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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am just looking into updating my profile following some advice on my previous post.

Would any successful men be helpful enough to post a reply on here so that I can have a nosey of what works on a profile and what doesn't?

It would be much appreciated.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It most likely won't matter what advice you take from them about your profile if you don't communicate well when you're messaging people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not sure why I wrote SINGLE men in the title as tips from all successful men would be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless its men your wishing to meet.You need to know what women feel is a good profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unless its men your wishing to meet.You need to know what women feel is a good profile."

This is a good point but when people tell me to look at successful men - how do I know who is successful and who isn't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ain’t successful but , your profile looks good to me , not too much waffle , got photos and has a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good evening Welsh ... Think of your profile as your CV.. your selling yourself.. don't have to many dick pics .. plus don't use one as your profile pic.. have a face pic . Recent and send if asked .. be prepared to be patient .. you will not get replies straight away .. be polite.. have respect and ALWAYS read the profile .. good luck

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I am just looking into updating my profile following some advice on my previous post.

Would any successful men be helpful enough to post a reply on here so that I can have a nosey of what works on a profile and what doesn't?

It would be much appreciated.

Thanks"

three words.....

You be you!!!!

no one knows you better than you... so there is no one better to sell you than you!

sit down... pen and paper, and think about what you can do that no one else can, and think about your audience and who you are trying to attract.....

tell a story, sell a story!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I am just looking into updating my profile following some advice on my previous post.

Would any successful men be helpful enough to post a reply on here so that I can have a nosey of what works on a profile and what doesn't?

It would be much appreciated.

Thanks

three words.....

You be you!!!!

no one knows you better than you... so there is no one better to sell you than you!

sit down... pen and paper, and think about what you can do that no one else can, and think about your audience and who you are trying to attract.....

tell a story, sell a story!"

your profile, only read half but bookmarked , gonna binge read it all this weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make is sound like there is a golden trick these men use to get a woman.

It's all to do with attraction and your interaction with someone.

As with dating apps it's all initially a visual/physical thing (no one likes to say that but it's true) If someone finds you physically attractive then they will be interested in getting to know you more and then it's up to your personality.

They will either like you or they won't, if you start looking around and try to tailor your approach to mimic someone else's you will come across as fake.

Just be yourself is all anyone can safely tell you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills."

This 100%

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"I am just looking into updating my profile following some advice on my previous post.

Would any successful men be helpful enough to post a reply on here so that I can have a nosey of what works on a profile and what doesn't?

It would be much appreciated.

Thanks"
. Not sure if I would be classed as a successful male I leave that for you to decide.As a single guy the wrong side of 50 who is not the most photogenic and can’t accommodate I find attending organised socials , going to a spa , and a member of a club works best for me. I have also formatted my profile so that it reads like a CV.You are quite welcome to have a look and make your own judgement.

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

Stuff a dress on, got me layed loads xx

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington


"Stuff a dress on, got me layed loads xx "
got any spare I’ll try anything

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich


"Stuff a dress on, got me layed loads xx got any spare I’ll try anything "

Your welcome to the advice but touch the dresses and you and me will have issue !!! Cost me a fortune and I LOVE them!! Lol.

Xxx

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

I can show you what doesn’t!

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley


"Stuff a dress on, got me layed loads xx "

No that happens because you're a tart

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich


"Stuff a dress on, got me layed loads xx

No that happens because you're a tart "

Hi sweety, lol, and you do know that from our last meet xx xx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Fabio summed it up perfectly OP - you have to be you and only you can find what works for you - you could line up 100 of the guys who have a good experience of the site (I prefer not to think of it in terms of "success") and see 100 different profiles and styles and none of them be right for you.

Sure it can give you a flavour of what works, but ultimately you're the one selling yourself and having your personality so only you can ultimately know the answer.

About the only real value in looking at other guys profiles is for pic ideas about what you think might work for you.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

I think there are some pretty lame replies on this thread. Here are some real tips;

The ratio of men to women on here is more than 20:1. You're competing with 1000 other guys in your area. You MUST stand out.

Your profile is ok, but it's pretty generic. What makes you any different to the other 1000 men? They all say pretty much the same as you. Give the reader something interesting to think about.

Messages; most men are SHIT at messaging. Don't use "hey babe", "hey Hun", etc.

Don't mention sex at all early on, and only show limited interest sexually.

