FabSwingers.com forum: Do you judge people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Definitely, a messy background is off putting. A toilet in the background is ok if the bathrooms clean.

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple
over a year ago

Lust

Definitely, we’re far from snobs. But if someone can’t be arsed about tidying and cleaning their room, we doubt if they take much care about their personal hygiene too. Maybe that’s a bit of a generalisation, and we’re sure there are people out there that this does not apply to, but we like to play it safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely, we’re far from snobs. But if someone can’t be arsed about tidying and cleaning their room, we doubt if they take much care about their personal hygiene too. Maybe that’s a bit of a generalisation, and we’re sure there are people out there that this does not apply to, but we like to play it safe."

Agreed. Couldn’t have put it better myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's an interesting way of looking at it and possibly a good indication of self care and hygiene for sure.

I think it says that maybe they're a bit lazy too, that doesn't translate well when it comes to potential conversations/meetings.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I am not the most houseproud person, but if you can’t make any effort with your photos, including checking the background, then you probably don’t make much effort in other areas of life.

I love the ones where they say they are single but there’s clearly women’s toiletries in the background.

Proper Miss Marple me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I judge people on what their words say

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?"

I'll be honest. State of the room doesn't bother me if they're sexy and someone I'd like to fuck. But I sometimes become a curious bitch and look at the background closely for random stuff.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I am not the most houseproud person, but if you can’t make any effort with your photos, including checking the background, then you probably don’t make much effort in other areas of life.

I love the ones where they say they are single but there’s clearly women’s toiletries in the background.

Proper Miss Marple me

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We’ve seen a Ladies dressing gown in the background of a “Single” man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am not the most houseproud person, but if you can’t make any effort with your photos, including checking the background, then you probably don’t make much effort in other areas of life.

I love the ones where they say they are single but there’s clearly women’s toiletries in the background.

Proper Miss Marple me

Love the level of observation there, that's quite impressive. Must say I have similar abilities and can pick up on the weirdest things

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not the most houseproud person, but if you can’t make any effort with your photos, including checking the background, then you probably don’t make much effort in other areas of life.

I love the ones where they say they are single but there’s clearly women’s toiletries in the background.

Proper Miss Marple me

We’ve seen a Ladies dressing gown in the background of a “Single” man

Could be their “thing”

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By *ucy baileyCouple
over a year ago

North Cambridgeshire

Absolutely.

We have teenagers in the house that must have their own personal issue "let's f@*k up every room in the house" explosive devices that immediately after denotation scatters their clothes, cutlery, rubbish and any other crap that needs discarding all over the place. But always make sure things get tidied away and cleared up. Not hard at all to make some effort and be tidy and clean, especially when promoting yourselves in pics

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I try to crop out as much of the background as possible, for this very reason, despite the fact that my house is neat and tidy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?"

When they take a pic over their toilet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?"

We regularly roar with laughter about this very thing. Honestly the state of some places.

We once actually went to a guys flat and he had a xmas tree up in his bedroom in the middle of June lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?

When they take a pic over their toilet

It's amazing how prevalent these sort of photos are here. I suppose it's akin to a photo next to a urinal on tinder

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yep. I judge people on a lot of things when it comes to meets on here. Presentation is very important, if you don't care about yourself or your surroundings you're not going to care about anything else.

I don't mean that you have to live in a !mansion or be a perfect physical specimen but wherever you live or whatever your body is like be proud of it and look after it.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Yes.

Clothes and many of them just scattered in the background, a random pizza box and a few half empty glasses, that type of thing really does put us off. translates as lazy and can't be bothered types.

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

definitely. The surroundings of the pic give all we need to known about people taking. Dishevelled bedding is allowed though

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By *raceysfunCouple
over a year ago

NEWHAVEN

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?"

I literally can't stand the pics of guys actually on the toilet, it would definitely be a no from me xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?

I literally can't stand the pics of guys actually on the toilet, it would definitely be a no from me xx

We've yet to see anyone on the toilet but give it time I'm sure we'll spot them!

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By *imandLynn98Couple
over a year ago

Palm Coast

Never considered it judging, but we definitely check out the background on photos we look at. True story, one background featured a large dry erase board with a calendar and an appointment for a colonoscopy. You cannot make that stuff up!

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?"

Yes. Absolutely.

