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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks"

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Neither, they will still complain as many people don't like rejection. No reply means not interested, then people need to move on.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks" "

Too brief! I reply in more depth as this:

Thank you for your message, unfortunately you are not what I’m looking for. Good luck.

I then block them so they can’t message me again.

If they have taken time to message me properly then they deserve a detailed response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks"

Too brief! I reply in more depth as this:

Thank you for your message, unfortunately you are not what I’m looking for. Good luck.

I then block them so they can’t message me again.

If they have taken time to message me properly then they deserve a detailed response."

I disagree

No reply = no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never do, obvously I would prefer a yes message but, the fact that somebody has simply replyed is a nice gesture. Sometimes I just send a message as a compliment which I would never expect anything back. But I don't get hundreds of messages. I wouldn't know if someone block me as I wouldn't message back after the no. Maybe D: Thank you for the interest but you don't match my profile requirement, happy fabbing.

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By *j321Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I always reply just to be polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get loads of messages from men asking me for all kinds of sexual favours even though I clearly state in straight.

This doesn't bother me in fact I find it complimentary that they fancy me. I always message back saying thank you explaining I'm flattered but I'm straight, I dont block them not unless they keep messaging and dont take the polite hint I sometimes message them more than once if they reply to my polite thanks but no thanks.

It can be very deflating to be ignored. But hey you ladies get it far worse than us guys and I k ow you can get 100s if not 1000s of messages daily so it must be very difficult not only to decide who to reply to bit who to ignor and who to block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No thanks" works for us

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I never do, obvously I would prefer a yes message but, the fact that somebody has simply replyed is a nice gesture. Sometimes I just send a message as a compliment which I would never expect anything back. But I don't get hundreds of messages. I wouldn't know if someone block me as I wouldn't message back after the no. Maybe D: Thank you for the interest but you don't match my profile requirement, happy fabbing."

In the past, I took time to write that response then they would argue and convince me they fit my requirements etc

But be interested to hear general consensus what is acceptable polite way saying no thanks

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I get loads of messages from men asking me for all kinds of sexual favours even though I clearly state in straight.

This doesn't bother me in fact I find it complimentary that they fancy me. I always message back saying thank you explaining I'm flattered but I'm straight, I dont block them not unless they keep messaging and dont take the polite hint I sometimes message them more than once if they reply to my polite thanks but no thanks.

It can be very deflating to be ignored. But hey you ladies get it far worse than us guys and I k ow you can get 100s if not 1000s of messages daily so it must be very difficult not only to decide who to reply to bit who to ignor and who to block"

I have to give up my day job and spend all day replying "no thanks but... " if I replied to every single message I received every day.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't reply and delete message is the best reply imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!. "

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

How about a button, that automatically replies with a fixed message, written by fab stating "I have read your message but no thanks" Same button could also delete the message too. What do other's think

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Don't reply and delete message is the best reply imo."

I do that and get accused of being really rude.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"How about a button, that automatically replies with a fixed message, written by fab stating "I have read your message but no thanks" Same button could also delete the message too. What do other's think "

That be great. Like on dating apps?

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

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If someone has sent you a decent message and taken the time to read your profile then no reply is bad manners...

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!. "

It's super tiring and too repetitive to reply back to everyone. Us women get 100s of messages every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't reply and delete message is the best reply imo.

I do that and get accused of being really rude. "

Then block them straight after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks" "

I think just a “no thanks” is being polite

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

If someone has sent you a decent message and taken the time to read your profile then no reply is bad manners... "

Hence why I wrote this post. Which concise polite reply which doesn't suggest anything else but no I'm not interested?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Don't reply and delete message is the best reply imo.

I do that and get accused of being really rude.

Then block them straight after."

I block men who definitely not my type or send me repetitive messages that have no interest

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By *uriousMe2018Couple
over a year ago

Aldershot

We reply to be polite but it does depend on the tone of the message

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By *INTONIC300Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow/Manchester/Edinburgh

I always try and reply with a no thanks although the “meet now fuck” I ignore.Stay safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

"

At one point we replied to all messages, but unfortunately some people are very rude in their reply, in fact most of the time bang out of order!!

So now if we are not interested we just do not reply, it's not bad manners it's just potentially saving ourselves a shit load of abuse.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

D. No answer as in no interest as stated in the FAQ section OP.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

If someone has sent you a decent message and taken the time to read your profile then no reply is bad manners...

Hence why I wrote this post. Which concise polite reply which doesn't suggest anything else but no I'm not interested? "

In that case a no thank you should be fine. If the person isn't interested take it on the chin the decent blokes will. Block the knob heads for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I block men who definitely not my type or send me repetitive messages that have no interest "

We do the same , we block after getting repetitive messages . No fun in chatting with them when they know that we won't be interested anyway.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

At one point we replied to all messages, but unfortunately some people are very rude in their reply, in fact most of the time bang out of order!!

So now if we are not interested we just do not reply, it's not bad manners it's just potentially saving ourselves a shit load of abuse. "

EXACTLY nice butt btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

If someone has sent you a decent message and taken the time to read your profile then no reply is bad manners... "

No its not! When you join your told in the info, If someone doesn't reply it could be a number of reasons. Take this as a no thanks. And it might only be you who thinks the message is nice.