Do not over-compliment. It's desperate and weird. Make women work for compliments.

Be sociable and without your testicles - leave them at home.

Be very fucking chilled out. Prompt, chat, show interest, but do not chase.

Tease the living hell out of her. Say things to her that are naughty, but don't give the game away. Let her mind ponder over the little things which you say.

Be cheeky and confident. Do not ever be fearful of how you act. Be confident in yourself. Don't hesitate to assert control. Be a man, if you fuck up, apologize and be pragmatic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am just looking into updating my profile following some advice on my previous post.

Would any successful men be helpful enough to post a reply on here so that I can have a nosey of what works on a profile and what doesn't?

It would be much appreciated.

Thanks"
your profile looks fine to me, so its just about the way you message really, polite but using target profiles info and show some personality, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to be successful on Fab, be well endowed... literally that is a big plus.

People will shoot me down for saying it but you look through profiles for ladies and couples and a lot of them are looking for 'hung men' or 8" plus etc.

Then there are the regular local updates of 'looking for hung 8"+ tonight'

No mention of personality or to be a lovely guy, they could be an axe murderer just as long as they come with a large penis

It's very shallow, but it's why people come to a site that allows them to pick and choose.

Now I know this doesn't apply to everyone before someone tells me they don't care how big the person is provided they (insert compelling reason here)

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By *ittleREDridingWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I think there are some pretty lame replies on this thread. Here are some real tips;

The ratio of men to women on here is more than 20:1. You're competing with 1000 other guys in your area. You MUST stand out.

Your profile is ok, but it's pretty generic. What makes you any different to the other 1000 men? They all say pretty much the same as you. Give the reader something interesting to think about.

Messages; most men are SHIT at messaging. Don't use "hey babe", "hey Hun", etc.

Don't mention sex at all early on, and only show limited interest sexually.

Do not over-compliment. It's desperate and weird. Make women work for compliments.

Be sociable and without your testicles - leave them at home.

Be very fucking chilled out. Prompt, chat, show interest, but do not chase.

Tease the living hell out of her. Say things to her that are naughty, but don't give the game away. Let her mind ponder over the little things which you say.

Be cheeky and confident. Do not ever be fearful of how you act. Be confident in yourself. Don't hesitate to assert control. Be a man, if you fuck up, apologize and be pragmatic.

"

Yeah works.

Speaking personally, make me laugh consistently and you’re half way there

Good luck op.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We meet a single Guy with over 40 verifications he actually gets abuse of women calling him names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a picture of your cock with a spunky towel and a pot noodle in the background and use it as your profile picture. Never fails...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relatively new here but my experience is varied when chatting. I message women because their profile attracts me, but then when chatting without instantly talking about sex, I've been "friend zoned" once or twice!

However, open a chat straight away with sex talk, and its likely to get you blanked straight away. Very fine line between the two sometimes!

Spoilt for choice and messaged daily by god knows how many blokes, bottom line is women can be very picky, which is fair ebough, but for men that leaves alot to luck I reckon!

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"I am just looking into updating my profile following some advice on my previous post.

Would any successful men be helpful enough to post a reply on here so that I can have a nosey of what works on a profile and what doesn't?

It would be much appreciated.

Thanks"

There is no hard and fast rule, every lady is different and should be treated as a individual.

So be polite, and try not to come across as just wanting to dip your wick and take notice of her needs and wants instead of putting yours ahead of the queue.

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By *hythmic DriverMan
over a year ago

Croydon


"We meet a single Guy with over 40 verifications he actually gets abuse of women calling him names "

So theres a chance for me then? Haha

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By *reelanderMan
over a year ago

rotherham

Be real and honest,don't over sell urself and remember don't fall in the desperate trap as so many men update status,s sounding desperate chasing it that it just kills it.I find complimenting on a girls pics is a good start and if a cple then always address them both in chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone - I have only seen a lot of the replies just now as I have been working.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Always, always, just be yourself.

Think seriously about who you are looking to meet, save that preferred search criteria in your search option here, and run that from time to time. Anyone who doesn’t fit what you’re looking for, block them. Forget pretty pics of profiles you’ll never meet, you can look at free porn on the web anytime. You’re here to meet, so cut the wheat from the chaff.

Any profile which catches your eye, matches what you are looking for, read it through. If you don’t match what they’re looking for, block them and move on. You’re here to meet people looking for you.

