FabSwingers.com forum: couples timewasting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone on here fed up with arranging meets with couples only to find them cancelling last minute? Even after fem to fem phone contact? were getting disalusioned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this the only profile you've had? Only I note you've only been around 3 weeks and if you've had that much bad luck in that short a time I'd say perhaps look at your selection process?

In 6 years of swinging I've had very few true timewasters and I put that down to selection and time getting to know the people first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes this is the only profile weve had andgot. You could be right but we do select carefully. We go on verifications as being new on here we are still learning as we are going along. Any advice? Is our profile ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple canceling are timewasters.... U have to also remember it can be a genuine reason they are canceling....

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By *oodGoshCouple
over a year ago

North London

You've had 11 verifications in 3 weeks, so it's probably fair to say you guys are pretty active. If you're chatting to, and arranging meets with, a large number of people in a short space of time it stands to reason that you're likely to get a higher number of time wasters out of those.

Certainly wouldn't suggest that you change what you're looking for and how frequently (after all, you're here to get out of it what you want), but I suspect you'll find that most people who reply will tell you that they've had very few negative experiences when they've taken their time a bit more until they're absolutely sure about a meet.

The only other thing to add is if there's even a hint of doubt, don't bother. Learn to trust your instincts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yea good comments and advice so far guys. Yea were learning to trust our instincts with arranging meets. We recently introduced on the profile that we insist on fem to fem phone contact. That helps with the timewasters and fake couple profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple canceling are timewasters.... U have to also remember it can be a genuine reason they are canceling...."

We've had to cancel meets due in the past due to severe ice/snow (we lost control of the car), one of us getting caught behind a severe RTA for hours on our way back from work and cancelled another meet due to illness

What terrible people we are

In ALL cases, we let our potential meets know as early as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone on here fed up with arranging meets with couples only to find them cancelling last minute? Even after fem to fem phone contact? were getting disalusioned."

If you have had 14 varifications in 3 weeks and with that many meets being arranged to get one or even two cancelations is nothing to complain about, My advice is enjoy your days off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a few different types of couples on here - some like to get to know other couples and play exclusively with couples they are good friends with , often they prefer fewer meets . Others are more into club meets , spontaneous fun and no pre planning .

Others have little time on their hands for playing and take advantage of what time they have and will be inundated when they display availability on meets and events.

So bearing this in mind , it can be frustrating when you are new , to not always get the meets you figure you should have when more seasoned couples pull out of meets.

When we first set out on the swinging scene we wanted meets every other night and soon realised it wasn't gonna happen with couples as the buzz that we had wasn't there for them as it was with us ! Totally understand that now , as we have had a few breaks after getting a bit bored after a few frenetic months of continuous play !

Best advice we can offer is to accept that others may not be as enthusiastic as you and enjoy the fun on offer at clubs where folk are there to play ! Have fun

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

When you're meeting couples you've got a magnified potential for one/other to have some issue crop up, as well as even for children's needs to happen. If people are honest about the reasons they're canceling with you - and that's a big if, as there are well-known silly excuses, then you'll likely find that home/work/family circumstances will often need to be addressed and that unforeseen things can and do happen. What reasons have you been given so far, for these cancellations?

Obviously there are some people who are more reliable than others, and it can often depend on how well matched you all are, I think, in terms of other's commitment levels, and whether they'll let a less life-threatening problem distract away from you or not.

Over time, you may get a heightened sensitivity to what's happening, who's more reliable etc, and also if you've been occasionally mis-choosing partners.

The other option would be to meet more at clubs etc, as at least these people will be there on the spot, rather than not turning up for a meet. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for that all points mentioned wil be taken on board. One meet we arranged on monday we drive half way to manchester only for the couple to txt saying something has come up and have to cancel. They then about a few hours later deleted their profile. And this was after we had earlier spoke to both on phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for that all points mentioned wil be taken on board. One meet we arranged on monday we drive half way to manchester only for the couple to txt saying something has come up and have to cancel. They then about a few hours later deleted their profile. And this was after we had earlier spoke to both on phone."

this could just be the couple had second thoughts about swinging not because it was u but as with all things couples relationship comes before swinging don't take it personally xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think in 3 weeks ...... you have done very well here as some go months with out alot of luck .... sure it alot to do with where people live too and whats clubs and things thats on offer .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think is restricted just to couples; as us singles have our fair share on "no shows" - its frustrating and annoying but i guess part of the scene we all have to accept - hence reason why i never arrange to meet couples/single lasses for sex on first meet - always social - that way it sorts out the fakers and timewasters at same time

also only ever meet after telephone conversation

me xx

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By *oonytoonMan
over a year ago

derby

I don't usually have a moan but in this case my point is kind of related to the issue and curious as to whether other people have experienced I've not activally looked for a meet for quite sometime as I have a lot of work commitments at the moment but I have been approached by a few couples interested in meeting me and have been extremely flattered but nearly always ask at short notice to which I reply that I am interested but would take a bit of planning due work etc...(As I don't want to lead people on and tell them at last minute honesty is the best policy so I'm told) And on all occasions I've never heard from them since apart from once when I was called a timewaster now I understand if there looking for specific things at specific times but are us single men expected to be that gagging for it that it appears rude if were not willing to either change preferences or just forget we have lives just to cater to there needs as and when required without notice

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I don't usually have a moan but in this case my point is kind of related to the issue and curious as to whether other people have experienced I've not activally looked for a meet for quite sometime as I have a lot of work commitments at the moment but I have been approached by a few couples interested in meeting me and have been extremely flattered but nearly always ask at short notice to which I reply that I am interested but would take a bit of planning due work etc...(As I don't want to lead people on and tell them at last minute honesty is the best policy so I'm told) And on all occasions I've never heard from them since apart from once when I was called a timewaster now I understand if there looking for specific things at specific times but are us single men expected to be that gagging for it that it appears rude if were not willing to either change preferences or just forget we have lives just to cater to there needs as and when required without notice "

In a word: yes.

I've seen couples start threads, incredulous that single men are not prepared to jump through their hoops for a meet.

They can take that arrogant stance as some single will jump through hoops of fire and pay for the privilege too...so good for you!

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By *oonytoonMan
over a year ago

derby

In a word: yes.

I've seen couples start threads, incredulous that single men are not prepared to jump through their hoops for a meet.

They can take that arrogant stance as some single will jump through hoops of fire and pay for the privilege too...so good for you!

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