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By *lipandSlide777Couple
over a year ago

Bideford

We normally reply if it's a polite message with thanks sorry not for us. But alot keep hastling, then they get blocked. Then u get the shitty messages back or odd polite one. Finding it even worse at the moment I think with alot being very frustrated.

They think and talk like us females are dirt, even had one guy offer money, he blocked straight away hahaha.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

We get a lot of messages but maybe only 2 or 3 a day that they have taken the time to write a decent message. To these I always ake the time to reply to saying 'thank you for the message but you are not what we are looking for'.

I think if they have taken the time to construct a message they deserve a reply.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I love getting no reply means i havent messaged you haha, but either way from what ive noticed from being around tthe couples and ladies i have as friends alot of men get aggressive when rejected. Alot of the time i can see why guys dont get replies "hi want a fuck" or "id love to fuck you raw" or even " i can meet now how about i come round" arent the best opening lines to start talking to someone, "hi and how are you" are abit repetitive and show no thought or evenanything about the person that getting in touch why do they bother? We shall never know the answer to this. Id say just dont bother answering and guys dont get upset because your just not some people taste you whoppers

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"We normally reply if it's a polite message with thanks sorry not for us. But alot keep hastling, then they get blocked. Then u get the shitty messages back or odd polite one. Finding it even worse at the moment I think with alot being very frustrated.

They think and talk like us females are dirt, even had one guy offer money, he blocked straight away hahaha."

Yes the messages where they talk to be like they are self entitled and think I'm a cheap free prostitute definitely gets immediate block.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I love getting no reply means i havent messaged you haha, but either way from what ive noticed from being around tthe couples and ladies i have as friends alot of men get aggressive when rejected. Alot of the time i can see why guys dont get replies "hi want a fuck" or "id love to fuck you raw" or even " i can meet now how about i come round" arent the best opening lines to start talking to someone, "hi and how are you" are abit repetitive and show no thought or evenanything about the person that getting in touch why do they bother? We shall never know the answer to this. Id say just dont bother answering and guys dont get upset because your just not some people taste you whoppers"

Bk whoppers.... Dam Covid-19

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I tend to use C.

As you say, it’d be a full time job to reply to every message with a message more than 2 lines long!

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Any response saying no thx is appreciated...otherwise it makes me think what's the point of writing a decent message in the first place.

I always say thx for the reply, even if negative.

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By *lipandSlide777Couple
over a year ago

Bideford


"We normally reply if it's a polite message with thanks sorry not for us. But alot keep hastling, then they get blocked. Then u get the shitty messages back or odd polite one. Finding it even worse at the moment I think with alot being very frustrated.

They think and talk like us females are dirt, even had one guy offer money, he blocked straight away hahaha.

Yes the messages where they talk to be like they are self entitled and think I'm a cheap free prostitute definitely gets immediate block. "

Not easy being female on here sometimes, try being polite doesn't always happen. Not so bad on couple profile, but on my single account it's a nightmare at the moment hahah, hence hidden that account for bit.

Then guys moan were being rude by not replying. Cant win if you ignore or reply back

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By *onynickiCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks"

Too brief! I reply in more depth as this:

Thank you for your message, unfortunately you are not what I’m looking for. Good luck.

I then block them so they can’t message me again.

If they have taken time to message me properly then they deserve a detailed response."

This is the approach we take..... polite, firm and to the point!

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

"
no point in getting salty he might just be coming here to troll people darlin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply. This is in the site's rules. No reply = not interested. Surely it's rude to have joined a site without looking at the rules?

Most men write a 1 word or 2 word answer and/or don't read my profile. This morning I got the 8th message from a guy in a few weeks. I never replied to any. Again when they message it tells them they have already messaged the person and they didn't get a response and they click send anyway. It means we have to block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks" "

In my mind any of those would be fine, if people take offence to rejection then they are maybe on the wrong site and should keep their keyboard warrior skills to themselves....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always reply back with a thank you for replying as not all people reply back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

If someone has sent you a decent message and taken the time to read your profile then no reply is bad manners... "

How many messages do you receive a day ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always take the time to reply to someone if they have taken time to send us a message. Our messages wont be as short as them but would be polite, wish them happy fabbing too on the end of message. We only block if they get arsey with us

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I don't reply. This is in the site's rules. No reply = not interested. Surely it's rude to have joined a site without looking at the rules?

Most men write a 1 word or 2 word answer and/or don't read my profile. This morning I got the 8th message from a guy in a few weeks. I never replied to any. Again when they message it tells them they have already messaged the person and they didn't get a response and they click send anyway. It means we have to block them."

I know. I get this too. When i tell them that. They swear they don't have that option to see message history etc

I duno i think i just stick to no reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't reply. This is in the site's rules. No reply = not interested. Surely it's rude to have joined a site without looking at the rules?

Most men write a 1 word or 2 word answer and/or don't read my profile. This morning I got the 8th message from a guy in a few weeks. I never replied to any. Again when they message it tells them they have already messaged the person and they didn't get a response and they click send anyway. It means we have to block them.

