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By *mmaAndDavidHornyFuckers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would bd a no from us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it was possibly a fake profile. See if they are photo varified and take it from there. But best to trust your gut

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I'd ask why he can't watch the kids so you can meet her instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd ask why he can't watch the kids so you can meet her instead "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would just assume it was a bloke all along.

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By *mmaAndDavidHornyFuckers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

That's our thoughts. Might tell him he has to do us both because he seems to think we would want him to come over to play with Emma. Not what she wants at all.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

We see a lot of this. I think it’s either men pretending to be a couple or playing away from the lady!

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

We see this quite a lot, its amazing how many supposed couples the female is always working or unavailable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen this a lot, 9 out of 10 times its been a guy pretending/playing away.

been very rare that it was a genuine couple.

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By *elly72Woman
over a year ago

glasgow


"We see a lot of this. I think it’s either men pretending to be a couple or playing away from the lady! "

Same thing really

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us. "

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I would ask to speak to them both on the phone or preferably on cam so she can confirm she's happy for him to meet alone.

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By *mmaAndDavidHornyFuckers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I would ask to speak to them both on the phone or preferably on cam so she can confirm she's happy for him to meet alone. "

We've told him we only meet together and as Emma's a bi female she's more likely to ask him to stay home so his Mrs can come out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how everyone are quick to assume. We meet separately in which case one of us is watching the kids. We take turns and let each other out on weekends. As we have no childcare meeting together time is very limited.

Mrs

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Funny how everyone are quick to assume. We meet separately in which case one of us is watching the kids. We take turns and let each other out on weekends. As we have no childcare meeting together time is very limited.

Mrs"

Of course that's fine, but I guess you wouldn't then approach a couple who didn't want to meet singles, which is what this guy has done.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We see this a lot round here mostly turns out to be fake profiles.

Another we always check is dates on veris!! Because if there arent any recent veris say in the last 6 months a year we get sceptical. As the couple may well have split in that time and the male is using the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how everyone are quick to assume. We meet separately in which case one of us is watching the kids. We take turns and let each other out on weekends. As we have no childcare meeting together time is very limited.

Mrs

Of course that's fine, but I guess you wouldn't then approach a couple who didn't want to meet singles, which is what this guy has done. "

If we couldn't meet together, husband on his own wouldn't. I on the other hand could chance it

Mrs

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By *mmaAndDavidHornyFuckers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Funny how everyone are quick to assume. We meet separately in which case one of us is watching the kids. We take turns and let each other out on weekends. As we have no childcare meeting together time is very limited.

Mrs"

His take was she will look after the kids ill come take care of your Mrs. Prefer a social first lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how everyone are quick to assume. We meet separately in which case one of us is watching the kids. We take turns and let each other out on weekends. As we have no childcare meeting together time is very limited.

Mrs

His take was she will look after the kids ill come take care of your Mrs. Prefer a social first lol"

That's just plain disrespectful towards you.

Mrs

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"Funny how everyone are quick to assume. We meet separately in which case one of us is watching the kids. We take turns and let each other out on weekends. As we have no childcare meeting together time is very limited.

Mrs

His take was she will look after the kids ill come take care of your Mrs. Prefer a social first lol

That's just plain disrespectful towards you.

Mrs"
Exactky. I'd block and move on if it was me.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

A lot of couples profiles are kept on by the guy when they split up.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I'd ask why he can't watch the kids so you can meet her instead "

We actually did that to someone in a club, his reply:

"She wouldn't, she's not a slag"

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

Meeting apart is why we created single profiles! Not rocket science xxx

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

We have a couple profile. She does not meet anymore and we still attend a club together occasionally where we are more of a watch and be watched pair. I am free to play alone and as I write this she is currently in her male fwb,s bed having a good time. The profile inc veris prove we are real.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.


"We have a couple profile. She does not meet anymore and we still attend a club together occasionally where we are more of a watch and be watched pair. I am free to play alone and as I write this she is currently in her male fwb,s bed having a good time. The profile inc veris prove we are real. "

But you’ve got a single guys profile that I presume you meet out of?

Else it’s kinda bait and switch if you use a couples one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a couple profile. She does not meet anymore and we still attend a club together occasionally where we are more of a watch and be watched pair. I am free to play alone and as I write this she is currently in her male fwb,s bed having a good time. The profile inc veris prove we are real.

But you’ve got a single guys profile that I presume you meet out of?

Else it’s kinda bait and switch if you use a couples one! "

That is true most of the time and we get all the types of messages mentioned above. We all do, don’t we? It’s maddening.

