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Do any women message or is it that dudes job ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?

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By *urvy Girl 79Woman
over a year ago

Near Bourne

If I come across a profile that interests me and I think he could possibly be a potential future meet I will absolutely send the first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like the look of someone and think we'd get along, I'll drop them a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve found women mostly start of with like a fab or a ‘flirty wink’ but I’ve also had some just message me but fairly rare ! I’ve found couples are more forward with messages but everyone is different so very hard to say tbh haha

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?"

I have been known to drop a message first yes.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Plenty of women will message someone that they like the look of.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Mrs will more than happily message someone who catches her eye, has led to lots of fun Mr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?"

I rarely message anyone first and I have had many interesting conversations on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always message first as I have messaging turned off 99% of the time

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I've had very few messages.. the numbers are not in blokes favour...at a organised social where you can chat to people.. I do much better...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm sure lots of women message OP, I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to look and message first as I'm more likely to find what I want rather than waiting for it to fall in my lap... So to speak x

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

If your profile intrigues me and I’m in the right mood..yes, I’ll send a message.

However, it’s a very rare occurrence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not afraid to message anyone, but it's not necessarily down to finding them attractive.

Could be something they said in the forum, made me laugh or whatever.

I also fab pics because I like the pic, not necessarily because I fancy them.

Unfortunately their ego fails to understand this I feel....

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4


"If I come across a profile that interests me and I think he could possibly be a potential future meet I will absolutely send the first message. "

I’m with you on that one, I am more than happy to message the same with any messaging though, it can be either of us doing it xx

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

A hell of a lot more since this lockdown started... :D

I've had more winks, fabs and opening messages on here in the last two weeks than in the last two years.

Does being on lockdown make me more attractive, or women less fussy. Hopefully find out when this is all over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think about the numbers at play I'm sure most dudes would think they're the only ones messaging. It's simply the care that there's way more guys here than girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do the majority of messaging on our account. Also do most of the scouting for potential playmates as well.

Miss V

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages from women every now and then *shrug*

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I'm not afraid to message anyone, but it's not necessarily down to finding them attractive.

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I assume everyone finds me attractive until they make it obvious otherwise. Am hot stuff, though... sizzle sizzle.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"I'm not afraid to message anyone, but it's not necessarily down to finding them attractive.

Could be something they said in the forum, made me laugh or whatever.

I also fab pics because I like the pic, not necessarily because I fancy them.

Unfortunately their ego fails to understand this I feel.... "

I think most men on here have their egos shredded pretty quickly...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well You know where I am haha let’s see who will be first

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I used to often send first messages. If someone caught my eye, I was more than willing to let them know.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have often sent the first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone catches my eye, I will wink and send a message x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

They can and do message on occasion. I'm just naturally proactive so don't mind being the first to initiate contact

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

How often do the guys respond with a negative response... I wonder..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's possible. It's so exciting to see a little yellow box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've received messages OP, so yes.

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By *rink Me xxWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

Im lazy as anything haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah it's possible. It's so exciting to see a little yellow box. "

Feel like it's my birthday when it happened out if the blue. I think she was fake but it was still a moment lol.

But you know women are waiters and men are chasers.

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By *egin551Couple
over a year ago

south west !

I (Mrs Legin) Edit, put the movies and pictures up and answer the messages, Essentially this is my profile xx

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"I (Mrs Legin) Edit, put the movies and pictures up and answer the messages, Essentially this is my profile xx "

At what a Good job you do I must say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually wink first but I have been known to send a message first....not often I admit but there’s been a few over the years

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

We usually wait for people to message us although occasionally I (Mrs) will send a wink x

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By *ess n BenCouple
over a year ago

Didcot

(I) Jess have been known to message couples/guys if I think there may be an attraction or if the guy looks well hot lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i Very rarely get a read message so wouldn’t hold my breath.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

I hunt

I wish people would actually read my profile and not message me but wishful thinking.

I wink loads of people all the time because I've got fat fingers I do wish they'd either move it or ask for a confirmation

I don't use winks other than in error

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I’ve sent the first message twice, when I saw someone had looked or winked and their profiles interested me. One didn’t reply, the other turned out to be a mistake.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"I’ve sent the first message twice, when I saw someone had looked or winked and their profiles interested me. One didn’t reply, the other turned out to be a mistake."

That's rotten luck...dont give up !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?"

I never message first, don't think anyone would be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience. It's the dude. Shame really lol

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I’ve sent the first message twice, when I saw someone had looked or winked and their profiles interested me. One didn’t reply, the other turned out to be a mistake.

That's rotten luck...dont give up !"

Not getting a reply doesn’t bother me, not when it’s an initial message. The other one bothered me more, it’s a bit rubbish putting time and effort into someone only to find they’re a bit of a dick. But I suppose it’s better to get the red flags before you meet someone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?

