FabSwingers.com forum: Are singles scared of couples?

By *eet_the_spartan OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

From a few posts i've seen on another thread, it seems quite a few single members of the site are put off meeting couples for fear of 'being outnumbered' or in case the couple goes mental screaming at each other about crossing boundaries.

I'm sure these things happen but surely they must be incredibly rare. Just interested in how many of you singles would be put off by a couple, why and if you've ever had any dodgy experiences in the past?

p.s. I'm part of a couple too, hence the concern

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am I fuck,people are people to me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use that little muscle between my ears and pick nice couples, so no I'm not afraid of them.

I do like to have a social meet with both of them and thrash out any pre-meet likes and dislikes, then we take it from there once everyone agrees to how the play might be. It may sound clinical but it does eliminate any doubts or concerns all round.

Orrrrrrr ! in a club situation I ask is it okay if I ........? and then we all dive in!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a couple with my fb once. She was great, we met for a coffee and we got on like a house on fire. Then all 4 of us met up and it was awful. Her bloke constantly put her down and made snide comments about her. Me and my fb felt really awkward and tried to stick up for her. It put me off meeting couples for a long time.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet couples, I'm not 'scared' of them but I have had problems in the past that have put me off, it's just easier being two singles meeting, I don't like feeling like I have to tread on egg shell on a meet and couples make me feel like that men don't

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes find one member of the couple tends to be doing it to please the other, which is really off putting as you cant relax and have uninhibited fun with both of them...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been put of meeting couples by the messages I get. They have all been about what I can do for them like I a free escort I not saying I wont ever meet couples but I have blocked them and If I want to meet a couple I will look for them at my pace not be bombarded by their demanding messages

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet single guys the ones we have met dont seem scared x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't meet couples, I'm not 'scared' of them but I have had problems in the past that have put me off, it's just easier being two singles meeting, I don't like feeling like I have to tread on egg shell on a meet and couples make me feel like that men don't "

same for me too.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *exxymeWoman
over a year ago

south devon

same for me too."

me too. ive met couples in the past but didnt find them fun at all. i just stick to single or couple of men.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eet_the_spartan OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

We've met couples in the past with the same issue of one wanting to be there and the other obviously just there to please the other and find it a massive turn off.

Not had boundary issues with anyone yet thankfully but we're full swap and generally would seek out other full swap couples who've got plenty of veri's (we assume the people who've been on here a while and had quite a few meets know what they like and what they don't).

Any boundary issue horror stories? Short of a stalker or two we've yet to get many good horror stories. I kind of want one just to laugh about later..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The couple we met had tons of veri's and tons of photo's too. Pics of her having lots of fun. Yet when we met it was really awkward like it was their first ever meet and she didn't want to do it.

So not a horror story as such but it scared me off looking even at people with veri's. After the meet she texted and said what a fantastic time they'd had and wanted to do it again.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eet_the_spartan OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"The couple we met had tons of veri's and tons of photo's too. Pics of her having lots of fun. Yet when we met it was really awkward like it was their first ever meet and she didn't want to do it.

So not a horror story as such but it scared me off looking even at people with veri's. After the meet she texted and said what a fantastic time they'd had and wanted to do it again.

?? That's just weird

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I know it's hard to believe on here, but I'm 100% straight, I don't have any voyeuristic or exhibitionist tendencies so couples hold no appeal to me whatsoever.

I don't think people fear couples, some couples are just more fun and approachable than others.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Couples dont't scare me I leave the lights on

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been put of meeting couples by the messages I get. They have all been about what I can do for them like I a free escort I not saying I wont ever meet couples but I have blocked them and If I want to meet a couple I will look for them at my pace not be bombarded by their demanding messages"

I've only engaged with one couple I was truly interested in here and sadly they left before we could meet.

I've found that most couples are not worried about other people's wants and desires and that comes across in a lot of messages and profiles.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I'm scared of couples!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eet_the_spartan OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I'm scared of couples!"

I'm scared of revision. Oops, off topic, the OP's going to be annoyed. Think he's too busy revising though..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I find surprising is it seems to be more women who have had problems with couples than men, yet it only seems to be men couple 'bash' on here, when was the last time you saw a thead about 'women who can't read profiles?'

Do you think that's because men are more open to seeing their wifes with another guy than women are to seeing their fella with a woman so men are less likely to kick off? After all you see all the time men on here looking to get their wife's fucked but you never seem to see women with the same fantasy

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"What I find surprising is it seems to be more women who have had problems with couples than men, yet it only seems to be men couple 'bash' on here, when was the last time you saw a thead about 'women who can't read profiles?'

Actually... I believe its because couples have move to lose by "bashing" single females, that as well as males not really having much say (or defence) in the matter if they are bashed on... so bash away!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Interesting.

I had read some comments recently in different posts and thought along the same lines of the OP.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't say I'm scared of coupled no, but had a few bad experiences in the past, just a bit more cautious now

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Im scared of some couples and im half of a couple myself

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more nervous than scared.

Just worried that it'll all go wrong or that my inexperience will show, or I'll spend more time on on than the other thus end up pissing the other one off, etc etc etc.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*on one

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only ever met one couple and they were absolutely fantastic! Didnt feel threatened at all but then I think it has a lot to do with your own attitude, be respectful that they have invited you into their person life and space and not take it for granted makes all the difference. Being non pushy is the way to go.

