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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good evening all, I hope we are keeping safe and well in this time of uncertainty.

I thought I'd share with you a story, an experience, of something that happend to me a couple of years ago on here and has stuck with me since. Its not always the guys who do wrong. So, here we go..

About 2 years ago (on an old profile) I got chatting to a local couple, just the female to start. I was a single profile but a couple had always been on my list of things I wanted to try, explore with and so on.

Like many I'm sure, I was hesitant at first as I do struggle with social anxiety and the thought of meeting a couple was white daunting....but it was something I wanted to do. We spoke for a few weeks and I was open and honest about my anxiety and how this was something I wanted to do. The female was very understanding and put me at ease, she told me how she was the same at first and it took a while for her to meet the right person and he comfortable etc etc. She knew where I was coming from, she understood and this put me at ease. I could not fault her. The other bonus was her husband is mainly into watching or not even being in the same room, so although it wasnt what you might consider a true experience of a couple, to me it was a big step and would lead me to more I'm sure.

So we chatted for around a month and then I felt comfortable enough to meet her and her husband. We had shares stories of fantasies and dirty talk etc so it was about time to swap the words for actions. We set a date, she gave me her address and that was that.

So the day came and I nervously drove to their house, with a 'steady' hand I knocked on their door and waited....

She answered and was all smiles and gave me a hug. I felt right at ease. We went through to the kitchen where she put the kettle on and we looked each other up and down between awkward smiles before heading to the living room to sit and get to know each other with her husband there to.

It was going well. My nerves were fading and I felt comfortable around the two of them. There was no pressure and no expectations and I was starting to feel confident and relaxed. Then there was a knock on the door..

Thinking nothing of it I carried on talking to the husband and sipping my tea, she pops off to answer the door...I assume it's a delivery or a neighbour or something and shel be back in a second. Which she was. But behind her another man walked into the room. I look up...shocked...and feel my heart begin to beat that little bit faster. The anxiety is creeping back...but I say to myself its probably nothing, stay calm. She then kisses the bloke, looks at me and says "I hope you dont mind if (I forgot his name) joins us..i thought you might want to see how naughty I can be. Oh, and another one is on his way to"

By this point the anxiety is in full affect and I'm thinking what the actual fuck is going on here....

Iv gone from psyching myself up to meet the female part of a couple to now being in a room with one stranger and another on his way!!

Now I know some of you might be thinking you lucky bastard... but for me, someone with social anxiety, this was the worst thing ever. Made when worse by the fact she knew I was nervous about meeting her and her husband, I opened up to her and was honest and she knew how I felt. I trusted her and she basically shat in my mouth.

Anyway, in a complete panic I pretended I had a phone call and made my way out the room for some peace and time to think. I front door was locked behind the last (of how many??) Bloke to come in so I made my way through to the kitchen where earlier I had noticed the back door, I quietly opened this...down the side of the house, out the front gate, to my car and I was gone.

I'm sure some of you will think I over reacted, should of stayed, shouldn't be on a site like this if I have social anxiety etc etc... but the main point of this story is to tell you to be careful. I spent over a month opening up to and trusting someone for them to totally go against my trust and do something, which for my anyway, I find totally disrespectful and just plain horrible.

Imagine if a girl had told this story, of how some dude invited 2 other dudes to fuck her with out her knowing regardless of if she had anxiety or other issue or not.

Anyway, this person/couple is still on fab and I hope they have been more respectful of others.

Be careful out there and stay safe. Even more so with the current situation

Regards x

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

That's terrible. They were out of order. I don't think you did over react. I would be extremely uncomfortable with that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's terrible. They were out of order. I don't think you did over react. I would be extremely uncomfortable with that."

Thank you.

I'd still like to meet a couple but it's really put me off and also made me think twice about even meeting single women. Its had quite the knock on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horrible for you , not on at all that , hopefully you have better experience with a couple one day

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Keeping yourself safe is not an overreaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good evening all, I hope we are keeping safe and well in this time of uncertainty.