Avoid the club scene as a single guy. If you can find a lady to visit clubs with, go with her, as a couple, you’ll (both) have a better experience.

Be patient, never pushy.

Good luck

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington


"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills."

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills."

Absolutely true....!! Usually easier to do in a social environment. I am probably not the most confident person initially but once I "find my feet" I usually do OK. Another thing to remember is that not everyone is going to be attracted to you any more than you are going to be attracted to everyone, unless you work on the principle "its got a hole so I will shag it" !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s very easy on here. Remember you’re talking to real people with real feelings. You aren’t talking to a sex worker who is only interested in the money. Remember that if you don’t behave right you will be pushed aside by a man who talks to people correctly. Just be nice, but don’t be creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont be a creep and you should be ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It most likely won't matter what advice you take from them about your profile if you don't communicate well when you're messaging people "

Well said !

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By *ddictedToLoveMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"You make is sound like there is a golden trick these men use to get a woman.

It's all to do with attraction and your interaction with someone.

As with dating apps it's all initially a visual/physical thing (no one likes to say that but it's true) If someone finds you physically attractive then they will be interested in getting to know you more and then it's up to your personality.

They will either like you or they won't, if you start looking around and try to tailor your approach to mimic someone else's you will come across as fake.

Just be yourself is all anyone can safely tell you"

That works different for guys and women though. Guys are most likely the ones to message first and look through profiles. Women get tons of messages and look through the guys they find attractive.

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By *ake_holeMan
over a year ago

London


" Avoid the club scene as a single guy. If you can find a lady to visit clubs with, go with her, as a couple, you’ll (both) have a better experience."

I'd disagree with this. There are plenty of clubs with ice breakers, socials and other events to help introduce people into the scene. In fact I've found it better to just go to clubs rather than an unsolicited message to make friends and contacts while using fab as a way to expand. That's how I got started on this site.

Saying this I do know the problems of being a single guy in the club scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s very easy on here. Remember you’re talking to real people with real feelings. You aren’t talking to a sex worker who is only interested in the money. Remember that if you don’t behave right you will be pushed aside by a man who talks to people correctly. Just be nice, but don’t be creepy. "

I agree with this.

Been nice can get you a long way OP. Have a look at the bottom of my bio . There's a link to some great advice for single guys on fab. I have 200 plus veris . Trust me if you're polite and respectful it will get you far on here

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

Most of the single men on here dont have a clue about the real swinging scene.

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington


" Avoid the club scene as a single guy. If you can find a lady to visit clubs with, go with her, as a couple, you’ll (both) have a better experience.

I'd disagree with this. There are plenty of clubs with ice breakers, socials and other events to help introduce people into the scene. In fact I've found it better to just go to clubs rather than an unsolicited message to make friends and contacts while using fab as a way to expand. That's how I got started on this site.

Saying this I do know the problems of being a single guy in the club scene "

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By *ait88Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

Different men have different ideas of what “success” is on this site.

Some men are looking to maximise their number of “meets per week”, and don’t care about their partners’ looks, personalities, marital statuses, etc. Total quantity over quality. The “fancy a fuck and cock pics” brigade may be like this. And yes, they do get lots of meets by responding to the statuses posted by horny women late at night.

At the other end of the spectrum, there are those men who are looking for just one special person – a partner. They have very little chance of success on this site because of the intense competition. To be successful, these men must be both highly attractive, and highly literate. One of the fortunate few.

Most men’s ambitions, looks and writing abilities will lie somewhere between these extremes, and the very high levels of competition here will prevent them from achieving any real success, regardless of what their profiles are like. Meets will be few and far between.

For “Mr.Average”, the best route to success is probably by visiting clubs. In these, personalities play a greater part, and writing skills are irrelevant. There will be lucky nights when the right person or people are in a club, and blank nights with no action whatsoever. But generally the success rate will be much better than that achieved by using this site’s advertising and messaging services.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me.. well up to age 99.. really would you.. i know my nans gorgeous at nearly 90 but i would not let you nor anyone go near her.

Oh christmas pix.. hide it til dec.

Didnt read profile.

Upto meet 99 puts me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bio seems ok but pics arent the best quality

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


" Avoid the club scene as a single guy. If you can find a lady to visit clubs with, go with her, as a couple, you’ll (both) have a better experience.

