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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " It's clear ageism lol everyone is so open minded but so not really lol just imagine some people have stopped George clooney contacting them ! Mick Jagger has no chance lol I can't get no satisfaction but I try and I try and ........  | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " Tricky one this as we opened our filters up on the back of a similar forum thread to this and got a mixed bag of messages through, We had lots of really nice guys who had taken their time to read our profile, addressed us both and were just as you said paying a compliment so no harm done and pretty sure those guys will do well on here. After all we do comment on the forums a little and a few of the guys have messaged us regarding comments and pics. On the flip side we have had a few (not many) pushy guys message, worst intros we’ve seen and definitely not who we would even chat with so just deleted those messages. | |||
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"It's a message filter. If I wanted messages from those outside my filters, I'd change my filters to let them." Yes,but it's not fair to the self entitled  | |||
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"It's a message filter. If I wanted messages from those outside my filters, I'd change my filters to let them. Yes,but it's not fair to the self entitled "Yup. I want what I want and you need to do what I want. Sorry, no. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " Do you have guys blocked, OP? | |||
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"You can fab their pictures. And comment on their funny posts in forums." Exactly this. Or even say "I like your pictures" in the forum. I don't want people messaging me off forum, that's why I put blocks on | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? Do you have guys blocked, OP? " Nope anyone can message me - as far as I know | |||
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"They have age filters on so they don't get mail from people outside of their age range. This means they also don't wish to receive messages about their pics from these age groups. Accept it and move onto those who are looking for people of your age. You can always fab their pics if you want to. Your ages are set between 25-74, is it fair on people either side of those ages? Apparently not according to your OP. " Fair point - will adjust them - did that when first joined Maybe a lot of others did as well | |||
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"They have age filters on so they don't get mail from people outside of their age range. This means they also don't wish to receive messages about their pics from these age groups. Accept it and move onto those who are looking for people of your age. You can always fab their pics if you want to. Your ages are set between 25-74, is it fair on people either side of those ages? Apparently not according to your OP. Fair point - will adjust them - did that when first joined Maybe a lot of others did as well " Quite possibly. I started with no age filters or range, very quickly realised that my fab experience has vastly improved since changing them to match my prefernces. There's been a huge reduction in unwanted mail which is a bonus too. | |||
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"You could have posted that here OP, not to my inbox, that's what the forums are for, open discussion. " I checked my preferences - I asked for people Mf and f. 25-74 but I have not blocked anyone of any age or sexy from contacting me - just looked Not guilty !! X | |||
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"You could have posted that here OP, not to my inbox, that's what the forums are for, open discussion. " Happy now | |||
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"What is frustrating about not being able to contact someone who wouldn't be interested in meeting you though? And as for not being able to compliment them - I very much doubt they'll be worried about missing out on the occasional compliment. I've found that it's better to focus on people that may be interested in me, rather than worry about how people that wouldn't be choose to manage their profiles." Spot on as usual.  | |||
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"What is frustrating about not being able to contact someone who wouldn't be interested in meeting you though? And as for not being able to compliment them - I very much doubt they'll be worried about missing out on the occasional compliment. I've found that it's better to focus on people that may be interested in me, rather than worry about how people that wouldn't be choose to manage their profiles." This | |||
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"You can fab their pictures. And comment on their funny posts in forums. Exactly this. Or even say "I like your pictures" in the forum. I don't want people messaging me off forum, that's why I put blocks on" I think I'll be doing the same with blocks as you now. Maybe filtered to the hilt is the way to go lol.  | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " No I like you wud love to leave a comment saying how gorgeous they look maybe they dont like complments | |||
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"You can fab their pictures. And comment on their funny posts in forums. Exactly this. Or even say "I like your pictures" in the forum. I don't want people messaging me off forum, that's why I put blocks on I think I'll be doing the same with blocks as you now. Maybe filtered to the hilt is the way to go lol. "I take them off once in a blue moon and if I like someone I'll message them. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? It's clear ageism lol everyone is so open minded but so not really lol just imagine some people have stopped George clooney contacting them ! Mick Jagger has no chance lol I can't get no satisfaction but I try and I try and ........ "Interesting comment to make when your age preference is 18-60... | |||
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"Almost everyone has some sort of preference and they are entitled to it. " I have read many times on the forums men state they have no preference in the women they sleep with just as long as they have good banter... When I have questioned them on this , I’ve been called judgemental.... So I’ve deducted that only women and couples state their preferences on the forums.. | |||
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"Almost everyone has some sort of preference and they are entitled to it. I have read many times on the forums men state they have no preference in the women they sleep with just as long as they have good banter... When I have questioned them on this , I’ve been called judgemental.... So I’ve deducted that only women and couples state their preferences on the forums.. " Very true. Some men absolutely lower their standards on here or go for women they normally wouldn’t go for just to get sex. I find that sad. Quality over quantity for me. | |||
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"If I’m not interested in arranging a meet with you, I’m not likely to want to engage in small talk. My experience of men sending a ‘I known I’m not your type but wanted to compliment you on...’ is that they are just an attempt to force conversation. I used to thank guys who send compliments but quickly realised it was just used as leverage." Absolutely this. They try to use the 'compliment' to try and arrange a meet, then are miffed when I've said no thanks because I've spoken to them politely and they haven't taken my preferences into account. Even worse, some get abusive, then get reported and blocked as well. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? No I like you wud love to leave a comment saying how gorgeous they look maybe they dont like complments" Compliments are fine, assuming we want to meet because of a response is not. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " Probably just you and other men filter blocked because their too old  | |||
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"You can fab their pictures. And comment on their funny posts in forums. Exactly this. Or even say "I like your pictures" in the forum. I don't want people messaging me off forum, that's why I put blocks on I think I'll be doing the same with blocks as you now. Maybe filtered to the hilt is the way to go lol.