This poses a problem to us in that we’ve got a bit of a kink going where we want to meet people for the odd solo meet, maybe have a FWB each. It’s our thing that this should be seen to be so on our profile. Which makes it all pretty tricky, even though we are verified by multiple people.

Also, MissJ doesn’t want a single profile because then she’s have to endure the feeding frenzy which every new woman gets, whereas she benefits from me ing out “the usual suspects” on our couples profile.

It’s a very tricky one and not possible to please everybody. I can say that when we “borrowed” a husband at the wife’s instigation it was great fun.

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon


"We have a couple profile. She does not meet anymore and we still attend a club together occasionally where we are more of a watch and be watched pair. I am free to play alone and as I write this she is currently in her male fwb,s bed having a good time. The profile inc veris prove we are real.

But you’ve got a single guys profile that I presume you meet out of?

Else it’s kinda bait and switch if you use a couples one! "
I apologised to couple above. I took wife's details off as was constantly asked if we could meet or could males meet her when the profile stated she does not meet outside of clubs. We are both happy with what we choose to do and don't hide things from each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just no! Seems to be a lot of only male free and too many fake profiles and non genuine users ruining a good site

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By *ackieSteveCouple
over a year ago

Newbridge


"I'd ask why he can't watch the kids so you can meet her instead "

Hahahahaha

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us. "

Most probably just a man or Not a couple that meet. Or she dont know at all.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

There are a few by us where the male half is always available but the female isn’t meeting at the moment.

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By *ildatheart6969Couple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Ok if that's what you're looking for

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By *atexbisexTV/TS
over a year ago

Central London

Probably One of the following:

They are no longer together

The female partner no longer wants to meet up with people

The male wants to have a 1 to 1 without his partners knowledge

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By *m A FuckerMan
over a year ago

kingswood,surrey/leysdown kent


"We would just assume it was a bloke all along. "

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

I'd say get a single make profile and stop trying to sidestep

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By *ert n BerylCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

My instant thought would be that it’s a single male

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By *atexbisexTV/TS
over a year ago

Central London


"My instant thought would be that it’s a single male "

Could well be the case if the profile shows no veris for meets as a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They get blocked instantly.

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

Report and block if they aren't photo verified. It's most likely just a single guy hiding behind a couple's profile

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Report and block if they aren't photo verified. It's most likely just a single guy hiding behind a couple's profile "

Not photo verified so we must be a guy hiding behind a couples profile

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By *edandLouCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's up there with 'the wife's taking a break from the scene but I can play with her permission ' sketch. Blag profile and blag info.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us. "
I'd say its not a couple its a guy using a couples profile to meet couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A verified cpl who had met cpls already then sometimes such request can be genuine but if it's a cpl profile with no veris and says only male is free then it's 100% fake . We would block it

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By *ll of a QuiverCouple
over a year ago

Douglas


"We see this a lot round here mostly turns out to be fake profiles.

Another we always check is dates on veris!! Because if there arent any recent veris say in the last 6 months a year we get sceptical. As the couple may well have split in that time and the male is using the profile "

We haven't been verified in the last 6 months to a year due to taking an enforced break due to health reasons and only recently returning to swinging.

As for the original post, our thoughts are that it's very disrespectful both to yourselves and his wife (if she exists).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd ask why he can't watch the kids so you can meet her instead

This"

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smells like a fake profile, ask to video chat with them both x

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Smells like a fake profile, ask to video chat with them both x"

People are obsessed with fakes on this site. Why people use it to meet people amuses us. Clubs are the only way to meet for us. Too many getting off on just talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much majority of couple I get message is mostly the guy or can the guy play / watch. I point them to reading the profile. Then read it a second time and just think over what they are messaging

Then equally out of 17 single female profiles message me it’s turned out 1 is actually single (met them before lol ) the others were just trying to bait switch across to couples profile or bring in a make buddy .

Amusing indeed. Just part of the game of fab filtering out the crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed. "

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us. "

I would think, not this again!

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us. "

that is one reason why I don't meet many I chat to cpls and think its the lady for a bit but when I arrange meet whith her the answer is he will fetch her and when the day comes I get message saying she cant come.

what I do now is get my bf to take me to a pub were its prearranged and wait out side if he walks in then I don't go

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Oddly enough this seems to happen allllll the time. “Missus is away, male here to play” is the kind of stuff we see a lot of.

Makes us wonder if some of them are single guy profiles with pictures from their past relationships....

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By *hilledout-coupleCouple
over a year ago

telford

We are a verified couple and live be together been together near 16 years it would be nice for mr to have some fun doesn’t seam fair that I’m getting all the action xxxi do night shifts so could be fun xx

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us. "

It's a single male...