I thought I'd share with you a story, an experience, of something that happend to me a couple of years ago on here and has stuck with me since. Its not always the guys who do wrong. So, here we go..

About 2 years ago (on an old profile) I got chatting to a local couple, just the female to start. I was a single profile but a couple had always been on my list of things I wanted to try, explore with and so on.

Like many I'm sure, I was hesitant at first as I do struggle with social anxiety and the thought of meeting a couple was white daunting....but it was something I wanted to do. We spoke for a few weeks and I was open and honest about my anxiety and how this was something I wanted to do. The female was very understanding and put me at ease, she told me how she was the same at first and it took a while for her to meet the right person and he comfortable etc etc. She knew where I was coming from, she understood and this put me at ease. I could not fault her. The other bonus was her husband is mainly into watching or not even being in the same room, so although it wasnt what you might consider a true experience of a couple, to me it was a big step and would lead me to more I'm sure.

So we chatted for around a month and then I felt comfortable enough to meet her and her husband. We had shares stories of fantasies and dirty talk etc so it was about time to swap the words for actions. We set a date, she gave me her address and that was that.

So the day came and I nervously drove to their house, with a 'steady' hand I knocked on their door and waited....

She answered and was all smiles and gave me a hug. I felt right at ease. We went through to the kitchen where she put the kettle on and we looked each other up and down between awkward smiles before heading to the living room to sit and get to know each other with her husband there to.

It was going well. My nerves were fading and I felt comfortable around the two of them. There was no pressure and no expectations and I was starting to feel confident and relaxed. Then there was a knock on the door..

Thinking nothing of it I carried on talking to the husband and sipping my tea, she pops off to answer the door...I assume it's a delivery or a neighbour or something and shel be back in a second. Which she was. But behind her another man walked into the room. I look up...shocked...and feel my heart begin to beat that little bit faster. The anxiety is creeping back...but I say to myself its probably nothing, stay calm. She then kisses the bloke, looks at me and says "I hope you dont mind if (I forgot his name) joins us..i thought you might want to see how naughty I can be. Oh, and another one is on his way to"

By this point the anxiety is in full affect and I'm thinking what the actual fuck is going on here....

Iv gone from psyching myself up to meet the female part of a couple to now being in a room with one stranger and another on his way!!

Now I know some of you might be thinking you lucky bastard... but for me, someone with social anxiety, this was the worst thing ever. Made when worse by the fact she knew I was nervous about meeting her and her husband, I opened up to her and was honest and she knew how I felt. I trusted her and she basically shat in my mouth.

Anyway, in a complete panic I pretended I had a phone call and made my way out the room for some peace and time to think. I front door was locked behind the last (of how many??) Bloke to come in so I made my way through to the kitchen where earlier I had noticed the back door, I quietly opened this...down the side of the house, out the front gate, to my car and I was gone.

I'm sure some of you will think I over reacted, should of stayed, shouldn't be on a site like this if I have social anxiety etc etc... but the main point of this story is to tell you to be careful. I spent over a month opening up to and trusting someone for them to totally go against my trust and do something, which for my anyway, I find totally disrespectful and just plain horrible.

Imagine if a girl had told this story, of how some dude invited 2 other dudes to fuck her with out her knowing regardless of if she had anxiety or other issue or not.

Anyway, this person/couple is still on fab and I hope they have been more respectful of others.

Be careful out there and stay safe. Even more so with the current situation

Regards x"

Thats awful! I can't believe someone could be so callous. I think I'd have felt exactly like you did but I'm not sure I'd of had the courage to leave.

I'm really sorry that someone else's actions have had such a long lasting effect on you. I promise we're not all nasty bitches!

Dani x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Horrible for you , not on at all that , hopefully you have better experience with a couple one day "

As do I. It is a shame as there are a great many lovely people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Horrible for you , not on at all that , hopefully you have better experience with a couple one day

As do I. It is a shame as there are a great many lovely people on here. "

Sure you will

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good evening all, I hope we are keeping safe and well in this time of uncertainty.

