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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

Fair is fair. But I never say no to a proper good muff dive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather give than recieve to be honest.

I get really turned on to give and enjoy his reactions.

Recieving is fine but a lot of men do it pretty badly so unless it's good and they are really into it I'd rather not bother

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By *irty_DeedsMan
over a year ago

Teesside

Very fair. I eat pussy cause I love it though, not to get blown in return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd rather give than recieve to be honest.

I get really turned on to give and enjoy his reactions.

Recieving is fine but a lot of men do it pretty badly so unless it's good and they are really into it I'd rather not bother "

Feel flippin' free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont play tit for tat, if someone does not enjoy something then I wont withold because of it

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By *obyorkMan
over a year ago

Keighley

I can't imagine not wanting to go down on a woman. I love licking pussy

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By *immycox92Man
over a year ago

Greenwich

What's the secret to doing it well then?

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd rather give than recieve to be honest.

I get really turned on to give and enjoy his reactions.

Recieving is fine but a lot of men do it pretty badly so unless it's good and they are really into it I'd rather not bother "

I'm the same, love giving.

And if you won't give you shouldn't receive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of course it's fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont play tit for tat, if someone does not enjoy something then I wont withold because of it"

FFS make me lick your pussy! haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind I just want to eat

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By *ickymac52Man
over a year ago

newry

I can't cum from a blowjob and get pretty sensitive the longer it goes on, to the point where I can't take it anymore. But I love to take my time going down on a woman for as long as she wants.

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

I have had a few who have said they don't like doing it and I have said fine but if it is one of them that is going great I find they do it as if to show you that they are enjoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t bother me. Don’t have sex to be greedy, I have it for pleasure. Get that from making a woman cum just as much as if she’s sucking on my cock. Anybody having a paddy cause the lady doesn’t want to play with it that way should just grow up a little I think .

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

I leave it to her decision. I still eat pussy as long as she wants me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

Absolutely fair, I think so anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind not getting a bj as long as she alows me to go down on. Her.

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

You should always respect a partner's wishes.It's not about being selfish as satisfaction is what we all want ultimately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A lot of you are making good points!

I agree that if someone doesn’t enjoy doing it then obviously it’s a different situation - and don’t get me wrong I love to give a blowjob!!

It’s just interesting because some men just won’t with no explanation, whereas others would live down there if they could lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "
So your not into 68s then, where you give the guy a BJ and then he owes you 1 lol

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

You should always respect your partner's wishes and understand its not all about me me me

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By *alkthattalkMan
over a year ago

Darlington

I love giving oral! I find it so sexy seeing a woman writhe around in pleasure when I lick her.

Personally I’ve never had a decent bj so it’s never just done to expect oral back. I love to lick, pure and simple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

I have had the reverse where a women wanted me to lick her cunt but did not want to suck me off!

I would not be having sex with a women if she was not into oral both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get really turned on giving a guy a blow job. I can tease and edge them for hours.

I also get really turned on when a guy has a really good oral technique.

However dont expect it to be reciprocated when either happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only seems fair to reciprocate to be honest. So yes, seems fair to say that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

Totally fair. Shame tRump dragged the concept of quid pro quo through the gutter tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tit for tat not my thing..

I enjoy giving oral and hearing the woman in pleasure, that gets me very hard .

And yes a bj is always nice but dont expect one just cause ive gave oral

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "
i whole heartedly agree with you an eye for an eye

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Why would anyone deny themselves potential pleasure doing anything, just because their partner doesn’t enjoy giving the reciprocal?

However, if neither enjoy doing it then it seems fair for neither to receive it, I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy just giving

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To the people that have sent nasty messages to me over this, I never once said that this was my stance OR that it was the only correct one..

Everyone’s entitled to an opinion and if we can’t discuss them openly then we won’t ever understand other’s points of view!

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border

I love giving and wouid happily accept mutual oral but I wouldn’t expect a female to give unless she wanted to

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By *rzuuMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Like many of the guys responses on here, I am one of those who are not bothered if a woman gives me oral or not.

However, for me, I totally adore to perform oral on a woman and, for me, it is one way for me to give as much pleasure as I can and hopefully can make her cum many times to boot.

Of course, it is also a massive turn on for me. The aroma, taste and reactions you get results in my "taking my time" in that particular area...