I take them off once in a blue moon and if I like someone I'll message them."Just reset my age filters to a bit wider at the lower end, gone nice and quiet now. I think a lot of the time what people forget is that if you reply, that filter is broken to them, the only thing you can do after that is to individually block that person, so why bother letting them message in the first place? They would then moan about being blocked, no doubt. Seems we can't win either way and should just accept all comers regardless of what we are looking for ourselves. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? Probably just you and other men filter blocked because their too old "you say that about people being too old ? Where are your verifications and you suppose to be younger . To a lot of people age is just a number and also us older guys have a lot of experience and a lot of ladies enjoy that in a meet too | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? Probably just you and other men filter blocked because their too old you say that about people being too old ? Where are your verifications and you suppose to be younger . To a lot of people age is just a number and also us older guys have a lot of experience and a lot of ladies enjoy that in a meet too"He has 8 verifications on his summary, perhaps you should have checked before making that statement. Age is not just a number to those of us who only wish to meet a particular age range at all. Some of us don't want to meet older guys. Simple. Respect that and lose the sense of entitlement. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " its an awkward one in life it generally means nothing because you judge a person on look and personality but a number cut off is just a push of a button so i sympathise with you but these are the site facilities and as frustrating as they are for some you can't get beyond them or can you | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? Probably just you and other men filter blocked because their too old you say that about people being too old ? Where are your verifications and you suppose to be younger . To a lot of people age is just a number and also us older guys have a lot of experience and a lot of ladies enjoy that in a meet too
He has 8 verifications on his summary, perhaps you should have checked before making that statement. Age is not just a number to those of us who only wish to meet a particular age range at all. Some of us don't want to meet older guys. Simple. Respect that and lose the sense of entitlement. "point taken, I looked at verifications so missed that he had meets so apologies for that. But I am apologising to the wrong person. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " It's just people's choices. The filters are there for a reason. Leave them be. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? Probably just you and other men filter blocked because their too old
you say that about people being too old ? Where are your verifications and you suppose to be younger . To a lot of people age is just a number and also us older guys have a lot of experience and a lot of ladies enjoy that in a meet too"You really need to think a bit more before letting your fingers go loose on the letters 
If you're blocked because you're over a specified age range there's only one reason for it..... you're too old
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"It's a message filter. If I wanted messages from those outside my filters, I'd change my filters to let them." This ^^^ | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? its an awkward one in life it generally means nothing because you judge a person on look and personality but a number cut off is just a push of a button so i sympathise with you but these are the site facilities and as frustrating as they are for some you can't get beyond them or can you "You can if you lie about your age to get round filters, which some do. | |||
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"I mean the simple fact is age filters are there for a reason. You say you only want to send a compliment. But then you seem awfully annoyed you can't message. So would you get annoyed when a younger woman turns you down for being too old if there wasn't filters? Too many women get abusive messages on here when they turn someone down. Therefore it's less hassle if they block those they aren't looking for. Simple. If you don't like it, lump it " | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? Probably just you and other men filter blocked because their too old
you say that about people being too old ? Where are your verifications and you suppose to be younger . To a lot of people age is just a number and also us older guys have a lot of experience and a lot of ladies enjoy that in a meet too
You really need to think a bit more before letting your fingers go loose on the letters
If you're blocked because you're over a specified age range there's only one reason for it..... you're too old
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? Probably just you and other men filter blocked because their too old
you say that about people being too old ? Where are your verifications and you suppose to be younger . To a lot of people age is just a number and also us older guys have a lot of experience and a lot of ladies enjoy that in a meet too
You really need to think a bit more before letting your fingers go loose on the letters
If you're blocked because you're over a specified age range there's only one reason for it..... you're too old
Unless you have a better suggestion "Let’s see in a few years if you still agree with the word. ( Old ) | |||
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"Why not take it one step further and have height filters, hair colour filters, skin colour filters, cock size filters. Seems odd that age is the only filter. (Well of course there is the Not Looking for Single guys filter..not sure if there is an equivalent for guys to block single women?)" There are filters for all sexes, including MM, FF & MF. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " Having turned 60 in January I suddenly missed out on half the site, only to find this lockdown has fucked us all x | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. " What part of preferences do people not understand here? Age is only a barrier to those outside particular age ranges, as it should be if that's what the person wants. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? Probably just you and other men filter blocked because their too old you say that about people being too old ? Where are your verifications and you suppose to be younger . To a lot of people age is just a number and also us older guys have a lot of experience and a lot of ladies enjoy that in a meet too"Sorry but the “older guys have more experience” is rubbish. This is coming from someone who’s been with both older and my own age (26). There is literally no correlation between age and sexual experience. You can be shit at sex at 60 and amazing at 28. If someone finds you too old that’s their choice, not everyone has to like everyone. | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. " Considering yourself fitter than guys half your age doesn’t change the fact you’re 49 and if women don’t want to meet 49 year olds regardless of their body type or fitness level, that is their right. | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. What part of preferences do people not understand here? Age is only a barrier to those outside particular age ranges, as it should be if that's what the person wants. " This. Why do so many people want people who are not interested in them to reply to their messages or look at their profile? I think some must like the rejection messages or something.
It also makes me giggle that most who don’t like age filters have age filters set themselves. It’s not that they dislike age filters, it’s that they dislike that someone they want to meet has filtered them out! | |||
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"Yes I agree... I appreciate that an individual or couple may wish an age limit as they may not wish contacts from people who are too old or too young as they are concerned about wrinkly old man contacting them... Unfortunately some of us do look younger and have learnt a few techniques too... lol As they say with age does come wisdom. As to the younger ones out of age limit. There can be issues perceived such as indiscretion, being too quick in cumming, immaturity, nor knowing how to behave, etc... But it is nice to have a facility to compliment someone." Again, another post about people having preferences as their filters. If you are too old or too young for them, get over it and move in to someone who is interested in talking and meeting you. (you being used generally not specifically to you personally) | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. What part of preferences do people not understand here? Age is only a barrier to those outside particular age ranges, as it should be if that's what the person wants. This. Why do so many people want people who are not interested in them to reply to their messages or look at their profile? I think some must like the rejection messages or something.
It also makes me giggle that most who don’t like age filters have age filters set themselves. It’s not that they dislike age filters, it’s that they dislike that someone they want to meet has filtered them out! "age doesn't precede or replace interest its a site tool/barrier if you go to a club or social they dont exist, so one has to feel sympathy for the Op and i do, for me it doesn't matter because i never send introductory messages or want to compliment people who I've seen a pic of, i enjoy the pic simple as   | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. What part of preferences do people not understand here? Age is only a barrier to those outside particular age ranges, as it should be if that's what the person wants. This. Why do so many people want people who are not interested in them to reply to their messages or look at their profile? I think some must like the rejection messages or something.
