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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do married ladies play away, or is it always married men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I know of a few married ladies on here without their partners knowledge.

I was also in the forces and used to see a lot of guys going out the back door as the returning husbands came in the front!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely. They just tend to be judged less harshly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was also in the forces and used to see a lot of guys going out the back door as the returning husbands came in the front! "

if any young lady does that to my boy i will most certainly kick her backside, and rest assured i'll do it to his also if he does it to her for certain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was also in the forces and used to see a lot of guys going out the back door as the returning husbands came in the front!

if any young lady does that to my boy i will most certainly kick her backside, and rest assured i'll do it to his also if he does it to her for certain "

He'll be more afraid of you than any conflict situation!

Unfortunately 'playing away' was all to rife in the forces from what I was witness to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was also in the forces and used to see a lot of guys going out the back door as the returning husbands came in the front!

if any young lady does that to my boy i will most certainly kick her backside, and rest assured i'll do it to his also if he does it to her for certain

He'll be more afraid of you than any conflict situation!

Unfortunately 'playing away' was all to rife in the forces from what I was witness to. "

too right tyrant momma me

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

yes they do i know of one on here who claims hubby knows all but really doesnt have a clue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was with a married woman who had maintained she'd never been unfaithful before, then one day the phone rang and it was an irate wife threatening her with this, that but certainly not the other

Maybe unfaithful women just hide it better

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

I'm married and state so clearly on my profile. I've had comments made too but it's no one's business but mine.

My hubby knows I play away but I don't go into detail as he doesn't want to know, Doesn't mean guilt, rather that I am open and honest with him.

I don't judge others either, they live with their choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm married and state so clearly on my profile. I've had comments made too but it's no one's business but mine.

My hubby knows I play away but I don't go into detail as he doesn't want to know, Doesn't mean guilt, rather that I am open and honest with him.

I don't judge others either, they live with their choices. "

i wouldnt class that as playing away tho

to me playing away is when your doing it behind his back, if he knows you do it, even if he dont like the idea, its not playing away

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

"I'm married and state so clearly on my profile. I've had comments made too but it's no one's business but mine.

My hubby knows I play away but I don't go into detail as he doesn't want to know, Doesn't mean guilt, rather that I am open and honest with him.

I don't judge others either, they live with their choices.

i wouldnt class that as playing away tho

to me playing away is when your doing it behind his back, if he knows you do it, even if he dont like the idea, its not playing away"

I agree but there are always those who frown on it. In the same way I can understand men who's wives know and permit them to play away. Many would be dubious but we never know individuals circumstances

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

On here it seems that married men who play away are right bastards..

Married women who do it only do because their husbands are right bastards..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here it seems that married men who play away are right bastards..

Married women who do it only do because their husbands are right bastards..

PMSL its only funnt as its percieved true xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had a proposition from a couple once who were both married, but not to each other????????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"had a proposition from a couple once who were both married, but not to each other????????????

yes the married....but not to each others becoming more common....now are they both cheaters or swingers ?

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

"had a proposition from a couple once who were both married, but not to each other????????????

yes the married....but not to each others becoming more common....now are they both cheaters or swingers ?"

Not necessarily, I had a cpls profile with a fellow married. Both in the same boat so neither of us were cheaters.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

or course they do.

actions like that are not gender specific.

same as there are also males that wont cheat, as well as females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"had a proposition from a couple once who were both married, but not to each other????????????

yes the married....but not to each others becoming more common....now are they both cheaters or swingers ?

Not necessarily, I had a cpls profile with a fellow married. Both in the same boat so neither of us were cheaters. "

so both marital partners were aware ? if so not cheating....but what if its done in secrecy ?

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

the ones that amuse me are the married ladies, claiming to be single and state on their profile "no married/attached males" ....... wtf??!!!!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"the ones that amuse me are the married ladies, claiming to be single and state on their profile "no married/attached males" ....... wtf??!!!!!

maybe the guilt for some is then "too close to home" so the speak....

but like others havs said.. the actions aren't gender specific.. so I treat both the same.....

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Maybe the married ones playing behind their partner's back are happy to cheart but not to be cheated on? Double standards.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"I'm married and state so clearly on my profile. I've had comments made too but it's no one's business but mine.

My hubby knows I play away but I don't go into detail as he doesn't want to know, Doesn't mean guilt, rather that I am open and honest with him.

