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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When a profile suggests the person being viewed isn't looking for single men / a certain age range / females etc

When you go to message them and get the warning saying you're not what they're looking for, what makes you ignore it and message them anyway?

Appreciate message filters can be used by the parties involved so they don't receive said messages.

But the question still stands, why ignore and still send?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not innit?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This answer isn't elaborate enough.

Reason rejected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This answer isn't elaborate enough.

Reason rejected."

Alright then, because sometimes you might just fall outside someones criteria for instance. Like if someones age preferences are set to forty five but I'm forty seven what difference is two years going to make. And besides, I'm just being friendly so wheres the harm in that... is that a better answer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This answer isn't elaborate enough.

Reason rejected.

Alright then, because sometimes you might just fall outside someones criteria for instance. Like if someones age preferences are set to forty five but I'm forty seven what difference is two years going to make. And besides, I'm just being friendly so wheres the harm in that... is that a better answer? "

Better.

Have you done this previously and been successful?

I just can't fathom why guys send unsolicited dick pics for a start, when single men aren't sought on a profile. Especially when they look like a crinkled frankfurter too.

Trying to get another perspective and gain an understanding. Maybe it's just something I'll never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When a profile suggests the person being viewed isn't looking for single men / a certain age range / females etc

When you go to message them and get the warning saying you're not what they're looking for, what makes you ignore it and message them anyway?

Appreciate message filters can be used by the parties involved so they don't receive said messages.

But the question still stands, why ignore and still send? "

So do you guys leave the blocks off then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This answer isn't elaborate enough.

Reason rejected.

Alright then, because sometimes you might just fall outside someones criteria for instance. Like if someones age preferences are set to forty five but I'm forty seven what difference is two years going to make. And besides, I'm just being friendly so wheres the harm in that... is that a better answer?

Better.

Have you done this previously and been successful?

I just can't fathom why guys send unsolicited dick pics for a start, when single men aren't sought on a profile. Especially when they look like a crinkled frankfurter too.

Trying to get another perspective and gain an understanding. Maybe it's just something I'll never know "

Oh yeh there are some hideous looking penises on here for sure(although I did get told mine was the best on fab the other night lol)

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"When a profile suggests the person being viewed isn't looking for single men / a certain age range / females etc

When you go to message them and get the warning saying you're not what they're looking for, what makes you ignore it and message them anyway?

Appreciate message filters can be used by the parties involved so they don't receive said messages.

But the question still stands, why ignore and still send? "

Because you may not be looking for a meet, it could be a general interest in their profile or a question about photo etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see I’m not what a couple or single ladies looking for I recognise that but still like to send a message to compliment them and state in my message I know I’m not what they are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This answer isn't elaborate enough.

Reason rejected.

Alright then, because sometimes you might just fall outside someones criteria for instance. Like if someones age preferences are set to forty five but I'm forty seven what difference is two years going to make. And besides, I'm just being friendly so wheres the harm in that... is that a better answer?

Better.

Have you done this previously and been successful?

I just can't fathom why guys send unsolicited dick pics for a start, when single men aren't sought on a profile. Especially when they look like a crinkled frankfurter too.

Trying to get another perspective and gain an understanding. Maybe it's just something I'll never know "

Yeh I have been successful, but I've got humour, wit and charm on my side... Plus the fact that I'm sexual dynamite lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When a profile suggests the person being viewed isn't looking for single men / a certain age range / females etc

When you go to message them and get the warning saying you're not what they're looking for, what makes you ignore it and message them anyway?

Appreciate message filters can be used by the parties involved so they don't receive said messages.

But the question still stands, why ignore and still send?

So do you guys leave the blocks off then?"

Yeah. Guys barely get any messages compared to guys.

To answer OPs question, I don’t, unless they said something in the forum. For meets, I don’t bother cos there’s no point cos they’ll just delete it’s

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

Because 80-90 % of all messages that are sent, by me anyway, are deleted straight away or read and not replied to.

If they have a filter up and said warning comes up you might get your point across with the subject matter. Ie

You're looking for single males but you've got your filters on.

It's of little relevance to me though as most folk just delete and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't stop people from approaching you. Some single guys assume that you are here for dick and hence they want to impress you by sending their cock pics. We get that too when we open our Filters for single men.

If you aren't looking for single men then just Block them in your Message Filters .

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I think the only real reason I'd do that is if we'd exchanged words on the forum and it seemed more appropriate to elaborate in private than public - in that situation, the age/type they're looking for is irrelevant.