I know. I get this too. When i tell them that. They swear they don't have that option to see message history etc

I duno i think i just stick to no reply"

Some people ask for something and then men reply to that request, see the person has read it but don’t bother to reply after it was them who requested. Some would call that ignorance not breaking or not breaking site rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply is the best I think. Otherwise they think they have a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never do, obvously I would prefer a yes message but, the fact that somebody has simply replyed is a nice gesture. Sometimes I just send a message as a compliment which I would never expect anything back. But I don't get hundreds of messages. I wouldn't know if someone block me as I wouldn't message back after the no. Maybe D: Thank you for the interest but you don't match my profile requirement, happy fabbing.

In the past, I took time to write that response then they would argue and convince me they fit my requirements etc

But be interested to hear general consensus what is acceptable polite way saying no thanks "
I think, I'm thinking out loud, if you are concerned about the right approach to say 'no thak you' without wanting to offend the other person, show how genuine you are, that is a vert attractive quality. If the person that recieves the message saying no then decides to be mean in anyway, shows that person would, perhaps, not be the most stable person to spend private time with and one should be glad of a lucky escape.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"I don't reply. This is in the site's rules. No reply = not interested. Surely it's rude to have joined a site without looking at the rules?

Most men write a 1 word or 2 word answer and/or don't read my profile. This morning I got the 8th message from a guy in a few weeks. I never replied to any. Again when they message it tells them they have already messaged the person and they didn't get a response and they click send anyway. It means we have to block them."
Lol! We also got 8 messages but off a couple and never replied to any. They were age 22 and 26 so not for us. The messages kept us entertained anyway

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I never do, obvously I would prefer a yes message but, the fact that somebody has simply replyed is a nice gesture. Sometimes I just send a message as a compliment which I would never expect anything back. But I don't get hundreds of messages. I wouldn't know if someone block me as I wouldn't message back after the no. Maybe D: Thank you for the interest but you don't match my profile requirement, happy fabbing.

In the past, I took time to write that response then they would argue and convince me they fit my requirements etc

But be interested to hear general consensus what is acceptable polite way saying no thanks I think, I'm thinking out loud, if you are concerned about the right approach to say 'no thak you' without wanting to offend the other person, show how genuine you are, that is a vert attractive quality. If the person that recieves the message saying no then decides to be mean in anyway, shows that person would, perhaps, not be the most stable person to spend private time with and one should be glad of a lucky escape. "

EXACTLY... But again I really don't want to answer every single message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never do, obvously I would prefer a yes message but, the fact that somebody has simply replyed is a nice gesture. Sometimes I just send a message as a compliment which I would never expect anything back. But I don't get hundreds of messages. I wouldn't know if someone block me as I wouldn't message back after the no. Maybe D: Thank you for the interest but you don't match my profile requirement, happy fabbing.

In the past, I took time to write that response then they would argue and convince me they fit my requirements etc

But be interested to hear general consensus what is acceptable polite way saying no thanks I think, I'm thinking out loud, if you are concerned about the right approach to say 'no thak you' without wanting to offend the other person, show how genuine you are, that is a vert attractive quality. If the person that recieves the message saying no then decides to be mean in anyway, shows that person would, perhaps, not be the most stable person to spend private time with and one should be glad of a lucky escape.

EXACTLY... But again I really don't want to answer every single message "

Dont then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but you are not good enough.

That’s exactly what no reply means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A reply of no thanks usually involves them trying to continue a conversation. We find it best to ignore any messages coming from men. They are all crap. Just find one yourself.

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over a year ago

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

A nice thought out message, always gets a reply and in general I’ve never had any bad come back from turning them down. However a one word or crass comment about my pictures are ignored, I’m interested in conversation first and that persons personality as much as looks.

But as I receive anywhere between 5 - 25 messages per day, it’s not too difficult for me, so sympathetic to the women or couples that get over 100 a day.

The rules clearly state no reply, not interested. Nothing rude or lacking in manners for following the site’s guidelines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously"

What a charming man. The women must be queueing around the block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously

What a charming man. The women must be queueing around the block. "

Lol funnily enough yeah you obviously don’t understand what happened

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By *s.KerryTV/TS
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously"

Yeah gods I've read it all now.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Exactly this is the kind of response i get. Manipulative. I definitely did the right thing by ignoring. Entitled men is definitely not going to get my pussy wet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly this is the kind of response i get. Manipulative. I definitely did the right thing by ignoring. Entitled men is definitely not going to get my pussy wet. "

You asked for folk to send vids on kik, I asked for addy that’s all

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over a year ago


"Exactly this is the kind of response i get. Manipulative. I definitely did the right thing by ignoring. Entitled men is definitely not going to get my pussy wet. "

That and desperate men for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly this is the kind of response i get. Manipulative. I definitely did the right thing by ignoring. Entitled men is definitely not going to get my pussy wet.

That and desperate men for me lol"

Do t flatter yourself

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I’m actually flattered if someone takes the time to reply to a message and say ‘Thanks, but you’re not what I’m looking for’ (for example).

I’d usually respond by saying thank you for letting me know. Maybe I shouldn’t, but I’m just a polite guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m actually flattered if someone takes the time to reply to a message and say ‘Thanks, but you’re not what I’m looking for’ (for example).

I’d usually respond by saying thank you for letting me know. Maybe I shouldn’t, but I’m just a polite guy.

