FabSwingers.com forum: too nice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

as said really can a guy be too nice now ive said guy because i only meet guys no other reason but im finding alot of my messages are too nice very creepy white knight goodie goodie puke type of nice

...anyone else notice

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By *aige CoolTV/TS
over a year ago

north west

Well I actually like nice people with nice chat .pleasant. I think it shows manners and respect

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

maybe im not being clear im not on about normal nice im on about over the top nice creepy nice

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

What would you class as OTT nice.

For me it's about being pleasant courteous and respectful

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Too nice no. Too something else, yes. Sucking up, insincere, etc

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By *aige CoolTV/TS
over a year ago

north west

Oh I see well creepy nice is well creepy lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

maybe using the word nice was wrong lol

but yes sucking up creepy

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Respectful is good, incongruous nice is creepy.

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

This site should be all about respecting one another however a small fraction of people spoil it for others I think

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By *aige CoolTV/TS
over a year ago

north west

Maybe shy people can appear creepy as there not sure what to say ?

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By *emmdaveMan
over a year ago

Kent

"maybe using the word nice was wrong lol

but yes sucking up creepy

Did you have the picture of the kiddy Catcher out of Chitty Chitty Bang Bang in your head when you read the message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even I get rejected I’ll still show u respect as that your preference and I’ll respect everyone

Everyone is different

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no i dont think its shyness i can understand that ... it must be a shutdown thing ive just notice that more messages are creeping me out but in a overly nice way ie sucking up creepy but nothing nasty just creepy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

nothing to do with respect i respect everyone even those i dont agree with or like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's probably an element of trying too hard, which comes across as creepy nice.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Nice is fine, when it ventures into arse kissing territory it's not so much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nice is fine, when it ventures into arse kissing territory it's not so much. "

ahhh thats the term ass kissing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's probably an element of trying too hard, which comes across as creepy nice. "

yep this too

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"as said really can a guy be too nice now ive said guy because i only meet guys no other reason but im finding alot of my messages are too nice very creepy white knight goodie goodie puke type of nice

...anyone else notice"

Unlike all the nasty ones that most women get on here, us poor guys don't know weather we are coming or going.

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

...anyone else notice"

Maybe they are trying to hard, try to demonstrate that they have read your profile or that they actual want YOU and not just fuck anubody on the site.

Its not easy being a bloke on this site. A local whoes near by search shows me that there are probably twenty single guys for every couple or single women and we cant all post a picture of an adonis to grab your attention

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"What would you class as OTT nice.

For me it's about being pleasant courteous and respectful "

That won't work either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many men are scared of women and can’t think what to say in person as well as in here. So may try too hard and come across as creepy. Don’t get me wrong there are plenty of creeps out there as well.

Have you ever found yourself tripping over words when chatting to someone you really find attractive? I have

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...anyone else notice

Maybe they are trying to hard, try to demonstrate that they have read your profile or that they actual want YOU and not just fuck anubody on the site.

well i dont meet adonis/mirror huggers type men so thats out the window im not moaning about my normal messages ??? im just moaning about those who go over the top my profile is to the point there is nothing to say i want onver the top ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hard to gauge between being nice then being flirty etc.I trip myself up all the time and am very nervous incase I come over as too boring...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever found yourself tripping over words when chatting to someone you really find attractive? I have

no i cant say i have ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever found yourself tripping over words when chatting to someone you really find attractive? I have

no i cant say i have ? "

Oh I have especially if id love to knickers their down pull

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

...anyone else notice

Maybe they are trying to hard, try to demonstrate that they have read your profile or that they actual want YOU and not just fuck anubody on the site.

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Just a thought. If you don’t like the short “how’s you” type messages and you also don’t like the ultra polite ones, then maybe you could try blocking single men and instead just search out the ones yourself who you think might suit you? Then you could send them an initial message introducing yourself instead.

Seems to be a simple way of getting rid of all those unsuitable messages you seem to be getting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men on here send us decent messages. The only creepy ones are asking for creepy things. Looks like we must be pretty lucky on that front

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