Otherwise, its a waste of time to write something when she'll already be snowed under with messages from guys who are within her limits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see I’m not what a couple or single ladies looking for I recognise that but still like to send a message to compliment them and state in my message I know I’m not what they are looking for "

This. I’ve wanted to compliment people on a funny profile or a great pic before, without feeling compelled to keep messaging them or attaching a dick pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No disrespect but I've never understood why people bother posting about this sort of thing when the solution lies in their hands. Filter out those you have no interest in or at the very least just ignore it. Why make a deal of it on here, only the person sending you the message knows why they did it.

Block them from contacting you if its troublesome to you

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By *allgirthyMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

If you genuinely don’t want to hear from certain groups then you’re able to block them. Why allow it if it’s a problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When a profile suggests the person being viewed isn't looking for single men / a certain age range / females etc

When you go to message them and get the warning saying you're not what they're looking for, what makes you ignore it and message them anyway?

Appreciate message filters can be used by the parties involved so they don't receive said messages.

But the question still stands, why ignore and still send? "

I read the profile fully first, sometimes if it is just a couple of years on age limit then I have found that there is a little flexibility on it. However, if they don't want single guys it is normally on filter block so I don't even bother...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When a profile suggests the person being viewed isn't looking for single men / a certain age range / females etc

When you go to message them and get the warning saying you're not what they're looking for, what makes you ignore it and message them anyway?

Appreciate message filters can be used by the parties involved so they don't receive said messages.

But the question still stands, why ignore and still send? "

The only time I do this is when my message is purely platonic. Maybe about a forum subject or commenting on a status.

Usually received positively

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No disrespect but I've never understood why people bother posting about this sort of thing when the solution lies in their hands. Filter out those you have no interest in or at the very least just ignore it. Why make a deal of it on here, only the person sending you the message knows why they did it.

Block them from contacting you if its troublesome to you "

"no disrespect" at the beginning of a sentence is usually a poor way of saying "what I'm about to say is disrespectful, but I'm going to do it anyway"

I'm trying to understand the psychology of it.

We block people we don't want to hear from now.

In the beginning we weren't aware this was an option.

Sorry it feels like a 'big deal', I'll refrain from going too crazy next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This answer isn't elaborate enough.

Reason rejected.

Alright then, because sometimes you might just fall outside someones criteria for instance. Like if someones age preferences are set to forty five but I'm forty seven what difference is two years going to make. And besides, I'm just being friendly so wheres the harm in that... is that a better answer?

Better.

Have you done this previously and been successful?

I just can't fathom why guys send unsolicited dick pics for a start, when single men aren't sought on a profile. Especially when they look like a crinkled frankfurter too.

Trying to get another perspective and gain an understanding. Maybe it's just something I'll never know

Yeh I have been successful, but I've got humour, wit and charm on my side... Plus the fact that I'm sexual dynamite lol x"

Haha I admire your confidence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This answer isn't elaborate enough.

Reason rejected."

If I read a profile that's kind and friendly and the couple say that I'm not what they're looking for then I will respect that, seems all very straight forward.

Perhaps you've become annoyed with the unwanted attention and that means you can come across as being a little hostile... which can be interpreted as a challenge, "the lady dost protest too much, methinks". You'll also encourage every single guy who is "not like other guys" if only you got to know them

What type of interaction are you encouraging through the way you talk about people you're not interested in?

At least on regular dating sites, I feel that a lot of women create their own problems to some extent by focusing too much on what they don't want. I'm attracted to people who seem happy, upbeat, and who are trying to create something good in their lives despite the difficulties they face. What are the people you want to attract looking for?

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Because people are arrogant and think either they're so special that they'll convert you (how many times have we heard men crack the gag about converting lesbians?)

Or they are going for the scattergun ask 1000 people and someone will say yes approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No disrespect but I've never understood why people bother posting about this sort of thing when the solution lies in their hands. Filter out those you have no interest in or at the very least just ignore it. Why make a deal of it on here, only the person sending you the message knows why they did it.

Block them from contacting you if its troublesome to you

"no disrespect" at the beginning of a sentence is usually a poor way of saying "what I'm about to say is disrespectful, but I'm going to do it anyway"

I'm trying to understand the psychology of it.

We block people we don't want to hear from now.

In the beginning we weren't aware this was an option.

Sorry it feels like a 'big deal', I'll refrain from going too crazy next time "

You're perception of others responses is entirely your concern however, if I say no disrespect that is exactly what I mean.

You choose to take it personally and get snarky about it....that's your prerogative.

Me...I just gave my opinion which I understood was what the forums were about....enjoy your topic

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I suppose similar to another poster earlier. - the age filter thing is a bit arbitrary to an extent, especially if just outside(I would say that I know. Mea culpa).

Plus some people don't 'look' their age and know it. So where desiring someone is based on looks rather than a biological number we're willing to chance our arm.

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