Unless they’re ridiculously hot. It’s not fair, I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of guys standing over toilets or actually pissing in to them. Must be some sort of fetish thing. For the craic if we see something funny i will parody it for K to give her a laugh

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

^^^ This! ^^^

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

yup definitely- goes straight to ignoring phase

Unless there is a sexy showering photo in a small bathroom and the piece of toilet got in the scene , I can forgive that

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yes it would put me off. Some folk do not have much money but that is no excuse to live in an untidy or unclean house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha see I do have an observation on the whole toilet/messy room pic thing

(Man takes photo with toilet in the background or mess)

General commentary along the lines of 'what a mess, if they cannot even clean their room/bathroom then what must their personal hygiene be like etc'

(Woman takes photo with toilet in the background or mess)

Photo gets so many fabs it hits page 1 of hotpics.

I'm not even joking, I have seen pics of a woman over a toilet on hotpics and no one batted an eyelid, or with rooms a teenager would be ashamed, but they are still very popular

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

"Yes it would put me off. Some folk do not have much money but that is no excuse to live in an untidy or unclean house. "

Agree there’s no link x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find it strange when people are trying to take some sort of sexy picture and the background is a shambles.

None of us are perfect, but a quick tidy up is no hardship x

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?"

If the background looks messy and dirty then you have imagine the individual is as well.

Wouldn't want to meet someone who belongs in an episode of hoarders!

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

An untidy mind perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?

If the background looks messy and dirty then you have imagine the individual is as well.

Wouldn't want to meet someone who belongs in an episode of hoarders!"

Have to admit though, those programmes are fascinating

Wouldn't wish to meet them, however.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Every part of meeting new people is all down to judgement. Hight, bald, shaved, tattoos I could go on.

I’ve seen some belting backgrounds. Personal favourites are piles of washing lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pics with a toilet in the background.

messy bathrooms/bedrooms tell you a lot about the person.

lazy and unhygienic.

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By *asmartsCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?"

Yes it would if messy room, just us but it would

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

Yeah, it would put me off too. I do tend to look at the background, and the surroundings. As others have said, if they don't care about where they live, it would make me question their attitude to their own personal hygiene. Its all about how you present yourself, and I would suspect that those who make no effort are probably going to be the same on a meet.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Not really into judging others but I suppose we judge folks more on the things they say/type than anything else really

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

If it's an absolute tip, yes. A bit messy or whatever, not really.

As for toilet pics, yeah we're not fans of dick pics over a toilet bowl. Don't understand that at all. Ew.

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

I think of it as the first impression you make, like the message you send. So I think it matters if your pictures are clear and clutter free. I'm also more attracted to clean and clear photography too, despite who/whatever is in it.

Spent many a time looking at a background of a photo on here rather than the actual person in it and that's not good lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, I always look at the backgrounds

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Yes I am put off by messy backgrounds. It doesn’t take much effort to tidy up.

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?

If the background looks messy and dirty then you have imagine the individual is as well.

Wouldn't want to meet someone who belongs in an episode of hoarders!

Have to admit though, those programmes are fascinating

Wouldn't wish to meet them, however. "

New program starting soon, just love watching these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it says a lot about the person

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

As they say cleanliness is next to godliness, now Weare all devil's surely haha

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

In the process of carrying out a lot of refurbishment work at the moment, finances and the fact that materials being virtually impossible to purchase at the moment has put a hold on this.

Some people are limited in space which can create an issue with storage.

They may well may have the highest level of personal hygiene, but agree with previously said more time on hands to do some spring cleaning.

Not hard to make the effort and does not take long if you keep on top of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it wouldn’t we all have good days and bad days with cleanliness and busy lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me there is a massive difference between messy and dirty. I work 14 hour shifts in blocks of 5 so the house starts spotless and after 5 days of work, home, dump everything, sleep and repeat its messy by day 5, but its hygenically kept spotless. I would never post a photo taken in a messy room though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think of it as the first impression you make, like the message you send. So I think it matters if your pictures are clear and clutter free. I'm also more attracted to clean and clear photography too, despite who/whatever is in it.

Spent many a time looking at a background of a photo on here rather than the actual person in it and that's not good lol

Very true about first impressions, especially on here. Quick flick through photos and it's very much the deciding factor between that and the bio.

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

I try not to judge people as non of us are perfect, but I definatly analyse photos, amazing what information you can find, learn more about some than their profile lets on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By the state of the room they're in when looking at their photos?

Does it make a difference if they're in a really messy bedroom or by a toilet in their pics?

Would it put you off messaging them?"

I will judge them. But it won't put me off from messaging them. These things play a part if I am considering a long term relationship though.

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By *oodvibrations68Couple
over a year ago

Lake Constance

...we think it puts us off, yes!

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over a year ago

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