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I give blow jobs because I enjoy doing it and seeing the pleasure I give. I never expect anything in return and although I enjoy receiving good oral it's not a must for me. It's about the overall experience.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds slightly niggardly, and the starting point for a disappointing experience.

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By *ptimus758Man
over a year ago

brentwood

I love oral sex both giving and receiving, and I've never been with a woman who doesn't give blow jobs, I love going down on Mrs O and making her cum

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent


"To the people that have sent nasty messages to me over this, I never once said that this was my stance OR that it was the only correct one..

Everyone’s entitled to an opinion and if we can’t discuss them openly then we won’t ever understand other’s points of view! "

Hoping my comment wasn’t misinterpreted. I just meant it’s all meant to be pleasure, not a duty.

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By *erge3Man
over a year ago

Aspatria

Don't think there's a fanny on the plant i don't want pleasure orally,

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

Girls, 99% of men r eating pussy no matter If they receive something or not and u know that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to eat pussy. Its not often that a girl doesn't want to give you a bj. But that wouldn't bother me

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

It’s absolutely fair and one of my rules, for women as well as men, is that I won’t go down if they don’t. I love giving oral, but I’m not here to service people and get nothing in return. I’m here for mutual pleasure, not a one-sided experience.

I met one guy who demanded several times in advance of the meet that I completely shave, and that I perform oral on him. Well I always go into meets shaved and intending to give oral so I didn’t think too much about it, but he not only refused to go down on me, he had no idea how to finger me either. And to add insult to injury he had the hairiest dick I’ve ever encountered - no shaving for the meet there!

So yes, because of that I won’t give if I’m not getting, and if anyone has a problem with that then no-one’s forcing them to message me.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Surprisingly I kind of disagree with this.

I go down on a woman because I love everything about it.... The pleasure it gives her to receive and the pleasure it gives me to do it. And the same when I'm sucking a cock. I wouldn't want it to be transactional.

Blowjobs feel amazing when the person who is doing it, is completely into it. I can only really enjoy a blowjob when I can feel the pleasure of the person giving it.

I wouldn't ever want a blowjob if the person didn't enjoy giving them....

But I would suggest that if it's really important to your lovemaking that you tell your partner how much you enjoy it and how much it turns you on to get licked out etc. And if they are not doing it purely out of selfishness or laziness..... well they aren't worth your time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

I don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t want to go down on a woman, I wouldn’t imagine a scenario where that would happen even if it’s not reciprocated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I dont agree with it.

You dont give to recieve, I don't expect a BJ if I go down on a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm happy just giving "

This! Love a blowjob but I’m going down regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slightly different tack, I usually don't select oral as an interest. The reason being I love to receive but dislike the taste and texture of cum. I don't think it's fair for things to be too feel one sided x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont like bj's! A bad experience when I was younger put me off... but I love giving..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love giving head to my man. Not bothered for getting anything back, I just enjoy sucking cock

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I always ask if a potential meet is happy to give oral because tbh I'd be disappointed if he didn't if I'd just given him an awesome blowie.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'd never specifically refuse because of that. I enjoy giving head for the sake of doing it. However I have had experiences of feeling pretty short changed when I've put lots of effort into pleasing someone and not only have they not wanted to give me head but they've basically just wanted to skip foreplay completely and jump straight to penetration as a lot of men's idea of foreplay is just oral.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Build up is foreplay ... even those cheeky messages that build up the anticipation... kissing ... tracing of fingers down the spine.. gentle flirtatious touches... desire...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not fair to expect anything of their sexual partner or playmate, that they arnt comfy doing it

S

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Its not fair to expect anything of their sexual partner or playmate, that they arnt comfy doing it

S "

If a man for some reason isn’t “comfy” giving oral to a woman then he needs to be upfront about that before any meet, so she can decide whether she wants to bother. Not wait until she’s in bed with him. Maybe she wouldn’t be “comfy” giving him oral in those circumstances. I mean honestly, isn’t oral a pretty basic expectation these days? It’s not like we’re asking for anything unusual.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

I once gave oral. Then found out after he wasn't willing to return the favour so was pretty disappointed

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 10yrs the blow job's have took a holiday but eating pussy is always full inclusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We give each other lots of oral... but on a meet if they dont give they dont get and that works for either of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same meat different gravy she would lap it up that is for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

I think it is very fair. After a good sex session both people should feel sexually satisfied.

