FabSwingers.com forum: Anyone remember Desire Contact magazine

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We were clearing out a cupboard and we found underneath our filing cabinet a copy of Desire Contact magazine from September 2005.

How things have changed so quickly with the internet.

Looking through the advertising and wondering if all these couples are still playing??

We used it when we started playing and it worked fine but did take a long time to arrange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember ordering a mag after seeing an ad in the Sunday Sport Contact, never actually sent off any letters as I always thought they were a con and someone just cashed the postal order (do PO’s still exist) or cheque and binned the letters.

I also discovered swinging clubs shortly after, so the urge to try disappeared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rendezvous was the one I remember that came out regularly . But did buy others although lots of ads seemed very dodgy. Took heck of a long time to set up meetings. I think it took me amd my girlfriend at least six months to arrange our first MMF threesome.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We vaguely remember Desire. We used Rendezvous in 2000. There's one phrase that made us laugh.. "Long stayer and quick repeater"

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By *inks_n_GigglesMan
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Yes! Desire was the fore runner to Swing2Us and which was one of the first online swingers sites I used.

I remember sending a roll of camera film pics off to a discreet developer costing a fortune, then sending off the pics with the letter.

Bobby

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

I remember Experience from the mid 80s. I tried answering a few ads from there - remember these were pre-internet days, and you had to send your letter to the publishers in a sealed envelope, with a PO or cheque to cover admin/postal costs. The whole thing was a waste of time, money and effort. Thankfully, a few years later, I started going to swingers' clubs, and the rest is history.

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

We used Desire early in the 90s when we started swinging. Expensive to place a personal as we temember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i remember it had some fun with a few couples bit hit and miss but fun waiting for the post lol how things have changed !

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Loot use to be the weapon of choice, can remember but didn’t use it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Remember Rendezvous but it seemed a bit dark and a tad dodgy??

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"Loot use to be the weapon of choice, can remember but didn’t use it "

That was another waste of time. You placed an ad in print, then placed a 30-second phone message, and allowed others to leave a message for you with their contact details etc. The amount of male weirdos who responded to ads whilst having a wank (one hung up in mid-message after it was obvious he had shot his load!) were endless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It was expensive and with it all free now it’s unbelievable the changes the internet has made to swinging x

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"It was expensive and with it all free now it’s unbelievable the changes the internet has made to swinging x"

Exactly. I personally think the internet has broken the taboo barriers relating to porn and swinging, and helped to make them acceptable (is that the right word?). No more waiting over two weeks for a reply to your contact mag answer, which more likely said "no" - it's more instant, and less anonymous these days.

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

Underneath my bed-drawer.tons of desire and Rendezvous mag including loots ad. All the way to the late 80s edition of Rendezvous. The internet revolution destroyed the printing media.sad

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By *ndian gentMan
over a year ago

walthamstow

I used loot in 1990 and I met a few lovely ladies and two couples.

So it was successful in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used loot in 1990 and I met a few lovely ladies and two couples.

So it was successful in my opinion. "
Think you were in the minority. Never worked for us and in the end we just picked our victims naturally !

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

We gave up when we booked a swinger weekend through the mag; ir was cancelled but we never got our deposit back!

Shortly after we discovered Bristol Gardens Health Spa at Brighton (think there was only this plus Chams at the time) and our swinging really took off.

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Lol and Bi people referred to themselves as AC/DC

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

This was my first swinging experience too.

You would send off Polaroid pics to the particular add number. Some people would return the pics if you had enclosed a SAE and if you where lucky they would bring them to you when you met.

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"We were clearing out a cupboard and we found underneath our filing cabinet a copy of Desire Contact magazine from September 2005.

How things have changed so quickly with the internet.

Looking through the advertising and wondering if all these couples are still playing??

We used it when we started playing and it worked fine but did take a long time to arrange."

Was this the same as New Direction ?

I remember a couple of mags that where very similar .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found a lot more response in those days. I was younger, but folk were more trusting and willing.

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By *aughty Dad69Man
over a year ago

kent

Personally used rendezvous, took ages but high percentage were genuine, who would go to all that trouble to waste someones time.. now its just a couple of clicks..

Had great meets around the croydon / addington area.. great times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah the days of O and A levels!!

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By *urocougarCouple
over a year ago

watton

We used to used the contact mags a lot and met some great people

And there was far less time wasting idiots when they had to write a letter and send a photo phone number to arrange a social and go from there

People always showed up to a meet and party’s were big with plenty of full on fucking

The good old days we say

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

it was answering a loot ad that got us started a couple we spoke to told us where a club was near us and changed our world completely we went wild for about ten years running round the country going to clubs and parties both swinger and fetishloads of stories i could tell from getting slung out of a club when the police raided it in earls court to the ceiling collapsing in a club in haringey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes tried many years ago! Was such fun writing all those letters!

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

So much better before the internet no time wasting wannabies

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By *heothercouple1000Couple
over a year ago

Coventry

Remember Desire. It was a quality publication with some great articles and stories.

I took a three month free trial and it didn't stop for about two years.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

I remember the rendezvous one, depended a lot on where you lived. But most of the women turned out to be prostitutes on it or wanted gifts!

