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By *irty_newcastle OP   Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To keep up with old friends read forums etc etc does it say you have to meet if you join?

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By * starr -Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

to meet new people, create friendships for when you are ready to meet, keep in contact with friends, could be a number of reasons why people dont want to meet, could even be the heat.who knows, plenty on here who do want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chatrooms, forums, keeping up with friends, socials ....lots of reasons.

Many put it on their profile when they have too much mail to cope with, or enough meets organised.

Lots will put not meeting when the kids are off school on their holidays.

All or some of the above have been my reasons over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And some people use Fab just to cam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recuperating after an operation

Having a baby

Long term illness?

Or a bereavement?

Long holiday?

Moving house

Just plain taking a break for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I am ill presently I have up "No Meets". However, I am bored of resting and do read the Forums, does not mean I want to come on and write back tons of messages and meet someone right now. Think men come on all the time expecting you are online so therefore you are available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a serious addiction to the forums and don't want to meet new people as I have a fb from here who keeps me busy atm. But after being a member on and off for years there are lots of people I just like to chat with and this way is easiest x

Thankfully fab let users take what they want from the site and not demand to have a meet a week to be allowed continued use

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Chatrooms, forums, keeping up with friends, socials ....lots of reasons.

Many put it on their profile when they have too much mail to cope with, or enough meets organised.

Lots will put not meeting when the kids are off school on their holidays.

All or some of the above have been my reasons over the years. "

some of them have been mine as well....

I don't get the fuss... for some it is a sex site 24/7... for others is a community of like-minded people where you can drift in and out without issues....

surely there must be enough people that do what to play so you don't have to concentrate on those who aren't at this time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To keep up with old friends read forums etc etc does it say you have to meet if you join?"

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By *irty_newcastle OP   Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

Ah well, I hear what you lot are saying, but joining this site then not wanting to meet is an absolute waste of time.. Thats just my opinion though and im sticking to it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some sites are a lot worse than this. Used like facebook. See how many Names you can collect !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah well, I hear what you lot are saying, but joining this site then not wanting to meet is an absolute waste of time.. Thats just my opinion though and im sticking to it.. "

You're entitled to your opinion, as are we.

I've just completely changed my profile after an epiphany last night. I'm no longer looking for NSA, does that mean I can't use the site?

I'm already getting grief from someone I was chatting to. Just because we've exchanged a few clean, non explicit mails for a week he expected to meet for sex. He is now very pissed off I've "changed the rules"

So I can't change my mind and have to put out to be on here??? Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah well, I hear what you lot are saying, but joining this site then not wanting to meet is an absolute waste of time.. Thats just my opinion though and im sticking to it.. "

How about the ones that joined the site, met and had plenty of fun. Then work and family pressures meant they couldn't meet (focus on the word "couldn't") but have every intention of playing again in the future? In the meantime, they choose to use the site to keep in touch with established friends and use the forums? ....or is really that wrong that because they have a profile they MUST be flat on their backs shagging 24/7?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes its nice to rest inbetween and not have to give your profile up but makes others aware your having time out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont see what it matters so long as they state they are not lookig for meets

Everyones here for their own reason and not everyone sees joining a site just to chat/cam to people as a waste of time, if thats all they are after then they are getting what they want from the site

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By *tensonSwingersCouple
over a year ago

Stenson Fields


"Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here?? "

We once drove into a petrol station and did not purchase a single drop!..instead we purchased a pack of cigarettes, a couple of sandwiches and drinks. We really don't know why it was called a petrol station. We didn't want or need petrol. Luckily for us though, the attendant understood as there were other items for sale and services offered ie car wash and even dry-cleaning, so she had no expectation that we must by petrol, and was happy for us to merely use the facility for the other services it offered.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here?? "

When I put 'Not meeting' it means Im not meeting new people because Im too busy shagging the arse off my friends

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

Injuries, work commitments, illnesses, plenty of reasons why people would stop meeting for the time being, no brainer.

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

We've not met anyone for the last year...However we met people at least 30 weekends every year since 2005.

Sometimes you get jaded and need a break from things, thats us at the moment! Doesn't stop us wanting to keep in contact with friends we have made over the years though does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I last checked the rules, I never saw the one which stated that in order to be a member of the site that you had to meet .....

Has it never occurred to you that the member could be ill, have family staying with them or that they are just generally pissed off and can't be arsed to meet for a few weeks.?

That kind of thing does happen you know .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've read complaints on here for a variety of things.

Age limits, no single guys, married/playing away.

This site is a fair reflection of Britain's favourite national passtime. Telling others how to run their lives and then complaining when don't do it!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here??

We once drove into a petrol station and did not purchase a single drop!..instead we purchased a pack of cigarettes, a couple of sandwiches and drinks. We really don't know why it was called a petrol station. We didn't want or need petrol. Luckily for us though, the attendant understood as there were other items for sale and services offered ie car wash and even dry-cleaning, so she had no expectation that we must by petrol, and was happy for us to mopperely use the facility for the other services it offered."

