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Messages got to stand out form the crowd

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By *ad ste OP   Man
over a year ago

Southport

Ok this not a gripe about the lady's more looking for opinion

In alot of profiles it will say message must stand out from the crowd

So what makes a message stand out from the crowd and why pleas give examples

As I am genuinely curious thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Describe your perfect sandwich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok this not a gripe about the lady's more looking for opinion

In alot of profiles it will say message must stand out from the crowd

So what makes a message stand out from the crowd and why pleas give examples

As I am genuinely curious thanks "
HD colour

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By *ad ste OP   Man
over a year ago

Southport


"Describe your perfect sandwich "

Easy baguette sausage bacon egg cheese brown sauce perfect sandwich ??

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I like non sexual messages, with correct spelling and grammar.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Any message to us that starts with something like "Hello, Hannah and Luke. I'm..." stands out from the crowd of messages that are more frequently "Hi", "Hru" or even "Do you want to be watched?"

It's pretty easy to stand out. Just be polite and don't sound like the only thing you want is to get your dick wet.

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By *ad ste OP   Man
over a year ago

Southport


"I like non sexual messages, with correct spelling and grammar."

Can you give an example of what catches your eye at first glance i have dyslexia and reading any message is effort I always read profile before message to decide if it worth message in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like non sexual messages, with correct spelling and grammar."
I'm really good at that

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

If I told you how to do this, you’d score with all the women I would normally score with.

Ok, you’re nice so I’ll give you some hints. These planets need to align:

1. Your profile needs to be excellent. Not just alright for something you threw together but really top notch.

2. You need to be the kind of person they’re looking for. If they’re looking at all.

3. You need to have read their profile and comply with what’s said, what’s read between the lines or what’s felt but not said.

4. You need to not remind them of some other twat that messaged recently. How do you know this? Unfortunately you can’t.

Once all those things are sorted in your favour, which will be about 1% of the time, your message needs to be good and what they’re looking for at that time.

There can be clues in their profile, status update or what they’ve written on the forums. Or there can be no clues.

Basically you’ve got a really small chance of getting anywhere so make your expectations in line with this and you won’t get so frustrated. Frustrated kills any chances that have got through all the above stages because frustration usually comes from arrogance and entitlement. Nobody’s going to meet you with those following you around

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By *itonmyfacebookMan
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

The front of my trousers stands out like a sideways tent thinking about the babes on here

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"The front of my trousers stands out like a sideways tent thinking about the babes on here "

Smoooooothe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A picture of your willy.

Be different.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"If I told you how to do this, you’d score with all the women I would normally score with.

Ok, you’re nice so I’ll give you some hints. These planets need to align:

1. Your profile needs to be excellent. Not just alright for something you threw together but really top notch.

2. You need to be the kind of person they’re looking for. If they’re looking at all.

3. You need to have read their profile and comply with what’s said, what’s read between the lines or what’s felt but not said.

4. You need to not remind them of some other twat that messaged recently. How do you know this? Unfortunately you can’t.

Once all those things are sorted in your favour, which will be about 1% of the time, your message needs to be good and what they’re looking for at that time.

There can be clues in their profile, status update or what they’ve written on the forums. Or there can be no clues.

Basically you’ve got a really small chance of getting anywhere so make your expectations in line with this and you won’t get so frustrated. Frustrated kills any chances that have got through all the above stages because frustration usually comes from arrogance and entitlement. Nobody’s going to meet you with those following you around "

This about sums it up perfectly OP - follow this and you won't go far wrong - won't guarantee a thing but will stand you in good stead

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Something that shows you have read my profile and that we maybe have something in common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something that shows you have read my profile and that we maybe have something in common."
you can't make me read it

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By *ad ste OP   Man
over a year ago

Southport


"If I told you how to do this, you’d score with all the women I would normally score with.

Ok, you’re nice so I’ll give you some hints. These planets need to align:

1. Your profile needs to be excellent. Not just alright for something you threw together but really top notch.

2. You need to be the kind of person they’re looking for. If they’re looking at all.

3. You need to have read their profile and comply with what’s said, what’s read between the lines or what’s felt but not said.

4. You need to not remind them of some other twat that messaged recently. How do you know this? Unfortunately you can’t.

Once all those things are sorted in your favour, which will be about 1% of the time, your message needs to be good and what they’re looking for at that time.

There can be clues in their profile, status update or what they’ve written on the forums. Or there can be no clues.

Basically you’ve got a really small chance of getting anywhere so make your expectations in line with this and you won’t get so frustrated. Frustrated kills any chances that have got through all the above stages because frustration usually comes from arrogance and entitlement. Nobody’s going to meet you with those following you around "

Thanks Ido trti to follow all those instructions already I got frustrated at first IV learnt what's the point if a lady likes then she douse if not good look happy fabbing I'd just like to know from a women's point of view what is a good first message that stands out with a example just trying to see from the outside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I told you how to do this, you’d score with all the women I would normally score with.

