be public. People should have a little respect. What I do is ask them to add me if they wanted. I don’t send a request myself but respond to one I’ve asked for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Again... wait for them to go offline.. accept, nosey (as thats exactly what they were doing to me) then delete."

Lol we never thought of that

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By *rouble1998Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I delete, I only really accept people I know or I’d end up with loads of random pic collectors

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I get annoyed by the people doing this and it rarely if ever come to anythas hing positive in 10 years here - probably hundreds of them.

I occasionally wink them.

Most want to look at pics without scrutiny of their compatibility with us and our needs. Chancers, opportunists - who wants them?

I'd prefer someone to write and say that they are useless with messages but find me interesting than a silent request.

When I removed my private pics for a while, these requests stopped.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think also that people want you added as a friend to bank you for future sex opportunities, rather than adding to their hotkist

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Our profile says not to send them. So when people do we know they haven't read our profile. So they get blocked.

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By *elly babesCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Delete unless met face to face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I add them... Checkout their pics... Unfriend them and block them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get annoyed by the people doing this and it rarely if ever come to anythas hing positive in 10 years here - probably hundreds of them.

I occasionally wink them.

Most want to look at pics without scrutiny of their compatibility with us and our needs. Chancers, opportunists - who wants them?

I'd prefer someone to write and say that they are useless with messages but find me interesting than a silent request.

When I removed my private pics for a while, these requests stopped. "

Unfortunaltly I think wecare going to have to place filters on our account and possibly place more of our pics in our private ot friends only album

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Our profile says not to send them. So when people do we know they haven't read our profile. So they get blocked."

Pretty much the same as us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Delete unless met face to face "

If we have chatted then we may accept the request but never without at least chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?"
a friend in need is a friend in deed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think also that people want you added as a friend to bank you for future sex opportunities, rather than adding to their hotkist "

The only thing they can bank on is a delete and block lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?a friend in need is a friend in deed

But not if the friends request is not in need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone winked at me. And we had a really long nice chat. Chill it's only human!

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

"Again... wait for them to go offline.. accept, nosey (as thats exactly what they were doing to me) then delete.

Lol we never thought of that

It's often funnier than having a real hobby

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone winked at me. And we had a really long nice chat. Chill it's only human!"

Not saying its wrong to wink to show interest and possibly strike up a conversation if all parties are interested mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Again... wait for them to go offline.. accept, nosey (as thats exactly what they were doing to me) then delete.

Lol we never thought of that

It's often funnier than having a real hobby

Lol

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I often have a look at the profile then often just leave the invite as stops another being sent from that profile for a while at least

We generally block them after deleting the invite"

Thats harsh, some people interact / flirt in different ways and want to see more before a chat and assume that’s what it’s for

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By *wentMan
over a year ago

blackpool

"Depends on my mood. Sometimes I delete. Other times I wait for them to go affine, add them, peak their friend only pics, them delete the friendship.

Personally I think its rude to send a request if you've not exchanged a few messages first

Auto carrot

Affine. Wtf. Offline.

Bloody auto carrot "

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By *ymph and ManicCouple
over a year ago

North East

If you get an unsolicited friends request just leave it unanswered ...means they can’t send another one.

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By *orkshirefucktruck3Man
over a year ago

rotherham

everyone has view on this and their own wayof dealing with requests but to look from the other side,single males can spend time and effort typing a message only to recieve no reply,so the time and effort just pressing friend requst is quick and easy and if there was ever gona be forward intrest then the acepptance of friends can lead to chat.people would moan if they didnt get them and yea i get some dont want single men but weather profile hasnt been read or its ignored its not crime of century,how many mail asking if one is bi or asking to meet when 100 miles away its same that profile hasnt been read,majority of men go on pics anyhow.if u dont like it then im sure its not hard effort to block and then problem solved.

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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago

N Peterborough.

Unequivocally it's a delete & block for us. Says on our profile no friend request if we haven't at the very least messaged.

I think the fact a couples profile sent a cursory message & friend request which was swiftly revoked without comment by them once we accepted confirms this approach for us.

Too many picture collectors and egos out there.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We tend to leave them in the request part of FAB, that way they cant send you a request again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?"