I don't judge others either, they live with their choices.

i wouldnt class that as playing away tho

to me playing away is when your doing it behind his back, if he knows you do it, even if he dont like the idea, its not playing away"

not saying anything against elkie, as her situation is hers completely, but thats what playing away is.

whether he doesnt know about it, or knows and isnt happy, thats the same, surely.

if he was happy for her to do it, and maybe even share in the stories, then to me thats fine, but to not be happy about it, says he agrees to it happening to keep her/keep her happy, and no more.

again, a personal opinion. not castigating elkie at all

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

"I'm married and state so clearly on my profile. I've had comments made too but it's no one's business but mine.

My hubby knows I play away but I don't go into detail as he doesn't want to know, Doesn't mean guilt, rather that I am open and honest with him.

I don't judge others either, they live with their choices.

i wouldnt class that as playing away tho

to me playing away is when your doing it behind his back, if he knows you do it, even if he dont like the idea, its not playing away

not saying anything against elkie, as her situation is hers completely, but thats what playing away is.

whether he doesnt know about it, or knows and isnt happy, thats the same, surely.

if he was happy for her to do it, and maybe even share in the stories, then to me thats fine, but to not be happy about it, says he agrees to it happening to keep her/keep her happy, and no more.

again, a personal opinion. not castigating elkie at all"

I'm thick skinned and don't take it personally. Like I said, I'm not seeking approval.

Some people have different sexual wants and needs which means that friction can build up if it's one sided and the needs aren't fulfilled. For me it was recognising that that side of my marriage was over and I needed more.

We have an amicable 'split' but live together for the kids and the kids know this so again, it's not that he doesn't like what I'm doing, he's just not interested.

I guess there will always be those who are cheating and those that have a reason to play away. We can chose who we play with but none of us have the right to judge others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah i'm married and it's clearly stated on my profile, i dont care what others on here think about it as it's my business and no one else's, i'm not here to judge or be judged......

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Most definitely. They just tend to be judged less harshly."

Reason being they get on with it and don't come onto the forums whining like bitches about not getting meets.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"yeah i'm married and it's clearly stated on my profile, i dont care what others on here think about it as it's my business and no one else's, i'm not here to judge or be judged......"

Agree...just wish the married men that contact me despite me having "no married" on my profile would not try and involve me in their business!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

sometimes there are some married ladies as a married man playing away i sympathise with their situation its only sex after all everyone should be entitled to live how they like without being judged all the time if its not your thing just pass us by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I know of a few married ladies on here without their partners knowledge.

I was also in the forces and used to see a lot of guys going out the back door as the returning husbands came in the front! "

Bugger thought I was well camouflaged up too

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

"Most definitely. They just tend to be judged less harshly.

Reason being they get on with it and don't come onto the forums whining like bitches about not getting meets.

Did I miss something? Who's whining?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm married and state so clearly on my profile. I've had comments made too but it's no one's business but mine.

My hubby knows I play away but I don't go into detail as he doesn't want to know, Doesn't mean guilt, rather that I am open and honest with him.

I don't judge others either, they live with their choices.

i wouldnt class that as playing away tho

to me playing away is when your doing it behind his back, if he knows you do it, even if he dont like the idea, its not playing away

not saying anything against elkie, as her situation is hers completely, but thats what playing away is.

whether he doesnt know about it, or knows and isnt happy, thats the same, surely.

if he was happy for her to do it, and maybe even share in the stories, then to me thats fine, but to not be happy about it, says he agrees to it happening to keep her/keep her happy, and no more.

again, a personal opinion. not castigating elkie at all

I'm thick skinned and don't take it personally. Like I said, I'm not seeking approval.

We have an amicable 'split' but live together for the kids and the kids know this so again, it's not that he doesn't like what I'm doing, he's just not interested.

I guess there will always be those who are cheating and those that have a reason to play away. We can chose who we play with but none of us have the right to judge others. "

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

If you don't want to be judged find another planet, or live alone in a cave.

However if you come on here get ready to be judged. It's a discussion forum so ideas and opinions are the order of the day. No doubt I will be judged as being too restricted by some, too down the line.

Saying you have the right to live your life the way you want is fine, but surely your partner should have that oppertunity too.

For me it always comes back to what arrangement you live by, but most marrage contracts are that 'a contract'.