"

Exactly mate, same here, not difficult

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

If someone has sent you a decent message and taken the time to read your profile then no reply is bad manners... "

No its not. They may believe the message they've sent is decent, I might think it's anything but.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long.. "

How many messages do you get a day ?

Get as many as some women on here do its impossible to respond to all .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

How many messages do you get a day ?

Get as many as some women on here do its impossible to respond to all .

"

That’s what filters are for...

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long.. "

Not replying takes even less time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

Not replying takes even less time "

True but it’s nice to be nice n all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

How many messages do you get a day ?

Get as many as some women on here do its impossible to respond to all .

That’s what filters are for..."

Wouldn’t normally bother me just when someone asks for something then reads message but can’t be bothered to respond, I imagine it’s difficult as women get so many and 9/10 don’t even get read, not my style as I think politeness is an easy thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

How many messages do you get a day ?

Get as many as some women on here do its impossible to respond to all .

That’s what filters are for..."

I use filters

Still get in excess of 50+ messages every day from different men.

Doesn't mean im rude if i dont reply to all of them !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks"

Too brief! I reply in more depth as this:

Thank you for your message, unfortunately you are not what I’m looking for. Good luck.

I then block them so they can’t message me again.

If they have taken time to message me properly then they deserve a detailed response."

I very much appreciate this type of response. Zero response is understandable but does leave me feeling flat, especially when I've made an effort (which I always do). A decent response shows the effort I made was worth it, even if I'm not for them ultimately. I'll then always thank them for taking the trouble to respond and wish them well. It's true to say there are a lot of messages you ladies get that don't deserve any kind of response, based on what I've seen my female friends receive.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

How many messages do you get a day ?

Get as many as some women on here do its impossible to respond to all .

"

I manage it because I’m polite BUT each to their own how they deal with messages. Oh and I block straight after I respond to them so they can’t message again.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

Not replying takes even less time

True but it’s nice to be nice n all that "

When half the people you reply to with a "no thanks" reply saying "oh well you're a fat ugly bitch anyway" then maybe you'd stop replying too.

Also if you reply to someone, it means they can always get around any filters you have in place. Unless you block them, which is also rude apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘U. G. L. Y.

You ain't got no alibi you ugly!

Yeah, you ugly!’ Is most effective imo.

No but in all seriousness any of those you have said would be fine, not that you need to say anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

If someone has sent you a decent message and taken the time to read your profile then no reply is bad manners...

Hence why I wrote this post. Which concise polite reply which doesn't suggest anything else but no I'm not interested? "

Better to not reply at all than be cold and curt. All three of those you suggest come across as a little cold imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

How many messages do you get a day ?

Get as many as some women on here do its impossible to respond to all .

I manage it because I’m polite BUT each to their own how they deal with messages. Oh and I block straight after I respond to them so they can’t message again. "

I have a life outside of fab. You may have time to politely respond to all the messages you receive. I dont .Doesn't make me a bad person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

Not replying takes even less time

True but it’s nice to be nice n all that

When half the people you reply to with a "no thanks" reply saying "oh well you're a fat ugly bitch anyway" then maybe you'd stop replying too.

Also if you reply to someone, it means they can always get around any filters you have in place. Unless you block them, which is also rude apparently. "

Maybe im a bit naive, I am quite picky and only message a select few, I’m never horrible when I get knocked back

I guess it’s easier from your point of view!

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

ill reply to a good message thats addressed to the both of us even if i have no interest. That being said 8/10 messages are not addressed to the both of us and dont warrant a response with whats written so i just block and delete. used to reply to everyone and the stream of abuse we got just wasnt worth it.

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By *oober698Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

As a single man that is genuine and not the desperado most go on about. If I send a message it's trying to break the ice and start conversation not hi fancy a ....!. Sometimes its just an asking for some advice or pass a complement, and still met with a blank. Common courtesy should allow for a reply of sorts as long as it's not abusive or rude. However I can see why people get annoyed over those desperate and rude folk who think they are worthy of another person or totally pre-madonnas.

Also newcomers to this world struggle to understand protocol and like me find it difficult to break the defences of the hardened swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single man that is genuine and not the desperado most go on about. If I send a message it's trying to break the ice and start conversation not hi fancy a ....!. Sometimes its just an asking for some advice or pass a complement, and still met with a blank. Common courtesy should allow for a reply of sorts as long as it's not abusive or rude. However I can see why people get annoyed over those desperate and rude folk who think they are worthy of another person or totally pre-madonnas.

Also newcomers to this world struggle to understand protocol and like me find it difficult to break the defences of the hardened swinger.

"

I agree with this totally, that’s how us decent blokes get tarred by the same brush..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single man that is genuine and not the desperado most go on about. If I send a message it's trying to break the ice and start conversation not hi fancy a ....!. Sometimes its just an asking for some advice or pass a complement, and still met with a blank. Common courtesy should allow for a reply of sorts as long as it's not abusive or rude. However I can see why people get annoyed over those desperate and rude folk who think they are worthy of another person or totally pre-madonnas.

Also newcomers to this world struggle to understand protocol and like me find it difficult to break the defences of the hardened swinger.

"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No thanks should be suffice.