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Yes we remember that, used to get a free copy when we were ordering toys and lingerie from one of the websites in the early days of the internet, seeing the couples on there was probably what gave us our first glimpse into this world lol

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By *exy_HornyCouple
over a year ago

Leigh

We used Desire. Had a few good meets from it. As the cost was relatively high there seemed to be fewer time wasters than there currently are.

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By *teve261970Man
over a year ago

Gateshead

I used this & SwingMag in later yrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We found a few of these when we moved. I think we've still got them somewhere.

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

not desire, but I do remember finding my parents contact mag I think it was called good vibrations would have been early 70's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (was a 'We' at the time) took a free 3 month subscription and ended up getting it delivered until about 1999/2000 I think. I even had a letter published and claimed my £25. We never gathered up the courage to answer or place any ads but had plenty of fantasy-induced fucks reading the ads. Then came Swing2Us and out went paper-based filth ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha, takes me back!

We used to like them. Also loved Fiesta readers wives. Never responded or advertised in the contact mags, but we did get some meets from Loot personal section and managed to meet people in other ways.I suppose it's easier and possibly safer now, but good days for us

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By *rEfoxMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

It took ages to organise anything but the best bit was the anticipation of getting a letter through the post. Maybe even with a Polaroid inside!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh! Desire was a good mag for my ex wife and I. We had a few good lovely meets from there and joined a couple of clubs from the adverts.

Great great fun we had. It was the beginning of our swinging journey.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

"Rendezvous was the one I remember that came out regularly . But did buy others although lots of ads seemed very dodgy. Took heck of a long time to set up meetings. I think it took me amd my girlfriend at least six months to arrange our first MMF threesome. "
6 months? That's pretty quick compared to fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With my first live in girlfriend and later with the first wife we used Experience and Vibrations back in the early 70's. In those days people weren't bi, we were ac/dc. When did that change?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Anyone else remember these? Bushy private parts, AC/DC, long stayer/quick repeater, no mobile phones, reading a map to find somewhere. The internet was a long way off then

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By *iddyinfirmMan
over a year ago

Great Glen

I first came across Desire on I think it’s first ever edition in 1994 while living and working in West London. It was on the top shelf of a neat local newsagent and I was intrigued. They only had a few magazines on the top shelf (generally a thing of the past) and mainly more elegant ones like playboy. This was a glossy A4 magazine that looked really good.

I was attracted to it because it was for couples; although I had come across the alternative lifestyle in Scandinavia I was just intrigued that for the first time in mainstream print here in the UK (at last!) the guy was shown in the photos. I thought this was really cool and progressive: Although at the time Men could only be shown as tumescent and not fully erect. But at last it showed simulated heterosexual sex! Rather than just drooling over a woman.

I think the first edition also had an article on ‘Car sex and Dogging’ This was the first time I’d ever heard of the term; I didn’t realise that our penchant for having sex parked in the car and not really bothered if someone saw was actually a thing!

The whole ethos was body positive and I was really hooked; are we, at last, growing up about sex in the UK; like I’d experienced in Denmark and Germany at the time? Can we now have open and free discussions without being accused by the tabloids as being into wife swapping, pervs, orgies, smut, etc etc?

Desire magazine was a real ground breaker for me: it lasted in this A4/foolscap format for about 6-7 issues. Then it changed...

To A5, but thicker with loads of new ads you’d find in the tabloids like Sunday Sport, phone lines, in your face stuff. It’d clearly been taken over by some old school hack pornographer along the lines of Paul Raymond; all tits out smut. Desire did retain some integrity but it really just became a contact mag from then on.

Anyway thanks for the reminder! And thanks to the original magazine for opening my eyes to so many things; just by normalising them!

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By *iddyinfirmMan
over a year ago

Great Glen

Oh, and yes, I’m still playing!! 26 years later!!

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

Yes I remember it well Polaroids and letter writing self addressed stamped envelope lol they don't know how easy they got it now it's instant and just a button click

I'm still friends now with some people I met thru desire

And there was less time wasters or fakes back then due to effort we all put in if you wasn't genuine you wudnt go to trouble of writing showing my age but my passion for this life is still young

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

I used Northern Link in 80's 90's and had some bloody good fun although a few of the women were on the game and wanted money there were a lot of genuine couples.

Then found the tinterweb and Dirty Davids!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember saucy personal ads being in loot

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By *unkymale65Man
over a year ago

Worksop

I remember Rendevous. Happy days when you actually looked forward to the postman delivering the mail in anticipation of a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to use Experience and Vibrations back in the 70's and 80's. Took time to arrange and had many good meets.

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By *hippy57Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Experience I used,many good meets,met few from forum magazine,and few from contact section in h&e,as said took a while to eventually meet

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By *ackandruinCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We used Desire Magazine. The internet has made it much easier than waiting for the postman to call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used Northern Link in 80's 90's and had some bloody good fun although a few of the women were on the game and wanted money there were a lot of genuine couples.

Then found the tinterweb and Dirty Davids!!

Ahh yes, Dirty Davids! And Dean and Mattys - many happy filthy hours checking out ads! I kind of see Fab as a natural progression of these sites

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