I never message first, don't think anyone would be interested "

seriously? If only we were closer and I didnt smoke etc...

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Needs to be exceptional profile to message someone. Only messaged one guy so far in 4 years.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I send first messages. Life is too short to sit on the fence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send first messages. Life is too short to sit on the fence"

Depends how good the fencepost is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?

I never message first, don't think anyone would be interested "

You'll never know unless you message someone!

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Bridlington


"I send first messages. Life is too short to sit on the fence"

Too right after all it's 2020 not 1920.. grab it by the balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send first messages. Life is too short to sit on the fence

Too right after all it's 2020 not 1920.. grab it by the balls.

"

oh crap, I've slept in for work

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"I send first messages. Life is too short to sit on the fence"

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

It does happen occasionally. Very occasionally.

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

I don't mind messaging first when someone catches my eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had messages sent to me first....but as there are so few women here compared to men then its not the usual order...

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By *egin551Couple
over a year ago

south west !


"I (Mrs Legin) Edit, put the movies and pictures up and answer the messages, Essentially this is my profile xx

At what a Good job you do I must say "

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

"

Its difficult for them not to drown in a sea of faf messages from idiots, losers and desperados... sorry ladies I'll stop pestering you

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Mrs will more than happily message someone who catches her eye, has led to lots of fun Mr. "

Us too as my (Mrs) account

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I'm ok with initial messages. I don't mind chancing my arm if I like the look of someone.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"If your profile intrigues me and I’m in the right mood..yes, I’ll send a message.

However, it’s a very rare occurrence "

This

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

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How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

Its difficult for them not to drown in a sea of faf messages from idiots, losers and desperados... sorry ladies I'll stop pestering you "

Our cream should rise to the top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's the same as everywhere else. Women get approached and do the choosing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll wink if I'm unsure if I'm their type, and message if something in their profile tickles my fancy. And it's usually only humour that does that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with."

Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire

Must admit, in all the time (4years) I've been on/off fab I've never messaged anyone first. But then I've never needed to, as get inundated with messages.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Now and again I get an out of the blue message. And when I do it’s lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve generally done a little better from people messaging me who I actually fancy than me messaging. When I’ve messaged first, the message either isn’t read and lost in the mass inbox or it’d gone straight to delete, so I kinda tend to wait unless I really like someone’s profile.

Couples and especially single females have a wealth of choice on these platforms, which is something that as a single male, you need to come to terms with. I don’t take a good picture facially, but seem to do very well face to face in bars etc., so I like the challenge and pretty frequent rejection of Fab when I do choose to message. There’s someone on this thread who straight deleted me, but they must get 1000’s of messages a week.

Long story short, message whoever you fancy whether male or female sending. Life’s too short.

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

The best ones message me . If you are one of the best ones but haven’t found me before, bows as good a time as any....

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Occasionally a profile catches my eye & sparks my interest enough to inspire me to message. It doesn't happen often though

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.

Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man. "

Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.

Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.

Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy."

It is easier if you message first or never. A woman will always recieve interest. I don't know what you don't get here. It's a no brainer lol.

How many men have you messaged?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?"

Nope, no woman looks for meets themselves. They all sit their hoping an email will come in.

Of course some women look for their own meets.

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We've met a decent amount of folks and also chatted to lots at clubs. It seems, from our decent sized sample, that the dude tendes to wade through the crap to find the couple of jewels to show the female.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Both

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.

Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.

Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy.

It is easier if you message first or never. A woman will always recieve interest. I don't know what you don't get here. It's a no brainer lol.

How many men have you messaged? "

You’re a bit rude, aren’t you. You originally stated that *this thread* confirms how easy it is for women, but you haven’t explained in spite of me asking *how* this specific thread confirms that. Yes, we always receive interest, but for me about 95% of the messages I get are somewhere between pointless and disgusting. Just because I get a lot of interest doesn’t mean that equals a lot of meets. Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples.

As for how many men I’ve messaged, I said that earlier in the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well once one has sifted out the unsuitable ones there are many that are. A woman just needs to choose sensibly and follow their instincts!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

it’s a very rare occurrence. It’s almost like trying to find toilet paper in the supermarket

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I message if the profile is interesting xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respond to everyone even if it's just "K? Can I help you? "

A lot of men - virtually always men who message me - seem to believe that any form of conversation means that I'm interested. WRONG.

I almost never initiate - I get enough going on as is.

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By *edHeadedFunWoman
over a year ago

Didsbury

If the profile interests me I will message first no hesitation.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?"

I’ve received opening messages from ladies and couples, and I never think twice about messaging a profile I like the look and sound of, and it appears we could be a potential match. There are so many great people to meet in here, it’s far easier to find a match than the “hard graft” an evening in a club as a single guy usually is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.

Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.

Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy.