After all,you never asked that person to contact you

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Santa lucia de Tirajana

We find the most difficult ones to answer are from clearly genuine people bearing compliments, If we say thank you does this give a misleading response.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously

What a charming man. The women must be queueing around the block. "

My thoughts exactly

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By *oober698Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long.. "

But it usually invites them to send messages back either abusive or asking why or pleading with me they're the right person for me... It's a compliment and flattering people want to write. But how often it's really genuine? If they read my profile and could see they don't meet my requirements, why get so shirty or persistent in expecting a reply??

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By *_weadenMan
over a year ago

Near Hull

Just not opening messages is annoying. Especially when you’ve done all they have asked, title face pics the lot.

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By *oober698Man
over a year ago

Lincoln


"We find the most difficult ones to answer are from clearly genuine people bearing compliments, If we say thank you does this give a misleading response."

To me that response being so short would say there is no interest unless your shy in coming forward. A response like thank you, your not so bad yourself for example(sorry a bit cheesy!) Would say there was something there to carry on communication. At any point after that, a sorry not interested should be enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

But it usually invites them to send messages back either abusive or asking why or pleading with me they're the right person for me... It's a compliment and flattering people want to write. But how often it's really genuine? If they read my profile and could see they don't meet my requirements, why get so shirty or persistent in expecting a reply?? "

If aimed at me I was answering your reqs for videos on another thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

But it usually invites them to send messages back either abusive or asking why or pleading with me they're the right person for me... It's a compliment and flattering people want to write. But how often it's really genuine? If they read my profile and could see they don't meet my requirements, why get so shirty or persistent in expecting a reply?? "

If aimed at me I was answering your reqs for videos on another thread

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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It’s nothing to do with having no manners, being rude, common courtesy - women get hundreds of messages a day and I for one along with many other women have a life outside of fab, and don’t have the time to reply to all messages to then still receive abuse.

You get abuse if you reply no, you get abuse if you ignore, so you can’t do right either way.

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By *oober698Man
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

But it usually invites them to send messages back either abusive or asking why or pleading with me they're the right person for me... It's a compliment and flattering people want to write. But how often it's really genuine? If they read my profile and could see they don't meet my requirements, why get so shirty or persistent in expecting a reply?? "

That's just total disrespect for you if you are getting abuse for turning somebody down, or they are that desperate they have to beg. Just block em at that point. Im sorry people feel the need to be that way. Common courtesy should be respected. No means no, and tars those genuine folk.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

How many messages do you get a day ?

Get as many as some women on here do its impossible to respond to all .

I manage it because I’m polite BUT each to their own how they deal with messages. Oh and I block straight after I respond to them so they can’t message again.

I have a life outside of fab. You may have time to politely respond to all the messages you receive. I dont .Doesn't make me a bad person...

"

I never said you were a bad person. You deal with messages how you see fit. I just think in my case I am polite and respond to them then block so no chance of further communication.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks" "

None, I've heard from women who tried that and all of a sudden the beautiful woman they liked and wanted to meet is a fake or a fat cow !

Nice sentiment but I'd just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you dodged a bullet there.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

But it usually invites them to send messages back either abusive or asking why or pleading with me they're the right person for me... It's a compliment and flattering people want to write. But how often it's really genuine? If they read my profile and could see they don't meet my requirements, why get so shirty or persistent in expecting a reply?? "

Just block them, that’s what I do so they have no chance to get shirty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP you dodged a bullet there. "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously"
What if every single person wanted to say hello and speak to you, same when I lived in Malaysia, when shopping you get constantly hastled by the shop workers wanting to help, lovely gesture but after the 50th person asked to help. you becomee a bit irritated. I can understand the no reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never do, obvously I would prefer a yes message but, the fact that somebody has simply replyed is a nice gesture. Sometimes I just send a message as a compliment which I would never expect anything back. But I don't get hundreds of messages. I wouldn't know if someone block me as I wouldn't message back after the no. Maybe D: Thank you for the interest but you don't match my profile requirement, happy fabbing.

In the past, I took time to write that response then they would argue and convince me they fit my requirements etc

But be interested to hear general consensus what is acceptable polite way saying no thanks "

I always say if not interested just delete the message

few do tho is t that hard really is it and no I don’t message back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

But it usually invites them to send messages back either abusive or asking why or pleading with me they're the right person for me... It's a compliment and flattering people want to write. But how often it's really genuine? If they read my profile and could see they don't meet my requirements, why get so shirty or persistent in expecting a reply??

Just block them, that’s what I do so they have no chance to get shirty!"

There’s no excuse for nasty messages or comments.. they shouldn’t be on here in my opinion if they can’t accept knock backs.. they’ve obviously been brought up wrong!

This site should be a little more respectful that way but it’s never going to happen.. too many desperate guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s much respectable if they take the time to respond. Doesn’t take long..

But it usually invites them to send messages back either abusive or asking why or pleading with me they're the right person for me... It's a compliment and flattering people want to write. But how often it's really genuine? If they read my profile and could see they don't meet my requirements, why get so shirty or persistent in expecting a reply??

Just block them, that’s what I do so they have no chance to get shirty!

There’s no excuse for nasty messages or comments.. they shouldn’t be on here in my opinion if they can’t accept knock backs.. they’ve obviously been brought up wrong!

This site should be a little more respectful that way but it’s never going to happen.. too many desperate guys!

