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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on this site a few weeks now and seems very few people want to chat let alone meet. Maybe I just dont know how to talk to people these days?

Any advice would be much appreciated

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By *oved Up 2Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

I'd suggest you look at the 100s of posts in the forum about this. Lots of people have given excellent advice.

Patience is key I believe as is a good profile. I've not checked yours so can't comment on the quality or otherwise

Try local socials and clubs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I have been to a club before but not really my scene think I just need to work on my profile more maybe

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By *ildatheart6969Couple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Been on this site a few weeks now and seems very few people want to chat let alone meet. Maybe I just dont know how to talk to people these days?

Any advice would be much appreciated "

There are quite a few charm schools available nowadays on line

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been on this site a few weeks now and seems very few people want to chat let alone meet. Maybe I just dont know how to talk to people these days?

Any advice would be much appreciated

There are quite a few charm schools available nowadays on line

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Might need to take one lol

The thing is I do really well outside of fab so no idea why it's like this on here lol

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Been on this site a few weeks now and seems very few people want to chat let alone meet. Maybe I just dont know how to talk to people these days?

Any advice would be much appreciated "

Just be yourself, humor is good for us,maybe a few more pics.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Having yet another blonde moment. OP complains about not getting conversations let alone meets, but doesn't want to go to clubs. Can't help some people.

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By *taffsladMan
over a year ago

stafford

With you on this but being patient

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having yet another blonde moment. OP complains about not getting conversations let alone meets, but doesn't want to go to clubs. Can't help some people. "

I have been to a club in the UK just didnt really enjoy it that much chatted with people fine but I dunno

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been on this site a few weeks now and seems very few people want to chat let alone meet. Maybe I just dont know how to talk to people these days?

Any advice would be much appreciated

Just be yourself, humor is good for us,maybe a few more pics. "

More pictures I got you got loads as I travel around a bit thank you

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Just take it easy, be respectful and dont promise what you cant deliver...

And things will happen when you least expect it.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just take it easy, be respectful and dont promise what you cant deliver...

And things will happen when you least expect it....."

Cheers pal appreciate that and all the feedback I have gotten

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"Just take it easy, be respectful and dont promise what you cant deliver...

And things will happen when you least expect it.....

Cheers pal appreciate that and all the feedback I have gotten "

If it can work for me then youll have no problems.....

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think your photos are pretty good. Your text needs to say a lot more about you. It's a bit generic. You need to show you're somebody who is good to meet socially and chat with.

What kind of message do you send out to make contact? A lot of guys let themselves down badly with their first message. I suggest you post an example here and we can give you some feedback.

Also, getting involved in the forums can be a good way of showing your personality and getting known.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think your photos are pretty good. Your text needs to say a lot more about you. It's a bit generic. You need to show you're somebody who is good to meet socially and chat with.

What kind of message do you send out to make contact? A lot of guys let themselves down badly with their first message. I suggest you post an example here and we can give you some feedback.

Also, getting involved in the forums can be a good way of showing your personality and getting known. "

Depends tried many ways of chatting lol I am generally very polite cannot help it lol.

So hey there how are you how you finding fab etc

Then I switch try the more direct wow I think you are stunning you look amazing and after reading your profile would like to get to know you or strange a meet etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear I'm to nice for this place too haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fear I'm to nice for this place too haha"

Dont get me wrong I have a dark side lol but I am not the type to be like hey you your fit and wanna fuck you now lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so I have updated my profile and added some things and yeah I think it looks a bit better thank you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fear I'm to nice for this place too haha

Dont get me wrong I have a dark side lol but I am not the type to be like hey you your fit and wanna fuck you now lol"

Yea that's my issue, I want to chat and see what I can do for them. Giving pleasure is what really gets me turned on, theres probably a name for it lol.

My naughty side comes out pretty quick once I get going.

I guess I'm not good enough here haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fear I'm to nice for this place too haha

Dont get me wrong I have a dark side lol but I am not the type to be like hey you your fit and wanna fuck you now lol

Yea that's my issue, I want to chat and see what I can do for them. Giving pleasure is what really gets me turned on, theres probably a name for it lol.

My naughty side comes out pretty quick once I get going.