It is easier if you message first or never. A woman will always recieve interest. I don't know what you don't get here. It's a no brainer lol.

How many men have you messaged?

You’re a bit rude, aren’t you. You originally stated that *this thread* confirms how easy it is for women, but you haven’t explained in spite of me asking *how* this specific thread confirms that. Yes, we always receive interest, but for me about 95% of the messages I get are somewhere between pointless and disgusting. Just because I get a lot of interest doesn’t mean that equals a lot of meets. Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples.

As for how many men I’ve messaged, I said that earlier in the thread."

I'm not rude. That's just my opinion from reading through the thread.

You said you have a 100% failure rate when you have messaged first.

"not so different to a single guy"

But you have only messaged 2! guys and you heard back from one of them. You can't compare that to a single man.

You also said..

"Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples"

I wouldnt receive thousands of messages if I lived my life ten times over lol I think 8 meets in the 10 months since you've been here is a lot.

I know most of the attention ladies receive is unwanted attention but I stand by what I said about it being easier for women to meet men than it is for men to meet women. Especially after reading what you have written, that confirms it even more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll happily message someone I’m interested in.

I don’t think there’s any set rule on here but of course men message first more than women.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.

Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.

Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy.

It is easier if you message first or never. A woman will always recieve interest. I don't know what you don't get here. It's a no brainer lol.

How many men have you messaged?

You’re a bit rude, aren’t you. You originally stated that *this thread* confirms how easy it is for women, but you haven’t explained in spite of me asking *how* this specific thread confirms that. Yes, we always receive interest, but for me about 95% of the messages I get are somewhere between pointless and disgusting. Just because I get a lot of interest doesn’t mean that equals a lot of meets. Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples.

As for how many men I’ve messaged, I said that earlier in the thread.

I'm not rude. That's just my opinion from reading through the thread.

You said you have a 100% failure rate when you have messaged first.

"not so different to a single guy"

But you have only messaged 2! guys and you heard back from one of them. You can't compare that to a single man.

You also said..

"Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples"

I wouldnt receive thousands of messages if I lived my life ten times over lol I think 8 meets in the 10 months since you've been here is a lot.

I know most of the attention ladies receive is unwanted attention but I stand by what I said about it being easier for women to meet men than it is for men to meet women. Especially after reading what you have written, that confirms it even more.

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Believe whatever you like. You clearly have a chip on your shoulder, but whether it’s about women on Fab generally or me in particular I have no idea.

You seem very keen to make out that your experience on Fab is so hard and awful, but from what I’ve seen you don’t do anything to make it better for yourself.

Yes, I’ve only messaged 2 guys. Yes one of them replied. Turned out to be a demanding creep who was using 10 year old photos to look more attractive. I’d rather not get a reply at all than get one that wastes so much time.

You’ve misunderstood my point about numbers of meets as well. What I said is I’ve chosen to meet 8 out of 1,000s - some of those have turned into multiple meets, and I’ve also met people I didn’t choose myself. My point is that out of so many messages I’ve chosen to meet a tiny percentage of them. Wading through so many terrible messages to find those few people isn’t easy.

To get back to OP’s topic, part of why I don’t message first is that I don’t have time to go hunting through profiles and sending messages. I don’t rule out sending the first message in the future, but I prefer not to. It’s much harder to get rid of people when they turn out not to be what you hoped if you make the first move.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

My experience on fab has shown me three things:

1) it's easy for a single guy to stand out from the crowd and be noticed. If enough effort is put into his profile, he's respectful and he transmits a good vibe when he speaks to someone the future is bright with promise.

2) the 5-10% of men who stand out will find it easier to meet the women they fancy as opposed to the opposite side of the coin. Since they're rare, they will be in demand.

3) the vast majority of women here have higher standards than the average guy here. The men who stand out will tick their boxes and may be the subject of some "competition" among the interested parties.

So in effect, women find it far easier to meet for sex without standards, but will find quality meets more difficult to come by than the men who stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women gets lots of messages s it’s tricky to read them all..reply to them all and also look through men’s profiles to message them but if I don’t read the mail sent to me and just browse then yeh I do message men I think I may want to meet

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

I have a single women messaged me, probably more couples though. Although I do feel on here men Definatley are expected to message first. But if you had 500 messages day would you bother searching lool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.

How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.

Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.

Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy.

It is easier if you message first or never. A woman will always recieve interest. I don't know what you don't get here. It's a no brainer lol.

How many men have you messaged?

You’re a bit rude, aren’t you. You originally stated that *this thread* confirms how easy it is for women, but you haven’t explained in spite of me asking *how* this specific thread confirms that. Yes, we always receive interest, but for me about 95% of the messages I get are somewhere between pointless and disgusting. Just because I get a lot of interest doesn’t mean that equals a lot of meets. Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples.

As for how many men I’ve messaged, I said that earlier in the thread.