A contract is an agreement entered into voluntarily by two parties or more with the intention of creating a legal obligation, which may have elements in writing, though contracts can be made orally. The remedy for breach of contract can be "damages" or compensation of money. In equity, the remedy can be specific performance of the contract or an injunction. Both of these remedies award the party at loss the "benefit of the bargain" or expectation damages, which are greater than mere reliance damages, as in promissory estoppel. The parties may be natural persons or juristic persons. A contract is a legally enforceable promise or undertaking that something will or will not occur. The word promise can be used as a legal synonym for contract, although care is required as a promise may not have the full standing of a contract, as when it is an agreement without consideration.

So you can have a marrage contract and verbally agree to set parts or all of it aside, but in the end it has to be done openly and freely by both parties.

And yes I stole the legal part from wiki.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Most definitely. They just tend to be judged less harshly.

Reason being they get on with it and don't come onto the forums whining like bitches about not getting meets.

Did I miss something? Who's whining?"

Married men!

I've never seen a married woman start a thread about not getting meets but the men do and whine about it. I've also had married men contacting me asking what difference does it make if they're married, it's nsa?

It would NEVER cross my mind to contact a married man and pass judgement, yet some feel the need to contact me about the "no married" on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would NEVER cross my mind to contact a married man and pass judgement, yet some feel the need to contact me about the "no married" on my profile.

There's probably plenty of men who would never think to contact you and pass judgement, and there are probably women out there who contact married men to pass judgement as well. Your sample isn't exactly a fair representation here

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"Most definitely. They just tend to be judged less harshly.

Reason being they get on with it and don't come onto the forums whining like bitches about not getting meets.

Did I miss something? Who's whining?

Married men!

It would NEVER cross my mind to contact a married man and pass judgement, yet some feel the need to contact me about the "no married" on my profile.

I'd imagine that's just a simple case of supply and demand. Ladies are in more demand than men, due to being fewer in number. So women have a greater ability to pick and choose.

Men on the other hand have less of a choice, due to the smaller selection of women, so if they start having principles about not fucking those ladies who are married then it reduces the pool of their possible meets still further.

I know people don't like to think of themselves as being in a market place, but we are, we are all judged for one reason or another, body shape, age, sexual openess, travelling distance, social awareness, etc etc.

Even what we say here, people will think god I would not want to meet them or they sound like they are up themselves, but she has a nice tush so I'd still give them a try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sometimes there are some married ladies as a married man playing away i sympathise with their situation its only sex after all everyone should be entitled to live how they like without being judged all the time if its not your thing just pass us by"

Well that's just a silly thing to say. One, we're all being constantly judged by each other anyway but more importantly two, NOT everyone should be entitled to live how they like. Rapists shouldn't, thieves shouldn't, murderers shouldn't...

Some think cheats should be, some think they shouldn't. That's the difference. It's got nothing to do with one side being free and liberal as people and the other being judgemental and controlling as people.

But hey if it helps you sleep at night, think what you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met a few married women, and i never judge anyone , at the end of the day may be they dont get enough sex, to be honest i dont give a shit, i am here for fun any way, and thats about it

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"I have met a few married women, and i never judge anyone , at the end of the day may be they dont get enough sex, to be honest i dont give a shit, i am here for fun any way, and thats about it

Really never judge anyone??

Not even she was a good shag or an average shag, or it's no wonder her hubby does not fuck her???

You are right in that it's not your issue,

unless hubby comes in with a baseball bat. But then maybe your a fast runner.

Knowing me I'd probably trip up going out through the window and end up cracking my head open on the patio below.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It shouldn't matter if they are married or not really. At the end of the day we are on here to swing. What people do in there home lives should be there business and there business alone.

It becomes wrong on here when the other swinger becomes involved in arguments with other said married parties involved.

As long as home lives and the swinging lives remain seperate in a controlled environment and there is a attraction to get what each other needs from each of the swingers then there shouldn't be a problem.

What is a problem people discriminate people for there personal circumstances and judge people before they meet them.

Now isn't that just equally as wrong of other people to judge a book by its cover on personal circumstances.

I'm not married but just see it from both sides of the fence and don't discriminate between the two.

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

A cheating person will likely suffer eventually because of it as they'll get found out sooner or later, but that's their concern.

As to whether or not I'd ever meet a cheating person, absolutely not. I don't think cheating is possible in a real relationship. If you don't feel you can maintain your relationship without extra sex, you should be able to tell them the problem and come to an agreement (as Elkie did).

If you neither trust nor are satisfied with your partner then what have you really got?