I guess I'm not good enough here haha"

Well the thing is I do really good outside of fab so that's why this confuses me lol not had this happen to me before but tbh i want to meet people that can keep up and i can explore things with if that makes sense so that's why i chose fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fear I'm to nice for this place too haha

Dont get me wrong I have a dark side lol but I am not the type to be like hey you your fit and wanna fuck you now lol

Yea that's my issue, I want to chat and see what I can do for them. Giving pleasure is what really gets me turned on, theres probably a name for it lol.

My naughty side comes out pretty quick once I get going.

I guess I'm not good enough here haha

Well the thing is I do really good outside of fab so that's why this confuses me lol not had this happen to me before but tbh i want to meet people that can keep up and i can explore things with if that makes sense so that's why i chose fab "

Yea I'm pretty much the same, turn women away sometimes, on here hardly anyone chats haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh i tell one lie I do get quite a few messages but from guys lol which is not my thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never answer a message asking how well i was doing on fab. I get 100's of these. Needs to be something personal showing you have read their profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would never answer a message asking how well i was doing on fab. I get 100's of these. Needs to be something personal showing you have read their profile"

Thank you will keep that in mind I do say if I have read the person's profile and what not but i dunno but i also get that the ladies get loads of messages lol so can be hard to stand out if only they knew lol

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"I would never answer a message asking how well i was doing on fab. I get 100's of these. Needs to be something personal showing you have read their profile

Thank you will keep that in mind I do say if I have read the person's profile and what not but i dunno but i also get that the ladies get loads of messages lol so can be hard to stand out if only they knew lol"

I wouldn't answer a message like that either unless I fancied the guy and he met my preferences. Maybe you are messaging the wrong people ie ones whose preferences you don't meet?

You have some really good pics, able to accommodate and a decent looking young man. I'm sorry to say your height will go against you a little on here but whatever you do don't bring it up in messages then say 'we're all the same laying down'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh i tell one lie I do get quite a few messages but from guys lol which is not my thing "

Yea I get that too, not what I'm looking for lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never answer a message asking how well i was doing on fab. I get 100's of these. Needs to be something personal showing you have read their profile

Thank you will keep that in mind I do say if I have read the person's profile and what not but i dunno but i also get that the ladies get loads of messages lol so can be hard to stand out if only they knew lol

I wouldn't answer a message like that either unless I fancied the guy and he met my preferences. Maybe you are messaging the wrong people ie ones whose preferences you don't meet?

You have some really good pics, able to accommodate and a decent looking young man. I'm sorry to say your height will go against you a little on here but whatever you do don't bring it up in messages then say 'we're all the same laying down' "

Does that advice go for me too haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never answer a message asking how well i was doing on fab. I get 100's of these. Needs to be something personal showing you have read their profile"

I also try to reference the profile, I think I'm too chunky as a single guy on here haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would never answer a message asking how well i was doing on fab. I get 100's of these. Needs to be something personal showing you have read their profile

Thank you will keep that in mind I do say if I have read the person's profile and what not but i dunno but i also get that the ladies get loads of messages lol so can be hard to stand out if only they knew lol

I wouldn't answer a message like that either unless I fancied the guy and he met my preferences. Maybe you are messaging the wrong people ie ones whose preferences you don't meet?

You have some really good pics, able to accommodate and a decent looking young man. I'm sorry to say your height will go against you a little on here but whatever you do don't bring it up in messages then say 'we're all the same laying down' "

Aha thatsca good one yeah damn my height if only I was taller however I am quite w/e so make up for it in that area which is a shock to most ladies lol but I dont wanna put that picture up on fab lol as very modest and would rather that remain private

Usually my messages are read and just not responded to or left on unread lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never answer a message asking how well i was doing on fab. I get 100's of these. Needs to be something personal showing you have read their profile

I also try to reference the profile, I think I'm too chunky as a single guy on here haha"

Not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never answer a message asking how well i was doing on fab. I get 100's of these. Needs to be something personal showing you have read their profile

I also try to reference the profile, I think I'm too chunky as a single guy on here haha

Not at all"

Thank you, I think haha

What am I doing wrong? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would never answer a message asking how well i was doing on fab. I get 100's of these. Needs to be something personal showing you have read their profile

I also try to reference the profile, I think I'm too chunky as a single guy on here haha

Not at all

Thank you, I think haha

What am I doing wrong? Lol"

Nah your all good pal lol think your kn same boat as me lol :p

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