I thought I'd share with you a story, an experience, of something that happend to me a couple of years ago on here and has stuck with me since. Its not always the guys who do wrong. So, here we go..

About 2 years ago (on an old profile) I got chatting to a local couple, just the female to start. I was a single profile but a couple had always been on my list of things I wanted to try, explore with and so on.

Like many I'm sure, I was hesitant at first as I do struggle with social anxiety and the thought of meeting a couple was white daunting....but it was something I wanted to do. We spoke for a few weeks and I was open and honest about my anxiety and how this was something I wanted to do. The female was very understanding and put me at ease, she told me how she was the same at first and it took a while for her to meet the right person and he comfortable etc etc. She knew where I was coming from, she understood and this put me at ease. I could not fault her. The other bonus was her husband is mainly into watching or not even being in the same room, so although it wasnt what you might consider a true experience of a couple, to me it was a big step and would lead me to more I'm sure.

So we chatted for around a month and then I felt comfortable enough to meet her and her husband. We had shares stories of fantasies and dirty talk etc so it was about time to swap the words for actions. We set a date, she gave me her address and that was that.

So the day came and I nervously drove to their house, with a 'steady' hand I knocked on their door and waited....

She answered and was all smiles and gave me a hug. I felt right at ease. We went through to the kitchen where she put the kettle on and we looked each other up and down between awkward smiles before heading to the living room to sit and get to know each other with her husband there to.

It was going well. My nerves were fading and I felt comfortable around the two of them. There was no pressure and no expectations and I was starting to feel confident and relaxed. Then there was a knock on the door..

Thinking nothing of it I carried on talking to the husband and sipping my tea, she pops off to answer the door...I assume it's a delivery or a neighbour or something and shel be back in a second. Which she was. But behind her another man walked into the room. I look up...shocked...and feel my heart begin to beat that little bit faster. The anxiety is creeping back...but I say to myself its probably nothing, stay calm. She then kisses the bloke, looks at me and says "I hope you dont mind if (I forgot his name) joins us..i thought you might want to see how naughty I can be. Oh, and another one is on his way to"

By this point the anxiety is in full affect and I'm thinking what the actual fuck is going on here....

Iv gone from psyching myself up to meet the female part of a couple to now being in a room with one stranger and another on his way!!

Now I know some of you might be thinking you lucky bastard... but for me, someone with social anxiety, this was the worst thing ever. Made when worse by the fact she knew I was nervous about meeting her and her husband, I opened up to her and was honest and she knew how I felt. I trusted her and she basically shat in my mouth.

Anyway, in a complete panic I pretended I had a phone call and made my way out the room for some peace and time to think. I front door was locked behind the last (of how many??) Bloke to come in so I made my way through to the kitchen where earlier I had noticed the back door, I quietly opened this...down the side of the house, out the front gate, to my car and I was gone.

I'm sure some of you will think I over reacted, should of stayed, shouldn't be on a site like this if I have social anxiety etc etc... but the main point of this story is to tell you to be careful. I spent over a month opening up to and trusting someone for them to totally go against my trust and do something, which for my anyway, I find totally disrespectful and just plain horrible.

Imagine if a girl had told this story, of how some dude invited 2 other dudes to fuck her with out her knowing regardless of if she had anxiety or other issue or not.

Anyway, this person/couple is still on fab and I hope they have been more respectful of others.

Be careful out there and stay safe. Even more so with the current situation

Regards x

Thats awful! I can't believe someone could be so callous. I think I'd have felt exactly like you did but I'm not sure I'd of had the courage to leave.

I'm really sorry that someone else's actions have had such a long lasting effect on you. I promise we're not all nasty bitches!

Dani x"

Haha no need to apologise. So far it's the only bad experience iv had over the 6 years and 3 profiles iv had (delete then ways come back).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Keeping yourself safe is not an overreaction."

This is true. I will say though, that they did seem like lovely people and I didnt feel unsafe as such. It was just the outright disrespect for my trust. I'm sure they didnt mean for it to go as badly as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s awful, I don’t blame you for leaving, I would’ve done the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That’s awful, I don’t blame you for leaving, I would’ve done the same."

