FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters/Bad Meet Pointers

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you ever arranged a meet,predicted how good it would be and turned out super sh*t or they turned out as timewasters.

What were the early stage pointers. Did you have a hunch you never headed to and turned out to be a really bad meet or timewasters.

Lets discuss.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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If you don't rely on your gut instinct, that's a bad pointer, and I've done this and regretted it later. When something doesn't seem quite right, or you get a bad feeling or discomfort, then pay attention.

On other occasions, where I've not been thorough with a potential meet, ensuring that all parties are looking for mutually appropriate things, that availability fits or some other aspect, this has also proved to be less satisfying or not worked well.

The last thing is that if I over-step my boundaries, I usually get reminded when things are a bit crappy, or I end up leaving knowing that something was wrong. Personal values and boundaries are usually instilled for valid reasons, and it's 99% failure if I ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

spoke to a guy on here for a few months due to the distence and decided in the end to give him a chance as we did get on rely well he booked the hotel room and we met in the bar as aranged and talk about boring he couldnt string to words together unless it was about himself but we gave it a chance and we whent to the room and it whent down hill from there havnt seen or heard from him since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the lack of readiness to exchange face pictures.

the reluctance to chat on the phone.

the excuses to justify not chatting on the phone or being able to travel over.

these were just a few of many things that sometimes an indication.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"spoke to a guy on here for a few months due to the distence and decided in the end to give him a chance as we did get on rely well he booked the hotel room and we met in the bar as aranged and talk about boring he couldnt string to words together unless it was about himself but we gave it a chance and we whent to the room and it whent down hill from there havnt seen or heard from him since"

This sounds quite familiar, spoke to this couple,they had loads of veri but group ,eets,swapped pics numbers,got invited round, drove 60miles,got in the house and he put porn of his woman on, and she never came out of the room. I swear I had much better porn of mine and that wasnt what I came for. They eventually got into what seemed like a staged arguement which made me laugh, I just made my war out the door. Their profile never gave timewasters indication at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my green as grass days i had the misfortune to be speaking to a woman who led me a merry dance, we had been speaking for quite sometime and we arranged to meet in a hotel in the stoke area. I had made the hotel booking and text her to say i would be there later in the day, the reply came back that she was looking forward to it and let her know when i had arrived.

That was the last i heard from her, i checked in, paid the hotel for my room and that was that.......sadly i dont think i was the first to fall for it and wouldnt be the last.

Taught me some valuable lessons.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who don't give a straight answer when you start talking about arranging to meet for a drink.

People who start talking about sex very quickly or asking about how many meets you've had etc

Both warning signs to me.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"If you don't rely on your gut instinct, that's a bad pointer, and I've done this and regretted it later. When something doesn't seem quite right, or you get a bad feeling or discomfort, then pay attention."

I usually rely on instinct but sometimes confuse it with nerves. Couple of times Ive been on my way to a meet thinking 'I really don't want to do this' and ended up having a great time.

Sometimes you just need to take a risk.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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I usually rely on instinct but sometimes confuse it with nerves. Couple of times Ive been on my way to a meet thinking 'I really don't want to do this' and ended up having a great time.

Sometimes you just need to take a risk.

You are totally right - nerves, excitement etc will all spark a feeling, sometimes with loud amplitude, and it takes some fine tuning to ensure that what you're not feeling is a physical reaction that something's not right. If we step out of our comfort zones, it's likely that we'll get an unrest, something is unfamiliar, but unless we want to be static, then we'll never explore the unknown etc.

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By *ustpartyCouple
over a year ago

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A classic timewaster approach is the opening message...

"Hi, how you guys doing.."

Never arranged to meet anyone who starts that way...but they really really want to lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A classic timewaster approach is the opening message...

"Hi, how you guys doing.."

Never arranged to meet anyone who starts that way...but they really really want to lol."

I use that openng line,not sure what the problem is with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A classic timewaster approach is the opening message...

"Hi, how you guys doing.."

Never arranged to meet anyone who starts that way...but they really really want to lol."

No I don't really understand how that depicts a timewaster. I have used that on many occasions, when contacting someone, and have to say we are definitely not timewasters, look at our verifications. To each their own I guess.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"A classic timewaster approach is the opening message...

"Hi, how you guys doing.."

Never arranged to meet anyone who starts that way...but they really really want to lol.

I use that openng line,not sure what the problem is with that."

How you doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A classic timewaster approach is the opening message...

"Hi, how you guys doing.."

Never arranged to meet anyone who starts that way...but they really really want to lol.

i second that. I am not sure how that makes you timewasters myself.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

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"Have you ever arranged a meet,predicted how good it would be and turned out super sh*t or they turned out as timewasters.

What were the early stage pointers. Did you have a hunch you never headed to and turned out to be a really bad meet or timewasters.

Lets discuss."
I have never arranged a meet where i thought it would be shite, or thought it would be a bad meet ....

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