Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Back to forum list |
Back to Swingers Chat |
Jump to newest |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"we've gone from full swap to soft swing. Its all about doing what you want not what you think you should " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We tend to go for girl girl ..and soft sensual swap by choice .....but open minded to more if the mood takes with the right types.. " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"6 years ago we had a profile as soft swing ..a couple decided that we should contact them back when we grew up !!!...and go full swing ....all people are at different levels at different times in this life .. but hey thats swing life ..lol" They would be straight on our block list | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We always have and will be soft swap, so much fun can be had and some full swap friends admitted they had more fun in soft swing scenario, nice to reserve something just for us " Less can be more sometimes dont you think...... | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We started out fem on fem only soft swap then to full swap including kissing " Kissing ah well ..some do ..some dont .... people seem more than happy with oral but sometimes say no to kisses .... | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We’re currently soft swing. Started off with lots of rules between us of things each had vetoed but that list is slowly getting shorter. I think there will be a point there we go full swap but we enjoy all the other stuff lots and there’s more to sex than just fucking. " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We’re currently soft swing. Started off with lots of rules between us of things each had vetoed but that list is slowly getting shorter. I think there will be a point there we go full swap but we enjoy all the other stuff lots and there’s more to sex than just fucking. " Ah well the list of rules.goal posts move ..and ideas can alter over time ... | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Well it’s all about learning more about us as a couple too..... growing together and enjoy new things together" Totally agree ...for us we have a great time socially and saucily .. ..and made us even closer as a couple ...our little secret .x | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Can play both with a mf couple but prefer full swing " This made me chuckle was wondering how the swap works | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Can play both with a mf couple but prefer full swing This made me chuckle was wondering how the swap works " Can play straight with a mf couple if guy isn’t bi | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We started out fem on fem only soft swap then to full swap including kissing Kissing ah well ..some do ..some dont .... people seem more than happy with oral but sometimes say no to kisses .... " We never thought we do kissing but then we never thought we full swap | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We started out fem on fem only soft swap then to full swap including kissing Kissing ah well ..some do ..some dont .... people seem more than happy with oral but sometimes say no to kisses .... We never thought we do kissing but then we never thought we full swap " them goal posts do seem to move around lol | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Different meets different experiences we do both dependant on the other couple or single person with the conversations and boundaries. As the male with a couple then it can just be sensual massage and caressing then watch them make love. Each experience is interesting and different which adds to the fun and variety. " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think the no expectations rule is the way to go We've had nights when we are not feeling it and nights that have been great If you go with the flow , you are more likely to have a fun time , there's no need to put the pressure on before you even get there " Agree with what you say... to go with the flow & enjoy what happens with no massive expectations can be lovely/sexxy/saucy rolled into one | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think the no expectations rule is the way to go We've had nights when we are not feeling it and nights that have been great If you go with the flow , you are more likely to have a fun time , there's no need to put the pressure on before you even get there Agree with what you say... to go with the flow & enjoy what happens with no massive expectations can be lovely/sexxy/saucy rolled into one " this hate guys who want a blow by blow of what we like and will happen just go with the flow is our way .. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think the no expectations rule is the way to go We've had nights when we are not feeling it and nights that have been great If you go with the flow , you are more likely to have a fun time , there's no need to put the pressure on before you even get there Agree with what you say... to go with the flow & enjoy what happens with no massive expectations can be lovely/sexxy/saucy rolled into one this hate guys who want a blow by blow of what we like and will happen just go with the flow is our way .. " thats the difference with hooking up with couples ..single guys can have a different agenda sometimes... | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Yeh we’ve chatted to a few of them lol We like to have a social first and always a conversation on what’s off limits from both sides. Prefer to know up front so everyone is comfortable and knows dos and dont’s rather than stopping play to say no and killing momentum " Yep we much prefer a social first, even if that social turns into a play meet. (When I say we, that’s me the Mrs!) | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Yeh we’ve chatted to a few of them lol We like to have a social first and always a conversation on what’s off limits from both sides. Prefer to know up front so everyone is comfortable and knows dos and dont’s rather than stopping play to say no and killing momentum Yep we much prefer a social first, even if that social turns into a play meet. (When I say we, that’s me the Mrs!) " For us the lady should always have the last say in how the meet goes .. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Little steps ....being open to new things ,,new ideas ,,, new adventures " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"we've gone from full swap to soft swing. Its all about doing what you want not what you think you should " I absolutely agree with this. I think we jumped in way too early thinking we could go from singles to a couple and it not create issues or there be expectation there due to being so liberal as a single. I've no interest at the moment, I could easily walk away. P | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"If there's a hidden agenda then it would be a no from us No one takes one for the team , and a no from one of us , is a no from the pair of us That's something that some people struggle to understand We laugh at the number of guys who aren't confident enough to approach a couple , but are happy to try there luck once Mr nips to the loo and Mrs is just sat at the bar (or just looks and talks directly at the Mrs and totally blanks Mr, like that’s gonna work!)" We only meet single guys who understand us as a couple ..and how we like to play | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We took a route many others have probably taken, single girl first, then soft and then full. Now we are very relaxed and don’t expect anything from anyone other then all being comfortable" This is the route that we started to take just prior to lockdown. As we’re very new to the scene soft swap is going to be the way we progress until we are both comfortable. However, that may change all depending on the couple and the situation. But there’s no pressure on either of us L x | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We took a route many others have probably taken, single girl first, then soft and then full. Now we are very relaxed and don’t expect anything from anyone other then all being comfortable This is the route that we started to take just prior to lockdown. As we’re very new to the scene soft swap is going to be the way we progress until we are both comfortable. However, that may change all depending on the couple and the situation. But there’s no pressure on either of us L x" | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Well it’s all about learning more about us as a couple too..... growing together and enjoy new things together" the build up to a meet gives us an exciting buzz...anticipation is erotic .. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Our first 3 or 4 meets were all with single men mostly straight to se as we moved on to couples the social side has become more important we would soft swap with couples but definitely prefer full swap " the social element is vital for us as we feel you gotta like the people you may get to play with later .. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Our first 3 or 4 meets were all with single men mostly straight to se as we moved on to couples the social side has become more important we would soft swap with couples but definitely prefer full swap the social element is vital for us as we feel you gotta like the people you may get to play with later .. " We could never do wham bam meets it's all about the sensual aspect for us and Mr on my own. There has to be a connection for it to work as far as I'm concerned. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Our first 3 or 4 meets were all with single men mostly straight to se as we moved on to couples the social side has become more important we would soft swap with couples but definitely prefer full swap the social element is vital for us as we feel you gotta like the people you may get to play with later .. " in hindsight it was more nerves than anything as we were just starting out we always meet in a neutral venue for social now | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"6 years ago we had a profile as soft swing ..a couple decided that we should contact them back when we grew up !!!...and go full swing ....all people are at different levels at different times in this life .. but hey thats swing life ..lol" Block list straight away. People may never decide to do full swap and that’s there own choice once everyone is enjoying themselves who cares. I think we go to every meet with the expectation of having a few drinks and a chat and after that what ever happens happens | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"6 years ago we had a profile as soft swing ..a couple decided that we should contact them back when we grew up !!!...and go full swing ....all people are at different levels at different times in this life .. but hey thats swing life ..lol Block list straight away. People may never decide to do full swap and that’s there own choice once everyone is enjoying themselves who cares. I think we go to every meet with the expectation of having a few drinks and a chat and after that what ever happens happens " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"How many couples start soft swing and move on to full on later....or stay soft swing for their own reasons ?" This was definitely a natural progression for us..started off just being about ffm and before i knew it i was comfortable with much more | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"i think most people start with a raft of rules and slowly or sometimes quickly they go out the window i think what happens is you re define normal we like many came to swinging for the extra girl when we first saw a group on a bed we were slightly shocked 6 weeks later we were with them what most people think of as the norm is a couple having sex when youve seen all sorts of scenarios your perception of normal changes one of the truest sayings is define normal " hey we are all normalish...different ...and similar sometimes but not all the same ....all of the time ....lol...agree the more you see the more you can accept as normal in this life | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Yeh we’ve chatted to a few of them lol We like to have a social first and always a conversation on what’s off limits from both sides. Prefer to know up front so everyone is comfortable and knows dos and dont’s rather than stopping play to say no and killing momentum Yep we much prefer a social first, even if that social turns into a play meet. (When I say we, that’s me the Mrs!) For us the lady should always have the last say in how the meet goes .. " But if it’s a yes from me (Mrs) and a no from Mr J it’s a no for both of us, no arguments. We’ve agreed no one takes one for the team x | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Yeh we’ve chatted to a few of them lol We like to have a social first and always a conversation on what’s off limits from both sides. Prefer to know up front so everyone is comfortable and knows dos and dont’s rather than stopping play to say no and killing momentum Yep we much prefer a social first, even if that social turns into a play meet. (When I say we, that’s me the Mrs!) For us the lady should always have the last say in how the meet goes .. But if it’s a yes from me (Mrs) and a no from Mr J it’s a no for both of us, no arguments. We’ve agreed no one takes one for the team x" thats why social meet ups are crucial ..so everyone can meet and see if the chemistry /attractions felt | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Different meets different experiences we do both dependant on the other couple or single person with the conversations and boundaries. As the male with a couple then it can just be sensual massage and caressing then watch them make love. Each experience is interesting and different which adds to the fun and variety. " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think the no expectations rule is the way to go We've had nights when we are not feeling it and nights that have been great If you go with the flow , you are more likely to have a fun time , there's no need to put the pressure on before you even get there " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Post new Message to Thread |
back to top |