It also makes me giggle that most who don’t like age filters have age filters set themselves. It’s not that they dislike age filters, it’s that they dislike that someone they want to meet has filtered them out! age doesn't precede or replace interest its a site tool/barrier if you go to a club or social they dont exist, so one has to feel sympathy for the Op and i do, for me it doesn't matter because i never send introductory messages or want to compliment people who I've seen a pic of, i enjoy the pic simple as "But not everyone goes to clubs, and there will still be some who go to clubs and ask the age, some people only play with those in clubs who they’ve spoken to on here or they might assume someone in a club is older than they actually are. I personally don’t feel sympathy. Because it’s quite simple, if someone isn’t interested in you they’re not interested in you. I wonder if the OP or any straight male who agrees with the post would have the same opinion if it meant they couldn’t filter out bisexual or gay men (or anyone else they’re not interested in) from messaging them or approaching them in clubs? | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. What part of preferences do people not understand here? Age is only a barrier to those outside particular age ranges, as it should be if that's what the person wants. This. Why do so many people want people who are not interested in them to reply to their messages or look at their profile? I think some must like the rejection messages or something.
It also makes me giggle that most who don’t like age filters have age filters set themselves. It’s not that they dislike age filters, it’s that they dislike that someone they want to meet has filtered them out! age doesn't precede or replace interest its a site tool/barrier if you go to a club or social they dont exist, so one has to feel sympathy for the Op and i do, for me it doesn't matter because i never send introductory messages or want to compliment people who I've seen a pic of, i enjoy the pic simple as
But not everyone goes to clubs, and there will still be some who go to clubs and ask the age, some people only play with those in clubs who they’ve spoken to on here or they might assume someone in a club is older than they actually are.
I personally don’t feel sympathy. Because it’s quite simple, if someone isn’t interested in you they’re not interested in you.
I wonder if the OP or any straight male who agrees with the post would have the same opinion if it meant they couldn’t filter out bisexual or gay men (or anyone else they’re not interested in) from messaging them or approaching them in clubs? "my point is age isn't filtered in life, one goes on looks and personality, you go to a club you don't always speak you just have sex sometimes you dont but age the number is never talked about its here yes as a filter but its importance is for the most part trivial based on life, you select numbers its superficial eg you select numbers 35-45 and a really nice handsome guy who fits your desires as a person has just that day turned 46 omg hes not allowed to message anymore but does that make him less eligible no it doesn't it just makes him held at bay by the triviality of a single digit thats my point the number really means nothing | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. What part of preferences do people not understand here? Age is only a barrier to those outside particular age ranges, as it should be if that's what the person wants. This. Why do so many people want people who are not interested in them to reply to their messages or look at their profile? I think some must like the rejection messages or something.
It also makes me giggle that most who don’t like age filters have age filters set themselves. It’s not that they dislike age filters, it’s that they dislike that someone they want to meet has filtered them out! age doesn't precede or replace interest its a site tool/barrier if you go to a club or social they dont exist, so one has to feel sympathy for the Op and i do, for me it doesn't matter because i never send introductory messages or want to compliment people who I've seen a pic of, i enjoy the pic simple as
But not everyone goes to clubs, and there will still be some who go to clubs and ask the age, some people only play with those in clubs who they’ve spoken to on here or they might assume someone in a club is older than they actually are.
I personally don’t feel sympathy. Because it’s quite simple, if someone isn’t interested in you they’re not interested in you.
I wonder if the OP or any straight male who agrees with the post would have the same opinion if it meant they couldn’t filter out bisexual or gay men (or anyone else they’re not interested in) from messaging them or approaching them in clubs? my point is age isn't filtered in life, one goes on looks and personality, you go to a club you don't always speak you just have sex sometimes you dont but age the number is never talked about its here yes as a filter but its importance is for the most part trivial based on life, you select numbers its superficial eg you select numbers 35-45 and a really nice handsome guy who fits your desires as a person has just that day turned 46 omg hes not allowed to message anymore but does that make him less eligible no it doesn't it just makes him held at bay by the triviality of a single digit thats my point the number really means nothing "None of this changes the fact that for SOME age is important on Fab and in life. I would certainly be asking age in a club, and I’m sure some other women/men would too, not all but some. None of this changes the fact that people are entitled to be as picky as they like on Fab or any other site that has preferences. Unless those who are filtered out are going to sit and wait in clubs until the woman they’re interested in on Fab turns up so they can try their luck and see if she’s as picky in real life, probably best to move on and focus on those who include you in their filters rather than those who don’t. | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. What part of preferences do people not understand here? Age is only a barrier to those outside particular age ranges, as it should be if that's what the person wants. This. Why do so many people want people who are not interested in them to reply to their messages or look at their profile? I think some must like the rejection messages or something.
It also makes me giggle that most who don’t like age filters have age filters set themselves. It’s not that they dislike age filters, it’s that they dislike that someone they want to meet has filtered them out! age doesn't precede or replace interest its a site tool/barrier if you go to a club or social they dont exist, so one has to feel sympathy for the Op and i do, for me it doesn't matter because i never send introductory messages or want to compliment people who I've seen a pic of, i enjoy the pic simple as
But not everyone goes to clubs, and there will still be some who go to clubs and ask the age, some people only play with those in clubs who they’ve spoken to on here or they might assume someone in a club is older than they actually are.
I personally don’t feel sympathy. Because it’s quite simple, if someone isn’t interested in you they’re not interested in you.
I wonder if the OP or any straight male who agrees with the post would have the same opinion if it meant they couldn’t filter out bisexual or gay men (or anyone else they’re not interested in) from messaging them or approaching them in clubs? my point is age isn't filtered in life, one goes on looks and personality, you go to a club you don't always speak you just have sex sometimes you dont but age the number is never talked about its here yes as a filter but its importance is for the most part trivial based on life, you select numbers its superficial eg you select numbers 35-45 and a really nice handsome guy who fits your desires as a person has just that day turned 46 omg hes not allowed to message anymore but does that make him less eligible no it doesn't it just makes him held at bay by the triviality of a single digit thats my point the number really means nothing
None of this changes the fact that for SOME age is important on Fab and in life.
I would certainly be asking age in a club, and I’m sure some other women/men would too, not all but some.
None of this changes the fact that people are entitled to be as picky as they like on Fab or any other site that has preferences.
Unless those who are filtered out are going to sit and wait in clubs until the woman they’re interested in on Fab turns up so they can try their luck and see if she’s as picky in real life, probably best to move on and focus on those who include you in their filters rather than those who don’t. "you're ignoring my point entirely I've never been asked my age in a club i dont even recall being asked my name, i appreciate choice and recognise the selection process and why they exist, age groups are important to in terms of influences and things you might enjoy doing, musical genres etc but a numbered digit isn't that important yes have a general age group that you look for but it doesn't need to be hard and fast, that just doesn't have a logical argument for the reasons I've said, respect people always but always question things that don't make sense | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. What part of preferences do people not understand here? Age is only a barrier to those outside particular age ranges, as it should be if that's what the person wants. This. Why do so many people want people who are not interested in them to reply to their messages or look at their profile? I think some must like the rejection messages or something.