A guy who wants a blowjob but will not go down on you he is obviously sexually selfish and only cares about his wants/needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not fair to expect anything of their sexual partner or playmate, that they arnt comfy doing it

S

If a man for some reason isn’t “comfy” giving oral to a woman then he needs to be upfront about that before any meet, so she can decide whether she wants to bother. Not wait until she’s in bed with him. Maybe she wouldn’t be “comfy” giving him oral in those circumstances. I mean honestly, isn’t oral a pretty basic expectation these days? It’s not like we’re asking for anything unusual."

This. Any guy not into giving women oral sex should let a meet know before the meet.

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

Talking about oral....) . If is a couple and they both are down for that i can’t say no to Any of them.... lolllll

I just love to taste both of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

It is fair. But it's and all you can eat and i'm hungry

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By *agnar1980Man
over a year ago

Poole


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

I would be disappointed if I could eat her out! Love eating pussy! Love making her cum while lick & tease her clit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a girlfriend years back in Dundee who wouldn't let me go down on her but gave a belting blowjob. I hated she never ever let me go down on her to the point I drove across the Tay bridge, opened the car window and threw my phone into the sea. I lived on a military base so she couldn't get on uninvited so that was the last I heard from her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it is, it’s a woman’s body and she can choose what she will and won’t do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get turned on by making the female cum when i go down on her - thats huge enjoyment for me. If she wanted to suck me off afterwards then that's cool and id love that but its not something i would expect or demand. I suppose it depends on whether you are a giver or a taker!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I give blow jobs because I enjoy doing it and seeing the pleasure I give. I never expect anything in return and although I enjoy receiving good oral it's not a must for me. It's about the overall experience.

Mrs x"

I love giving but i would love to receive from you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We give each other lots of oral... but on a meet if they dont give they dont get and that works for either of us "

I would most definitely give

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always ask if a potential meet is happy to give oral because tbh I'd be disappointed if he didn't if I'd just given him an awesome blowie."

Come this way :

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By *aveman11Man
over a year ago

all over the uk with work

I like licking a woman out Any way so I'd probably go down before she did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love going down and eating a girl out , I do it because I love it and don’t expect anything in return I just love eating pussy

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield


"To the people that have sent nasty messages to me over this, I never once said that this was my stance OR that it was the only correct one..

Everyone’s entitled to an opinion and if we can’t discuss them openly then we won’t ever understand other’s points of view! "

I think it is only fair that if the guy refuses to go down on you without good reason, why should you blow him. Have to say your pussy looks amazing, I would lick it for ages x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very fair. I eat pussy cause I love it though, not to get blown in return"

Same....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

Very fair! BUT what guy doesn’t like licking pussy?!!!

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By *rincessB69Woman
over a year ago

North East

Love sucking cock so doesn't bother me if they return the favour 9 times out of 10 they do though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that’s fair. Tit for tat - got to be both ways and both the guy and girl has to enjoy themselves at the end of the day.

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By *usan400TV/TS
over a year ago

everywhere

I love pussy and cock. I'd drink them dry. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love sucking cock so doesn't bother me if they return the favour 9 times out of 10 they do though "

I'd return the favour! Plus interest!!

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

Hairiest dick adding insult to injury..that made me chuckle

I take it you've stopped going first then

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By *acefirst69Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

I'm a live down there if i could kinda guy lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kill 2 birds with one stone and do a 69er

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By *lack UhuruMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

I think it's fair for a woman to say that!

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own for me. I love giving oral and receiving. But I wouldn’t only give it to receive it back, as I take pleasure from giving x

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Definitely is I would eat out without getting bj

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By *edGMan
over a year ago

Daventry

it's all about give and take.

I'd happily lick a woman's pussy all day regardless of if she gave me a blow job.

However if I expected a BJ I'd think it pretty selfish of me to refuse giving the lady in question a nice lick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

Absolutely fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would gladly eat a pussy

Even if a bj isn’t on offer

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Hairiest dick adding insult to injury..that made me chuckle

I take it you've stopped going first then "

I’m just more careful about who I meet now, and I try to make sure that things like that are discussed a bit in advance.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Do you think it’s fair for a woman to say she won’t give you a blowjob if you’re not willing to eat her out?

Have had various responses to this and would like to know what your lot’s thoughts are! "

My opinion is that sex isn’t about bargaining, it’s mutual pleasure. If he doesn’t want to give her oral, that’s fine, if she doesn’t want to give oral then that is also fine! Communication is also key!

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