I think you've just got to go for it, and assume that not all of your earliest experiences will be successful, so that if they are, it's a bonus. You're then over that pre-experience curious stage. This doesn't mean dropping being picky, just instead to focus on getting through first/second time nerves etc.
Whilst gay sauna/sex clubs may not be ideal, who is there on the day is pot luck, just as it with swingers clubs. You could visit and half expect to leave without any sex, but at least you'd be checking it out, but available should someone catch your eye. At such a venue in busy times there's going to be a range of people, so one on one, or group action, could be enjoyed. No one need know that it's your first bi encounter, and so there won't be possible rejection, as there might be from Fab people, who don't want to be a test bed partner. At least with a sauna you get more chances than setting up individual meets, in the hope that one pays off. That said, there's also scope if you could meet another bi curious guy who's got reciprocal sexual interests: if you're both versatile, one top, one more bottom, etc, then it will ensure the right mix.
Either way, I'd not rule either option out, and proceed on both fronts, so that you progress beyond curious as soon as you can. Finally, with your emotional response, ensure that you're not feeling any guilt etc, as some straight guys have grown up to feel that such needs are wrong. Only you would be able to deal with that, if this is the case.
Good luck! |