Ok, you’re nice so I’ll give you some hints. These planets need to align:

1. Your profile needs to be excellent. Not just alright for something you threw together but really top notch.

2. You need to be the kind of person they’re looking for. If they’re looking at all.

3. You need to have read their profile and comply with what’s said, what’s read between the lines or what’s felt but not said.

4. You need to not remind them of some other twat that messaged recently. How do you know this? Unfortunately you can’t.

Once all those things are sorted in your favour, which will be about 1% of the time, your message needs to be good and what they’re looking for at that time.

There can be clues in their profile, status update or what they’ve written on the forums. Or there can be no clues.

Basically you’ve got a really small chance of getting anywhere so make your expectations in line with this and you won’t get so frustrated. Frustrated kills any chances that have got through all the above stages because frustration usually comes from arrogance and entitlement. Nobody’s going to meet you with those following you around "

Yep. Especially number 4

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"If I told you how to do this, you’d score with all the women I would normally score with.

Ok, you’re nice so I’ll give you some hints. These planets need to align:

1. Your profile needs to be excellent. Not just alright for something you threw together but really top notch.

2. You need to be the kind of person they’re looking for. If they’re looking at all.

3. You need to have read their profile and comply with what’s said, what’s read between the lines or what’s felt but not said.

4. You need to not remind them of some other twat that messaged recently. How do you know this? Unfortunately you can’t.

Once all those things are sorted in your favour, which will be about 1% of the time, your message needs to be good and what they’re looking for at that time.

There can be clues in their profile, status update or what they’ve written on the forums. Or there can be no clues.

Basically you’ve got a really small chance of getting anywhere so make your expectations in line with this and you won’t get so frustrated. Frustrated kills any chances that have got through all the above stages because frustration usually comes from arrogance and entitlement. Nobody’s going to meet you with those following you around

Yep. Especially number 4 "

Luckily I don’t remind you of a twat - I am the twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s not a lot you can do unless you can turn water into wine or gin or vodka, bake cakes and ejaculate chocolate.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The thing is OP you won't get a single example of a good first message - such a thing doesn't exist - there is no catch all magic formula that will work for everyone.

You just have to be you and send what *you* think is an appropriate first message, and hope it matches what the person you are writing to thinks they'd like to reply to.

Beyond that the generic advice given is all you can go on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message that stands out from the crowd is one showing the persons handsome face. Not arsed what they write.

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By *tag and HellcatCouple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby

We like polite and respectful

Dick pics arent my thing ... sending them unasked for in a first message woukd put me off

Humor grabs my attention

Not an epic length but more than just "hi, fancy a shag"

Its a hard thing to get right

Vixen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice bollocks on you op

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands


"Ok this not a gripe about the lady's more looking for opinion

In alot of profiles it will say message must stand out from the crowd

So what makes a message stand out from the crowd and why pleas give examples

As I am genuinely curious thanks "

If people posted messages that were sure to be successful then everyone would use it and those messages would no longer stand out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a message that stands out for me has a beginning a middle and an end and features HD colour pics and vids

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

“Hi, it seems like you have low expectations, I’m sure I can meet them” definitely works, it’s how we got together

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Just make an introduction like you would in a bar - be polite and ffs don’t send a pic of your cock on the first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A big sign usually does the trick

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By *ad ste OP   Man
over a year ago

Southport


"“Hi, it seems like you have low expectations, I’m sure I can meet them” definitely works, it’s how we got together "

To be honest I have no expectations then I can never be disappointed that sounds very negative I know no but it's not really just realistic I do listen and take on board advice that is given I'll keep trying and see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Describe your perfect sandwich "

I love kebab not much hair round it.

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By *ad ste OP   Man
over a year ago

Southport


"Nice bollocks on you op "

I got told full of fun and interesting pictures the best my balls hanging from the back of my van nearly 200000 miles in the fresh air I thought we be nice to share with all you guys and girls

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"If I told you how to do this, you’d score with all the women I would normally score with.

Ok, you’re nice so I’ll give you some hints. These planets need to align:

1. Your profile needs to be excellent. Not just alright for something you threw together but really top notch.

2. You need to be the kind of person they’re looking for. If they’re looking at all.

3. You need to have read their profile and comply with what’s said, what’s read between the lines or what’s felt but not said.

4. You need to not remind them of some other twat that messaged recently. How do you know this? Unfortunately you can’t.

Once all those things are sorted in your favour, which will be about 1% of the time, your message needs to be good and what they’re looking for at that time.

There can be clues in their profile, status update or what they’ve written on the forums. Or there can be no clues.

Basically you’ve got a really small chance of getting anywhere so make your expectations in line with this and you won’t get so frustrated. Frustrated kills any chances that have got through all the above stages because frustration usually comes from arrogance and entitlement. Nobody’s going to meet you with those following you around "

Good words to live by!

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