I didnt know what else to do at the time. I laugh about it now.....kind of haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s awful, I don’t blame you for leaving, I would’ve done the same.

I didnt know what else to do at the time. I laugh about it now.....kind of haha "

I'd have proper scared, dont blame you for leaving x

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"Keeping yourself safe is not an overreaction.

This is true. I will say though, that they did seem like lovely people and I didnt feel unsafe as such. It was just the outright disrespect for my trust. I'm sure they didnt mean for it to go as badly as that. "

Well, you was the one who experienced it so i'll believe you.

For myself i don't like boundaries being breached and can find it scary.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That’s awful, I don’t blame you for leaving, I would’ve done the same.

I didnt know what else to do at the time. I laugh about it now.....kind of haha

I'd have proper scared, dont blame you for leaving x"

It is what it is. At the time it's all I could thing to do.

Side note. I absolutely adore the highlands. One of, if not my most favourite places ever to go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Keeping yourself safe is not an overreaction.

This is true. I will say though, that they did seem like lovely people and I didnt feel unsafe as such. It was just the outright disrespect for my trust. I'm sure they didnt mean for it to go as badly as that.

Well, you was the one who experienced it so i'll believe you.

For myself i don't like boundaries being breached and can find it scary."

I know, and it was. I just like to think that they arent actually bad people and they got the situation wrong. Hard to believe I know when I told then about my anxiety etc, but we live and learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s awful, I don’t blame you for leaving, I would’ve done the same.

I didnt know what else to do at the time. I laugh about it now.....kind of haha

I'd have proper scared, dont blame you for leaving x

It is what it is. At the time it's all I could thing to do.

Side note. I absolutely adore the highlands. One of, if not my most favourite places ever to go. "

It is a lovely part of the country for sure

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By *oymaster69Man
over a year ago

GREENFORD

Had a very similar meet years ago

I was under impression I was only one invited over and when I arrived there was a few guys there and another on his way

I made excuse I needed toilet and quietly left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good evening all, I hope we are keeping safe and well in this time of uncertainty.

I thought I'd share with you a story, an experience, of something that happend to me a couple of years ago on here and has stuck with me since. Its not always the guys who do wrong. So, here we go..

About 2 years ago (on an old profile) I got chatting to a local couple, just the female to start. I was a single profile but a couple had always been on my list of things I wanted to try, explore with and so on.

Like many I'm sure, I was hesitant at first as I do struggle with social anxiety and the thought of meeting a couple was white daunting....but it was something I wanted to do. We spoke for a few weeks and I was open and honest about my anxiety and how this was something I wanted to do. The female was very understanding and put me at ease, she told me how she was the same at first and it took a while for her to meet the right person and he comfortable etc etc. She knew where I was coming from, she understood and this put me at ease. I could not fault her. The other bonus was her husband is mainly into watching or not even being in the same room, so although it wasnt what you might consider a true experience of a couple, to me it was a big step and would lead me to more I'm sure.

So we chatted for around a month and then I felt comfortable enough to meet her and her husband. We had shares stories of fantasies and dirty talk etc so it was about time to swap the words for actions. We set a date, she gave me her address and that was that.

So the day came and I nervously drove to their house, with a 'steady' hand I knocked on their door and waited....

She answered and was all smiles and gave me a hug. I felt right at ease. We went through to the kitchen where she put the kettle on and we looked each other up and down between awkward smiles before heading to the living room to sit and get to know each other with her husband there to.

It was going well. My nerves were fading and I felt comfortable around the two of them. There was no pressure and no expectations and I was starting to feel confident and relaxed. Then there was a knock on the door..