Love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People take breaks for all different reasons, most of which are stated above but fully intend to play again, there is no rule that just because you are not meeting you have to delete your profile, some do but most don't, if you and your partner had to stop for any of the given reasons, would you delete and then come back and have to start all over again as newbies after loosing all your veri's?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here??

We once drove into a petrol station and did not purchase a single drop!..instead we purchased a pack of cigarettes, a couple of sandwiches and drinks. We really don't know why it was called a petrol station. We didn't want or need petrol. Luckily for us though, the attendant understood as there were other items for sale and services offered ie car wash and even dry-cleaning, so she had no expectation that we must by petrol, and was happy for us to merely use the facility for the other services it offered."

Bliddy timewasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We put "not meeting at the moment" on our profile at the beginning of April due to the fact that my daughter was seriously ill intensive care! We didn't want to delete our account and we stayed in touch with some of our friends on here who were of great support through a very tough 3 weeks or so!

Much easier putting it on our profile instead of having to explain why we weren't meeting to individual messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spending time browsing and contributing in the forums is one of my favourite ways to waste time.

There are many reasons to be on FAB, it is not all about meeting people for sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We put "not meeting at the moment" on our profile at the beginning of April due to the fact that my daughter was seriously ill intensive care! We didn't want to delete our account and we stayed in touch with some of our friends on here who were of great support through a very tough 3 weeks or so!

Much easier putting it on our profile instead of having to explain why we weren't meeting to individual messages!"

Perfectly understandable. You shouldn't feel the need to fully explain yourselves because some people think being signed up on a swinging site means you should be meeting 24/7!

We hope your daughter is on the mend x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We put "not meeting at the moment" on our profile at the beginning of April due to the fact that my daughter was seriously ill intensive care! We didn't want to delete our account and we stayed in touch with some of our friends on here who were of great support through a very tough 3 weeks or so!

Much easier putting it on our profile instead of having to explain why we weren't meeting to individual messages!

Perfectly understandable. You shouldn't feel the need to fully explain yourselves because some people think being signed up on a swinging site means you should be meeting 24/7!

We hope your daughter is on the mend x"

she is much better now thank you!

Too many people on this site let silly things get to them! Like the fact that some people put "not meeting at the moment" as others have said some people don't wish to actually meet. Just wish to cam or even chat in the forums or in chat room! Why is it anyone's concern what others have or don't have on their profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...and some of us have been on this site so long we're shagged out, so live vicariously off other shaggers stories in the fantasy forum.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here?? "
I love people that think they are admin. So long as people abide by the rules of the site...who cares?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah well, I hear what you lot are saying, but joining this site then not wanting to meet is an absolute waste of time.. Thats just my opinion though and im sticking to it..

How about the ones that joined the site, met and had plenty of fun. Then work and family pressures meant they couldn't meet (focus on the word "couldn't") but have every intention of playing again in the future? In the meantime, they choose to use the site to keep in touch with established friends and use the forums? ....or is really that wrong that because they have a profile they MUST be flat on their backs shagging 24/7? "

I'm not meeting at the moment as I've got a lot on for the summer and don't want new people to mail me. I'm still on to chat to friends and also look at forums.

Also because constant mails from single blokes and couples that think I'm just a piece of meat have put me off meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here?? "

Plenty more fish in the sea. peeps have things in their life, believe it or not. They are not here for our convenience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here?? "

The key is "Moment"! Its not never but its not now and fab as a site actively promotes hiding profiles rather than deleting.

So the point is they may meet next week, next month or next year but not right now. I hope that clears your quandary up and you can sleep at nights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah well, I hear what you lot are saying, but joining this site then not wanting to meet is an absolute waste of time.. Thats just my opinion though and im sticking to it..

How about the ones that joined the site, met and had plenty of fun. Then work and family pressures meant they couldn't meet (focus on the word "couldn't") but have every intention of playing again in the future? In the meantime, they choose to use the site to keep in touch with established friends and use the forums? ....or is really that wrong that because they have a profile they MUST be flat on their backs shagging 24/7?

I'm not meeting at the moment as I've got a lot on for the summer and don't want new people to mail me. I'm still on to chat to friends and also look at forums.

Also because constant mails from single blokes and couples that think I'm just a piece of meat have put me off meeting. "

Yep, constant mail put us off too. Apart from friends and acquaintances, we have blocked all incoming mail now as our short little "not meeting at the moment" got ignored by some single guys and couples.

ps. we are from the same town

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

when i'm meeting i meet prolifically, even more than one meet a day on occasion. But currently i'm working away a lot and meeting while sharing a corporate apartment with colleagues is not going to happen. And when i'm home i might just want to slob, or only meet people i already know. I haven't put "not currently looking for new meets" on my profile but i have said it to a few. Normal service will resume, but why should i delete or hide my profile between now and then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just picking up on thos topic

I guess it everything to do with circumstances ie;

1. The married people "playing away" are at mercy of thier partners movements

2. Work commitments

3. Holidays

4. Taking a break from meeting foe sex; a very common and sometimes sensible attitude to have

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington


"Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here??

