FabSwingers.com forum: Not a fan of lube for bum sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

(Posting this as I saw a post on 'how to' regards anal sex)

There definitely is a preconception that anal sex requires lube. Not so!

If you have the right lover & take time you can get wet naturally. It's like a precum so feels like a natural lubricant. Gets really wet sometimes!

Lube is nippy and, for me, far less sensual, bypassing your bodies amazing natural reactions & sensations. Slipping about with little friction.

Can' t help thinking that peeps think they should lube but , if it's done right, it's not needed and natural is far more pleasurable. Sensations are infinitely better too.

Posting this as I do believe people can explore anal sex without automatically thinking you need to slather yourself in lube. Not saying it's for everybody but the pleasure is far more intense & varied au naturel.

Takes a bit more time, like a fanny I suppose

NO IDEA why I felt compelled to write this haha

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By *andAukCouple
over a year ago

leeds

What do you mean by nippy? Cold? If so warm the bottle up first in a jug of warm water.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do you mean by nippy? Cold? If so warm the bottle up first in a jug of warm water. "

Nippy as in it has a very slight sting

But I don't like or need it & I'm guessing others don't either

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By *REYTIMBERWOLFMan
over a year ago

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The lining of the anal tract is not thick. If lube is not used, there is a risk that the lining can tear. Unless you and your partner are very experienced and know your bodies, then dry anal at best is unadvisable.

Such a tear can introduce bacteria into your body which can be serious.

If you are in ANY DOUBT, lube up.

The anal tract dies not produce lubricating fluids in the same way as a vagina. Males may priduce precum but many dont. The recipients physicsl health comes a longg way before a momentary sexual hit.

Using fingers to take lube to the anis or rimming will potentially help.

Use the gel for temp play so slightly colder or warmer will have a strog effect. But again... be sensible.

If rimming or blow or muff diving, makin your mouth warmer or colder will impact your partner

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By *REYTIMBERWOLFMan
over a year ago

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"What do you mean by nippy? Cold? If so warm the bottle up first in a jug of warm water.

Nippy as in it has a very slight sting

But I don't like or need it & I'm guessing others don't either "

Not a safe bet.

Try different lubes... water or oil.

If you like oral, that can add fun and moisture.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The lining of the anal tract is not thick. If lube is not used, there is a risk that the lining can tear. Unless you and your partner are very experienced and know your bodies, then dry anal at best is unadvisable.

Such a tear can introduce bacteria into your body which can be serious.

If you are in ANY DOUBT, lube up.

The anal tract dies not produce lubricating fluids in the same way as a vagina. Males may priduce precum but many dont. The recipients physicsl health comes a longg way before a momentary sexual hit.

Using fingers to take lube to the anis or rimming will potentially help.

Use the gel for temp play so slightly colder or warmer will have a strog effect. But again... be sensible.

If rimming or blow or muff diving, makin your mouth warmer or colder will impact your partner

Emm.. My post was specifically about the fact that you can get wet naturally & lube is not needed. In my experience! It smells and feels exactly like precum & I can ge very wet so I don't agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For first time anal, use lube, no ifs just butts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like lube for anal, it dulls the feeling for me and haven't really needed it, either, for quite some time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone's bodies are different. Do waht feels best for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Everyone is different for sure

I'm advocating a more sensual approach that's all!

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By *REYTIMBERWOLFMan
over a year ago

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Emm.. My post was specifically about the fact that you can get wet naturally & lube is not needed. In my experience! It smells and feels exactly like precum & I can ge very wet so I don't agree

Yes.....YOU can.... but to essentialy tell one and all they can do anal without lube assumes they know what they are doing and are self basting like you.

My partner doesnt. Lube is the way to go for most people.

My mate drips precum like a Labrador in front of a chocolate cake. I dont.

For newbies, your belief that everone is as slippery as a bicycle chain is very unsound.

Its individual to you and wasnt determined within the first 5 minutes of being plunged in the starfish.

Newbies need to play safe and expand slow. Thats solid advice, allows peeps to find their feet and not risk injury or putting their partners off.

If after trying things and you feel no lube is safe then crack on but till you know there is a safer way to play and learn.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Yeah I agree. The first few girlfriends I had we did that we never used lube. And during and afterwards there was no issue on their part with discomfort.

Lube helps, don't get me wrong, Amdd on none of the occasions where it happened did I, or them, have a planned notion to have anal, it just happened naturally and spontaneously. Thinking about it when you have lube at hand maybe, sometimes, it takes tthe fun out a little (or the freewheeling spontaneity?).

Thinking too much now (I think..).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone is different for sure

I'm advocating a more sensual approach that's all!"

Yeah but you're long passed your first experience.

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By *REYTIMBERWOLFMan
over a year ago

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"Yeah I agree. The first few girlfriends I had we did that we never used lube. And during and afterwards there was no issue on their part with discomfort.

Thinking too much now (I think..).

Are you giving or receiving. Does your anal tract self lubricate?

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

"Yeah I agree. The first few girlfriends I had we did that we never used lube. And during and afterwards there was no issue on their part with discomfort.

Thinking too much now (I think..).

Are you giving or receiving. Does your anal tract self lubricate?"

is that even medically possible, if so I doubt its normal

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By *etasubTV/TS
over a year ago

visiting Manchester & Blackpool

Always lube for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely love lube

there are so many out there to try and see which one u prefer

Make things a bit easier, sometimes if lots of spit and rimming is done before, then it can be done as well (but without condoms as condom definitely need lube)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I agree. The first few girlfriends I had we did that we never used lube. And during and afterwards there was no issue on their part with discomfort.

Thinking too much now (I think..).

Are you giving or receiving. Does your anal tract self lubricate?

is that even medically possible, if so I doubt its normal"

We do have a natural lubrication in our intestines that helps fecal motility.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I thought the only natural anal lube was shit?

I am willing to stand corrected though.

Personally I prefer lube, not water based as it dries out too quickly. Maybe I haven’t been having anal long enough, only 25 years ish.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally I love it with lots of lube and never found it stings. For me the pleasure is more about the stretching than friction so lube doesn't take away from that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use silicone lubricants. You only need a minimal amount, it's long lasting and puts a nice slippery barrier back there.

Much better than risking a tear, even a minor one can take a long time to heal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Use silicone lubricants. You only need a minimal amount, it's long lasting and puts a nice slippery barrier back there.

Much better than risking a tear, even a minor one can take a long time to heal."

I don't like fingers up my bum for this reason - nails/cuticles grr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought the only natural anal lube was shit?

I am willing to stand corrected though.

Personally I prefer lube, not water based as it dries out too quickly. Maybe I haven’t been having anal long enough, only 25 years ish."

It's a jelly like mucous that helps poo travel through your gut (but fecal motility sounds more pleasant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got a cock that oozes precum so never had a problem - plus with some good licking and a bit of spit you are good to go

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By *REYTIMBERWOLFMan
over a year ago

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"Yeah I agree. The first few girlfriends I had we did that we never used lube. And during and afterwards there was no issue on their part with discomfort.

Thinking too much now (I think..).

Are you giving or receiving. Does your anal tract self lubricate?

is that even medically possible, if so I doubt its normal"

Redirect this question to the OP. She says she does and its like precum.

There will be moisture in the pooh and no doubt fluid will be there one way or another but it is nothing like a vagina that definitely self lubricates or even precum from a cock of you wish to mix n match.

My experience suggests that some ladies can be very moist and some can be very dry in comparison for (subjectively) a similar degree of stimulation and excitement.

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