"

Your right it should be and FYI I’ve never sent a disrespectful message or abuse, and definitely not desperate,please don’t assume

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously What if every single person wanted to say hello and speak to you, same when I lived in Malaysia, when shopping you get constantly hastled by the shop workers wanting to help, lovely gesture but after the 50th person asked to help. you becomee a bit irritated. I can understand the no reply. "

You’re comparing Fab with saying hello to people in a street? Bizarre!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously What if every single person wanted to say hello and speak to you, same when I lived in Malaysia, when shopping you get constantly hastled by the shop workers wanting to help, lovely gesture but after the 50th person asked to help. you becomee a bit irritated. I can understand the no reply.

You’re comparing Fab with saying hello to people in a street? Bizarre! "

No wasn’t, you don’t know story but thanks for your input

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously What if every single person wanted to say hello and speak to you, same when I lived in Malaysia, when shopping you get constantly hastled by the shop workers wanting to help, lovely gesture but after the 50th person asked to help. you becomee a bit irritated. I can understand the no reply.

You’re comparing Fab with saying hello to people in a street? Bizarre!

No wasn’t, you don’t know story but thanks for your input "

If you read OPs opening message its about responding to messages on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously What if every single person wanted to say hello and speak to you, same when I lived in Malaysia, when shopping you get constantly hastled by the shop workers wanting to help, lovely gesture but after the 50th person asked to help. you becomee a bit irritated. I can understand the no reply.

You’re comparing Fab with saying hello to people in a street? Bizarre!

No wasn’t, you don’t know story but thanks for your input

If you read OPs opening message its about responding to messages on Fab. "

Yes if you read through this you’ll see my point Was from another thread

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By *hythmic DriverMan
over a year ago

Croydon


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks"

Too brief! I reply in more depth as this:

Thank you for your message, unfortunately you are not what I’m looking for. Good luck.

I then block them so they can’t message me again.

If they have taken time to message me properly then they deserve a detailed response."

Agree with this. I tend to find I get a nice message back to say thank you but no thanks. So I always reply "thank you for your message, thats very kind. Happy hunting ".

No need for either party to be rude or blank. All here to meet people that we like. But can't expect everyone to like everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks" "

Like many have/will say I don't message more than once unless interest is shown, and I really appreciate a response of any type. Some people are going to be dicks (not just men either) but I don't think you should let these people change you. If you value manners then keep being polite, yes it takes a little more effort but if you change the way you deal with people you become as bad as them. Only applicable to people who've clearly made an effort mind you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously What if every single person wanted to say hello and speak to you, same when I lived in Malaysia, when shopping you get constantly hastled by the shop workers wanting to help, lovely gesture but after the 50th person asked to help. you becomee a bit irritated. I can understand the no reply.

You’re comparing Fab with saying hello to people in a street? Bizarre! "
No, I' using my esperience to unserstand what it may be like to get a lot of people bothering you, regardless of in contact or messages. Therefore, putting into my own context, why it may be best to ignore the messages instead of trying to talk to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When your phone rings, you have an option if you want to answer it or not. Same here. I don’t want to talk to you, so I won’t. Doesn’t matter if you think I’m rude, I didn’t want to talk to you anyway.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously What if every single person wanted to say hello and speak to you, same when I lived in Malaysia, when shopping you get constantly hastled by the shop workers wanting to help, lovely gesture but after the 50th person asked to help. you becomee a bit irritated. I can understand the no reply.

You’re comparing Fab with saying hello to people in a street? Bizarre! No, I' using my esperience to unserstand what it may be like to get a lot of people bothering you, regardless of in contact or messages. Therefore, putting into my own context, why it may be best to ignore the messages instead of trying to talk to everyone. "

In my opinion politest thing is to reply to them properly then block them so no chance of abuse or further contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks"

Like many have/will say I don't message more than once unless interest is shown, and I really appreciate a response of any type. Some people are going to be dicks (not just men either) but I don't think you should let these people change you. If you value manners then keep being polite, yes it takes a little more effort but if you change the way you deal with people you become as bad as them. Only applicable to people who've clearly made an effort mind you.

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This!

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By *ong_John2333Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think all 3 work, short, to the point and cant be confused for anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought I’d put my tuppence worth in.

I wouldn’t respond to any message about looks/type. Most will fire back asking ‘how would you know’ unless they have a face picture, which obviously most don’t.

I try to reply to most messages excluding the repeated offenders who clearly message as many as they can with a copy/paste every other week... the messages with attached cock pics that clearly they believe is better than anyone else’s... and the twats who think women are gagging (not literally) for cock. I try to block as I go.

I reply ‘thanks but I’m not looking to meet or chat for the foreseeable’. I confess, I copy/paste. Most respond with a ‘thanks for replying’, the twats who respond negatively.. instant block!

I personally reply as I find it rude not to. I understand ‘no reply=not interested’ but I genuinely feel if someone has taken time to message me the least I can do is respond regardless. That said, the amount of messages are unbelievable at times, but I do try as I go through them. That’s my take on it stay safe all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!. "

But it's site policy? No reply means not interested. If you sign up to a site and that's the rules, how is it bad manners?

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks" "

Unfortunately the follow message you will get to each of these replies is likely to be along the lines of:

A - Well you have poor taste if I'm not your type you deluded twat.

B - Well you have poor taste if you don't fancy me you deluded twat.

