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Newbie for Dom/domme (When this is over)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey there,

My name is Chris. I'm a 22yo newbie sub. I'm looking for a doms/dommes when this all blows over. I'm really nervous being a newbie and would love advice or understanding doms/dommes to contact me and chat to build up to a meet when Covid-19 is over.

Hope you're all staying safe and I hope to hear from you soon.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Hi Chris and welcome - and good that you have an idea of what you are looking for - my advice to you while all this is going on is to spend some time reading about BDSM and getting an understanding not only of the type of Dom/me you'd be looking for but also the type of submissive you think you'd be. There are some very good books and sites out there (Screw The Rose's Bring Me The Thorns and SM101 are both readily available on Amazon and worth a read).

Maybe complete some on-line BDSM questionnaires (the type that list activities and have you rate them 1-5 I'm terms of interest) they'll help you understand both yourself and your interest a lot better, and be useful in explaining to potential Dom/mes what you are about and where you are coming from.

Remember too that Dommes looking for single males are the Unicorns of the kink world and very rare to find - especially when you have specific types in mind, and there are Dom/mes who will take advantage if you're not careful or could be both abusive and dangerous - so be as informed and aware as you can so you can avoid them.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi Chris and welcome - and good that you have an idea of what you are looking for - my advice to you while all this is going on is to spend some time reading about BDSM and getting an understanding not only of the type of Dom/me you'd be looking for but also the type of submissive you think you'd be. There are some very good books and sites out there (Screw The Rose's Bring Me The Thorns and SM101 are both readily available on Amazon and worth a read).

Maybe complete some on-line BDSM questionnaires (the type that list activities and have you rate them 1-5 I'm terms of interest) they'll help you understand both yourself and your interest a lot better, and be useful in explaining to potential Dom/mes what you are about and where you are coming from.

Remember too that Dommes looking for single males are the Unicorns of the kink world and very rare to find - especially when you have specific types in mind, and there are Dom/mes who will take advantage if you're not careful or could be both abusive and dangerous - so be as informed and aware as you can so you can avoid them.

Good luck "

Hey there! Thank you so much for all of that. I'm trying to indulge in different materials and have discovered a few new things about myself. I've taken a BDSM test (on my profile) and found a bit of a switch side as it happens haha!

I sincerely appreciate the advice and word of warning and will take it under advisement as a matter of importance. Thank you again!

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

I would suggest joining and creating a profile on the well know FET ( life ) site x

Join some of the groups there and gain an understanding of your interest

If you join let me know il befriend you and you can see some of the local NW GROUPS that may be a good starting point x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would suggest joining and creating a profile on the well know FET ( life ) site x

Join some of the groups there and gain an understanding of your interest

If you join let me know il befriend you and you can see some of the local NW GROUPS that may be a good starting point x"

Thank you mistress! As it happens, I'm already on there but don't use it regularly as I found it all a bit confusing for newbies. Do you mind PM'ing me so I can give you my username?

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

Pm’d

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