It also makes me giggle that most who don’t like age filters have age filters set themselves. It’s not that they dislike age filters, it’s that they dislike that someone they want to meet has filtered them out! age doesn't precede or replace interest its a site tool/barrier if you go to a club or social they dont exist, so one has to feel sympathy for the Op and i do, for me it doesn't matter because i never send introductory messages or want to compliment people who I've seen a pic of, i enjoy the pic simple as
But not everyone goes to clubs, and there will still be some who go to clubs and ask the age, some people only play with those in clubs who they’ve spoken to on here or they might assume someone in a club is older than they actually are.
I personally don’t feel sympathy. Because it’s quite simple, if someone isn’t interested in you they’re not interested in you.
I wonder if the OP or any straight male who agrees with the post would have the same opinion if it meant they couldn’t filter out bisexual or gay men (or anyone else they’re not interested in) from messaging them or approaching them in clubs? my point is age isn't filtered in life, one goes on looks and personality, you go to a club you don't always speak you just have sex sometimes you dont but age the number is never talked about its here yes as a filter but its importance is for the most part trivial based on life, you select numbers its superficial eg you select numbers 35-45 and a really nice handsome guy who fits your desires as a person has just that day turned 46 omg hes not allowed to message anymore but does that make him less eligible no it doesn't it just makes him held at bay by the triviality of a single digit thats my point the number really means nothing
None of this changes the fact that for SOME age is important on Fab and in life.
I would certainly be asking age in a club, and I’m sure some other women/men would too, not all but some.
None of this changes the fact that people are entitled to be as picky as they like on Fab or any other site that has preferences.
Unless those who are filtered out are going to sit and wait in clubs until the woman they’re interested in on Fab turns up so they can try their luck and see if she’s as picky in real life, probably best to move on and focus on those who include you in their filters rather than those who don’t. you're ignoring my point entirely I've never been asked my age in a club i dont even recall being asked my name, i appreciate choice and recognise the selection process and why they exist, age groups are important to in terms of influences and things you might enjoy doing, musical genres etc but a numbered digit isn't that important yes have a general age group that you look for but it doesn't need to be hard and fast, that just doesn't have a logical argument for the reasons I've said, respect people always but always question things that don't make sense "With all due respect there is no point. You’re attempting to explain why age in your important doesn’t matter because you’ve never been asked. That doesn’t mean everyone has never been asked. If you consider age unimportant that’s fine, but others may not agree, I don’t. I have a strict age preference and it is the same in real life as it is on Fab, I highly doubt I’m the only person on this website with such. I don’t think anyone has the right to question someone else’s choice if preference, I think it’s rude and disrespectful to do so. If you’re out of their age range on here, simply move on. There is no need to have a “logical argument” as to why you prefer someone of a certain age, height, hair colour or similar. Preferences needs no explanation or argument since it’s a persons right to choice. That’s it. | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. What part of preferences do people not understand here? Age is only a barrier to those outside particular age ranges, as it should be if that's what the person wants. This. Why do so many people want people who are not interested in them to reply to their messages or look at their profile? I think some must like the rejection messages or something.
It also makes me giggle that most who don’t like age filters have age filters set themselves. It’s not that they dislike age filters, it’s that they dislike that someone they want to meet has filtered them out! age doesn't precede or replace interest its a site tool/barrier if you go to a club or social they dont exist, so one has to feel sympathy for the Op and i do, for me it doesn't matter because i never send introductory messages or want to compliment people who I've seen a pic of, i enjoy the pic simple as
But not everyone goes to clubs, and there will still be some who go to clubs and ask the age, some people only play with those in clubs who they’ve spoken to on here or they might assume someone in a club is older than they actually are.
I personally don’t feel sympathy. Because it’s quite simple, if someone isn’t interested in you they’re not interested in you.
I wonder if the OP or any straight male who agrees with the post would have the same opinion if it meant they couldn’t filter out bisexual or gay men (or anyone else they’re not interested in) from messaging them or approaching them in clubs? my point is age isn't filtered in life, one goes on looks and personality, you go to a club you don't always speak you just have sex sometimes you dont but age the number is never talked about its here yes as a filter but its importance is for the most part trivial based on life, you select numbers its superficial eg you select numbers 35-45 and a really nice handsome guy who fits your desires as a person has just that day turned 46 omg hes not allowed to message anymore but does that make him less eligible no it doesn't it just makes him held at bay by the triviality of a single digit thats my point the number really means nothing
None of this changes the fact that for SOME age is important on Fab and in life.
I would certainly be asking age in a club, and I’m sure some other women/men would too, not all but some.
None of this changes the fact that people are entitled to be as picky as they like on Fab or any other site that has preferences.
Unless those who are filtered out are going to sit and wait in clubs until the woman they’re interested in on Fab turns up so they can try their luck and see if she’s as picky in real life, probably best to move on and focus on those who include you in their filters rather than those who don’t. you're ignoring my point entirely I've never been asked my age in a club i dont even recall being asked my name, i appreciate choice and recognise the selection process and why they exist, age groups are important to in terms of influences and things you might enjoy doing, musical genres etc but a numbered digit isn't that important yes have a general age group that you look for but it doesn't need to be hard and fast, that just doesn't have a logical argument for the reasons I've said, respect people always but always question things that don't make sense
With all due respect there is no point.
You’re attempting to explain why age in your important doesn’t matter because you’ve never been asked.
That doesn’t mean everyone has never been asked. If you consider age unimportant that’s fine, but others may not agree, I don’t.
I have a strict age preference and it is the same in real life as it is on Fab, I highly doubt I’m the only person on this website with such.
I don’t think anyone has the right to question someone else’s choice if preference, I think it’s rude and disrespectful to do so. If you’re out of their age range on here, simply move on. There is no need to have a “logical argument” as to why you prefer someone of a certain age, height, hair colour or similar. Preferences needs no explanation or argument since it’s a persons right to choice. That’s it.