I'd disagree with this. There are plenty of clubs with ice breakers, socials and other events to help introduce people into the scene. In fact I've found it better to just go to clubs rather than an unsolicited message to make friends and contacts while using fab as a way to expand. That's how I got started on this site.

Saying this I do know the problems of being a single guy in the club scene "

I have visited several different clubs as a single guy, on more than one occasion to most of them, and have found them to be pretty soul-destroying to visit by yourself. Having also done three visits as a couple with female friends, it’s amazing how differently people respond to you. I’ve enjoyed far more success using Fab for private meets, than going to the effort and expense of visiting swinger clubs as a single guy. I have no message filters to my inbox, so if anyone would like to chat about some of my club experiences privately, feel free to message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there are some pretty lame replies on this thread. Here are some real tips;

The ratio of men to women on here is more than 20:1. You're competing with 1000 other guys in your area. You MUST stand out.

Your profile is ok, but it's pretty generic. What makes you any different to the other 1000 men? They all say pretty much the same as you. Give the reader something interesting to think about.

Messages; most men are SHIT at messaging. Don't use "hey babe", "hey Hun", etc.

Don't mention sex at all early on, and only show limited interest sexually.

Do not over-compliment. It's desperate and weird. Make women work for compliments.

Be sociable and without your testicles - leave them at home.

Be very fucking chilled out. Prompt, chat, show interest, but do not chase.

Tease the living hell out of her. Say things to her that are naughty, but don't give the game away. Let her mind ponder over the little things which you say.

Be cheeky and confident. Do not ever be fearful of how you act. Be confident in yourself. Don't hesitate to assert control. Be a man, if you fuck up, apologize and be pragmatic.

"
Quality well said sir

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By *omoloWoman
over a year ago

W Sussex

My advise is just to be yourself, forget what anyone else’s profile looks like (yours is fine), and under no circumstances say things just because you think it’s what a woman wants to read. Most men misjudge that completely!

Someone who is happy with being who they are is good, as is sending a face pic in first message

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Taunton

From my experience just be nice and polite, don’t assume anything... once you get a nice decent first verification your be fine I’m sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very good point. Talk to people normally. Be polite and respectful. And be careful with compliments, sometimes they come over insincere.

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away

"Tell the bitch she is a slut and deserves to be fucked on all fours like an animal!"

For all a single guy knows about the people at the end of the profile, this may be what they want.

Everyone, every couple are different, tell them what you want/like are looking for, it helps the couple/lady decide.

You should not need to write i am respectful clean, yadi yadi ya, if you're not they wont meet and certainly won't play/fuck you.

They know you're looking for sex tell them what type of sex turns you on, outdoor, intimate, GB, sex in public, dominant or submissive, know yourself and sell it. By the way i don't believe people can be both Dom and sub, you can role play but only 1 is natural.

IMHO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't bother messaging women tbh. They get so much mail, even if you do write a good message it's bound to be ignored or deleted, or you'll get ghosted mid conversation.

If someone's interested in you, they will mail you instead. Patience

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

Be yourself.

Be interested, open and approachable, the key for me is communicating.

If your able to open in that way, you'll be much more likely to make sincere connections with people, socially and sexually.

If you respect people, they'll respect you back.

I think as a single male too, you've got to be able to take rejection on the chin. Its nothing personal, shake it off and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You asked for profile help...I've looked and to be fair IMHO it's better than 90% of what's on here. Feel free to check mine if you wish but there is no "perfect" profile...it's horses for courses and as others have said...respectful communication is the key

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

It’s a looks based environment. Personality it’s second don’t let any woman tell you otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s swinging. Of course looks are important. Why have sex with someone you don’t find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wont look without a polite, well constructed message. Even then no guarantee...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a looks based environment. Personality it’s second don’t let any woman tell you otherwise"

I disagree. You could look like an Adonis and come across as a complete plank. Women are a bit more cereberal than that in my experience...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They wont look without a polite, well constructed message. Even then no guarantee..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s swinging. Of course looks are important. Why have sex with someone you don’t find attractive?"

Yeh but human attraction is a very subjective thing isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is. But the person has to like you surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it is. But the person has to like you surely. "

Yeh but I dont think you can base your decision to like someone purely on their looks alone. Obviously that's a factor of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When competition is so high. We can have looks and personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When competition is so high. We can have looks and personality. "

Luckily for me I have both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what about that first picture they see? Good advice though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Hey babe”

I am not the sheep pig!

