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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. " Identify what about it is causing anxiety - performance, fear of "accidental" bi-ness, not getting hard,all or any of the above? Or is it something else entirely? Work out what you need in place to feel less worried. Is a hard limits conversation needed? A threesome is just a twosome with 1 extra person - by which I mean it's just sex, usual rules apply, but people can build it up to be more in their heads (something that always surprises me until I remember that I had my 1st threesome at 18) Oh and stay sober Have fun Ms Icebreaker Xxx | |||
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. Identify what about it is causing anxiety - performance, fear of "accidental" bi-ness, not getting hard,all or any of the above? Or is it something else entirely? Work out what you need in place to feel less worried. Is a hard limits conversation needed? A threesome is just a twosome with 1 extra person - by which I mean it's just sex, usual rules apply, but people can build it up to be more in their heads (something that always surprises me until I remember that I had my 1st threesome at 18) Oh and stay sober Have fun Ms Icebreaker Xxx " thanks. I am driving so no drink involved at all. I think it is all of the above. Probably because it will be a new experience for me is why i am nervous. I will try not to build it up too much. | |||
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. Identify what about it is causing anxiety - performance, fear of "accidental" bi-ness, not getting hard,all or any of the above? Or is it something else entirely? Work out what you need in place to feel less worried. Is a hard limits conversation needed? A threesome is just a twosome with 1 extra person - by which I mean it's just sex, usual rules apply, but people can build it up to be more in their heads (something that always surprises me until I remember that I had my 1st threesome at 18) Oh and stay sober Have fun Ms Icebreaker Xxx thanks. I am driving so no drink involved at all. I think it is all of the above. Probably because it will be a new experience for me is why i am nervous. I will try not to build it up too much. " Hope you enjoy it. A mmf threesome is my favourite combination. | |||
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"First our first mmf, we chatted with the guy beforehand and said what we all wanted and didn't want; this helped as we all knew how we wanted it to play out and there were no surprises or annoyance. Himself wanted to meet the guy initially (a quick hi and hand shake), before he left me and the guy alone to start the fun. Himself then came back a few mins later and joined in. This seemed to be a great way to go about it for us and all had fun. Remember, they want you there so be confident. Also, they'll want to make sure you feel as comfortable and included as possible. The experience is for all three of you so enjoy it. Have a great night. Mrs x " . Thanks, im feeling more relaxed already.  | |||
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. " Nerves are perfectly normal. I(Bex) still get nerves even after 14 years in this lifestyle. Our first mmf the guy was super nervous. Like someone else mentioned you've met one half before so that will help massively. Relax, go with the flow and enjoy. | |||
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"I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out." If I, Mr B, felt I was getting blocked out, the play would stop immediately. We are a couple and would want the respect we give to others. We've had a few 3 some's mfm and ffm and every time we communicate between the 3 of us on an equal footing. OP go and just relax, have a good chat before play starts and you will be just fine. Enjoy the experience and don't overthink things | |||
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"I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out. If I, Mr B, felt I was getting blocked out, the play would stop immediately. We are a couple and would want the respect we give to others. We've had a few 3 some's mfm and ffm and every time we communicate between the 3 of us on an equal footing. OP go and just relax, have a good chat before play starts and you will be just fine. Enjoy the experience and don't overthink things" I didn’t suggest he disrespects anyone, quite the opposite in fact. You sound a bit threatened in this scenario. | |||
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"I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out. If I, Mr B, felt I was getting blocked out, the play would stop immediately. We are a couple and would want the respect we give to others. We've had a few 3 some's mfm and ffm and every time we communicate between the 3 of us on an equal footing. OP go and just relax, have a good chat before play starts and you will be just fine. Enjoy the experience and don't overthink things I didn’t suggest he disrespects anyone, quite the opposite in fact. You sound a bit threatened in this scenario." Oh yea very threatened. You have no chance winding us up, to laid back for that. Only thing I'd say is, if someone blocks someone out that doesn't sound very respectful thing to do.  | |||
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"I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out. If I, Mr B, felt I was getting blocked out, the play would stop immediately. We are a couple and would want the respect we give to others. We've had a few 3 some's mfm and ffm and every time we communicate between the 3 of us on an equal footing. OP go and just relax, have a good chat before play starts and you will be just fine. Enjoy the experience and don't overthink things I didn’t suggest he disrespects anyone, quite the opposite in fact. You sound a bit threatened in this scenario. Oh yea very threatened. You have no chance winding us up, to laid back for that. Only thing I'd say is, if someone blocks someone out that doesn't sound very respectful thing to do. "I obviously took what was said differently to you. I think it was meant from a completely straight perspective as in he doesn’t have to worry about you, except from the point of you both pleasuring the lady and getting pleasure yourself from that | |||
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. " Just remember the biology and effect of nerves and anxiety, is almost identical to excitement and arrousal, tell yourself what you’re actually feeling is excitement, someone taught me this a long time ago it’s a meditation I often use in business , but it works in any setting , read up on the biology it helps | |||
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"I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out. If I, Mr B, felt I was getting blocked out, the play would stop immediately. We are a couple and would want the respect we give to others. We've had a few 3 some's mfm and ffm and every time we communicate between the 3 of us on an equal footing. OP go and just relax, have a good chat before play starts and you will be just fine. Enjoy the experience and don't overthink things I didn’t suggest he disrespects anyone, quite the opposite in fact. You sound a bit threatened in this scenario. Oh yea very threatened. You have no chance winding us up, to laid back for that. Only thing I'd say is, if someone blocks someone out that doesn't sound very respectful thing to do.
I obviously took what was said differently to you. I think it was meant from a completely straight perspective as in he doesn’t have to worry about you, except from the point of you both pleasuring the lady and getting pleasure yourself from that"Exactly this. Thank you | |||
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"Very useful comments. Thanks again guys. She has said hubby gets off on seeing her pleasured. "Yep, we know what they really mean | |||
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"Also don’t freak out if cocks touch ... It happens "Do I L.O.L. to this.. or quietly snigger!!  | |||
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"Also don’t freak out if cocks touch ... It happens
Do I L.O.L. to this.. or quietly snigger!! "Telling it like it is | |||
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"Also don’t freak out if cocks touch ... It happens "Mrs F loves putting 2 cocks in her mouth. I know when she's going to do it as she looks up at me with a very naughty look almost sniggering. She's a very naughty girl  | |||
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"I hadn't given cock contact a second thought until now. Haha. "Exciting isn’t it | |||
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"Not yet. It is oossibly happening monday. Eeeek. "Oh cool. Let your body just get excited for it now. It's an unreal experience. Let us know how you get on. Mrs x | |||
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"We are penciled in for tuesday morning now. #shitsgotreal. "Whoop! Paddy's Day and all, lol. | |||
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. " Just relax and go with the flow. Set boundaries before you meet so nobody does anything that will spoil the mood. Don't have a few drinks (or anything else) to calm nerves. | |||
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. " Viagra to stay a while. | |||
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"*postponed. Ffs. " Such a shame but safety first. Hope you can rearrange another time in the future. | |||
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"Understandable. Yes will rearange when the world returns to normal. "Pity, but yeah, understandable. You'll be mad for it then and no worries, lol. Mrs x | |||
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. " You should never be nervous about having great sex with a couple. | |||
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"Have a talk first on do’s and dont’s. Go with the flow. Check during if the lady is ok.....this is very important and if she isn’t then stop play. " | |||
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"Have a talk first on do’s and dont’s. Go with the flow. Check during if the lady is ok.....this is very important and if she isn’t then stop play. "Absolutely this... | |||
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