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " No, hence the reason of the filter. I don’t need any interaction from the people outside of the age I filtered. I’ll contact them myself if I want to. Same applies for people who doesn’t accept my age group. It means they don’t want any interaction from me unless they want to. | |||
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"But if I'm attracted to him, I can send him a message. I can't imagine stamping my feet and saying to someone "I know you're 25 and I'm 43 and you're not interested in people over 40 but I think you're really fit and I don't look like I'm 43 so can we just pretend that I'm not?" Just no, same as in really life if I see someone and they're clearly not interested than I wouldn't bug them. They do not have to tell me why they aren't attracted to me. They owe me nothing. If you like someone and they don't like you.....tough shit, if it's age, looks, personality, job, attitude whatever. It's moot. They aren't interested. The end." | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? Probably just you and other men filter blocked because their too old
you say that about people being too old ? Where are your verifications and you suppose to be younger . To a lot of people age is just a number and also us older guys have a lot of experience and a lot of ladies enjoy that in a meet too
You really need to think a bit more before letting your fingers go loose on the letters
If you're blocked because you're over a specified age range there's only one reason for it..... you're too old
Unless you have a better suggestion
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"When I first joined I had my filters set at 18 to 45,I was 43 at the time... That quickly lowered to 40 and again to 35, just because of the shear volume of messages from men I didn't find attractive, mainly due to how old they looked...I don't care if you are fitter than the younger guys, I am attracted to faces, just not ones that look like they could be my dad. So if someone attractive is just a year over my preference, it is worth not having them message if it stops another few hundred messaging, of that age that I don't find attractive,as that is what it was like, especially at the start and the first couple of years tbh. Also, if I see someone outside of my age range that I actually do find attractive, I will let them know myself. A fab is compliment enough for a pic and I don't want comments on my statuses, unless they are social related. Plus, any reply and conversation, even when they know they aren't what I'm looking for AND not playing, apparently means I have changed my mind, so I just don't bother replying to new people anymore. At a club, I can see faces without messages so if someone is there I like the look of age is irrelevant... But they are still rarely over 35,unless they are female " | |||
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"If I’m not interested in arranging a meet with you, I’m not likely to want to engage in small talk. My experience of men sending a ‘I known I’m not your type but wanted to compliment you on...’ is that they are just an attempt to force conversation. I used to thank guys who send compliments but quickly realised it was just used as leverage. Absolutely this. They try to use the 'compliment' to try and arrange a meet, then are miffed when I've said no thanks because I've spoken to them politely and they haven't taken my preferences into account. Even worse, some get abusive, then get reported and blocked as well. " Exactly this. My partner loves the mature ladies hence why our age is up to 55, I've just stated in our profile that I do not like older guys and I have my own age limit, its my preference. If there is an older guy in the couple and he can hold a conversation or I find him attractive then I relax my rules. I just get tired of the "I know I am not in your age range but you are lovely", chat normally for a few messages because I am polite only for that conversation to turn into a can I meet you. Well heck, now I have to be the bad lady and say no sorry, you are not in my age categories. The abuse you get back is just vile.  | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference !" To those of us with 18 year old children, yes. | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference ! To those of us with 18 year old children, yes. " Does no one have a mother son fantasy ? Thought this was meant to be a kinky place | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference ! To those of us with 18 year old children, yes. Does no one have a mother son fantasy ? Thought this was meant to be a kinky place " Some might, it's better taking the time to look for them though rather than assume it's a 'kink' every woman has. | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference !" . Their ideal preference might be late twenties, so stating 23 allows some leeway. I find it annoying when I've already done that factoring and someone tells me they're only a year outside my stated preference! | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference ! " It obviously does to those that have those parameters set But look on the bright side,you will get older,you will come in to those parameters in time. Us older folk are either already outside other folks parameters,or soon will be. You have it all ahead of you.good luck. | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference ! To those of us with 18 year old children, yes. Does no one have a mother son fantasy ? Thought this was meant to be a kinky place " It is, but everyone's kinks are their own. | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference !" If someone’s annoying you then you probably shouldn’t be messaging them anyway, so it solves itself | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference !" Yes. A huuuuuuge difference. | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference ! To those of us with 18 year old children, yes. Does no one have a mother son fantasy ? Thought this was meant to be a kinky place " No. Hence why my filters are set how they are, as those kind of sick, twisted messages make me want to vomit. They also get reported and blocked.  | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference ! To those of us with 18 year old children, yes. Does no one have a mother son fantasy ? Thought this was meant to be a kinky place " What made you think this place was ‘kinky’ ? I’m vanilla as fuck. | |||
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"I find it annoying when people put like 23, does the five years from 18-23 make that much difference ! Yes. A huuuuuuge difference. " It's true, I was really immature at 18, a huge idiot at 23, and only started to act like a grown up in my 30s. Women here are understandably less willing to take a risk on a young'un. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " If people have blocked your age group from even messaging it means they don't want to meet you or to hear from you in any capacity. Even for a compliment. Just move on to those who are interested in people your age. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " You could always just fab the pic & if they make a funny comment in the forums respond there Someone messaging us on the back of a forum comment I’ve made really feels sleazy to me (Mrs) | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? You could always just fab the pic & if they make a funny comment in the forums respond there Someone messaging us on the back of a forum comment I’ve made really feels sleazy to me (Mrs)" This is a great point. Last time I was on Fab a few years ago, nearly all of my meets came from connections made in the forums. This place is great for meeting others. | |||
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"I understand why there is the facility but as an older guy I find it frustrating sometimes. I don’t expect people to want to meet me if they only want younger but it means I can’t compliment them on a great pic or a funny comment they make . Am I the only one who feels like this ? " I'm sure your comments are well intended, but not everyone here is seeking approval or needs their pics to be approved of! | |||
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"But if I'm attracted to him, I can send him a message. I can't imagine stamping my feet and saying to someone "I know you're 25 and I'm 43 and you're not interested in people over 40 but I think you're really fit and I don't look like I'm 43 so can we just pretend that I'm not?" Just no, same as in really life if I see someone and they're clearly not interested than I wouldn't bug them. They do not have to tell me why they aren't attracted to me. They owe me nothing. If you like someone and they don't like you.....tough shit, if it's age, looks, personality, job, attitude whatever. It's moot. They aren't interested. The end." What rubbish is this? This is a swinging site , how dare you have age preferences? You are supposed to shag everyone who is interested in you.... | |||
