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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi am wandering that everytime I send a message most of the time I get no reply am not a wierdo can anyone point me in the right direction I offer to send pics just can't have them on my profile

Cheers jay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok as said many many times if u looked at your profile would u reply to u ? if the profile is your shop window for u what does yours say about u? secondly go in chat talk to people and if u r thinking about visiting a club go to a social and this way u meet lots of like minded people x hope this helps

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Hi am wandering that everytime I send a message most of the time I get no reply am not a wierdo can anyone point me in the right direction I offer to send pics just can't have them on my profile

Cheers jay "

Is it "everytime" or "most of the time"

If it's the former then I can understand your frustration but if it's the latter then at least you are getting some replies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi am wandering that everytime I send a message most of the time I get no reply am not a wierdo can anyone point me in the right direction I offer to send pics just can't have them on my profile

Cheers jay

Is it "everytime" or "most of the time"

If it's the former then I can understand your frustration but if it's the latter then at least you are getting some replies! "

Must have had at least one reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi am wandering that everytime I send a message most of the time I get no reply am not a wierdo can anyone point me in the right direction I offer to send pics just can't have them on my profile

Cheers jay "

ok IF u were a woman, what profiles are going to be more of an interest to u???..ones with pics?- many of us have them without having to get into tennis emails, and as most females and couples get more mail...then I suggest u stand out from the outset and not play the 'I'll send a pic' card

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Hi am wandering that everytime I send a message most of the time I get no reply am not a wierdo can anyone point me in the right direction I offer to send pics just can't have them on my profile

Cheers jay

ok IF u were a woman, what profiles are going to be more of an interest to u???..ones with pics?- many of us have them without having to get into tennis emails, and as most females and couples get more mail...then I suggest u stand out from the outset and not play the 'I'll send a pic' card"

I liked your version where you said man instead of woman better m8!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been here 3 weeks and had a meet already.

Some men wait months for that - infact, some men never get that 1st meet !

If you want some responses, mail some bi men !

Apparently they specialise in messaging male profiles that state 'straight'

So you're onto a winner straight away

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pictures, iv seen more writing on the back of a jar of pickle than there is on your profile.

You have been here 3 weeks, this site is not 'quick free fuck for all' you have to work at it, socials, forums, clubs chatrooms and a decent profile with some good pics (not the cock pic taken with your mobile in the bathroom mirror you find on most profiles!) you get out what you put in.

Use the forum search function to find other threads just like this (there are millions of them) and read the advise on them.

Kat x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi am wandering that everytime I send a message most of the time I get no reply am not a wierdo can anyone point me in the right direction I offer to send pics just can't have them on my profile

Cheers jay

ok IF u were a woman, what profiles are going to be more of an interest to u???..ones with pics?- many of us have them without having to get into tennis emails, and as most females and couples get more mail...then I suggest u stand out from the outset and not play the 'I'll send a pic' card

I liked your version where you said man instead of woman better m8! "

lol yeah...ive men on the brain these days...I'm totally straight but wanna suck some cock n shaft a hairy arse or two

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I always read the profile before opening a message.

I would delete your message without opening as (a) how would I know we're compatible with no information whatsoever of interest; (b) I'm a solicitor, having my picture on public view would not be advisable, but I still manage to have one in private - so I ignore people who can't have a private photo; (c) why would I want to pull teeth finding out about you when the other bloke has told me what he wants, what he likes etc...

If you think about it hardly rocket science why you're being ignored!

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Hi am wandering that everytime I send a message most of the time I get no reply am not a wierdo can anyone point me in the right direction I offer to send pics just can't have them on my profile

Cheers jay

ok IF u were a woman, what profiles are going to be more of an interest to u???..ones with pics?- many of us have them without having to get into tennis emails, and as most females and couples get more mail...then I suggest u stand out from the outset and not play the 'I'll send a pic' card

I liked your version where you said man instead of woman better m8!

lol yeah...ive men on the brain these days...I'm totally straight but wanna suck some cock n shaft a hairy arse or two"

As always mine's is off limits I'm afraid m8

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *tensonSwingersCouple
over a year ago

Stenson Fields


"Hi am wandering that everytime I send a message most of the time I get no reply am not a wierdo can anyone point me in the right direction I offer to send pics just can't have them on my profile

Cheers jay "

As a technically 'cheating' on your partner male, this will obviously upset a lot if moral swingers. If the spark has gone, you both need to sit down and talk about the reasons why it has gone. If no ground is made, then maybe its time to move on, as a relationship can only survive if both parties are happy and content....which you are clearly not or you wouldn't be on here. This is a swingers site, not a ' I'm not getting any at home so I'll be unfaithful with other women who enjoy sex' site.

We are far from being able to preach morality, but just giving you our perspective. Also, with so many 'single' guys to choose from, you need to have something more to offer. No pics on profile is a major negative for you. Why no pics?...who are you afraid might see them?.....only people who will are other members, and how are they going to judge you, when they are clearly doing the same by being on the same site?

If you need sex, go to a prostitute, this site is for swingers, its not a resolve to problems with frigid/not interested partners.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I always read the profile before opening a message.

I would delete your message without opening as (a) how would I know we're compatible with no information whatsoever of interest; (b) I'm a solicitor, having my picture on public view would not be advisable, but I still manage to have one in private - so I ignore people who can't have a private photo; (c) why would I want to pull teeth finding out about you when the other bloke has told me what he wants, what he likes etc...

If you think about it hardly rocket science why you're being ignored!"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We obviously cannot comment on the 'quality' or otherwise of your messages, but as others point out, the quality of your profile leaves an awful lot to be desired. We obviously also do not know how well you've selected the recipients of your messages for suitability. Put those 2 factors together, and we're kind of like trying to see clarity in fog - a bit like looking at your profile leaves little clue about you, other than that you're attached.

There are many who won't meet people who may be cheating - meets like that also carry the raised possibility that you could have to cancel at the last minute, possibly without the ability to even notify others that you're doing so, if your partner is around etc. Thus it potentially carries the loaded gun of disaster in the making.

So, people will respond, or not, depending on how good your profile is, and whether you may offer them what they need. We don't know from looking at your page.

This site has an abundance of males, some attached, others not, who are looking for singles or couples. You are in competition with them, so you'd better be offering as good as the next, or better. If their profile stands out and yours does not, guess which one gets the replies!

You have no photos on public display. People are not generally psychic and thus will have no clue whether you're ugly as feck, or a stud - again, you're raising odds against you.

What I'd suggest is updating your profile. There are tons of eminently suitable suggestions in the forums on how you can do this very easily. I'd then add photos, not all of the same aspect of you, but a variety. Make sure they're clear and likely to attract someone.

Then come back, and copy/paste some of the messages you've sent to others, but remove anything from them that could identify the recipients. Inform us why you sent each message to the others, and we'll tell you straight off whether it was likely to be a winner. If you send the same message to everybody, it's a likely fail. If you don't tell others about yourself in a message, it's a likely fail. As is if the message isn't tailored to who's receiving it.

This site is not a dating site, where everyone is lonely and in need of companionship etc, as we have fulfilling lives, we're just looking to add something great on top. If someone doesn't add an almost compulsive lust grabbing attention, then we're likely to meet those who do this for us, and many of us have partners who are very capable of satisfying our sexual and other needs - you'd be an accessory, and you need to be a valuable one.

It also pays to realise that many members can get more than 100 messages per day. It in the ideal world, we'd all be neighbours, friendly chatty souls, who care about other's feelings etc. This isn't how it is, so get real and accept that most messages from single guys don't get replies. If we're not able to withstand what may be perceived as rejection, then it's likely not the place for us - but then, is the world really tolerable for someone like that either.

Come back and let us know what you've taken on board. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers for your input will have a good luck at my profile to get it right !

I know this isn't a site just for easy sex have wanted to get into this for ages so did my other half until we found out the mother in law was into it ! That has put her off for life

Thanks again

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