FabSwingers.com forum: Couples who don't like men.

By *ilthythanet OP Couple
over a year ago

ramsgate

Just a whinge but...

We've been swinging as a couple for almost 2 years now. Before that, I swung as a single guy, and had to put up with a lot of abuse from couples who were too stupid to block single males.

Now we get messages from the same idiots, who contact us, but only show interest in Linds.

When we meet a couple, we want to meet a COUPLE, otherwise, we'd only put single females up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you just block single guys and TV/TS? The option is there.

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By *emjoCouple
over a year ago

Reading

Lots of couples only want to meet single woman but as they are rare they contact couples and try to exclude the guy. At least some are honest up front.

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By *ilthythanet OP Couple
over a year ago

ramsgate

"Why don't you just block single guys and TV/TS? The option is there."

Err, I think you missed what we're saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't you just block single guys and TV/TS? The option is there."

U've misread. I think what the OP is saying, when he was single he was getting abuse from the cpls...now he has a partner, the same cpls are into it, but direct the attention to the female half

to the OP this is one of the reasons I cant stand cpls with the mostly male half dictating what he'd wanna do with (yes I've had a cpl of partners from here through the years)the newly 'acquired' female.

I'm not saying that s a single guy I deserve to get a meet with a couple, what I'm saying there is no need for couples to get uppity and aggressive.

everyone regardless of their gender should treat others with some respect, even if they are whats required(of course sending mail to a cpl that specifically ask for no males is silly, but then its also silly not using the filters feature)

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Fully sympathise with the OP's experiences. It's happened to me to, perhapes even more blatantly. I had a "Saturday friend" who I used to go to Swingers Clubs with on Couples nights. That said I also went to the same clubs as a single guy on a Friday. It was amazing to see which couples would totally "blank" me on a Friday night, and then would want to be my new best friend on a Saturday.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

"Lots of couples only want to meet single woman but as they are rare they contact couples and try to exclude the guy. At least some are honest up front."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of couples only want to meet single woman but as they are rare they contact couples and try to exclude the guy. At least some are honest up front."

on that note can we disclude (made that up) those cpls from being genuine swingers??-as all TRUE swingers know u have to be a cpl to play with a couple......

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Its very disconcerting as a couple to get these sort of couples message you.

Quite often we have found they are probably "fakes" or not really together any more, such odious requests as having to meet the male half of the couple alone first then getting to meet the female half after..

Single guys on the whole get a lot of crap on here, but honestly its nearly always been couples that have given us the most "issues"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Put a few more pictures of the male half on the profile.

Put a bit of focus on him instead of selling only the female.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

they are all private, but there are plenty

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By *ilthythanet OP Couple
over a year ago

ramsgate

"Put a few more pictures of the male half on the profile.

Put a bit of focus on him instead of selling only the female.

That's a very good idea!

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By *ilthythanet OP Couple
over a year ago

ramsgate

on that note can we disclude (made that up) those cpls from being genuine swingers??-as all TRUE swingers know u have to be a cpl to play with a couple......"

Well we don't think that you have to be a couple to be a swinger. But then we've swung as a couple and as singles, so maybe we've got a slightly different view point.

But we can assure we are TRUE swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on that note can we disclude (made that up) those cpls from being genuine swingers??-as all TRUE swingers know u have to be a cpl to play with a couple......

Well we don't think that you have to be a couple to be a swinger. But then we've swung as a couple and as singles, so maybe we've got a slightly different view point.

But we can assure we are TRUE swingers."

OP I was being sarcastic to the comment I quoted.couples mainly looking for single fems.Most would say, that is not swinging, as swingers are supposed to be attched/married couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion it's simply because most swinging in couples is driven by men. I would suggest a very high percentage of the profiles are written and managed by the Male half, usually it's the male half sat online behind the couples profile.

Does anyone really believe such a high percentage of the women are genuinely bi?

The main motivation for many couples is sex with other women, sharing is a distant second. Is this a bad thing? No. Maybe they should be more honest and admit their mainly looking for a threesome for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Put a few more pictures of the male half on the profile.

Put a bit of focus on him instead of selling only the female.

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I see that quite often on here, where the couples profile is full of the womans pics and her likes/dislikes and hardly a thing about the guy, similarly I get a lot of messages from the same profiles asking if I will meet the guy alone saying he's bi but she doesn't know.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

If emailing a couple..I email the both of them at least at first. If it is a introduction from searching e profiles.

If it is from chat then depending who I was asking to I tend to focus on that person...

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By *rs and mr sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

Boldon

We've been a couple for just over a year now, having had single profiles before. We have also noticed that a lot of the interest from couples has been directed at me rather than mrshields - I hasten to add that we do have some genuine meets where there is full swap and one lovely couple (they know who they are) who used to meet mrshields when he was single and now meet us as a couple with no favouritism to either one of us (if that makes sense). We have found that some couples really only want to meet single bi-women and as they are rare as rocking horse excrement, they target couples with bi-females in order to get what they want - when the meet happens, the girl gets all the attention and the guy feels like a spare part - and before anyone jumps on me - I know that this is not always the case!!! So, I fully sympathise with the OP.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

"We've been a couple for just over a year now, having had single profiles before. We have also noticed that a lot of the interest from couples has been directed at me rather than mrshields - I hasten to add that we do have some genuine meets where there is full swap and one lovely couple (they know who they are) who used to meet mrshields when he was single and now meet us as a couple with no favouritism to either one of us (if that makes sense). We have found that some couples really only want to meet single bi-women and as they are rare as rocking horse excrement, they target couples with bi-females in order to get what they want - when the meet happens, the girl gets all the attention and the guy feels like a spare part - and before anyone jumps on me - I know that this is not always the case!!! So, I fully sympathise with the OP.

darling do you remember the couple who suggested the guys went to the pub while the girls got down to the fun

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By *rs and mr sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

Boldon

" darling do you remember the couple who suggested the guys went to the pub while the girls got down to the fun

Lol, yes I do, needless to say they didn't get to meet us. I like to be fondled or fucked by a guy while I'm sucking on another woman's nipples or licking her pussy, and I'd like to think that my guy is getting equal rights!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion it's simply because most swinging in couples is driven by men. I would suggest a very high percentage of the profiles are written and managed by the Male half, usually it's the male half sat online behind the couples profile.

Does anyone really believe such a high percentage of the women are genuinely bi?

To be fair a lot do, but like other posters have said their inbox would probably then resemble a new single guys with no pics or veris up....

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By *ilthythanet OP Couple
over a year ago

ramsgate

darling do you remember the couple who suggested the guys went to the pub while the girls got down to the fun

You know we wouldn't mind that as much.

It's when the girl girl thing is happening, and then he starts playing with Linds, and then the other girl shows no interest in me, so I get to sit there like a lemon (although Linds tends to pick up on this very quickly)

Fair enough, if it's at a club, and she doesn't like me, but when you come and meet us, then that would be the time to maybe explain that she's not into him.

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