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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just curious as to how to approach this without it completely back firing, also couples who are on here who suggested it first i always presume it was the male but thats just me being ignorant and also how did the conversation start.

Im currently single but also looking to date again once covid is over, so i am curious as to how i could suggest this to someone.

Thanks

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Just be honest about Who You are

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just be honest about Who You are "

But theres sort of no going back once its been suggested even if she doesnt like the idea she would always know its something id considered

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

Start off by role play.You have to say to her/him that tonight you are both going to be someone else.While having fun ask her/him if it's ok to kiss etc.Pretend it's the first time each of you have met.

And go from there,if your partner enjoyed it build up as you go a long.Good luck.

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Assuming a vanilla relationship IRL...

By communication...when you know the name of their parents and their favourite comedy you can start by seeing if it is any part of their fantasies in the bedroom and take it from there.

Introducing your current FWB as SO enters the bedroom will likely have less success

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By *himp_KittenCouple
over a year ago

Preston

How important is this element of life in a relationship to you?

If it's something you have to have then be honest from the start, if the other person is interested then winner..

If they aren't interested and swinging is something you want then there's a compatibility issue and the relationship isn't right from the start so move on.

If a relationship is more of a priority than swinging then start a relationship, enjoy a "normal" period of finding out about each other, and when you're in a stable position simply ask the question "what's your views on swinging?".

It may be positive, it may be negative, but you can take it from there.

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By *inkyKittyWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

I always mention it when messaging.

I ask them to be honest and if it’s not their thing, then it’s not meant to be.

I was in a long term relationship, where I stopped swinging, I wasn’t able to be me.

I want to find someone who is like me, and if we match then great. But I am very honest in saying what I want.

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Honesty, no coercion or guilt tripping and then respect what they say.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Here luv, Di u fancy some of that swinging game?

If she then looks at u strange with anger, think that might suggest a no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou all for your advice, im extremely envious of all you couples on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How important is this element of life in a relationship to you?

If it's something you have to have then be honest from the start, if the other person is interested then winner..

If they aren't interested and swinging is something you want then there's a compatibility issue and the relationship isn't right from the start so move on.

If a relationship is more of a priority than swinging then start a relationship, enjoy a "normal" period of finding out about each other, and when you're in a stable position simply ask the question "what's your views on swinging?".

It may be positive, it may be negative, but you can take it from there.

"

Absolutely agree 100% with this post

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How important is this element of life in a relationship to you?

If it's something you have to have then be honest from the start, if the other person is interested then winner..

If they aren't interested and swinging is something you want then there's a compatibility issue and the relationship isn't right from the start so move on.

If a relationship is more of a priority than swinging then start a relationship, enjoy a "normal" period of finding out about each other, and when you're in a stable position simply ask the question "what's your views on swinging?".

It may be positive, it may be negative, but you can take it from there.

Absolutely agree 100% with this post "

So do i really gave me something to think about.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How important is this element of life in a relationship to you?

If it's something you have to have then be honest from the start, if the other person is interested then winner..

If they aren't interested and swinging is something you want then there's a compatibility issue and the relationship isn't right from the start so move on.

If a relationship is more of a priority than swinging then start a relationship, enjoy a "normal" period of finding out about each other, and when you're in a stable position simply ask the question "what's your views on swinging?".

It may be positive, it may be negative, but you can take it from there.

Absolutely agree 100% with this post

So do i really gave me something to think about."

I agree with it too.

There are quite a few threads started by (mostly) men who are dissatisfied with their sex lives. A lot of the dissatisfaction stems from lack of honest communication. Start as you mean to go on, be clear about what you want from a relationship and where you're prepared to compromise. But be aware also that what you both want now might change as time goes on which is where continual communication is important.

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By *REYTIMBERWOLFMan
over a year ago

reading

If your dating site then say so. You can allude to it or you can be very direct. My current partner was vanilla and never into kink or multiples. She was attracted to my post on a straight date site. We said what we liked and is this or that possible... yes... or no.

She has truly blossomed and never ceases to surprise me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends how good you are at pulling on dating sites. I've had about 10 couple profiles in the past 5 years. Will start off meeting someone off pof typically. Meet them a few times and fuck them. Then after a few times say "oh I used to love doing this, that and the other with my ex" if they arent interested they'll let you know but 99% of time they want to experience it themselves.

Ultimately though it comes down to your confidence.. If you arent that confident you wont have joy, If you are you will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How important is this element of life in a relationship to you?

If it's something you have to have then be honest from the start, if the other person is interested then winner..

If they aren't interested and swinging is something you want then there's a compatibility issue and the relationship isn't right from the start so move on.

If a relationship is more of a priority than swinging then start a relationship, enjoy a "normal" period of finding out about each other, and when you're in a stable position simply ask the question "what's your views on swinging?".

It may be positive, it may be negative, but you can take it from there.

Absolutely agree 100% with this post

So do i really gave me something to think about.

I agree with it too.

There are quite a few threads started by (mostly) men who are dissatisfied with their sex lives. A lot of the dissatisfaction stems from lack of honest communication. Start as you mean to go on, be clear about what you want from a relationship and where you're prepared to compromise. But be aware also that what you both want now might change as time goes on which is where continual communication is important. "

Brilliant advice

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