Thinking nothing of it I carried on talking to the husband and sipping my tea, she pops off to answer the door...I assume it's a delivery or a neighbour or something and shel be back in a second. Which she was. But behind her another man walked into the room. I look up...shocked...and feel my heart begin to beat that little bit faster. The anxiety is creeping back...but I say to myself its probably nothing, stay calm. She then kisses the bloke, looks at me and says "I hope you dont mind if (I forgot his name) joins us..i thought you might want to see how naughty I can be. Oh, and another one is on his way to"

By this point the anxiety is in full affect and I'm thinking what the actual fuck is going on here....

Iv gone from psyching myself up to meet the female part of a couple to now being in a room with one stranger and another on his way!!

Now I know some of you might be thinking you lucky bastard... but for me, someone with social anxiety, this was the worst thing ever. Made when worse by the fact she knew I was nervous about meeting her and her husband, I opened up to her and was honest and she knew how I felt. I trusted her and she basically shat in my mouth.

Anyway, in a complete panic I pretended I had a phone call and made my way out the room for some peace and time to think. I front door was locked behind the last (of how many??) Bloke to come in so I made my way through to the kitchen where earlier I had noticed the back door, I quietly opened this...down the side of the house, out the front gate, to my car and I was gone.

I'm sure some of you will think I over reacted, should of stayed, shouldn't be on a site like this if I have social anxiety etc etc... but the main point of this story is to tell you to be careful. I spent over a month opening up to and trusting someone for them to totally go against my trust and do something, which for my anyway, I find totally disrespectful and just plain horrible.

Imagine if a girl had told this story, of how some dude invited 2 other dudes to fuck her with out her knowing regardless of if she had anxiety or other issue or not.

Anyway, this person/couple is still on fab and I hope they have been more respectful of others.

Be careful out there and stay safe. Even more so with the current situation

Regards x

Thats awful! I can't believe someone could be so callous. I think I'd have felt exactly like you did but I'm not sure I'd of had the courage to leave.

I'm really sorry that someone else's actions have had such a long lasting effect on you. I promise we're not all nasty bitches!

Dani x

Haha no need to apologise. So far it's the only bad experience iv had over the 6 years and 3 profiles iv had (delete then ways come back). "

Just can't stay away?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Had a very similar meet years ago

I was under impression I was only one invited over and when I arrived there was a few guys there and another on his way

I made excuse I needed toilet and quietly left "

Well I'm 'glad'im not the only one this has happened to. It's strange what goes through peoples minds at times.

Hope you're better for it now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good evening all, I hope we are keeping safe and well in this time of uncertainty.

I thought I'd share with you a story, an experience, of something that happend to me a couple of years ago on here and has stuck with me since. Its not always the guys who do wrong. So, here we go..

About 2 years ago (on an old profile) I got chatting to a local couple, just the female to start. I was a single profile but a couple had always been on my list of things I wanted to try, explore with and so on.

Like many I'm sure, I was hesitant at first as I do struggle with social anxiety and the thought of meeting a couple was white daunting....but it was something I wanted to do. We spoke for a few weeks and I was open and honest about my anxiety and how this was something I wanted to do. The female was very understanding and put me at ease, she told me how she was the same at first and it took a while for her to meet the right person and he comfortable etc etc. She knew where I was coming from, she understood and this put me at ease. I could not fault her. The other bonus was her husband is mainly into watching or not even being in the same room, so although it wasnt what you might consider a true experience of a couple, to me it was a big step and would lead me to more I'm sure.

So we chatted for around a month and then I felt comfortable enough to meet her and her husband. We had shares stories of fantasies and dirty talk etc so it was about time to swap the words for actions. We set a date, she gave me her address and that was that.

So the day came and I nervously drove to their house, with a 'steady' hand I knocked on their door and waited....

She answered and was all smiles and gave me a hug. I felt right at ease. We went through to the kitchen where she put the kettle on and we looked each other up and down between awkward smiles before heading to the living room to sit and get to know each other with her husband there to.

It was going well. My nerves were fading and I felt comfortable around the two of them. There was no pressure and no expectations and I was starting to feel confident and relaxed. Then there was a knock on the door..