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

[Removed by poster at 14/03/20 03:46:18]

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

It's up to you what to think.

Review the veri's and see what they say perhaps?

Some couples are perfectly fine with their partner playing solo. I'm perfectly happy with my hubby playing solo and I'm doing my own solo meet next week.

Usually though in those circumstances, we have at least met the individual or couples as a couple previously and they know we are perfectly fine with it.

Hopefully due to the fact we do regular meets with regular and recent verification's, people would take a meet request from us at face value if one of us does decide to post a solo meet at some point. However we can understand why complete strangers would not take that at face value.

To be honest, Even we would be dubious if we had no frame of reference to confirm it. A couples account with one cam verification from 3 years ago would send up red flags. A couples account with multiple veri's (recent) or reference to just meeting one half of the couple in said vari's (mixed in rather than all that is mentioned) then we would probably go ahead.

Either way, if you're in doubt, don't get involved. For all the fake accounts on Fab (and there are many) there are still lots being honest. You just have to use common sense and make a judgement call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hey whats the worst that can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us. "

If we were looking another guy for mfm we would consider it,why wouldn't we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

If we were looking another guy for mfm we would consider it,why wouldn't we?

"
exactly, common sense at last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd ask why he can't watch the kids so you can meet her instead "

This!

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"Funny how everyone are quick to assume. We meet separately in which case one of us is watching the kids. We take turns and let each other out on weekends. As we have no childcare meeting together time is very limited.

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Approach with caution

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake .. "

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex."
lol hey whether you like it or not this is the real world we are real people going about real lives, swinging is a label and labels dont apply to all, some single people swing and some don't, this internet domain is called fabswingers but its a website its people that dictate what happens not names, you could call yourselves 'topshagswingingcouple' but it doesn't mean you are, you maybe think you are mind. If your label is swinger great but not all here are swingers and the bottom line is we are all welcome here unless we break the rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex."

really...

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex.

really..."

Yes really.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex.lol hey whether you like it or not this is the real world we are real people going about real lives, swinging is a label and labels dont apply to all, some single people swing and some don't, this internet domain is called fabswingers but its a website its people that dictate what happens not names, you could call yourselves 'topshagswingingcouple' but it doesn't mean you are, you maybe think you are mind. If your label is swinger great but not all here are swingers and the bottom line is we are all welcome here unless we break the rules "

Including the couples who play separately. Yes them as well! People are very quick to label people as fake when they dont understand their play dynamic. If singles want to play, fine but dont label others as fake just cos you dont understand how others play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex.

really...

Yes really."

Yes, really really. Compersion is real and kink is too. It’s the nature of it all, isn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex.lol hey whether you like it or not this is the real world we are real people going about real lives, swinging is a label and labels dont apply to all, some single people swing and some don't, this internet domain is called fabswingers but its a website its people that dictate what happens not names, you could call yourselves 'topshagswingingcouple' but it doesn't mean you are, you maybe think you are mind. If your label is swinger great but not all here are swingers and the bottom line is we are all welcome here unless we break the rules

Including the couples who play separately. Yes them as well! People are very quick to label people as fake when they dont understand their play dynamic. If singles want to play, fine but dont label others as fake just cos you dont understand how others play. "
i never label anyone although i wish i could in clubs I'm terrible with names

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex.lol hey whether you like it or not this is the real world we are real people going about real lives, swinging is a label and labels dont apply to all, some single people swing and some don't, this internet domain is called fabswingers but its a website its people that dictate what happens not names, you could call yourselves 'topshagswingingcouple' but it doesn't mean you are, you maybe think you are mind. If your label is swinger great but not all here are swingers and the bottom line is we are all welcome here unless we break the rules

Including the couples who play separately. Yes them as well! People are very quick to label people as fake when they dont understand their play dynamic. If singles want to play, fine but dont label others as fake just cos you dont understand how others play. i never label anyone although i wish i could in clubs I'm terrible with names "

Maybe lanyards are the future ....tho with infection control who knows?

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over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex.lol hey whether you like it or not this is the real world we are real people going about real lives, swinging is a label and labels dont apply to all, some single people swing and some don't, this internet domain is called fabswingers but its a website its people that dictate what happens not names, you could call yourselves 'topshagswingingcouple' but it doesn't mean you are, you maybe think you are mind. If your label is swinger great but not all here are swingers and the bottom line is we are all welcome here unless we break the rules

Including the couples who play separately. Yes them as well! People are very quick to label people as fake when they dont understand their play dynamic. If singles want to play, fine but dont label others as fake just cos you dont understand how others play. i never label anyone although i wish i could in clubs I'm terrible with names

Maybe lanyards are the future ....tho with infection control who knows?"
laminated lanyards yes

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over a year ago


"The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic."