I'm not rude. That's just my opinion from reading through the thread.

You said you have a 100% failure rate when you have messaged first.

"not so different to a single guy"

But you have only messaged 2! guys and you heard back from one of them. You can't compare that to a single man.

You also said..

"Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples"

I wouldnt receive thousands of messages if I lived my life ten times over lol I think 8 meets in the 10 months since you've been here is a lot.

I know most of the attention ladies receive is unwanted attention but I stand by what I said about it being easier for women to meet men than it is for men to meet women. Especially after reading what you have written, that confirms it even more.

Believe whatever you like. You clearly have a chip on your shoulder, but whether it’s about women on Fab generally or me in particular I have no idea.

You seem very keen to make out that your experience on Fab is so hard and awful, but from what I’ve seen you don’t do anything to make it better for yourself.

Yes, I’ve only messaged 2 guys. Yes one of them replied. Turned out to be a demanding creep who was using 10 year old photos to look more attractive. I’d rather not get a reply at all than get one that wastes so much time.

You’ve misunderstood my point about numbers of meets as well. What I said is I’ve chosen to meet 8 out of 1,000s - some of those have turned into multiple meets, and I’ve also met people I didn’t choose myself. My point is that out of so many messages I’ve chosen to meet a tiny percentage of them. Wading through so many terrible messages to find those few people isn’t easy.

To get back to OP’s topic, part of why I don’t message first is that I don’t have time to go hunting through profiles and sending messages. I don’t rule out sending the first message in the future, but I prefer not to. It’s much harder to get rid of people when they turn out not to be what you hoped if you make the first move."

No chips here and I have nothing against anyone. I was just saying it how I see it and I didn't misunderstand your point about number of meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see a profile that interests me, with photos I'm attracted to, and someone who is looking for the same things as me, then yes I'd definitely message first.

And I always prefer to message single men and couples first if I'm interested, rather than being drowned in messages from people who haven't bothered to read my profile and would rather just try their luck

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?"

The women of fab are to busy eating cake to send messages

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Always me F ,as hubby has less time and patience than i do ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I'm only here out of curiosity, i didn't feel it my place to message anyone but did message one who looked ridiculously hot and I thought can't be real!

Mostly gets loads of messages but just chat to those who can converse properly and don't use the term 'lol' which already factors out 85%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I'm only here out of curiosity, i didn't feel it my place to message anyone but did message one who looked ridiculously hot and I thought can't be real!

Mostly gets loads of messages but just chat to those who can converse properly and don't use the term 'lol' which already factors out 85%. "

Lol, everyone uses lol

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I'm only here out of curiosity, i didn't feel it my place to message anyone but did message one who looked ridiculously hot and I thought can't be real!

Mostly gets loads of messages but just chat to those who can converse properly and don't use the term 'lol' which already factors out 85%.

Lol, everyone uses lol

Lol"

Hence that factors out a lot Its my hard limit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?

The women of fab are to busy eating cake to send messages "

Can you see me lol..yep I certainly am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?

The women of fab are to busy eating cake to send messages "

What do you expect us to do? Cook?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?

The women of fab are to busy eating cake to send messages

What do you expect us to do? Cook?"

Don't be ridiculous that would be so sexist

And anyway you should be to busy cleaning to cook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?

The women of fab are to busy eating cake to send messages

What do you expect us to do? Cook?

Don't be ridiculous that would be so sexist

And anyway you should be to busy cleaning to cook "

All the while dressed in lingerie, eating cake twiddling our thumbs, letting you beefcakes come to us. Oh it's a hard life.

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london


"As I'm only here out of curiosity, i didn't feel it my place to message anyone but did message one who looked ridiculously hot and I thought can't be real!

Mostly gets loads of messages but just chat to those who can converse properly and don't use the term 'lol' which already factors out 85%. "

Says the faceless profile, not sure you can really complain about the standard of message and conversation you receive, given your profile.. those in glass houses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I'm only here out of curiosity, i didn't feel it my place to message anyone but did message one who looked ridiculously hot and I thought can't be real!

Mostly gets loads of messages but just chat to those who can converse properly and don't use the term 'lol' which already factors out 85%.

Says the faceless profile, not sure you can really complain about the standard of message and conversation you receive, given your profile.. those in glass houses"

I'm not complaining at all. I actually get quite a few messages and I'm happy to share pics early on if there is a click. 'Lol' is just one thing that gets on my wick.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Always me F ,as hubby has less time and patience than i do ... "

I think with most couples I have met it's the lady that drives the account..and runs things by hubby to get agreement...seems to be my impression as a single guy ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always me F ,as hubby has less time and patience than i do ...

I think with most couples I have met it's the lady that drives the account..and runs things by hubby to get agreement...seems to be my impression as a single guy .."

I’m not so sure as I find that most are run by the husband...not mine of course but others

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