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"But if I'm attracted to him, I can send him a message. I can't imagine stamping my feet and saying to someone "I know you're 25 and I'm 43 and you're not interested in people over 40 but I think you're really fit and I don't look like I'm 43 so can we just pretend that I'm not?" Just no, same as in really life if I see someone and they're clearly not interested than I wouldn't bug them. They do not have to tell me why they aren't attracted to me. They owe me nothing. If you like someone and they don't like you.....tough shit, if it's age, looks, personality, job, attitude whatever. It's moot. They aren't interested. The end. What rubbish is this? This is a swinging site , how dare you have age preferences? You are supposed to shag everyone who is interested in you.... " Damn. So that's where I'm going wrong then?? | |||
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"But if I'm attracted to him, I can send him a message. I can't imagine stamping my feet and saying to someone "I know you're 25 and I'm 43 and you're not interested in people over 40 but I think you're really fit and I don't look like I'm 43 so can we just pretend that I'm not?" Just no, same as in really life if I see someone and they're clearly not interested than I wouldn't bug them. They do not have to tell me why they aren't attracted to me. They owe me nothing. If you like someone and they don't like you.....tough shit, if it's age, looks, personality, job, attitude whatever. It's moot. They aren't interested. The end. What rubbish is this? This is a swinging site , how dare you have age preferences? You are supposed to shag everyone who is interested in you.... " I blame the suffagettes. Women now have ideas above their station.  | |||
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"But if I'm attracted to him, I can send him a message. I can't imagine stamping my feet and saying to someone "I know you're 25 and I'm 43 and you're not interested in people over 40 but I think you're really fit and I don't look like I'm 43 so can we just pretend that I'm not?" Just no, same as in really life if I see someone and they're clearly not interested than I wouldn't bug them. They do not have to tell me why they aren't attracted to me. They owe me nothing. If you like someone and they don't like you.....tough shit, if it's age, looks, personality, job, attitude whatever. It's moot. They aren't interested. The end. What rubbish is this? This is a swinging site , how dare you have age preferences? You are supposed to shag everyone who is interested in you.... I blame the suffagettes. Women now have ideas above their station. " | |||
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"Think the point of the post was judging on one factor, age, is very judgmental lol " Does that mean you’ll be amending your age filter then? | |||
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Never meant for it to be divisive - it wasn’t meant as serious as it has turned out
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"The age thing for me is a big deal I don't want men old enough to be my grandad messaging me I just find it too creepy I have had a few ppl who have some how got round that message filter instant block" You only allow messages from men aged 35-38 yet your only verification is from someone who's 46!? | |||
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"The age thing for me is a big deal I don't want men old enough to be my grandad messaging me I just find it too creepy I have had a few ppl who have some how got round that message filter instant block You only allow messages from men aged 35-38 yet your only verification is from someone who's 46!?" So you tried to message her when she didn't want you too then? The irony. Exactly why she has her filters set so you can't. As for meeting someone above her age filters, that her business, doesn't mean she has to meet anyone out of her age range. Maybe she did her own searching and got on well via a chat with him. Who knows? It's called choice. Hers. | |||
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Never meant for it to be divisive - it wasn’t meant as serious as it has turned out
It was more a reflection on the situation. "All you've done is started a debate, which is fine on the forums, so don't worry about it. | |||
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"I'm fitter than most 25 year old guys so find it odd that age is a barrier, surely you look at each guy girl in isolation. What part of preferences do people not understand here? Age is only a barrier to those outside particular age ranges, as it should be if that's what the person wants. This. Why do so many people want people who are not interested in them to reply to their messages or look at their profile? I think some must like the rejection messages or something.
It also makes me giggle that most who don’t like age filters have age filters set themselves. It’s not that they dislike age filters, it’s that they dislike that someone they want to meet has filtered them out! age doesn't precede or replace interest its a site tool/barrier if you go to a club or social they dont exist, so one has to feel sympathy for the Op and i do, for me it doesn't matter because i never send introductory messages or want to compliment people who I've seen a pic of, i enjoy the pic simple as
But not everyone goes to clubs, and there will still be some who go to clubs and ask the age, some people only play with those in clubs who they’ve spoken to on here or they might assume someone in a club is older than they actually are.
I personally don’t feel sympathy. Because it’s quite simple, if someone isn’t interested in you they’re not interested in you.
I wonder if the OP or any straight male who agrees with the post would have the same opinion if it meant they couldn’t filter out bisexual or gay men (or anyone else they’re not interested in) from messaging them or approaching them in clubs? my point is age isn't filtered in life, one goes on looks and personality, you go to a club you don't always speak you just have sex sometimes you dont but age the number is never talked about its here yes as a filter but its importance is for the most part trivial based on life, you select numbers its superficial eg you select numbers 35-45 and a really nice handsome guy who fits your desires as a person has just that day turned 46 omg hes not allowed to message anymore but does that make him less eligible no it doesn't it just makes him held at bay by the triviality of a single digit thats my point the number really means nothing
None of this changes the fact that for SOME age is important on Fab and in life.
I would certainly be asking age in a club, and I’m sure some other women/men would too, not all but some.
None of this changes the fact that people are entitled to be as picky as they like on Fab or any other site that has preferences.
Unless those who are filtered out are going to sit and wait in clubs until the woman they’re interested in on Fab turns up so they can try their luck and see if she’s as picky in real life, probably best to move on and focus on those who include you in their filters rather than those who don’t. you're ignoring my point entirely I've never been asked my age in a club i dont even recall being asked my name, i appreciate choice and recognise the selection process and why they exist, age groups are important to in terms of influences and things you might enjoy doing, musical genres etc but a numbered digit isn't that important yes have a general age group that you look for but it doesn't need to be hard and fast, that just doesn't have a logical argument for the reasons I've said, respect people always but always question things that don't make sense
With all due respect there is no point.
You’re attempting to explain why age in your important doesn’t matter because you’ve never been asked.
That doesn’t mean everyone has never been asked. If you consider age unimportant that’s fine, but others may not agree, I don’t.
I have a strict age preference and it is the same in real life as it is on Fab, I highly doubt I’m the only person on this website with such.
I don’t think anyone has the right to question someone else’s choice if preference, I think it’s rude and disrespectful to do so. If you’re out of their age range on here, simply move on. There is no need to have a “logical argument” as to why you prefer someone of a certain age, height, hair colour or similar. Preferences needs no explanation or argument since it’s a persons right to choice. That’s it.
