FabSwingers.com forum: When swinging goes wrong.....

By *leafordian75 OP Man
over a year ago

Newark

Hi all

Under lockdown with my girlfriend of three months.

She knows I'm on here infrequently and isn't particularly bothered by the fact.

Her fantasy is a threesome (both ffm and mmf) and last night she said "when all this is over, maybe we should look on that site you've used and sort ourselves a threesome."

I asked her again this morning and she's still up for it but she did ask, "is there anything that could go wrong?"

So, has anything ever gone wrong for you?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes things have gone wrong on meets very infrequently though. Nothing has gone wrong as far as our relationship is concerned because at the start of this we agreed that we would stick to certain boundaries and if either of us had a problem we'd discuss it, we also have a "what happens during swinging stays in swinging" sort of attitude. If you trust and love each other put achievable boundaries in place and stick to them unless mutually agreed to change them, don't blame each other if things don't turn out how you'd hoped or you feel jealous or resentful instead of excited and turned on you'll be fine

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By *rNightMan
over a year ago

Coventry

That’s very similar to how my ex approached it, so we looked together for a couple we both liked. After some messages we arranged to meet them at a pub for a drink. We got on really well.

They then invited us to a night out they were going on with the agreement we’d play after if we all still wanted to. Which we all did, it was a great first time for us.

After that we didn’t always do social meets first but when it’s the very first time I think it’s wise. It’s not good for the woman to have a bad experience first time out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was the third for a couple once and I ended up sitting in their living room with his spunk dripping off my face whilst they argued a lot about the fact he want supposed to cum with me only her.

It was pleasant!

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Hahaha we could write a book.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think for some they haven’t quite discussed boundaries fully or just get off on the idea till it actually happens.

Drama during or after meets because one has overstepped the boundaries tends to be a story we’ve heard quite often.

We think going with no expectations of anything happening is the way forward incase either of us don’t take a fancy to part of the other couple or both, we hate to think one of us would be taking one for the team and would like to think the other couples we meet are like minded.

There’s probably a lot of meets people have regretted but just sort of rolled with it for the benefit of their partner.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

"Yes things have gone wrong on meets very infrequently though. Nothing has gone wrong as far as our relationship is concerned because at the start of this we agreed that we would stick to certain boundaries and if either of us had a problem we'd discuss it, we also have a "what happens during swinging stays in swinging" sort of attitude. If you trust and love each other put achievable boundaries in place and stick to them unless mutually agreed to change them, don't blame each other if things don't turn out how you'd hoped or you feel jealous or resentful instead of excited and turned on you'll be fine "

This is us also and great advice. The only thing I could and to this is I would recommend having a social meet and by all means take things further that night but only if you are BOTH comfortable with it. Most importantly discuss what you will and won't do beforehand and stick to it. Do not bow to pressure from the other party. Something you may want to do is maybe start with a soft swing meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was the third for a couple once and I ended up sitting in their living room with his spunk dripping off my face whilst they argued a lot about the fact he want supposed to cum with me only her.

It was pleasant!

I am laughing non-stop here.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

Id say from my experience which is very varied in this situation, set rules/guidelines that both of you are happy with and meet them for a social first make sure your compatable and make sure ya females comfortable with the guy or woman or even both lol

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

Yip I could tell you a few stories.

Biggest challenge long term for you both is jealousy. That seems to hit alot of couples of you don't set boundaries

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By *OR THE WIFES PLEASUREMan
over a year ago

plymouth

Play by rules and stick by them social first meet is always a good way to start x

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Nothing has gone wrong for us, so I guess we have been lucky. In the other hand we always play in clubs, which we would recommend for first timers - it's safe, there's no pressure to play and if you're unsure you can just watch or play together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one where the husband decided cuckolding wasn’t for him in the end.. he didn’t like that I could pleasure his wife far better than he ever could.. he was pathetic

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Not being well matched in terms of expectations and interests may affect things, hence the basis for good communication first. Sexual tastes differ, so decide what you want and then be clear with others, as you'd expect in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hahaha we could write a book....... "

This thought has genuinely crossed my mind and may happen

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By *ugardadcleanerMan
over a year ago

cirencester

15 years ago with young wife. We swung loads so went on Caribbean cruise. She really let hair down. Met a married American guy eventually married him lol. We still good friends over pond. Luckily my partner now who 30 I have been with for 14 years part time escort and nympho slut. Ideal partnership thank god!

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

When I've done this as part of a couple it has been great. However I think this is because we had both been the extra person in this situation and were extra attuned to their needs and feelings. Look after all parties and it should be a wonderful experience.

The only bad experiences I have had in threesomes were because the couple seemed not bothered if I enjoyed it or not.

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By *hoenix CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northallerton

We have invited a number of guys over to our place for fun within our boundaries. Most have been fantastic, respectful and we've had a great time. One or two have been pushy and even one turned up d*unk and high. We think there is always element of risk inviting a stranger to your house. Our advice is make sure the guy/lady understands your boundaries and if possible have a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you both are on the same page it should be fine. I've had a couple of wobbles before but nothing too dramatic.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Keep to a 'walk away' basis...If you are not attracted to him/her and or no spark or connection then agree to say thanks but no thanks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have invited a number of guys over to our place for fun within our boundaries. Most have been fantastic, respectful and we've had a great time. One or two have been pushy and even one turned up d*unk and high. We think there is always element of risk inviting a stranger to your house. Our advice is make sure the guy/lady understands your boundaries and if possible have a social first. "

Do you invite strangers to house for first meet? Isn't that a big risk? If it turns out bad and even if you manage to send that person away, the person knowing where you live is dangerous.

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

Nothings gone wrong for us but I'd make sure your both 100% and you both trust each other and make sure that you no each other limits.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

There is a lot that can go wrong. It’s not an exacting science. If it’s a one off, don’t expect great sex. If it’s a series of one offs and you can put it in a box back on the shelf it can work fine.

Problems start with repeat meets and getting into relationships with the people you are meeting. It can and does go wrong often.

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By *ottsJMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

My partner and I have had several MFF threesomes but we have always used an escort. We found that by taking this approach there was zero chance of any feelings developing which would complicate matters.

Both of us loved it every time

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Communication is key!

Even with this things can go wrong believe me!

It’s about meeting like minded people which is not easy!

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By *lack UhuruMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hi all

Under lockdown with my girlfriend of three months.

She knows I'm on here infrequently and isn't particularly bothered by the fact.

Her fantasy is a threesome (both ffm and mmf) and last night she said "when all this is over, maybe we should look on that site you've used and sort ourselves a threesome."

I asked her again this morning and she's still up for it but she did ask, "is there anything that could go wrong?"

So, has anything ever gone wrong for you?"

Things could go wrong but if you use this period to discuss what you both want you should be ok. Also, have a social with the couple/single outside of the venue where there's no pressure or obligation to play at that point.

Then when/if you play stick to your boundaries. Afterwards have a open and honest discussion about what worked and if anything happened that didn't work. Then shag each others brains out.

If it's something you both want afterwards, keep moving forwards but be honest with eachother. If not then that's a decision for you both to make.

Good luck

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