Instant delete unless we've met. Pics are private for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often have a look at the profile then often just leave the invite as stops another being sent from that profile for a while at least

We generally block them after deleting the invite

Thats harsh, some people interact / flirt in different ways and want to see more before a chat and assume that’s what it’s for "

I find that a lot of users on here who are constantly whining in their status to “read their profile and don’t send friend requests or you are blocked” have such long profiles that the people reading them probably get bored and just press the friend request button anyway. Personally if I come across a profile with such a status or long profile I just ignore them as why would I want to bother communicating or even meet with someone with such high demands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?a friend in need is a friend in deed

But not if the friends request is not in need"
true but they can't do the deed if they ain't a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just leave them there in a little pit... occasionally someone who hasn't bothered to read the profile tries to add us. I just block them because it a very obvious they haven't read the top bit of the profile.

For the most part they not spoke to us just wanting a perv at the private pics...

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Delete from single men. that Seems to be the trend from them just requests to see our private pics without any convo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete and if from a single guy we also block as we’re clear on our profile that we’re not interested

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By *zreal_rdgMan
over a year ago

Reading

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?"

I’ll send a message asking them to introduce themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have written in our bio that we won’t add unless we have spoken so normally delete them,

Just shows who and who doesn’t read what you have to say,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re female I’ll be your friend

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

If unsolicited we block them, if they can't be bothered to say hello/read our profile then they've saved us time knowing they're not someone we want to chat with or meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't accept, I don't get annoyed and I don't think about. Has no impact at all, they just sit there. Not sure why anyone gets their knickers in a twist about it to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all use the tools of Fab to our own ends. Carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only had a couple of unsolicited ones; one was from a club owner/event organiser, so a different proposition than just another member.

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I just bulk delete them along with the winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often have a look at the profile then often just leave the invite as stops another being sent from that profile for a while at least

We generally block them after deleting the invite

Thats harsh, some people interact / flirt in different ways and want to see more before a chat and assume that’s what it’s for

You only have to read the top line of my profile to know I am not meeting, and my profile isn't that long that you could miss the part about blocking random friend requesters... If I get one, it means my profile hasn't been read so why would I want to add or even talk to someone that has no idea what I want or why I am here?

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan
over a year ago

North west

They tend to just sit in the friends request box for ages, sometimes when I’m bored I’ll accept, look at the friend pics and then unfriend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instant block , usually pic collectors

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I only add people who I'm physically attracted to or they had a fun chat with me on forum or dm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?"

Delete. At least ask to see your pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just ask people to re read our profile..weve specified no immediate friends request.. At that point they either delete the message or start with the abuse.. So we just block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just block them regardless .

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By *slimshady69Man
over a year ago

Jesmond

Meh, I’m partial to them, they’re harmless

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Depends on my mood. Sometimes I delete. Other times I wait for them to go affine, add them, peak their friend only pics, them delete the friendship.

Personally I think its rude to send a request if you've not exchanged a few messages first"

Hahaha so we aren't the only ones that do this then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I don't really mind. Mostly it's just people wanting to have a perve. It's harmless.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If you don't delete them, the user can't resend them.

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By *ymph and ManicCouple
over a year ago

North East

We just reply to some unsolicited friends request saying it’s a typical of the lazy single guy.Syndrome a reputation that they truly deserve ... no effort gets nothing in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats the harm? Really?

If you dont like it, delete and move on. People here acting like the sender has turned up at their front door!

Chill!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"If you don't delete them, the user can't resend them. "

Yeah maybe i should do that but i get inbox ocd. I clean out my request and messages if they don't interest me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?"

Delete as why would we want to share our private photos with people who we don’t even know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?"

If from a single guy then 99% always delete. An opening well written message first goes a long way.

If a couple or female we generally accept .

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By *heeseandWineCouple
over a year ago

Reading and Southampton

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?"
We generally just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I leave them so they can't send another for a while.

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By *ountry PeaksCouple
over a year ago

In The Surrey Hills

"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them

Whats other peoples opinions ?a friend in need is a friend in deed

But a friend with is better...

Disclaimer. Referring to a song not 420 friendly

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By *ountry PeaksCouple
over a year ago

In The Surrey Hills

Get a few despite reminders not to send them.

Ignore and wait to see if they follow up with a message or not.

It does appear that if we post a new pic the requests arrive, why are they not interest any other time ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone want to be my friend?

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By *stoppMan
over a year ago

Durham

I usually at lease 10 in a week if I post a new pic, if the profile interests me I’ll accept be that male or female.. profiles without pics etc get a instant delete because I perceive them to be photo collectors..

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

As soon as we say we are looking for women on our status we normally get them mainly from men.. Which isn't what we've asked for or seeking

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