Thinking nothing of it I carried on talking to the husband and sipping my tea, she pops off to answer the door...I assume it's a delivery or a neighbour or something and shel be back in a second. Which she was. But behind her another man walked into the room. I look up...shocked...and feel my heart begin to beat that little bit faster. The anxiety is creeping back...but I say to myself its probably nothing, stay calm. She then kisses the bloke, looks at me and says "I hope you dont mind if (I forgot his name) joins us..i thought you might want to see how naughty I can be. Oh, and another one is on his way to"

By this point the anxiety is in full affect and I'm thinking what the actual fuck is going on here....

Iv gone from psyching myself up to meet the female part of a couple to now being in a room with one stranger and another on his way!!

Now I know some of you might be thinking you lucky bastard... but for me, someone with social anxiety, this was the worst thing ever. Made when worse by the fact she knew I was nervous about meeting her and her husband, I opened up to her and was honest and she knew how I felt. I trusted her and she basically shat in my mouth.

Anyway, in a complete panic I pretended I had a phone call and made my way out the room for some peace and time to think. I front door was locked behind the last (of how many??) Bloke to come in so I made my way through to the kitchen where earlier I had noticed the back door, I quietly opened this...down the side of the house, out the front gate, to my car and I was gone.

I'm sure some of you will think I over reacted, should of stayed, shouldn't be on a site like this if I have social anxiety etc etc... but the main point of this story is to tell you to be careful. I spent over a month opening up to and trusting someone for them to totally go against my trust and do something, which for my anyway, I find totally disrespectful and just plain horrible.

Imagine if a girl had told this story, of how some dude invited 2 other dudes to fuck her with out her knowing regardless of if she had anxiety or other issue or not.

Anyway, this person/couple is still on fab and I hope they have been more respectful of others.

Be careful out there and stay safe. Even more so with the current situation

Regards x

Thats awful! I can't believe someone could be so callous. I think I'd have felt exactly like you did but I'm not sure I'd of had the courage to leave.

I'm really sorry that someone else's actions have had such a long lasting effect on you. I promise we're not all nasty bitches!

Dani x

Haha no need to apologise. So far it's the only bad experience iv had over the 6 years and 3 profiles iv had (delete then ways come back).

Just can't stay away? "

Haha something like that. Iv genuinely met some really nice people some of which I still speak to some 5 years later. Fab isnt all bad Haha

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

That should never have happened to you OP

I'd been chatting to a couple on here and everything seemed to be going well

As the time to drew nearer I was suddenly told that they would be filming our meet

This had never been discussed but fortunately I still had the opportunity to back out

They never gave you that choice

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Changing the meet agreement has happened to me and I like you decided to leave, although telling them so. That's totally disrespectful of you and me to add other people without asking. It's unfortunate that some people feel they have the right to abuse others but it is a small minority OP. Take faith and you will find nice respectful people on here, as I have, but also a lot of idiots as well.

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By *olyester123Couple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Well done mate dont blame you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That should never have happened to you OP

I'd been chatting to a couple on here and everything seemed to be going well

As the time to drew nearer I was suddenly told that they would be filming our meet

This had never been discussed but fortunately I still had the opportunity to back out

They never gave you that choice "

Lucky escape for you then it seems. Had they of discussed this with you prior it might of been ok...it might not. Communication and trust is so important and both times this was broken.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Changing the meet agreement has happened to me and I like you decided to leave, although telling them so. That's totally disrespectful of you and me to add other people without asking. It's unfortunate that some people feel they have the right to abuse others but it is a small minority OP. Take faith and you will find nice respectful people on here, as I have, but also a lot of idiots as well. "

Thanks for the reply.

Iv been on and off fab for about t or 6 years and iv met some amazing people, some I still speak to since day 1. The experience has not put me off fab, it's the good people that keep me here

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley


"Changing the meet agreement has happened to me and I like you decided to leave, although telling them so. That's totally disrespectful of you and me to add other people without asking. It's unfortunate that some people feel they have the right to abuse others but it is a small minority OP. Take faith and you will find nice respectful people on here, as I have, but also a lot of idiots as well.