C - What's wrong with you, are you a deluded twat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks"

Unfortunately the follow message you will get to each of these replies is likely to be along the lines of:

A - Well you have poor taste if I'm not your type you deluded twat.

B - Well you have poor taste if you don't fancy me you deluded twat.

C - What's wrong with you, are you a deluded twat?"

Ha ha... love the word twat! It’s my word of the week

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks"

Unfortunately the follow message you will get to each of these replies is likely to be along the lines of:

A - Well you have poor taste if I'm not your type you deluded twat.

B - Well you have poor taste if you don't fancy me you deluded twat.

C - What's wrong with you, are you a deluded twat?

Ha ha... love the word twat! It’s my word of the week "

I’ll remember not to cross you lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if it is a polite rejection message we find some take that as a green light for a conversation - certainly ignore and delete after that.

Our bugbear is despite saying no men twice men still message and some even use the 'safeword' at the foot of the blah blah

To use a previously mentioned word - TWATS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even if it is a polite rejection message we find some take that as a green light for a conversation - certainly ignore and delete after that.

Our bugbear is despite saying no men twice men still message and some even use the 'safeword' at the foot of the blah blah

To use a previously mentioned word - TWATS"

Good that you send a message back, if they continue then out of order after you’ve rejected

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

No thanks is probably best instead of stringing them along and then saying you’re too far away

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By *_weadenMan
over a year ago

Near Hull

Looks like some are still looking for meets during lockdown

Just look at dee n mike

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously"

Rubbish. Read the site FAQ section. The bit about messages...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously

Rubbish. Read the site FAQ section. The bit about messages... "

As I seed ignorance, you don’t know the story, I don’t need to read site tiles to know politeness

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks"

Too brief! I reply in more depth as this:

Thank you for your message, unfortunately you are not what I’m looking for. Good luck.

I then block them so they can’t message me again.

If they have taken time to message me properly then they deserve a detailed response."

I like the “not what I’m looking for”. Oh how I’ve heard that! Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear people complain about getting no response to their messages. If I have the chance to reply knowing the guy genuinely wrote to me rather than an generic copy and paste message.

Which reply be more effective?

A: “Sorry not my type"

B: "Sorry. Dont fancy you"

C: "No thanks" "
might be nice to chat over a message or two to confirm your suspicions

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By *_weadenMan
over a year ago

Near Hull

Another thing that’s shite is people demanding face pics first msg etc or say they won’t reply to a profile with no pics and yet they only have a pic of their shoe on or something

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Peeps just reply and block these desperate men before they get chance to argue. That’s my policy!

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously

Rubbish. Read the site FAQ section. The bit about messages...

As I seed ignorance, you don’t know the story, I don’t need to read site tiles to know politeness "

Walking down the street and over a hundred people come up to you (using your example) and say hello, when would you get fed up and stop answering ? Remember if you do answer some will want to start a conversation with you. And this is every day !

Get real, you’re not owed anything on this site that includes a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously

Rubbish. Read the site FAQ section. The bit about messages...

As I seed ignorance, you don’t know the story, I don’t need to read site tiles to know politeness

Walking down the street and over a hundred people come up to you (using your example) and say hello, when would you get fed up and stop answering ? Remember if you do answer some will want to start a conversation with you. And this is every day !

Get real, you’re not owed anything on this site that includes a reply. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously

Rubbish. Read the site FAQ section. The bit about messages...

As I seed ignorance, you don’t know the story, I don’t need to read site tiles to know politeness

Walking down the street and over a hundred people come up to you (using your example) and say hello, when would you get fed up and stop answering ? Remember if you do answer some will want to start a conversation with you. And this is every day !

Get real, you’re not owed anything on this site that includes a reply. "

Get real yourself and read it properly, don’t pick bits what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another thing that’s shite is people demanding face pics first msg etc or say they won’t reply to a profile with no pics and yet they only have a pic of their shoe on or something "

Then don't message them

Easy peasy

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Not answering after making a request to contact is pure ignorance I’m my eyes, if I said hello in the street I’d expect an answer, when someone asks for something, you reply, see they’ve read it, and not reply is pure ignorance, you ask politely why and get blocked.....from the OP, live behind a keyboard, think your looks allow you to be ignorent, not a nice person obviously

Rubbish. Read the site FAQ section. The bit about messages...

As I seed ignorance, you don’t know the story, I don’t need to read site tiles to know politeness

Walking down the street and over a hundred people come up to you (using your example) and say hello, when would you get fed up and stop answering ? Remember if you do answer some will want to start a conversation with you. And this is every day !

Get real, you’re not owed anything on this site that includes a reply.

Get real yourself and read it properly, don’t pick bits what you want "

It’s your example...justify it or your argument is null and void. You can’t have it both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys get better looking and more charm and you too can get a reply.

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By *_weadenMan
over a year ago

Near Hull

Agree.

But the demand of face pics when the couple won’t put anything other than a foot on (for example) says a lot about some on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would She gain by engaging you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would She gain by engaging you? "

She asked for goodness sake, look forget it I’m bored, thx for continually checking my profile, hope you all have a lovely day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would She gain by engaging you?