"oh well as you haven't grasped my point no point trying to get it across anymore you can't admit to the futility of a hard and fast number selection because you obviously see it as a hard and fast rule with no flexibility, others may agree with you but i suggest far more would agree with my perspective on it, age is not important in person as I've said its about look and personality the age ranges can be set to hard and fast 35-45 for example and if you are one hour one minute one day into your 46 th year of living on this planet you can not message that person, its obviously to you a rule that cannot be transgressed under any circumstances but i suggest many would find that a trivia many more i suggest than you are willing to admit to a rules a rule after all | |||
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" oh well as you haven't grasped my point no point trying to get it across anymore you can't admit to the futility of a hard and fast number selection because you obviously see it as a hard and fast rule with no flexibility, others may agree with you but i suggest far more would agree with my perspective on it, age is not important in person as I've said its about look and personality the age ranges can be set to hard and fast 35-45 for example and if you are one hour one minute one day into your 46 th year of living on this planet you can not message that person, its obviously to you a rule that cannot be transgressed under any circumstances but i suggest many would find that a trivia many more i suggest than you are willing to admit to a rules a rule after all "You’re entitled to your opinion, as am I. I respect people’s preferences on here & if I happen to be out of someone’s age range or something I simply move on, I don’t harp on it and assume it’d be different in person. There are bigger things to worry about than why someone chooses to meet who they do. Maybe more agree with you, maybe more agree with me, who knows and who cares? Looking at the comments on this thread it seems most tend to respect people’s preferences on their profile or filters. That’s all that matters. Age may not be important to you in person but it is to me and it is to some who’ve posted on this thread if you have a read. There are thousands of people on this site, why worry about what others who aren’t interested in you are doing or why they have the filters they do? Focus on the ones who want to meet you. | |||
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" oh well as you haven't grasped my point no point trying to get it across anymore you can't admit to the futility of a hard and fast number selection because you obviously see it as a hard and fast rule with no flexibility, others may agree with you but i suggest far more would agree with my perspective on it, age is not important in person as I've said its about look and personality the age ranges can be set to hard and fast 35-45 for example and if you are one hour one minute one day into your 46 th year of living on this planet you can not message that person, its obviously to you a rule that cannot be transgressed under any circumstances but i suggest many would find that a trivia many more i suggest than you are willing to admit to a rules a rule after all
You’re entitled to your opinion, as am I.
I respect people’s preferences on here & if I happen to be out of someone’s age range or something I simply move on, I don’t harp on it and assume it’d be different in person.
There are bigger things to worry about than why someone chooses to meet who they do.
Maybe more agree with you, maybe more agree with me, who knows and who cares? Looking at the comments on this thread it seems most tend to respect people’s preferences on their profile or filters. That’s all that matters.
Age may not be important to you in person but it is to me and it is to some who’ve posted on this thread if you have a read. There are thousands of people on this site, why worry about what others who aren’t interested in you are doing or why they have the filters they do?
Focus on the ones who want to meet you. "its just a point of view, in life how important is that minute from the last day of your 45th year to the 1st of your 46 th all I'm suggesting is its not a subjective barrier its a rule that even you have broken just as drivers who festidiously disagree with speeding but actually speed at some point themselves, its a line but | |||
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"its just a point of view, in life how important is that minute from the last day of your 45th year to the 1st of your 46 th all I'm suggesting is its not a subjective barrier its a rule that even you have broken just as drivers who festidiously disagree with speeding but actually speed at some point themselves, its a line but "But their ideal age might be 40, but they stretch the age preference acknowledging there might be people who could still fit the criteria. My age preference is 25-40, but encounters at the lower and higher end of the range very rarely happen. So someone of 24 or 41 messaging is not going to be considered, they've also ignored my stated preferences which is not an indication they're likely to be an attentive lover. | |||
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" You’re entitled to your opinion, as am I. I respect people’s preferences on here & if I happen to be out of someone’s age range or something I simply move on, I don’t harp on it and assume it’d be different in person. There are bigger things to worry about than why someone chooses to meet who they do. Maybe more agree with you, maybe more agree with me, who knows and who cares? Looking at the comments on this thread it seems most tend to respect people’s preferences on their profile or filters. That’s all that matters. Age may not be important to you in person but it is to me and it is to some who’ve posted on this thread if you have a read. There are thousands of people on this site, why worry about what others who aren’t interested in you are doing or why they have the filters they do? Focus on the ones who want to meet you. its just a point of view, in life how important is that minute from the last day of your 45th year to the 1st of your 46 th all I'm suggesting is its not a subjective barrier its a rule that even you have broken just as drivers who festidiously disagree with speeding but actually speed at some point themselves, its a line but "It’s not a “rule“. It’s a message filter on my profile I have implemented to state my preference. It doesn’t matter what happens in real life today, next week or next year. On Fabswingers my age filter is my age filter and should be respected as should anyone’s. If someone decides to change it or meet someone out of it, that’s their right and their choice, equally as it’s their right and choice to have a strong filter on and be specific. Your age filter is incredibly specific on your profile, surprising going by your comments. | |||
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" You’re entitled to your opinion, as am I. I respect people’s preferences on here & if I happen to be out of someone’s age range or something I simply move on, I don’t harp on it and assume it’d be different in person. There are bigger things to worry about than why someone chooses to meet who they do. Maybe more agree with you, maybe more agree with me, who knows and who cares? Looking at the comments on this thread it seems most tend to respect people’s preferences on their profile or filters. That’s all that matters. Age may not be important to you in person but it is to me and it is to some who’ve posted on this thread if you have a read. There are thousands of people on this site, why worry about what others who aren’t interested in you are doing or why they have the filters they do? Focus on the ones who want to meet you. its just a point of view, in life how important is that minute from the last day of your 45th year to the 1st of your 46 th all I'm suggesting is its not a subjective barrier its a rule that even you have broken just as drivers who festidiously disagree with speeding but actually speed at some point themselves, its a line but
It’s not a “rule“. It’s a message filter on my profile I have implemented to state my preference.
It doesn’t matter what happens in real life today, next week or next year. On Fabswingers my age filter is my age filter and should be respected as should anyone’s.
If someone decides to change it or meet someone out of it, that’s their right and their choice, equally as it’s their right and choice to have a strong filter on and be specific.
Your age filter is incredibly specific on your profile, surprising going by your comments. "my age filter is flexible i thought hard and fast about the numbers to put in it but i wouldn't restrict anyone based on those numbers I've only put them in because they were i think a requirement but i wouldn't restrict a person because of them, the person is more important to me than the age and thats my point its a person not a number, i respect all people at all times incidentally, i respect your opinion i just argue with its authenticity, such is life one doesn't like to budge on ones opinion | |||
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" You’re entitled to your opinion, as am I. I respect people’s preferences on here & if I happen to be out of someone’s age range or something I simply move on, I don’t harp on it and assume it’d be different in person. There are bigger things to worry about than why someone chooses to meet who they do. Maybe more agree with you, maybe more agree with me, who knows and who cares? Looking at the comments on this thread it seems most tend to respect people’s preferences on their profile or filters. That’s all that matters. Age may not be important to you in person but it is to me and it is to some who’ve posted on this thread if you have a read. There are thousands of people on this site, why worry about what others who aren’t interested in you are doing or why they have the filters they do? Focus on the ones who want to meet you. its just a point of view, in life how important is that minute from the last day of your 45th year to the 1st of your 46 th all I'm suggesting is its not a subjective barrier its a rule that even you have broken just as drivers who festidiously disagree with speeding but actually speed at some point themselves, its a line but
It’s not a “rule“. It’s a message filter on my profile I have implemented to state my preference.