Thanks for the reply.

Iv been on and off fab for about t or 6 years and iv met some amazing people, some I still speak to since day 1. The experience has not put me off fab, it's the good people that keep me here "

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's horrifying. Why didn't they tell you it was gonna be a gangbang?! I hope you ended up not wasting too much money.

Wondering whether putting up hard limits would help or if people would take advantage and deliberately go for them.

That's a safety issue that hsd never even crossed my mind so thank you for sharing this!

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"That's horrifying. Why didn't they tell you it was gonna be a gangbang?! I hope you ended up not wasting too much money.

Wondering whether putting up hard limits would help or if people would take advantage and deliberately go for them.

That's a safety issue that hsd never even crossed my mind so thank you for sharing this! "

Believe me when I say, from personal experience, that it doesn’t matter how hard your limits or how clearly expressed they are if someone wants to ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should of told you before hand since they knew how you felt it's the decent thing to do. We had a meet set up before with a single female and that was fine with us. A hour before meeting she told us a male would also be there so we then said no thanks because I sheena also get like that.

The worst meet we have had was when the couple got so d*unk. We never played and left soon as

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you did the right thing

It's the internet you could have got done in or anything

Hell they might even have chopped you up or been cannibals and ate you

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Anyone who pulls that sort of trick has no respect for anyone else but themselves. You did right leaving. They were bang out of order in our books.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's awful and so feel for you, one of the reasons we have decided to meet couples or single men in a club we feel its safer, this isn't the only horror story we've heard.

There was a post about a couple who were spiked at someones house. Being relatively new to the scene certainly put us off a bit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They should of told you before hand since they knew how you felt it's the decent thing to do. We had a meet set up before with a single female and that was fine with us. A hour before meeting she told us a male would also be there so we then said no thanks because I sheena also get like that.

The worst meet we have had was when the couple got so d*unk. We never played and left soon as "

It seems its not so uncommon for meets to turn our wrong or not happen at all because of last minute additions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's awful and so feel for you, one of the reasons we have decided to meet couples or single men in a club we feel its safer, this isn't the only horror story we've heard.

There was a post about a couple who were spiked at someones house. Being relatively new to the scene certainly put us off a bit "

Wow that's awful!!!

I think the club scene is where il end up. Iv always wanted to go

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you did the right thing

It's the internet you could have got done in or anything

Hell they might even have chopped you up or been cannibals and ate you "

Haha...a lucky escape then perhaps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi,

I'm not surprised you ran for the door, I would have too. If you all negotiated the terms of the arrangement in the first place, it should never have been changed without you knowing. Don't let the idiot's of this world put you off your fantasies. There is plenty of decent folk on here who wouldn't dream of not keeping you informed. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi,

I'm not surprised you ran for the door, I would have too. If you all negotiated the terms of the arrangement in the first place, it should never have been changed without you knowing. Don't let the idiot's of this world put you off your fantasies. There is plenty of decent folk on here who wouldn't dream of not keeping you informed. x"

Oh it hasn't dont worry. As ic said before, iv been on and off this site for a number of years and 98% of the people I meet and speak to are genuine, honest and lovely people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's awful and so feel for you, one of the reasons we have decided to meet couples or single men in a club we feel its safer, this isn't the only horror story we've heard.

There was a post about a couple who were spiked at someones house. Being relatively new to the scene certainly put us off a bit "

That's why if we meet at a pub we always get our own drinks and if going to a house take our own drinks as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How that couple behaved towards you OP smacks of one or both of them being seriously false and sinister. Seeing as you describe mostly conversing with that woman, she sounds like she got a perverse thrill out of falsely gaining your trust, deceiving you and planned on using your struggles with anxiety to manipulate you. It seem likely she / that couple intended to garner sexual gratification out of exploit you.

Fair play to you OP for having the ability to think straight and slip out of there...as it sounds like what you experienced there was likely the very thin end of wedge.

I'm curious to know, did they contact you after or try to lure you back again ?

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