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By *abbit48Man
over a year ago

Catterick Garrison

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By *abbit48Man
over a year ago

Catterick Garrison


""Tell the bitch she is a slut and deserves to be fucked on all fours like an animal!"

For all a single guy knows about the people at the end of the profile, this may be what they want.

Everyone, every couple are different, tell them what you want/like are looking for, it helps the couple/lady decide.

You should not need to write i am respectful clean, yadi yadi ya, if you're not they wont meet and certainly won't play/fuck you.

They know you're looking for sex tell them what type of sex turns you on, outdoor, intimate, GB, sex in public, dominant or submissive, know yourself and sell it. By the way i don't believe people can be both Dom and sub, you can role play but only 1 is natural.

IMHO

"

You can be switch I am and my girlfriend is and our other freind is and it works

You are different with different people

Also depends on you're mindset at the time.

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By *abbit48Man
over a year ago

Catterick Garrison

BE YOURSELF.

This is so true I gave up.on thinking about the sex part and went with I'm here to make freinds and see where life takes me. I'm now in a proper relationship with someone I met on here and it all started with a mutual love of sword fighting. Who'd have thought?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I still think "be yourself" isn't good advice. If being yourself worked, you wouldn't need to ask for advice in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my experience just be nice and polite, don’t assume anything... once you get a nice decent first verification your be fine I’m sure "

Hello

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By *igjohn78Man
over a year ago

lincoln

I have very little luck on fab but yet do OK. All the people I met with are at clubs

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Unless its men your wishing to meet.You need to know what women feel is a good profile.

This is a good point but when people tell me to look at successful men - how do I know who is successful and who isn't?"

The successful ones are smiling in their profile photo and the unsuccessful ones look like axe murderers

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I am just looking into updating my profile following some advice on my previous post.

Would any successful men be helpful enough to post a reply on here so that I can have a nosey of what works on a profile and what doesn't?

It would be much appreciated.

Happy to help in terms of using fab more effectively DM me

Thanks"

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

After a few years here, my profile works well for me. I stand out from the crowd, and give (some) women what they want. I get repeat meets, too, which is what I look for. No cock pics on my profile, I don't ask for or send facepics. It works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few years here, my profile works well for me. I stand out from the crowd, and give (some) women what they want. I get repeat meets, too, which is what I look for. No cock pics on my profile, I don't ask for or send facepics. It works. "

Apparently chocolate cake recipes aren't effective

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Unless its men your wishing to meet.You need to know what women feel is a good profile.

This is a good point but when people tell me to look at successful men - how do I know who is successful and who isn't?

The successful ones are smiling in their profile photo and the unsuccessful ones look like axe murderers "

Unfortunately, smiling makes me look even *more* like an axe murderer.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I have very little luck on fab but yet do OK. All the people I met with are at clubs "

You probably do better in the club scene, because you choose which events to attend, that suit you, and the people likely to be looking for you. If you apply a similar thinking to using Fab, you’ll likely have more success in here. Particularly as there will not be any club scene for some time......

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Effort in = rewards out!

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Stick a dress on and you're sorted

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

I think guys who struggle to pull in the real world will also struggle online.

Charisma and confidence are required before anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think guys who struggle to pull in the real world will also struggle online.

Charisma and confidence are required before anything else.

"

Not sure if this is Mr/Mrs talking here but I disagree massively with this! I have no problems chatting to women in pubs/bars etc but on here it's like pulling teeth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use your profile as a book update change exit as you wish.

You could put all the ..

blar blar blar...on your profile. 50%will laugh 50%will moan.

Just #bekind.

My profile is ranty.. not thru choice but from type of messages I get.

So be you be nice and one day it will work.

Current pandemic.. so hold no hopes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a fair few veris and been to many different club's to meet people and be sociable. For some great advice for single guys. At the bottom of my profile there's a copy and paste section that will take you to a great read on the forums. Read it and take note it may just help. Please bear in mind that we are in the middle of a pandemic so no one should be meeting. Good luck OP

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By *d4ugirlsMan
over a year ago

Green Cove Springs


"Unless its men your wishing to meet.You need to know what women feel is a good profile.

This is a good point but when people tell me to look at successful men - how do I know who is successful and who isn't?"

Probably the amount of verifications and what the person said about this "successful Man".

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Read and understand Cyrano de Bergerac

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