Those are my thoughts on the matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way we see it is that swinging is about openness and honesty, not just nsa sex. So if a person is playing away with their partners knowledge, consent and support then that is not cheating.

Cheating however is not swinging as it is something done in secrecy and involves deception. The opposite of what swinging is about.

We have decided not to play with cheats as we both know how it feels to be cheated on. Are we judgmental? Yes we are. But at the end of the day, everyone plays by their own rules, we just don't want to be involved in someone else's deception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It shouldn't matter if they are married or not really. At the end of the day we are on here to swing. What people do in there home lives should be there business and there business alone.

Anyone want to page Fabio to have him tell his "swinger friend who got killed in a car crash and turned out to be married" story?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"It shouldn't matter if they are married or not really. At the end of the day we are on here to swing. What people do in there home lives should be there business and there business alone.

Anyone want to page Fabio to have him tell his "swinger friend who got killed in a car crash and turned out to be married" story?"

It's a bit of an extreme example but the point is valid. Once you interact with someone else then you are a part of their lives.

There are many possibilities. It could be a fuck that no one else ever has to know about. It could be that the partner has suspicions and has hired a private dick to check their partner out. The other person could slip and fall in the shower and need hospital treatment.

We all judge I can't understand those who say they don't as how do they make a decision or choice without judgement. Judgement is subjective and so not everyone will agree. But even saying that others should not judge or choice people on personal circumstances, is a judgement on those people.

I can't imagine doing anything without making a judgement, ie what shall I have for breakfast, do I discriminate against cornflakes or cheerio's.

Which one will be offended the most if I don't pick them???

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I have met a few married women, and i never judge anyone , at the end of the day may be they dont get enough sex, to be honest i dont give a shit, i am here for fun any way, and thats about it

easy enough having that attitude.... but would you say that to the man who you have been having sex with their wife behind their back and then found out???

bravado is all well and good... but i bet it is exactly that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would never play away and avoid those that do,no respect for husband or wife how much respect would they have for me???

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Anyone want to page Fabio to have him tell his "swinger friend who got killed in a car crash and turned out to be married" story?"

I could tell it here again...... but the one thing I notice is that whenever I tell it.... people gloss over it..... because it tells the cold hard truth and people don't like thinking about it....

for anyone who hasn't read it... this is what is being spoken about

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/101540

I absolutely stand by both of the long posts in that thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im married... yes i see others... no he dont

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By *rs Robinson1Woman
over a year ago

Chapel Row

"Do married ladies play away, or is it always married men?

I dont but Im sure there are lots of women on here that do

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By *ingmasterMan
over a year ago

nottingham

im surprised by how holier than thou some people are about the choices that others make in their private lives . Lets face it , once you enter the world of meeting strangers for sex , in terms of 'morals' we're all already on sandy ground . Do you tell your family and friends about your swinging activities? no ? how come , what you ashamed of if youre so proud of how you live ? None of their business and they have no right to know what you do with other consenting adults right ?Seems like a lot of folk hold others to a higher standard than they hold themselves .yes , families can be broken up and the poor inocent children upset in extreme examples but 1 in 2 marriages break up anyway for reasons that have nothing to do with swinging .

Get over it , just because you may have been hurt by an affair in the past doesnt mean you have a devine right to crusade against all others that may have made that choice for reasons that you know nothing about .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure...I havent come accross any that play away....

Im married and hubby knows, he plays also..xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lets face it , once you enter the world of meeting strangers for sex , in terms of 'morals' we're all already on sandy ground ."

You say that on a swingers site? Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do you mean just swingers or in general?if in general of course they do otherwise a woman being divorced on grounds of adultery would be unknown!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've played on my own once, with my husbands knowledge and consent. He was quite happy for me to meet this particular guy and wanted the details when I got home. I enjoyed it even though it seemed very strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im surprised by how holier than thou some people are about the choices that others make in their private lives . Lets face it , once you enter the world of meeting strangers for sex , in terms of 'morals' we're all already on sandy ground . Do you tell your family and friends about your swinging activities? no ? how come , what you ashamed of if youre so proud of how you live ? None of their business and they have no right to know what you do with other consenting adults right ?Seems like a lot of folk hold others to a higher standard than they hold themselves .yes , families can be broken up and the poor inocent children upset in extreme examples but 1 in 2 marriages break up anyway for reasons that have nothing to do with swinging .

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