This is what my - really - was aimed at. I didn’t realise we all had to be confined to our categories so neatly. Should all singles be removed, then, by your standards?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic.

This is what my - really - was aimed at. I didn’t realise we all had to be confined to our categories so neatly. Should all singles be removed, then, by your standards?"

Did I say all singles should be removed? No. My post is quite clearly that people need to respect that people play differently. If you are looking for love on here fine. We are looking for sex. Doesn't mean we are fake. People use the site how they wish within site rules, but many don't even understand that swingers can play separately.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"We would just assume it was a bloke all along. "

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By *edditchCouple8077Couple
over a year ago

Redditch


"We would just assume it was a bloke all along. "

Think the same.

Lots of time we chatted with “couple” arrange meet then was messaged “actually only male available now” and offered two separate threeesomes.

That’s why we stick to clubs and if know couple we can meet outside with them

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over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex."

This is exactly why we’ve struggled when I’ve tried to ‘pimp out’ the Mr - despite me offering to have a phone chat female to female to confirm it is ok for the Mr to play solo! People are instantly suspicious and just assume - and that’s despite us being well verified too

It’s like anyone using this site - if the couple are happy to have a phone/video chat with you and have verifications, then you have a better chance of it being a genuine offer. Good luck

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By *heffcouple500Couple
over a year ago

sheffield

We have found this out alot with suppose couples it seems to be the man playing away very rarely have we found a genuine couple 3 at most so far but would love to find more of you lovely genuine couples

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over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us.

Some couples do play like this. Doesn't mean they are all fake. Our dynamic means we are both happy for the other to play. We would be able to confirm this if needed.

Exactly this we don't play away without the others knowledge ..doesn't make us fake ..

Whilst some of them maybe fake, single men pretending to be a couple, some are genuine. The trouble with this site is that it is now flooded with non swinging singles looking for love who don't have a clue about some couples swinging dynamic. How could a female possibley get off on their partner fucking another woman??? Cos they are swingers and don't feel threatened by their partner having sex.

This is exactly why we’ve struggled when I’ve tried to ‘pimp out’ the Mr - despite me offering to have a phone chat female to female to confirm it is ok for the Mr to play solo! People are instantly suspicious and just assume - and that’s despite us being well verified too

It’s like anyone using this site - if the couple are happy to have a phone/video chat with you and have verifications, then you have a better chance of it being a genuine offer. Good luck "

I’ve checked your profile out and it’s a mystery how anybody could not believe you.

We have actually been offered a guy once - by his wife - and took them up on it. Damn it was horny, especially him sending her pics during the evening.

Your advice about phone calls is very sound too. We always do that no matter what and maybe should ramp it to video as you suggest.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

If the profile had recent veris that confirmed them as a couple I would maybe give him a chance. If not verified I would be very cautious.

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"We see this a lot round here mostly turns out to be fake profiles.

Another we always check is dates on veris!! Because if there arent any recent veris say in the last 6 months a year we get sceptical. As the couple may well have split in that time and the male is using the profile "

So this would be us ruled out then. We don’t meet frequently as we have busy work schedules and a heavy family life commitment. We don’t have many people to rely on for helping out with child care so we choose to ask them sparingly - which in turn means our meets are sparse and well spread out.

I think the biggest thing to take away from this thread is that there isn’t a one size fits all policy. Trust your instincts, do as much as you can to verify the person / persons are genuine and don’t be afraid to walk away at any point!

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By *irateloversCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us. "

With us it is the other way around, Mrs plays alone far more than Mr. Neither of us are complaining though

We haven't arranged anything on here yet, spoken to a few people. There does seem to be a lot of obviously fake profiles and presumably a lot of better fakes, harder to spot. It naturally, breeds suspicion for genuine people, it seems a bit of a minfield to be honest. Tempting sometimes to just stick with our 'real world' fun and playmates.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd postpone until they are both free, after having a voice or video chat with them both, to ensure it's truly a couple. Put the ball in their court to satisfy your requirements, moving your attention to others, until they have done so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

look give him a chance he's just a single guy who had a vision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you guys make of being approached by a couple where the male is free while she looks after the kids?

Not us by the way a couple that messaged us. "

From experience I would think single guy trying it on and pretending he has a female partner.

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