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"After this madness do try out torture garden parties. U would meet loads of like minds and learn alot... " TG are pretty good. There a few others out there too. Night of St Francis parties are really good. | |||
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"We want to experiment with this more. Torture Gardens look amazing! I'm the more dominant one with Mr. Still eating ourselves into it." Cupid's has a dungeon which is fun... | |||
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"#1 thing I say to anyone that's getting into BDSM is to learn about how consent works in BDSM - it's much more explicit and.. procedural? Than you're probably used to. Safewords (I use a traffic light system most often) are the bedrock, but also enthusiastic consent, fully-informed consent and what I like to call "sober" consent (as in, not simply in the heat of the moment - so you don't land up regretting anything). You might already use some or all of this in swinging. Then learn about the two major BDSM philosophies, SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) and RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). The reason it's worth reading about this up-front is that it can avoid a lot of pain, awkwardness and trauma that newbies can otherwise experience going in head-first. Seems boring but trust me, it's the sexiest thing in the world" This is great advice. Already use the traffic light system. | |||
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"We want to experiment with this more. Torture Gardens look amazing! I'm the more dominant one with Mr. Still eating ourselves into it. Cupid's has a dungeon which is fun..." Ah yes we have seen wasn't brave enough on our first visit though, we did have plenty of fun elsewhere. | |||
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"We want to experiment with this more. Torture Gardens look amazing! I'm the more dominant one with Mr. Still eating ourselves into it. Cupid's has a dungeon which is fun... Ah yes we have seen wasn't brave enough on our first visit though, we did have plenty of fun elsewhere." Partners last Sunday in the month kage | |||
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"After this madness do try out torture garden parties. U would meet loads of like minds and learn alot... " Yes TG is a spectacular event and they travel around the country and overseas! | |||
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"Hey all, Were looking to explore more into the bdsm world. Would love to have a chat with people who are into this and see where it goes Thanks N & S" We would be more than happy to chat with you guys and hopefully help or at the very least point you in the right direction | |||
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"Hey all, Were looking to explore more into the bdsm world. Would love to have a chat with people who are into this and see where it goes Thanks N & S" look up The Chardmore Society parties. Really chilled crowd who showed us the ropes so to speak. Well stocked dungeon!!! | |||
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"Remember there is no right way to BDSM, so long as you are informed, knowledgeable and consenting" I'd add that a reason I encourage reading and learning some of the philosophy/safety first is that it short-circuits the power others have over you as the "newbies". Generally the scene is very welcoming and respectful but there are definitely abusive people that specifically seek out young newbies (true of swinging too tbh). They're entirely powerless against just a teensy bit of knowledge | |||
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