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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wouldn't put fab first over a relationship but my fella does, guess he doesn't love me like he says. Any thoughts on this subject

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By *hom01Man
over a year ago

st Albans

In what way ?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We joined Fab together to experiment together. The moment it becomes about either of us individually then we need to talk about how to move forward.

It sounds like you need to talk to him. If he is making you unhappy you have to tell him.

For your own sanity if nothing else.

Good luck OP.

Jo.Xx

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By *hom01Man
over a year ago

st Albans


"We joined Fab together to experiment together. The moment it becomes about either of us individually then we need to talk about how to move forward.

It sounds like you need to talk to him. If he is making you unhappy you have to tell him.

For your own sanity if nothing else.

Good luck OP.

Jo.Xx "
Good post.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"I wouldn't put fab first over a relationship but my fella does, guess he doesn't love me like he says. Any thoughts on this subject "

Come run off with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationship hands down

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru


"Relationship hands down "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a new fella

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I wouldn't put fab first over a relationship but my fella does, guess he doesn't love me like he says. Any thoughts on this subject "

Questions rather than thoughts as the answers may determine peoples comments.

Which came first - the relationship or Fab and are you married/living together? Given this is a single profile does he have his own too and if so what have you agreed in terms of solo activity?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We joined Fab together to experiment together. The moment it becomes about either of us individually then we need to talk about how to move forward.

It sounds like you need to talk to him. If he is making you unhappy you have to tell him.

For your own sanity if nothing else.

Good luck OP.

Jo.Xx "

Thanks x

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By *ikemilfloverMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I wouldn't put fab first over a relationship but my fella does, guess he doesn't love me like he says. Any thoughts on this subject "

I was in a relationship where my partner wanted threesomes and group sex fairly regularly, some will think that this was amazing but it becomes a bind. Anyway we were a couple on here a good while ago and she left me to be with a guy she met off here, hence my single profile these days. She’s since asked to get back together and I’ve refused because the pain of the split was too harsh to recover from, anyway my moral of the story is, people get too wrapped up in their own needs and neglect their partner and then go on to regret it later. Please look after your needs otherwise you’ll only be nursing pain from someone who doesn’t know what they want !

OMG, I think that might be too deep !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't put fab first over a relationship but my fella does, guess he doesn't love me like he says. Any thoughts on this subject

I was in a relationship where my partner wanted threesomes and group sex fairly regularly, some will think that this was amazing but it becomes a bind. Anyway we were a couple on here a good while ago and she left me to be with a guy she met off here, hence my single profile these days. She’s since asked to get back together and I’ve refused because the pain of the split was too harsh to recover from, anyway my moral of the story is, people get too wrapped up in their own needs and neglect their partner and then go on to regret it later. Please look after your needs otherwise you’ll only be nursing pain from someone who doesn’t know what they want !

OMG, I think that might be too deep !"

That's so true mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think relationship comes first... Fab is for fun...

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

ramsey

Relationship no question

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I once met a couple on here. Both lovely. He seemed to be much more invested in Fab that she was. She said that he was online all day and night. And that it was causing an issue between them.

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By *ikemilfloverMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I wouldn't put fab first over a relationship but my fella does, guess he doesn't love me like he says. Any thoughts on this subject

I was in a relationship where my partner wanted threesomes and group sex fairly regularly, some will think that this was amazing but it becomes a bind. Anyway we were a couple on here a good while ago and she left me to be with a guy she met off here, hence my single profile these days. She’s since asked to get back together and I’ve refused because the pain of the split was too harsh to recover from, anyway my moral of the story is, people get too wrapped up in their own needs and neglect their partner and then go on to regret it later. Please look after your needs otherwise you’ll only be nursing pain from someone who doesn’t know what they want !

OMG, I think that might be too deep !

That's so true mind "

Glad you agree, that’s why I’m on here at the moment, looking for fun, nothing heavy !

Lots of couples relationships can survive the swinging scene but I would guess there is a fair few that don’t !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I once met a couple on here. Both lovely. He seemed to be much more invested in Fab that she was. She said that he was online all day and night. And that it was causing an issue between them. "

Sounds familiar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he just can't do a vanilla relationship? The fella is exactly the same as he hated them in the past.

Don't get me wrong I'm here because I want to be, but if I said no more swinging (I never would) I'm not sure how long we'd last it out.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I once met a couple on here. Both lovely. He seemed to be much more invested in Fab that she was. She said that he was online all day and night. And that it was causing an issue between them.

Sounds familiar "

Ok.

As you skipped over my earlier questions here's a couple more. Since we're only getting one perspective on this and no input from your other half it's a bit unfair for everyone to jump to conclusions without the full picture. These are all assumptions made and could be wrong but if you don't give the full picture all comments are nothing more than possible answers.

If you're not living together and he's stuck in the same position as many and in lockdown then it's possible that he is spending more time than usual on Fab - I know I am as are many others.

How long have you been in a relationship? There's a huge difference between a long standing marriage and a new relationship in its early days that began via a website. It takes time for people to get to know each other better and only natural that there will be 'issues' occasionally early on that you need to discuss with each other - that's life.

And again - you didn't answer about the 'rules' you've agreed and any boundaries for your lives on Fab, either together or alone. If you've agreed separate meets and play are ok then he may not even realise there's an issue.

The only person you need to discuss this with is him. Show him this thread. It'll either provide a wake up call to how you're feeling or spur him on to being more open with you. As you need to be with him.

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