At the end of the day we are all swinging to have fun and enjoy the pleasures of the flesh. If you feel intimidated and uncomfortable then swinging is obviously not for you!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We've met single guys and single ladies and never had a problem, I suppose a couple with issues would be just as bad if they met another couple if they aren't secure in what they're doing. If a single doesn't feel comfortable for whatever reason in meeting a couple the solution is easly - don't meet them! Z

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I've met various couples in the past, and had no problems, most have been lovely.

I did have one bad experience with a couple where the female got up to go to the bathroom, and when she came back and saw me and her husband had carried on as we were, called me a screaming hussy, a whore, and various other names and tried to kick me out the house.

I left of my own accord, but because it was new years eve, I was stuck, and ended up spending the night in the train station!

Now I'm very careful which couples I meet, and always insist on social meets first.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lam rockerMan
over a year ago

Tain

I'm scared of couples - I need a couple to make me relaxed and take the pressure off! Any volunteers?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From a few posts i've seen on another thread, it seems quite a few single members of the site are put off meeting couples for fear of 'being outnumbered' or in case the couple goes mental screaming at each other about crossing boundaries.

p.s. I'm part of a couple too, hence the concern"

I have met singles and couples from here and have never had a problem with couples they have always been perfect hosts/visitors and have always had fun and infact nearly every couple i have met i have met more than once. If couples or indeed singles may be a problem i just won't meet them. So couples get a big thumbs up from me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be a little daunting ... when you're part of a couple you must remember that you have the safety and security of each other both in a very real sense but also the support.

As a single you're on you're own. In my experience too it's unfair to get the single person to trek miles out of thier way while the couple sit comfortably in thier little nest expecting a visit. The single then has to find thier way home in unfamiliar territory.

Play nice

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would nt meet a couple because I am straight , so to put a man in any kind of sexual scenario would make me feel sick

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" but because it was new years eve, I was stuck, and ended up spending the night in the train station!

That is just so wrong on every level, if a single or a couple were to visit us and for some reason didn't play or even if they did, there would be a spare bed, or a lift home on offer... hell good manners are important!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he one you wantMan
over a year ago

kidsgrove

My first ever meet on here was with a couple and it was great, we had a threesome and then mr was very polite and let me spend the rest of the evening with his mrs. they are now comfortable with me either meeting just her or both of them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"I would nt meet a couple because I am straight , so to put a man in any kind of sexual scenario would make me feel sick

So you think a single person who meets a couple must be gay - wow

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he one you wantMan
over a year ago

kidsgrove

"I would nt meet a couple because I am straight , so to put a man in any kind of sexual scenario would make me feel sick

So you think a single person who meets a couple must be gay - wow

Does that mean I'm gay then? Shit I'd best tell the wife..... Muppet

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm more nervous than scared.

Just worried that it'll all go wrong or that my inexperience will show, or I'll spend more time on on than the other thus end up pissing the other one off, etc etc etc.

I pretty much feel the same especially with the lack of experience bit. I know we all have to start somewhere though

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive met plenty of couples and never had any problem apart from one couples place which looked like a scene out of saw which i decided to bail on lol

but i tend to try and work out what the crack is, usually meet with couples ive spoken too for a while, i like the ones that want to have a crack and socialise for a hour or two first. on the few occassions ive been asked around for something short notice where they looking to get cracking early on (due to time of night!) its always been with couples ive got to know over a long peroid of time.

so that way i dont really get no problems, i know from speaking to them both that things are going to be good. its when i know ive only spoken to the bloke and things they are asking or wanting to do that kinda gives me alarm bells, as i only like releaxed easy going couples, and thats why i prefere the social side of couples as these are normally the best for me, and i dont get problems doing things this way where i feel a spare part!

nowt to be afraid of, your selection process of making contacts single or couples is what leads to good meets or not.

if you meet someone inappropiate/not compatible with you, then its usually just as much your fault as theirs as you should of put a bit more work into getting to know them to get rid of the risk of a bad meet or not!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would nt meet a couple because I am straight , so to put a man in any kind of sexual scenario would make me feel sick

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we must be the only couple who are not bothered about meeting single women. We have met single guys and I don't think we scared them too much

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I've met various couples in the past, and had no problems, most have been lovely.

That's wrong on every level.

Once had an invite to a couple's, sadly they couldn't accomodate overnight, and nearest hotel was miles from theirs so rather than leave their at a late hour, have to get n expensive cab to go miles to the hotel for a couple of hours kip, then train home back to London in the morning I simply chose not to go... was looking way too expensive a meet.

I left of my own accord, but because it was new years eve, I was stuck, and ended up spending the night in the train station!

Now I'm very careful which couples I meet, and always insist on social meets first. "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would nt meet a couple because I am straight , so to put a man in any kind of sexual scenario would make me feel sick

So you think a single person who meets a couple must be gay - wow

im not actually sure i understand what is ment by that

what does.... 'so to put a man in any kind of sexual scenario would make me feel sick'..... mean?

surely a man fucking a woman is a sexual scenario does that make you feel sick too?

i really dont get whats ment by that what am i missing?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would nt meet a couple because I am straight , so to put a man in any kind of sexual scenario would make me feel sick

So you think a single person who meets a couple must be gay - wow

im not actually sure i understand what is ment by that

what does.... 'so to put a man in any kind of sexual scenario would make me feel sick'..... mean?

surely a man fucking a woman is a sexual scenario does that make you feel sick too?

i really dont get whats ment by that what am i missing?

Any kind of sexual scenario I was involved in.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread