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"I have to agree. As a 'unicorn' if I'm looking to play with a couple as a couple I expect to see them both (and not just part of the male). It's a pretty common thing, I think because photos of the female half tend to draw in more attention." I agree! Do you have any response line for those who massage you? (for the ones you might be interested if the M is as appealing as F) | |||
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"As a couple we still steer clear of profiles with just the female showing. Our profile has both of us, but more pics of me as I tend to mess about more for the camera. We try and ensure people get an idea of what both of us look like though. " Yeah I’ve been doing the same but I cannot help but wonder “what if” | |||
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"As a unicorn, you should see both. If not in public pics, certainly they should send in private. MrD is covered in tatts and it is his choice not to put too many revealing pics up in public. We have alot in private which we gladly share with single ladies or couples. I can understand the frustration at seeing 1 sided pics. Ignorance is not bliss! MsD" That’s fair enough. What would be the best response, If I want to see other part before I make any commitments to get to know conversations? I’ve been currently not responding at all unless they send pics of them two on their first message. | |||
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"As a unicorn, you should see both. If not in public pics, certainly they should send in private. MrD is covered in tatts and it is his choice not to put too many revealing pics up in public. We have alot in private which we gladly share with single ladies or couples. I can understand the frustration at seeing 1 sided pics. Ignorance is not bliss! MsD That’s fair enough. What would be the best response, If I want to see other part before I make any commitments to get to know conversations? I’ve been currently not responding at all unless they send pics of them two on their first message." If they send a pic of the female then just reply saying thanks, can I see a photo of the Mr please. If they say no then I'd bail out at that point. You're entitled to ask. | |||
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"As a unicorn, you should see both. If not in public pics, certainly they should send in private. MrD is covered in tatts and it is his choice not to put too many revealing pics up in public. We have alot in private which we gladly share with single ladies or couples. I can understand the frustration at seeing 1 sided pics. Ignorance is not bliss! MsD That’s fair enough. What would be the best response, If I want to see other part before I make any commitments to get to know conversations? I’ve been currently not responding at all unless they send pics of them two on their first message." I would be very direct and say you get alot of messages with no male pics on profile & if they were genuinely keen on chatting more, could they send a few on. If they dont want to, jog on. Time wasters. | |||
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"I have to agree. As a 'unicorn' if I'm looking to play with a couple as a couple I expect to see them both (and not just part of the male). It's a pretty common thing, I think because photos of the female half tend to draw in more attention. I agree! Do you have any response line for those who massage you? (for the ones you might be interested if the M is as appealing as F)" If they message me first and I think I might be interested would usually just say something like: Hey there x and y, Thank you for getting in touch, I'm glad you liked my profile. I read yours too and it looks like we're looking for similar things. Your photos are great and x is stunning, sadly I wasn't able to see much of y, do you happen to have any more photos of him or you two as a couple that you wouldn't mind sharing? Thank you, Lola.x | |||
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"We've tried to put a few in of me but most are of Gabriella because thats who most of the people on here want to see. Have we shown enough of both? " For the ones who scrolls several F pics with an hope of seeing M , yes. Personally for me few of each part is enough to decide whether I want to start convo or not x | |||
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"I have to agree. As a 'unicorn' if I'm looking to play with a couple as a couple I expect to see them both (and not just part of the male). It's a pretty common thing, I think because photos of the female half tend to draw in more attention. I agree! Do you have any response line for those who massage you? (for the ones you might be interested if the M is as appealing as F) If they message me first and I think I might be interested would usually just say something like: Hey there x and y, Thank you for getting in touch, I'm glad you liked my profile. I read yours too and it looks like we're looking for similar things. Your photos are great and x is stunning, sadly I wasn't able to see much of y, do you happen to have any more photos of him or you two as a couple that you wouldn't mind sharing? Thank you, Lola.x" Thank you | |||
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"I’ve sort of given up ever finding a couple ... the latest one is a couples profile talking for quite a while .... no end of excuses from him about why she isn’t there turned out she’s passed away!!!" Wow that’s quite a story. Sorry to hear that | |||
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"A lot do it and in reality its a good indicator if who is best avoided as it shows their mindset and lack of understanding of what others seek. " Agreed guess the best way is to ask for more pics incase I wanna know that’s not the case | |||
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"Here is the thing! I currently have lots of time to browse around in fab like most of us and I keep coming across really nice profiles. Some I think, I will get along very well. Especially couples looking for F/unicorn for 3sum. However, most only shows the female pictures -full of them - and if I’m lucky I get a public cock pic of Mr but nothing else. Hence I wonder , what’s the expectation here? Both parts are equally important and I don’t believe any unicorn prefer just to see the female but not male part of the couple. Discussion open " We have the same problem with some couple profiles | |||
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"I’ve sort of given up ever finding a couple ... the latest one is a couples profile talking for quite a while .... no end of excuses from him about why she isn’t there turned out she’s passed away!!! Wow that’s quite a story. Sorry to hear that " Creepy tale , from a Unicorn fantasy to the Macabre! | |||
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" We have the same problem with some couple profiles " must be even more struggling for couples. | |||
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"We are all guilty as couples of displaying more pics of the female than the male, sorry x You are correct in that both matter equally but it’s never held us back from having lots of FFM meets and having regular female playmates, it’s not about the pictures it’s about attitude, the text in our profile and “equal way dynamics” mantra, we don’t want a plaything for us to live out our fantasies and at the other end of the scale we won’t bow down or put a lady on a pedestal either...." This exactly there are pics of both of us on our cples profile jaytray40 but it's all about dynamics and all involved have to feel comfortable this is about being an equal and not just to please the cple or just please him the single woman (hate the term unicorn) has to be regarded as an equal and her feelings/desires taken into account | |||
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" We have the same problem with some couple profiles must be even more struggling for couples. " sure someone else said the same but clubs have been way more successful for us. When we have had contact with a unicorn through fab the chat has been like getting blood out of a stone in most cases. We understand what it's like for single women on here but we've all but given up the search | |||
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" We have the same problem with some couple profiles must be even more struggling for couples. sure someone else said the same but clubs have been way more successful for us. When we have had contact with a unicorn through fab the chat has been like getting blood out of a stone in most cases. We understand what it's like for single women on here but we've all but given up the search " Everyone has different characteristics. I'm definitely not a vampire unicorn and I haven’t gone to a club without pre-arranged meet with couple so don’t think I would be ever available in a club scene unless 5sum or moresum happens | |||
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" We have the same problem with some couple profiles must be even more struggling for couples. sure someone else said the same but clubs have been way more successful for us. When we have had contact with a unicorn through fab the chat has been like getting blood out of a stone in most cases. We understand what it's like for single women on here but we've all but given up the search " Hang in there, we had given up too. We managed to find two who had really good chat and everyone was getting on great. One cancelled with some ridiculous excuse 2 hours before a meet, the other just decided to ghost us on the day of the meet. We vowed to give up on the mff. Then out of nowhere we ended up meeting the female half of a couple alone (technically not a unicorn I suppose) and it was worth the wait! | |||
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"Here is the thing! I currently have lots of time to browse around in fab like most of us and I keep coming across really nice profiles. Some I think, I will get along very well. Especially couples looking for F/unicorn for 3sum. However, most only shows the female pictures -full of them - and if I’m lucky I get a public cock pic of Mr but nothing else. Hence I wonder , what’s the expectation here? Both parts are equally important and I don’t believe any unicorn prefer just to see the female but not male part of the couple. Discussion open " We agree 100% We as a couple only meet together so we are a package ultimately therefore our pictures - both public and the private face pictures we send via messages represent both of us fairly equally x As a couple we get messages from other couples where there's loads of pictures of the couples female but none of Mr bar maybe a cock picture so we understand totally. KJ x | |||
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"I dont think we are destined to find a single female " We haven't been able to find a single female on fab. My wife is fully Bi we are happy to meet single females as a couple fo full 3 way play. Also K can host single woman at ours for private FF play without me been present in the bedroom. We are most definitely not the type of male driven couple pushing his wife to play bi when she really isn't for his sit back viewing pleasure. Even so we have never had any luck finding a single female on Fab for MFF or FF. Now Clubs is totally different story and we have had some great nights with MFF fun! We have also had more success on fab meeting couples where both ladies enjoy FF fun followed by soft swap / play with own partners same room fun. Our preferred choice is full swap 4 way MFFM all together horny fun KJ x | |||
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"I dont think we are destined to find a single female We haven't been able to find a single female on fab. My wife is fully Bi we are happy to meet single females as a couple fo full 3 way play. Also K can host single woman at ours for private FF play without me been present in the bedroom. We are most definitely not the type of male driven couple pushing his wife to play bi when she really isn't for his sit back viewing pleasure. Even so we have never had any luck finding a single female on Fab for MFF or FF. Now Clubs is totally different story and we have had some great nights with MFF fun! We have also had more success on fab meeting couples where both ladies enjoy FF fun followed by soft swap / play with own partners same room fun. Our preferred choice is full swap 4 way MFFM all together horny fun KJ x" Most single females we talk to turn put to be single males Definitely not a male driven couple here. We have talked about possible having just FF fun alone. We have enjoyed MFFM at clubs but unfortunately only just discovered clubs before lockdown happened. Cant wait till everything gets normal again. | |||
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"well i am a unicorn , would love to spend all night in bed with a mf couple. " You're a dudicorn | |||
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"I’ve sort of given up ever finding a couple ... the latest one is a couples profile talking for quite a while .... no end of excuses from him about why she isn’t there turned out she’s passed away!!! Wow that’s quite a story. Sorry to hear that " Onwards and upwards x | |||
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"well i am a unicorn , would love to spend all night in bed with a mf couple. You're a dudicorn " | |||
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"I’ve sort of given up ever finding a couple ... the latest one is a couples profile talking for quite a while .... no end of excuses from him about why she isn’t there turned out she’s passed away!!! Wow that’s quite a story. Sorry to hear that Creepy tale , from a Unicorn fantasy to the Macabre!" The block button came in very handy | |||
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"There is no way a single female turned out to be a guy if there are verifications and those verifications are from verified/genuine couples&singles. I do understand newbies can fall into those people if they have no previous experiences but I don’t understand how people cannot point them out after being in the scene or in the site for sometime x it simply shouldn’t happen x " These ones didnt have verfications and it was when we first joined. We realised pretty quickly dont worry. That's the only experience we have had with single females so far x | |||
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"no probs, well that will do for me lol. would love to find a couple to be a dudicorn lol. " We should team up... Unicorn and Dudicorn lol.. | |||
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"We stopped searching for a single female and opened up to the idea of another couple. Had a break from looking for anything for a few months so the search continues " I will be here, just saying | |||
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"Come our way " Is it me you looking for | |||
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"Hopefully we’ve got the ratio right on our profile, we try to show a bit of personality too! " No doubt as long as both parties involved for profile presentation, there is no need for a discussion My humble opinion. | |||
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"Come our way Is it me you looking for Ohhh it is " | |||
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"We stopped searching for a single female and opened up to the idea of another couple. Had a break from looking for anything for a few months so the search continues I will be here, just saying " Noted | |||
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"Some good comments on here for a new couple, our preferred meet would be a unicorn We've just been adding pics and vids for fun during lockdown and hadn't thought much about this subject? Any profile advice would be appreciated? Mark/Stephi x" You should probably start your own thread for profile advice | |||
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"Here is the thing! I currently have lots of time to browse around in fab like most of us and I keep coming across really nice profiles. Some I think, I will get along very well. Especially couples looking for F/unicorn for 3sum. However, most only shows the female pictures -full of them - and if I’m lucky I get a public cock pic of Mr but nothing else. Hence I wonder , what’s the expectation here? Both parts are equally important and I don’t believe any unicorn prefer just to see the female but not male part of the couple. Discussion open " When I’ve had messages from couples and I’ve checked their profile and it’s littered with pics of the F I’ve questioned this and it seems the M Is not photogenic and rather ugly so hiding him which seems very strange! | |||
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"Here is the thing! I currently have lots of time to browse around in fab like most of us and I keep coming across really nice profiles. Some I think, I will get along very well. Especially couples looking for F/unicorn for 3sum. However, most only shows the female pictures -full of them - and if I’m lucky I get a public cock pic of Mr but nothing else. Hence I wonder , what’s the expectation here? Both parts are equally important and I don’t believe any unicorn prefer just to see the female but not male part of the couple. Discussion open " I think you’ll enjoy looking at ours, as we have photos of both of us as we are in this together as a couple. Therefore, you need to see us both. Admittedly, it may be 60/40 but that’s because the Mr is camera shy on our public profile and saves himself for our friends... | |||
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"As a unicorn, you should see both. If not in public pics, certainly they should send in private. MrD is covered in tatts and it is his choice not to put too many revealing pics up in public. We have alot in private which we gladly share with single ladies or couples. I can understand the frustration at seeing 1 sided pics. Ignorance is not bliss! MsD" This is exactly our reasons and why we don’t have face pictures up but are happy to share pictures in private messages | |||
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"Here is the thing! I currently have lots of time to browse around in fab like most of us and I keep coming across really nice profiles. Some I think, I will get along very well. Especially couples looking for F/unicorn for 3sum. However, most only shows the female pictures -full of them - and if I’m lucky I get a public cock pic of Mr but nothing else. Hence I wonder , what’s the expectation here? Both parts are equally important and I don’t believe any unicorn prefer just to see the female but not male part of the couple. Discussion open " If I'm meeting a couple I personally I like to see equal amounts of pictures because as much as I like BI play I love cock more. | |||
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"Its somewhat ironic the amount of single females bemoaning the fact there is a lack of Male pics in profiles, when there own profiles have a distinct lack of quality full body shots etc " That’s a whole new level and deserves a separate title in the forum | |||
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"Its somewhat ironic the amount of single females bemoaning the fact there is a lack of Male pics in profiles, when there own profiles have a distinct lack of quality full body shots etc " Yet the single female still has shots of her on her profile. Lots of couples have none of the Male. | |||
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"A common theme running through this thread and one that we’ve had issues with in the past as well. We’ve lost count of the amount of times we’ve had to push for a picture of the guy in a couple. So much so that we put it on our profile. Finding the unicorn to join us is another matter. We have pictures of both of us on our profile and happy to share more with potential playmates of both of us. B&J x" Pity you live in London...... | |||
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"I often find the the guy in the couple is the make or break for me in terms of attraction. I’m attracted to lots of different types of women but a bit more picky with men. Hence always wanting to see photos (not cock shots) " That’s odd we find it’s the lady we ask to join us the problem, We have two major criteria, if they don’t meet them, well we are not interested. If I was to tell you oxygen was in short supply, your focus might be on one thing. People thrive on scarcity, where actually the world has abundance. There is an abundance of ladies who like to play with fun couples, well the couples that are not desperate because of a marketing scarcity. In my world. | |||
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"Its somewhat ironic the amount of single females bemoaning the fact there is a lack of Male pics in profiles, when there own profiles have a distinct lack of quality full body shots etc Yet the single female still has shots of her on her profile. Lots of couples have none of the Male. " And that’s the point, transversely how are couple to make an informed initial decision on a single female if the pictures are awful, TBH the only people contacting profiles with poor, close up, unrevealing pics are just desperate.... | |||
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"Its somewhat ironic the amount of single females bemoaning the fact there is a lack of Male pics in profiles, when there own profiles have a distinct lack of quality full body shots etc That’s a whole new level and deserves a separate title in the forum " But apt to this thread, as some people on this thread are moaning about lack of Male pics whilst displaying pictures that frankly might as well not be on there profiles for the use they are.... | |||
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"Its somewhat ironic the amount of single females bemoaning the fact there is a lack of Male pics in profiles, when there own profiles have a distinct lack of quality full body shots etc Yet the single female still has shots of her on her profile. Lots of couples have none of the Male. And that’s the point, transversely how are couple to make an informed initial decision on a single female if the pictures are awful, TBH the only people contacting profiles with poor, close up, unrevealing pics are just desperate...." I don’t think any of the women on this thread have awful pics. | |||
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"I have this problem all the time. I understand not showing faces publicly, I never would so I don’t expect others to, but I want to see more than a cock. I’ve seen all kinds of excuses on threads like this - including all too often people saying he’s not good-looking enough to show. That is not a selling point folks! And to all the people saying “maybe he just wants to watch” - personally I won’t meet those couples. I’m not a live porn show, and you know what? Even if I was willing to be watched, I wouldn’t want it to be someone utterly unattractive to me." Not here to do a 'performance' and be watched either...just love women too (have had lesbian relationships in a previous life) | |||
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"I absolutely agree with the OP, couples profiles need to show close to equal pictures of both parties. I absolutely love to see the intimacy between a couple with them being in the same picture (one of my favourite couples have a picture of him kissing her neck and that gets me every time) so it doesn’t just have to be sex shots if the couple prefer not to publicly share them. As for men being professional and not wanting pictures on here, there’s so many ways you can stay anonymous without sharing a face pic or a dick pic so to me that’s a poor reason!" Completely agree | |||
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"I absolutely agree with the OP, couples profiles need to show close to equal pictures of both parties. I absolutely love to see the intimacy between a couple with them being in the same picture (one of my favourite couples have a picture of him kissing her neck and that gets me every time) so it doesn’t just have to be sex shots if the couple prefer not to publicly share them. As for men being professional and not wanting pictures on here, there’s so many ways you can stay anonymous without sharing a face pic or a dick pic so to me that’s a poor reason! Completely agree " Have to second to that! So rude not to | |||
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"Roll on when this lockdown ends, I think I'll try dogging. " Take a picnic lovely weather for it | |||
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"I absolutely agree with the OP, couples profiles need to show close to equal pictures of both parties. I absolutely love to see the intimacy between a couple with them being in the same picture (one of my favourite couples have a picture of him kissing her neck and that gets me every time) so it doesn’t just have to be sex shots if the couple prefer not to publicly share them. As for men being professional and not wanting pictures on here, there’s so many ways you can stay anonymous without sharing a face pic or a dick pic so to me that’s a poor reason! Completely agree " | |||
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" If they message me first and I think I might be interested would usually just say something like: Hey there x and y, Thank you for getting in touch, I'm glad you liked my profile. I read yours too and it looks like we're looking for similar things. Your photos are great and x is stunning, sadly I wasn't able to see much of y, do you happen to have any more photos of him or you two as a couple that you wouldn't mind sharing? Thank you, Lola.x" I send this sort of message quite regularly from the couples profile. Our profile has more photos of me but we have made sure hubby is well represented too. We come as a pair and a threesome should be just that, all parties involved. | |||
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"Here is the thing! I currently have lots of time to browse around in fab like most of us and I keep coming across really nice profiles. Some I think, I will get along very well. Especially couples looking for F/unicorn for 3sum. However, most only shows the female pictures -full of them - and if I’m lucky I get a public cock pic of Mr but nothing else. Hence I wonder , what’s the expectation here? Both parts are equally important and I don’t believe any unicorn prefer just to see the female but not male part of the couple. Discussion open " I suppose we are guilty of this too. Our excuses (although probably not valid) are like some have mentioned... -Descretion due to Mr's job -Mrs gets more Fabs -Want profile to indicate Mrs involved -Mrs more photogenic! Must try harder to find some pics of Mr. Thanks for bringing it to our attention. X | |||
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