She asked for goodness sake, look forget it I’m bored, thx for continually checking my profile, hope you all have a lovely day"

I was checking your experience. You’ve been here over a year. And had meets. Surely you understand how it works.

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Dont say "not my type"

If anyone has such a narrow definition of what attracts them then they just come across as an idiot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would She gain by engaging you?

She asked for goodness sake, look forget it I’m bored, thx for continually checking my profile, hope you all have a lovely day

I was checking your experience. You’ve been here over a year. And had meets. Surely you understand how it works. "

I do, surely you go too, like I say it was a comment from another thread that got brought up here about answering, I’m sorry if it bothers you, it’s my opinion that it’s not hard to be polite, maybe I’m wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

At one point we replied to all messages, but unfortunately some people are very rude in their reply, in fact most of the time bang out of order!!

So now if we are not interested we just do not reply, it's not bad manners it's just potentially saving ourselves a shit load of abuse. "

Same here re I used to reply to every message or at least try to. Most of those I sent any sort of "thanks but no thanks" reply to then came back with torrents of abuse or asking why I wasn't interested.

Regarding it being rude to not reply if someone has "taken the time to send you a decent message". Does that apply in reverse? In that it is also considered rude for someone to message when you have clearly stated they are not what you are looking for due to distance, age, *insert preference/requirements here.

For example, I see a profile I like.

It states they are ONLY looking for tall, non-Black, dress size smaller than me women who live Wales.

I message them. I. Me. From London. Who doesn't not fit any of those physical or location aspects.

Should they reply to me politely declining?

If they don't, are they rude or am I rude or "rude" for having messaged then in the first place and claiming/stating that I read their profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always reply just to be polite "

I agree politeness costs nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A message back positive or negative would be nice, just bad manners just ignoring you. Especially if you wrote a nice message in the first place. But manners seem to be lacking on here!.

So i have no manners because i dont reply to some messages ...is that what you are saying?

At one point we replied to all messages, but unfortunately some people are very rude in their reply, in fact most of the time bang out of order!!

So now if we are not interested we just do not reply, it's not bad manners it's just potentially saving ourselves a shit load of abuse.

Same here re I used to reply to every message or at least try to. Most of those I sent any sort of "thanks but no thanks" reply to then came back with torrents of abuse or asking why I wasn't interested.

Regarding it being rude to not reply if someone has "taken the time to send you a decent message". Does that apply in reverse? In that it is also considered rude for someone to message when you have clearly stated they are not what you are looking for due to distance, age, *insert preference/requirements here.

For example, I see a profile I like.

It states they are ONLY looking for tall, non-Black, dress size smaller than me women who live Wales.

I message them. I. Me. From London. Who doesn't not fit any of those physical or location aspects.

Should they reply to me politely declining?

If they don't, are they rude or am I rude or "rude" for having messaged then in the first place and claiming/stating that I read their profile?

"

No not really been rude as your going again st what they ask for that’s understandable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile clearly says we want to meet women and couples. Nothing about men. So any men that message us clearly haven’t read our profile or decided to ignore what we want. Either of which shows a lack of respect towards us and therefore doesn’t require a show of respect back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our profile clearly says we want to meet women and couples. Nothing about men. So any men that message us clearly haven’t read our profile or decided to ignore what we want. Either of which shows a lack of respect towards us and therefore doesn’t require a show of respect back. "

Good point

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

Any message that has taken time and thought will get a friendly, considered response.

Lazy messages, I feel ok ignoring, but I do try to answer as many messages as I can. This causes LOTS of arguing, wheedling, and hassle, along with some nastiness.

The longer I'm here, the more I’m tempted to bulk delete to avoid this.

I think, if you're going to reply, be polite. All the three options op suggested are a bit brusque.

But nobody is obliged to reply, on Fab. To anything.

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

Wow. Posted that in the middle of an argument.

Sorry to break the flow, guys.

As you were!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Telling a trans girl to man up isn’t your finest move. Incredibly disrespectful.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

So many threads go off the rails

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By *eachPreacherMan
over a year ago

Kent/London

'A' Is good enough for me honestly. Just a 'no thanks' or no response just leaves me confused as to why I am getting rejected. Just not being someones type is understandable and I never send hate to anyone regardless, but it's still nice to at least get some response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'A' Is good enough for me honestly. Just a 'no thanks' or no response just leaves me confused as to why I am getting rejected. Just not being someones type is understandable and I never send hate to anyone regardless, but it's still nice to at least get some response."

Put your tin hat on mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve made this whole thread a rant because someone obeyed site rules and made the choice that they didn’t want do talk to you. It’s anyone’s right. Yet your sense of entitlement is unrivalled. Yes she dodged a bullet. It’s stalkerish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’ve made this whole thread a rant because someone obeyed site rules and made the choice that they didn’t want do talk to you. It’s anyone’s right. Yet your sense of entitlement is unrivalled. Yes she dodged a bullet. It’s stalkerish. "

Wrong again at least your constant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was brought up with manners and treat people how you would like to be treated and it is a bug bare but a simple no thanks would be exceptable for me anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was brought up with manners and treat people how you would like to be treated and it is a bug bare but a simple no thanks would be exceptable for me anyway "

Glad to see there’s more about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this thread is a good insight into people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this thread is a good insight into people. "

Couldn’t agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I’m sure some people know who to avoid

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