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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston

I know that alot of people put this posts up and I also know people will say just be patient but I just decided that I need to reach out to the fab community and see what the disconnect is with me at the moment. If you look at my profile what do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that alot of people put this posts up and I also know people will say just be patient but I just decided that I need to reach out to the fab community and see what the disconnect is with me at the moment. If you look at my profile what do you think? "
its maybe the married bit and the fact your quite young and in your wedding outfit in your pic also that you can't accom because your married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is your wife on here too?

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston

Ok will adjust profile to suit. I have a baby face so it's hard to look older. My wife uses our joint profile and searches for her own meets.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Ok will adjust profile to suit. I have a baby face so it's hard to look older. My wife uses our joint profile and searches for her own meets."

In that case, I would reference the couple profile in yours. I do in mine.

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"Ok will adjust profile to suit. I have a baby face so it's hard to look older. My wife uses our joint profile and searches for her own meets.

In that case, I would reference the couple profile in yours. I do in mine."

Thanks updated

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

8 weeks and 3 verifications, I'd say you're not doing anything wrong at that

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"8 weeks and 3 verifications, I'd say you're not doing anything wrong at that "

Very misleading 2 verifications are from the same person. 1 was a social meet and the other was a play meet. The third is a verification from a couple I played with as a couple who is now a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"8 weeks and 3 verifications, I'd say you're not doing anything wrong at that

Very misleading 2 verifications are from the same person. 1 was a social meet and the other was a play meet. The third is a verification from a couple I played with as a couple who is now a friend. "

Even so, single guys usually wait around 6 months to a year to get their first meet. The fact that you've met 2 different people in only 8 weeks is not to be sniffed at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you’ve followed advice given and done all the right things OP.

Your profile looks fine to me. It’s straightforward and you’ve been open about your situation.

Good luck

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"8 weeks and 3 verifications, I'd say you're not doing anything wrong at that

Very misleading 2 verifications are from the same person. 1 was a social meet and the other was a play meet. The third is a verification from a couple I played with as a couple who is now a friend.

Even so, single guys usually wait around 6 months to a year to get their first meet. The fact that you've met 2 different people in only 8 weeks is not to be sniffed at"

Neither of those meets came from this account. They both came from my couples account. With this account I cant get a reply at all.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Profile looks ok to me, but I can see from above that you’ve made some amendments already.

The fact you’re married may put some women off, a lot won’t play with a married man unless the Mrs is there too. And I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times, but there’s so much competition on here for single guys you just have to be patient.

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"Profile looks ok to me, but I can see from above that you’ve made some amendments already.

The fact you’re married may put some women off, a lot won’t play with a married man unless the Mrs is there too. And I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times, but there’s so much competition on here for single guys you just have to be patient. "

Thanks, I know I have to be patient just want to make sure that my profile is the best it can be as first impressions are key. Anything that I can change to help is a huge benefit.

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife


"If you’re in an open relationship, it’ll be worth staring that your wide is happy to verify her consent. Otherwise you just look like another cheating bastard. "

This

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"Profile looks ok to me, but I can see from above that you’ve made some amendments already.

The fact you’re married may put some women off, a lot won’t play with a married man unless the Mrs is there too. And I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times, but there’s so much competition on here for single guys you just have to be patient.

Thanks, I know I have to be patient just want to make sure that my profile is the best it can be as first impressions are key. Anything that I can change to help is a huge benefit."

I think it reads and looks a bit like a dating profile. There’s a lot about you as a person but little about what you’d bring to a meet. And your pics are clearly not taken with sex in mind. Maybe rethink your approach.

Have a look through some of the male profiles, there are some great ones to get inspiration from.

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"If you’re in an open relationship, it’ll be worth staring that your wide is happy to verify her consent. Otherwise you just look like another cheating bastard.

This "

Changed that already

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"Profile looks ok to me, but I can see from above that you’ve made some amendments already.

The fact you’re married may put some women off, a lot won’t play with a married man unless the Mrs is there too. And I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times, but there’s so much competition on here for single guys you just have to be patient.

Thanks, I know I have to be patient just want to make sure that my profile is the best it can be as first impressions are key. Anything that I can change to help is a huge benefit.

I think it reads and looks a bit like a dating profile. There’s a lot about you as a person but little about what you’d bring to a meet. And your pics are clearly not taken with sex in mind. Maybe rethink your approach.

Have a look through some of the male profiles, there are some great ones to get inspiration from. "

Ok I will re-think it shortly. Not sure the best way to go about it.

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston

Any 1 able to proof read a new profile page before I upload it?

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I love funny love the banter, You say you are funny and like banter but i don't get that from your profile but that's just me.

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"I love funny love the banter, You say you are funny and like banter but i don't get that from your profile but that's just me."

Fair enough I have a very dry sense of humour. It's hard to put across in a profile but I will try to put that over more In my profile

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"Any 1 able to proof read a new profile page before I upload it?"

Guess not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd remove the kids bit,,, "I like video games and... "

Its not a dating site.

Just my opinion.. Put me off

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I don't think there's anything wrong with it but it doesn't grab me.

Maybe arty photos and saying what you can offer would improve it.

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"I don't think there's anything wrong with it but it doesn't grab me.

Maybe arty photos and saying what you can offer would improve it."

Made some minor tweaks and will try and take some better pictures

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

All looks fine OP, wishing you (both) the best of luck. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d think that a high majority of ladies over 40 are respecting your age range

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"All looks fine OP, wishing you (both) the best of luck. X"

Emma doesnt need luck she does well for her self. Thanks hopefully I'll get there soon, just looking for those marginal gains

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"I’d think that a high majority of ladies over 40 are respecting your age range "
maybe I'll extend them slightly

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By *un timesMan
over a year ago

derby

I wish I knew cos I get virtually no success despite trying for months. 1 meet in about a year

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I know that alot of people put this posts up and I also know people will say just be patient but I just decided that I need to reach out to the fab community and see what the disconnect is with me at the moment. If you look at my profile what do you think? its maybe the married bit and the fact your quite young and in your wedding outfit in your pic also that you can't accom because your married "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have only really just joined but already had 3 meet's what is the problem ?

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"You have only really just joined but already had 3 meet's what is the problem ? "

As said above is actually 2 meets and 1 solo meet that was set up by my wife. So this profile has got zero meets.

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By *wink loverMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Stop using words like "naughty" and "played" - it sounds a bit creepy.

Others may disagree of course.

Good luck.

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