When I put 'Not meeting' it means Im not meeting new people because Im too busy shagging the arse off my friends "

ooooh me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind people 'not meeting'

but as for the couples and 'couples', when one half is playing (lets say the male half), yet still 'advertize' the female half through pics, that does my head in

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Ah well, I hear what you lot are saying, but joining this site then not wanting to meet is an absolute waste of time.. Thats just my opinion though and im sticking to it..

How about the ones that joined the site, met and had plenty of fun. Then work and family pressures meant they couldn't meet (focus on the word "couldn't") but have every intention of playing again in the future? In the meantime, they choose to use the site to keep in touch with established friends and use the forums? ....or is really that wrong that because they have a profile they MUST be flat on their backs shagging 24/7? "

Well said

We are not meeting at the moment for a few reasons. It's not that we don't want to, more a case of can't.

It is stated clearly on our profile. If some people have a problem with it...tough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah well, I hear what you lot are saying, but joining this site then not wanting to meet is an absolute waste of time.. Thats just my opinion though and im sticking to it..

How about the ones that joined the site, met and had plenty of fun. Then work and family pressures meant they couldn't meet (focus on the word "couldn't") but have every intention of playing again in the future? In the meantime, they choose to use the site to keep in touch with established friends and use the forums? ....or is really that wrong that because they have a profile they MUST be flat on their backs shagging 24/7?

Well said

We are not meeting at the moment for a few reasons. It's not that we don't want to, more a case of can't.

It is stated clearly on our profile. If some people have a problem with it...tough! "

fancy a meet???...why not? timewaster?-ur blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

Also because constant mails from single blokes and couples that think I'm just a piece of meat have put me off meeting.

Yep, constant mail put us off too. Apart from friends and acquaintances, we have blocked all incoming mail now as our short little "not meeting at the moment" got ignored by some single guys and couples.

ps. we are from the same town "

Hello neighbours! I'd ask you round for coffee but I'm not meeting at the mo...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some sites are a lot worse than this. Used like facebook. See how many Names you can collect !"

I've just been trying to 'poke' everybody, it's much more hands on than Facebook though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here?? "

Meeting is not the be all and end all for me, as long as I get my end away I'm not bothered about the small talk and I don't like tea or coffee anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been on this site for about six years and in that time a lot of circumstances and priorities have changed.

At the moment we don't feel like meeting others for sex but we are still enjoying having fun taking pics and posting them for a giggle.

The site is something different from the normal every day things we do.

We have a choice to do what we feel is right for us and everyone on this site has that same choice.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

We can go one better than 'not meeting'..we dont meet at all..(apart from a one off that was strictly social) but it doesn't stop us paying our subscription,chatting to lovely people and enjoying the site in general..

We have never felt obliged to meet people from here and 99.999% of people wouldnt want to meet us anyway as we have nothing to offer..

Its just a website..not a way of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing this on more and more profiles on this site at the moment! If you dont meet what exactly is the point of being here?? "

"Not meeting" is the 5 mintues it takes to masturbate on a considerate males profile. Other than that it's Game On

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not meeting at the moment for several, personal reasons & we don't feel the need to tell everyone what they are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people have a life outside of Fabs.

Unbelievable, eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people have a life outside of Fabs.

Unbelievable, eh? "

Totally! I spend the rest of my time on plentyoffish telling crazy bitches to stop pestering me for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chatrooms, forums, keeping up with friends, socials ....lots of reasons.

Many put it on their profile when they have too much mail to cope with, or enough meets organised.

Lots will put not meeting when the kids are off school on their holidays.

All or some of the above have been my reasons over the years. "
agree

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By *exy milf 1962Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Likewise ~ we often have a break for a few months ,Don't have to delete and still can enjoy thesite,forums,mesaging peeps and friends alike xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had two guys have a bitch at me like the fab police lately as when I replied sorry not meeting new peeps at the moment as I have all I need, they oth told me I shouldn't be on a site like this

Who died and gave them the right to say I can't use it to keep up with my friends and forumites! Cheeky buggers

Oh one even said this isn't the place for cyber sex? Really? Is that not allowed?

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

No one owes anyone an explanation as to why and when they dip in and out of the scene.

We wont be on the scene for various reasons for 5 months from September but will be right back in March next year.

Are we going to close our profile? Fuck no.

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By *onny BonesMan
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

To each their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had two guys have a bitch at me like the fab police lately as when I replied sorry not meeting new peeps at the moment as I have all I need, they oth told me I shouldn't be on a site like this

Who died and gave them the right to say I can't use it to keep up with my friends and forumites! Cheeky buggers

Oh one even said this isn't the place for cyber sex? Really? Is that not allowed? "

Clearly you didn't read the site rules. "females must meet, shag and give blow jobs to all men that mail, wink or send friend invites. No matter the time of day or distance to travel. Cyber sex is not allowed."

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