It doesn’t matter what happens in real life today, next week or next year. On Fabswingers my age filter is my age filter and should be respected as should anyone’s.
If someone decides to change it or meet someone out of it, that’s their right and their choice, equally as it’s their right and choice to have a strong filter on and be specific.
Your age filter is incredibly specific on your profile, surprising going by your comments. my age filter is flexible i thought hard and fast about the numbers to put in it but i wouldn't restrict anyone based on those numbers I've only put them in because they were i think a requirement but i wouldn't restrict a person because of them, the person is more important to me than the age and thats my point its a person not a number, i respect all people at all times incidentally, i respect your opinion i just argue with its authenticity, such is life one doesn't like to budge on ones opinion "There’s no need to argue with it’s authenticity, since it doesn’t affect you nor is it your problem. It’s my preference and I don’t need to explain it to anyone, especially those who attempt to question it. Equally as you don’t need to explain yours. As I said, worry less about those not interested in you and focus on those who are. It makes it a much better experience on here. | |||
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"its just a point of view, in life how important is that minute from the last day of your 45th year to the 1st of your 46 th all I'm suggesting is its not a subjective barrier its a rule that even you have broken just as drivers who festidiously disagree with speeding but actually speed at some point themselves, its a line but
But their ideal age might be 40, but they stretch the age preference acknowledging there might be people who could still fit the criteria.
My age preference is 25-40, but encounters at the lower and higher end of the range very rarely happen.
So someone of 24 or 41 messaging is not going to be considered, they've also ignored my stated preferences which is not an indication they're likely to be an attentive lover."Absolutely agree. Fab would be an even better place if people stopped focusing their attention on things they cannot change, such as someone having an age filter or choosing not to meet smokers etc. | |||
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" You’re entitled to your opinion, as am I. I respect people’s preferences on here & if I happen to be out of someone’s age range or something I simply move on, I don’t harp on it and assume it’d be different in person. There are bigger things to worry about than why someone chooses to meet who they do. Maybe more agree with you, maybe more agree with me, who knows and who cares? Looking at the comments on this thread it seems most tend to respect people’s preferences on their profile or filters. That’s all that matters. Age may not be important to you in person but it is to me and it is to some who’ve posted on this thread if you have a read. There are thousands of people on this site, why worry about what others who aren’t interested in you are doing or why they have the filters they do? Focus on the ones who want to meet you. its just a point of view, in life how important is that minute from the last day of your 45th year to the 1st of your 46 th all I'm suggesting is its not a subjective barrier its a rule that even you have broken just as drivers who festidiously disagree with speeding but actually speed at some point themselves, its a line but
It’s not a “rule“. It’s a message filter on my profile I have implemented to state my preference.
It doesn’t matter what happens in real life today, next week or next year. On Fabswingers my age filter is my age filter and should be respected as should anyone’s.
If someone decides to change it or meet someone out of it, that’s their right and their choice, equally as it’s their right and choice to have a strong filter on and be specific.
Your age filter is incredibly specific on your profile, surprising going by your comments. my age filter is flexible i thought hard and fast about the numbers to put in it but i wouldn't restrict anyone based on those numbers I've only put them in because they were i think a requirement but i wouldn't restrict a person because of them, the person is more important to me than the age and thats my point its a person not a number, i respect all people at all times incidentally, i respect your opinion i just argue with its authenticity, such is life one doesn't like to budge on ones opinion
There’s no need to argue with it’s authenticity, since it doesn’t affect you nor is it your problem.
It’s my preference and I don’t need to explain it to anyone, especially those who attempt to question it. Equally as you don’t need to explain yours.
As I said, worry less about those not interested in you and focus on those who are. It makes it a much better experience on here. "i don't have a problem though I'm flexible | |||
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"But if I'm attracted to him, I can send him a message. I can't imagine stamping my feet and saying to someone "I know you're 25 and I'm 43 and you're not interested in people over 40 but I think you're really fit and I don't look like I'm 43 so can we just pretend that I'm not?" Just no, same as in really life if I see someone and they're clearly not interested than I wouldn't bug them. They do not have to tell me why they aren't attracted to me. They owe me nothing. If you like someone and they don't like you.....tough shit, if it's age, looks, personality, job, attitude whatever. It's moot. They aren't interested. The end. What rubbish is this? This is a swinging site , how dare you have age preferences? You are supposed to shag everyone who is interested in you.... I blame the suffagettes. Women now have ideas above their station. "That's the scary thing. Some men on here find it wrong that women can actually choose who they want to speak to. Think that's another reason women shouldn't want to meet them. | |||
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"I am of an age where I no longer take life seriously and that applies to Fab also. I take everything as it comes and deal with it accordingly. With regard to age restrictions I respect them fully, not difficult as I never make the first move, if people message me I will respond and see where it goes from there. Where I see age parameters as 18 - 99 I take it that the person has not given any thought to changing the default setting. Surprisingly I actually manage to get around half a dozen people a week contacting me of which half have genuine interest in really old men, some of these wither on the vine and some have resulted in meets, The other appear to have morbid curiosity. Until the grim reaper, possibly in the disguise of Covid 19 eventally takes me I will remain on Fab, but not take it too seriously. " Good on you! Glad you are enjoying Fab. Xx | |||
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"I completely respect age-limits, though that doesn't make it any less frustrating when you read a profile, find out that you (on the surface at least) seem VERY compatible and would (hopefully) get on..only to find that I'm a only year outside their limit! Arrrgh! hahah" It's not frustrating for the person with their limit/filters, quite the opposite, it avoids the frustration for them. | |||
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"I completely respect age-limits, though that doesn't make it any less frustrating when you read a profile, find out that you (on the surface at least) seem VERY compatible and would (hopefully) get on..only to find that I'm a only year outside their limit! Arrrgh! hahahlife is a bitch isn't it And then you die..yes yes, we've all heard it.I didn't suggest no one had heard it did I ? erm.... Calm down, its only the Internet! " errr it's you who needs to calm down from making your crass comments | |||
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